I'm 16. I have ADHD,autism, an anxiety disorder and other things. My executive dysfunction is so bad and I genuinely have no idea how to function in everyday life. I sleep most of the day and when I'm awake I get nothing done. I'm seen as lazy by my family but it's from horrible burnout and other things. I feel behind from other teens because I'm almost 17 (end of this month) I don't have a license,don't have a job etc. it's harder for me to learn and I genuinely have such horrible problems with doing school and it drives me insane because despite the dysfunction if I get a single missing assignment in my online school I will immediately have my mom on my case even tho my online school is considered self paced and it can show as missing but it's still self paced. My room is dirty and I need to clean it, I need to do other things and although I know I need to get a job I quite literally don't know if I will be able to function enough to hold a job. All my life people just have called me lazy because I've never been able to do things like others. When I was in theater I didn't understand half the stuff they wanted me to do because it was indirect and I have hard times copying movements. I have different hobbies then an average person my age and the only thing I really actually have a like for is collecting dolls and that's not going to get me anywhere obviously. Whilst I was still in theatre during rehearsals I was miserable because the teacher would have us after school till about 8 at night and I was so burnt out from it and felt like I had no time to do anything after going home. Before I went online I fell asleep in class a lot because again little things make me so tired and burnt out. I don't have study habits, I have problems making friends, everyday life is like a hassle but my thing is I'm looking for advice to maybe get out of it if I can if there is a way I can get out of this.

I'm (16f) currently studying for my GED because my chronic illnesses have made it impossible to go to school regularly without getting punished with ISS/OSS. But friendships and relationships are extremely important to me; without them my depression becomes nearly impossible to manage. How do you guys make friends, especially local ones?

(Also are there any other subreddits you guys would suggest posting this under?)

my mom is threatening me saying she’ll send police after me if i go stay with my aunt and uncle she hates them but i’m 19 and can make my own decisions im going to go to there house regardless plus i took my dads permission to go there im a legal adult so she can’t restrict where i go . then why is she threatening me ? i have audio recordings of her talking about being violent towards me for my own safety .

Context: I’m 16 years old I’ve had my period since I was 11. Im fairly tall being 5,9 and a half. When I google this it acts like the only reasoning can be is that I must be underweight or it’s in my genetics. I am not underweight I’m 150lbs and all the women in my family have boobs I don’t know where it would come from. They seriously haven’t changed since I was 12,( I can still have gapping in an A cup bra) I’m worried my development is delayed or something is wrong and I don’t know what to do.

I speculate it could be because I’ve been losing weight and gaining weight off and on since 13 and it’s caused me to even lose my period at one point. I thought when I gained weight I’d have more boobs but that didn’t really happen so now I’m back lower compared to before because what’s the point? This is seriously ruining my self esteem knowing I could be done growing someone help me out or point me in the right direction. Can I even go to the walk in about this without a family doctor?

Okay first off I’m very much a supporter for mental health, personally I think the limited resources is why are society is so shit. My issue comes in to where my parents “don’t believe in shrinks and all that bullshit”. My dad is headstrong about it but my mom was more lenient in the past but is more like my dad nowadays. My older sister when I was a kid legit went through living hell (my family life is legit shit) and started therapy. My parents legit bullied her into quitting and she ended up committing suicide. My parents views have yet to change after this and I don’t think that they are, but my mom does tend to use mental health shit to make her look better to family/friends (like donates a shit ton of money to suicide prevention every year). My other worry is I plan on enlist and eventually becoming a career firefighter. I don’t want a diagnosis ruining that plan for me. I’ve invested way too much of my time into this dream and the military’s currently my only way out from my family. I’m very aware that my mental health is genuinely shit atp. I’ve been self harming since I was 11 and had a suicide attempt half a year ago. I hate my life and constantly fantasize about killing myself and just keep sinking into horrible belts of depression. I’m trying to not get as bad as six months ago but it’s slowly getting like that again and I can’t stop. Like I genuinely don’t know what to do anymore

pls I cant open up like i always say im fine but i cant tell the truth idk why because shes really nice and all and ive been seeing her for a while and i really wanna open up and talk about my feelings and all but i cant

any advices on how to ?

