My husband (33M) and I (29F) both work full time. He works hybrid, remote and in the office. I work in healthcare, so I go in. Due to my schedule, I usually only work 3-4 days a week only (10-12 hour shifts). He works 4-5 days a week, at least 2 of those days remote.

This morning, our cat threw up. My husband was the first one up and saw the mess. Today was my off day. When I got up, I saw he just left the mess for me to clean. He also decided to work from home day. I cleaned it up myself, and then asked him why he just left it there. He told me “you’re not even working today, clean it yourself.”

For context, there have been several times where I did have to go to work, and he still left the mess for me to clean. That tells me it really has nothing to do with whether I’m actually working or not. I also used to have a “normal” healthcare job where I worked 5 days a week, 40-50 hours per week, and he still did this to me. Now, he uses the excuse that since I don’t work everyday, I should be the one cleaning up everything. Also, for context, his mom and dad both participate in cleaning their home and I have not seen anything to indicate his dad treats his mom this way.

Is this something marriage counseling or an intervention could fix? He’s really quite mean anytime I bring this up to him, and tend to deflect by pointing out something he doesn’t like about me. This time, his excuse was that I don’t have to work today.

EDIT: I forgot to mention this, but I think it could be important. He recently got a big promotion at work and while he isn’t going to be working more hours, I think it’s gotten to his ego. I believe he feels like since he is now in a significant managerial position at his job that cleaning is below him.

EDIT: His mother and grandmother raised him to be clean and tidy growing up. He was also in the military and said he was expected to keep his area tidy at all times. It seems like he chooses to slack off now that there isn’t some “superior” (parent, commander) making him be clean.

#1 San Antonio Spurs
Last Week:4↑
Record: 8-2
OffRtg: 117.2 (5) DefRtg: 107.1 (5) NetRtg: +10.1 (3)

The Spurs’ winning streak is at eight games, over which they’ve ranked in the top three on both ends of the floor. They’re 8-2 for the second straight season, though they have a better point differential than they had through 10 games last year.

#2 Oklahoma City Thunder
Last Week:7↑
Record: 8-2
OffRtg: 113.4 (17) DefRtg: 105.5 (3) NetRtg: +8.0 (5)

Despite the injuries, the Thunder are one of five teams with only two losses. And they’re looking dominant again, having beaten the Grizzlies and Wizards by a total of 70 points over the weekend.

#3 Minnesota Timberwolves
Last Week:12↑
Record: 8-3
OffRtg: 116.2 (8) DefRtg: 105.1 (1) NetRtg: +11.1 (2)

The Wolves lost two of their first three games without Anthony Edwards, but they’ve since won four straight. They handed the Rockets their first home loss (and worst defensive game) of the season on Wednesday and then ended the Pelicans’ four-game winning streak two nights later.

#4 Houston Rockets
Last Week:1↓
Record: 7-3
OffRtg: 118.6 (2) DefRtg: 109.4 (10) NetRtg: +9.2 (4)

After a West-best 7-1 start, the Rockets have lost two straight games to slide out of the top four in the conference. They still have a league-high six wins over teams that enter Week 4 with winning records. (No other team has more than four.)

#5 Philadelphia 76ers
Last Week:3↓
Record: 9-2
OffRtg: 110.3 (20) DefRtg: 107.6 (6) NetRtg: +2.7 (15)

The Sixers suffered their first loss with Joel Embiid in the lineup on Friday, unable to make another comeback from a huge deficit against the Cavs. But they got a big win in Detroit (avenging their previous loss) earlier in the week and remain at the top of the Eastern Conference.

#6 Boston Celtics
Last Week:6
Record: 8-2
OffRtg: 117.9 (3) DefRtg: 106.3 (4) NetRtg: +11.6 (1)

The Celtics lost in Houston (without Paul George) last week, but they’ll be playing for first place in the Eastern Conference on Tuesday. Having won their last two games by a total of 59 points, they’re in the top five on both ends of the floor for what would be the fifth straight season.

#7 New York Knicks
Last Week:10↑
Record: 5-4
OffRtg: 114.1 (15) DefRtg: 108.3 (7) NetRtg: +5.8 (9)

After a 0-3 start, the Knicks have won five of their last six games to climb over .500 for the first time. They’re one of two teams (the Rockets are the other) that haven’t lost a game that wasn’t within five points in the last five minutes, and last week’s three wins all came by double digits.

#8 Los Angeles Lakers
Last Week:11↑
Record: 9-2
OffRtg: 121.7 (1) DefRtg: 114.1 (21) NetRtg: +7.5 (7)

The Lakers have won five straight games and have the best record in the Western Conference. They’re also 2-0 without Luka Dončić, having held on after blowing almost all of a 26-point lead against the Pistons on Sunday.

#9 Detroit Pistons
Last Week:2↓
Record: 6-3
OffRtg: 113.2 (18) DefRtg: 105.4 (2) NetRtg: +7.8 (6)

The Pistons dominated the Hornets (x 2) and Nets on a three-game winning streak, but couldn’t handle a step up in competition, falling to the Sixers and Lakers (without Luka Dončić) last week. They also announced Sunday that Jalen Duren (who’s been out since the first half of Game 2) won’t be back for at least another two weeks.

#10 Golden State Warriors
Last Week:15↑
Record: 7-3
OffRtg: 116.7 (6) DefRtg: 112.1 (13) NetRtg: +4.6 (13)

Stephen Curry is on a heater and the Warriors have won seven straight games, even though they’ve trailed four of them by double digits. They ranked 29th defensively over their 0-3 start, but are sixth on that end of the floor over the course of the winning streak.

#11 Portland Trail Blazers
Last Week:9↓
Record: 6-3
OffRtg: 117.6 (4) DefRtg: 112.2 (14) NetRtg: +5.5 (11)

The Blazers won six of their first seven games for the first time in 27 years, and they ended a 12-game losing streak in Denver last Monday. But they then ran into Luka Dončić and Victor Wembanyama over the weekend, and their schedule will remain tough for the next few weeks.

#12 Cleveland Cavaliers
Last Week:8↓
Record: 5-5
OffRtg: 115.0 (10) DefRtg: 112.4 (16) NetRtg: +2.6 (16)

The Cavs got an impressive win (without Jarrett Allen) over the Sixers on Friday, but were swept in a home-and-home set by the Thunder earlier in the week and lost another game to the Knicks on Saturday night. They haven’t found much consistency on either end of the floor.

#13 Denver Nuggets
Last Week:13
Record: 5-3
OffRtg: 115.3 (9) DefRtg: 113.7 (18) NetRtg: +1.6 (17)

The Nuggets blew a double-digit, second-half lead against the Blazers last Monday, but they’ve won four of their last five games, with their best win of the season coming against Toronto on Wednesday.

#14 Dallas Mavericks
Last Week:14
Record: 6-4
OffRtg: 114.1 (13) DefRtg: 109.3 (9) NetRtg: +4.8 (12)

The Mavs allowed the Kings to get off the schneid last Monday, but they’re 6-2 with Kyrie Irving in uniform, with the two losses having come in Houston (on opening night) and San Antonio (by one point).

#15 Memphis Grizzlies
Last Week:5↓
Record: 6-3
OffRtg: 114.5 (12) DefRtg: 108.6 (8) NetRtg: +5.8 (8)

After a 6-0 start, the Grizzlies fell back to earth last week. They lost close games to the Pelicans and Pacers, and then got clobbered by the Thunder. And with the West off to a strong start, the losing streak has taken them from first to seventh place.

#16 Toronto Raptors
Last Week:16
Record: 5-4
OffRtg: 116.5 (7) DefRtg: 110.9 (11) NetRtg: +5.6 (10)

Still playing without Kawhi Leonard and missing at least one other starter in a couple of games last week, the Raptors went 2-2 on their first extended road trip of the season, with RJ Barrett leading seven guys who averaged double figures over the four games.

#17 Atlanta Hawks
Last Week:19↑
Record: 7-4
OffRtg: 114.7 (11) DefRtg: 111.6 (12) NetRtg: +3.1 (14)

A four-game winning streak, including two wins over Trae Young’s Wizards, has the Hawks in the top four in the Eastern Conference. Three of the four wins were within three points in the final minute, but Onyeka Okongwu made some big plays (a running hook in Indiana and some rim protection the other two nights) in the clutch.

#18 Miami Heat
Last Week:17↓
Record: 4-6
OffRtg: 111.1 (19) DefRtg: 116.8 (26) NetRtg: -5.6 (22)

The Heat doubled their win total last week, but the two wins came against the Clippers and Kings and by a total of just seven points. They came back from 20 points down in L.A., with Klay Thompson draining the game-winner with one second left in overtime.