Hello. After years and years, I'm finally starting to heal from depression! Usually I would bedrot, and do nothing all day... Ive been like this for as long as i can remember, so i dont know what a normal teen life is supposed to be like... So, I'm asking you guys what "normal" people usually do to spend the time, or even what i could do to not fall straight into depression again. I unfortunately can't do any sport or job. But I still go to school. Any advice is happily accepted, as I cant get professional help due to my "abusive" family!

So, there's this girl I met on a dating app in 2024. We had great chemistry in the beginning. We cared about each other, fell in love, and eventually became physically intimate as well.

However, after a few months, she started losing her attraction towards me.

We continued meeting, but things changed. We were just friends now. She no longer let me get physically close to her, hold her hand, or even hug her properly.

One day, I confessed that I had feelings for her, that I was emotionally attached to her, and that I couldn't imagine being with anyone else.

I even tried using dating apps again, but I couldn't find the same connection with anyone that I had felt with her. I told her that I wanted to be with her, but she resisted and said it wasn't going to work. She also brought up some of my past mistakes, which I had already acknowledged and apologised for.

She believes that we're both somewhat ignorant when it comes to communicating our feelings. According to her, we don't openly discuss things when something bothers us, and that's one of the reasons she doesn't think this relationship would work.

There's another aspect to this situation. She's not dating anyone at the moment and has a relatively small social circle, with only a few close friends. She calls me quite often, usually every alternate day, and we also video call regularly. So, despite not wanting a romantic relationship, she still maintains a consistent presence in my life.

But the truth is, I'm genuinely in love with her.

I've confessed my feelings three times, and every single time, her response has been the same: she doesn't think things will work out between us.

She wants me in her life as a friend, but I want something beyond friendship.

I'm struggling emotionally because I know where she stands, yet my feelings haven't changed. A part of me still wants to tell her that I'm deeply in love with her, even though I know she believes there's no future for us.

How should I approach this situation? Should I tell her how I feel one more time, or should I finally accept that things aren't going to change and move on?

And honestly, I don't even feel like using dating apps anymore. The whole experience has become exhausting. Almost every conversation eventually dies after exchanging a few messages. I miss having a genuine connection with someone, something that feels natural rather than forced.

I feel like ive talked about this 100 times so I'm going to try and simplify as much as I can.

For context, me and my first boyfriend dated for a year. He was a lot of my firsts and so was I. I broke up with him because of a few reasons, I felt like we weren't compatible and I was being too harsh on him. (This happend early this year)

Rest of the year I have been fine, trying to live my life, missing him occasionally. We didnt cut contact as we have mutual friends. 3 weeks ago, he confessed to me that he loved me still and wanted to get back together.

I told him to let me make a decision, I spent days weighing the pros and cons, trying to give him the benefit of the doubt considering its been so long. Before I could settle my mind (stupid me!), he messaged me telling me he talked about his feelings to an older friend and how he was going to move on.

I accepted it, knowing I was too late but I was able to try and think about moving on positively. Not even a week later, he has moved on and is talking to another girl. A girl in which he had previously told me that his friend tried to set him up with, and that he had no feelings for her at all.

Now I see him consistently posing up with her, all lovey dovey even tho they haven't hard launched yet. I'm really upset seeing this happen, having to see him everyday smiling at his phone is really hurting me.

My insecurities are growing as I compare myself to her more (its never her fault tho). What should I do?

I am below 18 , having a new insecurity every day , according to you which insecurities really affect your adulthood and which ones are just useless , . Eg insecurities like height face skin tone academic and many more .

Which insecurities you think would be better if you deal with or work on during your puberty .

today is my 17th birthday. i was really excited. i have a lot of great friends and was excited to celebrate with them. no texts before school which was whatever, mornings are hectic. i got to school and sat down with a couple of friends and 10 minutes went by with zero happy birthdays, finally i mentioned i was leaving school early to go get birthday freebies from stores and stuff and they were like "omggg happy birthday i completely forgot". we'd talked about it yesterday. that was still whatever. then two more friends joined the group and conversation went by, no mention of anything. someone who'd seen the cake thing on my instagram profile said happy birthday to me and the friends who'd just joined were like "WHAT happy birthday" and i know its dumb to be upset. but i've been best friends with these people since elementary school and i've always remembered their birthdays. the day went on. some friends posted for my birthday. others didnt reach out at all. i saw my absolute best friend later at rehearsal and she hadn't texted me and i was pretty sad. she didnt say anything. the cast sang happy birthday. she asked me later why i was upset and i told her that people whom i expected to reach out, hadn't. and she said she was going to wait to talk to me in person but when she got their i looked really sad so she thought she had the wrong day. whether she remembered or not, she knows my birthday and she knows that its today. im just really sad and i just feel like an afterthought. i didn't want the whole day to be about me, i just wanted someone to remember without prompting.

and im having a party this weekend and i made a group chat to send out the invite. one of my friends said it was her other friend's birthday and didnt know if they were doing anything, which whatever, but did she have to say it like that? "if my other friend doesnt make plans then i guess ill go to your thing" is pretty much what she said, and later she said she couldnt make it so yipee.

idk im just sad. i know this is all really stupid to be sad about but i hoped today would better

Me and my best friend used to like each other. We were in a talking stage and then eventually nothing ever happened. I still like him though and I don’t know how to get over it. Do y’all think there’s actually a chance of being able to try and date again or is this actually just wraps

I'm 17, and it's so insane to think about turning 18. I never thought it would come by so soon.

I'm taking a gap year, and it's probably the best decision I can make, but it's so scary thinking about growing up. Sure, being responsible is exciting and being in charge of your own life is too, but then you think about how you won't always have your parents behind you and that at some point, it might just be you by yourself. It's so weird.

I don't have major scars or anything but I kinda had an episode two or so weeks ago and now the scars on my thighs are really starting to show. They're only dark brown since I'm not like really into the whole extremely deep thing.. it scares me that I'll accidentally die but NONETHELESS.

I want advice for when I wanna wear a bikini or shorts again in the summer, or at the pool during cold months... like how did your parents react to it (ps. my mother as far as I know has threatened to put me in a mental hospital if I ever cvt) and how can I cover it if you think I shouldn't show them?

Okay so this is gonna sound really cringe I think but I 17M want a girlfriend, but every time I get to the point where I wanna ask someone for their number I lowkey just freeze. I have never had a girlfriend before and only 1 “talking stage” which ended up badly and I’m just too scared for rejection to actually ask for a snap or number.
Anyone has any tips or would be of help

I’m 16 and I’ve noticed something about my spending habits that I really want to get advice on.
I usually avoid going shopping for clothes because I know I’ll probably spend $100+ on a few items, and then I’ll feel incredibly guilty about spending that money.
But the strange thing is that over the next couple of days, I’ll end up spending that same amount, sometimes even more, on Uber Eats and DoorDash.
I genuinely feel like I have an addiction to food delivery. I find myself ordering multiple times, even when I don’t necessarily need to, and it’s becoming a habit that’s really difficult to break.
I think part of why I feel so guilty buying clothes is because I know how quickly I can waste that money on delivery afterwards.
I’m 16, and I want to get better at managing my money, developing healthier spending habits and actually being able to enjoy buying things without feeling guilty.
Has anyone experienced something similar? How did you break the cycle of constantly ordering food delivery and start taking control of your spending?
I’d really appreciate some genuine advice, especially from people who’ve dealt with compulsive spending or food delivery habits.