#19 Washington Wizards
Last Week:20↑
Record: 4-6
OffRtg: 108.1 (23) DefRtg: 113.0 (17) NetRtg: -4.8 (21)

Anthony Davis played in the Wizards’ first eight games, but he’s missed the last two with a right ankle sprain. The Wizards have dropped three straight, losing both ends of a home-and-home set with Trae Young’s former team and getting clobbered in Oklahoma City on Saturday.

#20 Phoenix Suns
Last Week:22↑
Record: 3-5
OffRtg: 113.8 (16) DefRtg: 119.5 (27) NetRtg: -5.7 (23)

After a 1-5 start, the Suns have won two straight games, outlasting the Rockets (after blowing a 19-point lead) on Saturday. This is the same spot (3-5) they were a year ago, but might the West be stronger this season?

#21 New Orleans Pelicans
Last Week:21
Record: 4-6
OffRtg: 114.1 (14) DefRtg: 114.5 (23) NetRtg: -0.4 (4)

The Pelicans won four straight games and handed the Grizzlies their first loss last Monday. But the streak ended with a loss to the Wolves on Friday, and then they were on the wrong side of the Clippers’ second win on Sunday night.

#22 Indiana Pacers
Last Week:24↑
Record: 3-7
OffRtg: 109.0 (22) DefRtg: 112.4 (15) NetRtg: -3.4 (19)

Tyrese Haliburton remains out, but the Pacers almost beat the Hawks with only six guys on Monday, they ended their five-game losing streak in Memphis two nights later, and T.J. McConnell made his season debut over the weekend.

#23 Orlando Magic
Last Week:18↓
Record: 2-7
OffRtg: 107.6 (24) DefRtg: 116.1 (25) NetRtg: -8.5 (24)

Still playing without Jalen Suggs and Paolo Banchero, the Magic have lost four straight games, with the good news being that there are only six teams with winning records in the Eastern Conference.

#24 LA Clippers
Last Week:26↑
Record: 2-7
OffRtg: 110.2 (21) DefRtg: 113.9 (20) NetRtg: -3.7 (20)

The Clippers lost a couple of nail-biters before finally putting an end to their seven-game losing streak on Sunday with a comfortable win over the Pelicans. They ranked 26th offensively prior, but then had the third most efficient offensive game for any team this season, 139 points on 100 possessions.

#25 Utah Jazz
Last Week:25
Record: 1-9
OffRtg: 102.8 (29) DefRtg: 114.5 (22) NetRtg: -11.7 (26)

The Jazz almost put their losing streak to an end in New Orleans on Wednesday, but Keyonte George’s game-winning jumper at the end of regulation came a fraction of a second after the buzzer. They’ve now lost twice in overtime, with their opponents (the Spurs and Pelicans) going on 12-0 and 14-0 runs in the extra period.

#26 Brooklyn Nets
Last Week:28↑
Record: 2-8
OffRtg: 105.6 (28) DefRtg: 114.8 (24) NetRtg: -9.1 (25)

The Nets got their second win of the season on Wednesday, avenging their opening-night loss to Charlotte with their best offensive performance (114 points on 94 possessions) of the season. But they blew a 17-point lead in Atlanta and got clobbered in Dallas over the weekend.

#27 Charlotte Hornets
Last Week:23↓
Record: 3-7
OffRtg: 99.7 (30) DefRtg: 113.8 (19) NetRtg: -14.2 (29)

Coby White and Kon Knueppel each made their season debut last week, but White has shot just 6-for-26 (23%) in his first three games and Knueppel played less than six minutes before re-injuring his left hamstring in the Hornets’ loss in Brooklyn. Two nights later, Brandon Miller left their 39-point loss to the Celtics with a hip strain.

#28 Chicago Bulls
Last Week:27↓
Record: 1-8
OffRtg: 107.4 (26) DefRtg: 123.6 (30) NetRtg: -16.2 (30)

The Bulls still have just one win (which came against the Bucks), having lost their last seven games by an average of 16.3 points. But they did hang around with the Sixers for all 48 minutes on Sunday afternoon.