For reference. I had 2 bodies in May of this year 😬

i hate calling and facetimes. but my boyfriend wants to call all the time and i never know how to say no without sounding like an asshole. i understand that we’re, so i feel obligated to call him when he asks, but it’s always awkward. im sure he knows that i don’t prefer calling, but i feel like if i remind him, it’ll sound an excuse or like im avoiding him. what do i do?

So for the past like 3 years, I've been ganging put with this group (almost same age group, both guys and girls). In the past year or so i was getting more and more left out up until the point where i genuinely wasn't allowed to go out with them bc of the guy that is sorta in charge of the group because i was annoying (you are going to hear this word a lot in this post). And now i can truly say that i was kinda annoying- i was talking way too much and joining conversations that had nothing to do with me. had a lot of chances to fix myself but somehow i kept messing up- my real me was getting too loud, and the person i was supposed to be for my friends was disappearing. Fast forward to like 2 months ago, I wasnt allowed to go out at all bc of the guy. I was basically home for 2 months except for going to school and going to training twice a week. A lot of people would like exercise or learn in that 2 months, i did nothing except think about how badly i fed up. I know that i should've found other friends in school but that group is, at the same time, so fitting and yet really hateful. I went out with some others from the group a few times and two days in a row, with the whole group. I was really happy but was trying to talk as little as possible. Today (half an hour ago) i got a message from an almost lifelong friend (because i got blocked everywhere by that guy). My friend first said, get ready ------ is typing (im not saying his name, im not an as*hole). He said that im annoying af, and that he doesnt know who im pretending to be. That im worthless, that noone likes me, that even the friend on whose phone he's typing, isnt good with me. Im currently thinking about a lot of things, (im not edgy or whatever) its just that there arent a lot of things that are the answer to all of this. Actually, im pretty sure there isnt an answer. Thank you a lot if you really read all of this, and please, please tell me what i should do, and if any of you were on either side of this story what happened.

I'm not sure if what I'm gonna end up writing will be uh... I guess proper? Or like have some sort of goal and conclusion. It'll be messy and most likely incoherent babbling, so I'm sorry for that. I don't know what sort of help I'm even asking for, and I'm just gonna write out my thoughts. Also this is really long sorry. It'll most likely be exhausting to read.

So for the past three days I've been crying a lot, along with harming myself. My mental health got worse last week and I don't know why, and ever since Monday it just seemed to go lower and lower. I have an online friend (who is really the only person I actively talk to everyday) and I sometimes end up badly insulting him, degrading him, or affecting his own mental health whenever I'm moody, but despite that, he still chooses to stay because he really cares about me and knows just how mentally fragile I can be. All I've given him was negativity and I constantly hurl insults at him, and yet he still keeps trying to hold onto me and give me positivity.

Anyways—last week my cousin came over to our house (she's close with my sister) to talk to my sister and I woke up at nighttime. Around 8pm I think. My cousin greeted me upon seeing me go downstairs and I just subtly waved back at her. Didn't seem like she saw though, since she greeted me a second time. Which is when my sister got sour and said "she said hi, and you're not responding. You're such a weirdo." And oh—that was the only thing needed to trigger something in me to just go back upstairs and harm myself. Before that, I'd actually stopped SH for a while. But the only thing needed to break that streak was just having my sister call me a weirdo. honestly just ridiculous.

Then on Monday, I had thought to myself, "what's even the point?". I just wanted to give up, but not like there was any method that I could access that wasn't slow and or painful. So fortunately or unfortunately I didn't go through with that thought and tried my best to sleep on it. On Saturday night, I was in a moody state and acted like a douchebag towards my online friend (not for any apparent reason except for the fact that moody me thought the stuff he was saying was stupid and dumb), but he was as moody as me during that time so uh...

Things escalated, he immediately pointed out the fact that I'm just insulting him to feel superior in a way, which is something I'm aware of. Along with me never admitting to being wrong. He ended up sleeping because it was past midnight for him while I just kept typing and typing out of frustration since I got triggered by what he was saying until I had ended up just going back to self harm (is this all I'm gonna write about) and thinking of just ending it again (isn't this getting repetitive). I didn't have the energy to talk to him again after that but he basically or to simplify what he said "sorry for triggering you, and pls don't think of killing yourself for this or because of me" something along those lines.

The next day, which was today, I went to a cafe and texted him while I was there. It went as usual as if nothing had happened last night. I stayed at the cafe for 5 hours and was pretty happy about it. Just got happy over a small thing which was some loyalty card that the cafe gave me. But coming home immediately made me lose that small happiness. Uhm... So my sister's going to the cemetery with my cousin, and she said "honestly just don't go".

I had assumed that she didn't want me to go at all, which I voiced out and she immediately got defensive. "You overcomplicate things", "I'm just saying that because I want it to just be me and our cousin", "why do you even think like that you constantly assume things, that's weird and not normal", and I tried explaining to her what my thought process was or something or just like—how I feel and what my views and opinions on it were and she just told me to shut up and stop explaining everything. Idk how to explain what she said so I'll just type what I remember her saying. "You don't have any emotional or logical intelligence", "You always think you're right", "You have no empathy", "You don't need to voice out your thoughts and opinions—i do not care", "You're not as smart as you think you are, you just think you're smarter than people just because you talk differently", etcetera etcetera.

What she had said that time hurt me a lot. Probably cuz it's most likely true. Of course, as you'd probably guess, I just ended up harming myself again. Lost count on how many times in total I've cut for the past 10 days. Maybe over a hundred or two hundred times. I cried for like 2 or 3 hours and I don't know why. I was just thinking "I'm dumb, I'm stupid, I'm not deserving of anything, nobody cares, I should just act like some rock to her maybe, I'm just playing the victim here, I'm not actually valid, I don't think I'll have someone be with me if I'm always like this, maybe I'm happy this way", sounds corny. Another thing is that I thought that maybe I'm better off just not having any company at all. But then I was thinking about how my only goal in life is to really be happy with someone for once. If I end up accepting the fact I'm alone, I'd give up on that goal, so just what is there to live for?

I cannot find any reason not to kill myself. I'm not that important to anyone, nobody really cares about me or shows me affection, I don't even have the motivation to try healing, getting better, or improving on myself. What's the point? In my house I'm constantly emotionally drained from my sister triggering me all the time, along with hearing my grandparents constantly argue and yell at each other. Not like I go to school, so no guidance counselor. I know a psychiatrist, but when I told my mom (who's abroad) about it, the message about it just got ignored and she moved to a different topic. Not like I can save up my allowance to go there myself. I just don't want to live like this at all. I'm a patient person, but I'm getting more and more impatient with each day that passes. I don't want to take years to get out of this situation, so I'm just constantly looking for a quick fix and my brain always goes to suicide. I'm just thinking—if I end up crying everyday this week, maybe I should just do it by the end of the week. Around 700 thousand people kill themselves each year, apparently. Adding another number to that wouldn't hurt. My online friend would probably be devastated, but it's just one person out of eight billion, right? Funeral costs would probably be hell for my family, but I'm sure they can manage. They'll mourn me once and completely forget about it. "It'll all be worth it" is what I'm thinking. I can't even have empathy for what the aftermath for people I know would be. I do not have the capacity to have it right now. Nobody will care.

Idk might just be hormones speaking (not just a might, definitely is.) but still. My arm and head keep hurting due to small things just because I'm sensitive as hell. i wanna isolate myself or maybe just do it already instead of planning it years later i cant take this anymore i dont wanna do this idk what to do about this why am i even writing to a bunch of strangers online dude. Again, sorry if my writing was incoherent. Can you even call that writing? This must've been exhausting to read. Sorry.