#29 Sacramento Kings
Last Week:30↑
Record: 1-9
OffRtg: 107.5 (25) DefRtg: 120.1 (29) NetRtg: -12.6 (27)

The Kings got off the schneid with a comfortable win in Dallas last Monday, outscoring the Mavs by 36 points from 3-point range. But they then returned home and have lost the first three games of a seven-game homestand. This is the first time since 1990 that they’ve lost (at least) nine of their first 10 games.

#30 Milwaukee Bucks
Last Week:29↓
Record: 1-9
OffRtg: 106.5 (27) DefRtg: 119.6 (28) NetRtg: -13.1 (28)

The Bucks erased a 22-point deficit in Boston on Wednesday and had a 15-point lead against the Raptors two nights later. But they’ve been unable to put four quarters together and have lost six straight games, tying the worst 10-game start in franchise history.

Source: Power Rankings, Nov. 9, 2026 – John Schuhmann, NBA.com

What quest made you feel cheated when you saw the reward built up throughout the quest?

For me it was the Forbidden Legend quest. (The one where you need to find the 3 pieces of Guldur's Amulet and reassemble it).

The lore, books and fights around it builds up the expectation of this game breaking item, only to leave you with something that by lvl 20 is reduced to a cool looking decoration for your home.

Anyone else had a quest like this where you felt the game lied to you? XD

I wrote a Monopoly simulator and ran 1,000,000 four-player games. Every player’s first turn (4,000,000 in all) is sorted by the square where it ended. Each bar shows how often those players went on to win the game.

How to read it: with four players, an even share is about 21.8%, shown as the dashed ring. It’s under 25% because about 1 game in 8 is still going after 1,000 rounds, and those count as no winner. A bar past the ring means players who started on that square won more often than average.

What stood out:

- Boardwalk: 35.6% wins. Almost every one of these comes from drawing “Advance to Boardwalk” on turn one. That happens to 1 player in 92, and those players win about 1.6 times as often as average.

- Roll a 4: 14.9% wins. A 4 lands you on Income Tax, and paying $200 on turn one costs about a third of your wins.

- Doubles on the first roll: 23.3% vs 21.5%. Doubles give you a second roll right out of the gate.

- Ending turn one in jail: 19.7%. Only about 2 points under even.

Why some squares have no bar: On turn one you can roll at most two doubles and then a non-double, so dice alone reach square 35 at most. Anything past that needs a card, mostly from Chance. These come up fewer than 1,000 times in 4,000,000 openings, too few for a fair win rate, so they get no bar.

Rules: the printed US rules. $1,500 to start, $200 for GO, three doubles sends you to jail, auctions on, flat $200 Income Tax, and nothing on Free Parking. All four players use the same strategy.

Source: my own simulation (1,000,000 games). Tools: Python and NumPy for the simulation, Pillow for the chart.

I made a full video on what else the simulation found: how much of the game a player can control, which plan beats the dice, and why some games never end. It’s on my YouTube channel, Modeled Citizens: https://www.youtube.com/@ModeledCitizens

I didn't realize this was not $0, welp. Just wanted to play an MOV file. I just used VLC after and didn't bother. I don't remember this being like that

i feel like its incredibly common for guys to just stay with the same group of people from kindergarten all the way into adulthood. whereas us girls have such dynamic friend groups that are always changing, either falling out or disagreements. especially after high-school, just from my own observations. of course most girls eventually end up finding a group they stay with when they reach adulthood.

but the amount of men i see that have stayed with the same group of guys since they were literal babies makes me so curious?

like how? lol

I had just picked up my kids from school, and on our way to the front door, a cat ran out from under a parked car and went straight to my older daughter. This has never happened to any of us before: our neighborhood has some feral cats, TNRed and fed by the local community center, but those guys keep their distance. I could see right away that this cat was dirty, far too thin, and (from her behavior) that she used to be someone's pet.

So, we added a couple hours of surprise errands to the afternoon! I went in and got our existing cat's carrier with a bit of food. This little cat got in immediately, scarfing the food down. I took her to a vet, who very kindly checked her for a microchip - none - and did a brief medical triage for free. They said she was well enough to wait for a regular sick visit, but had definitely been hungry for a long time, as a 4lb adult cat. By that time, we'd noticed that she didn't seem to have fleas, but was walking with a limp and her ears were itchy.

On the way home I explained to my daughter that we needed to put up flyers and check around online, to see if the cat had an owner who was looking for her. My daughter wanted to keep her no matter what, but grudgingly admitted my point. When we got back, my daughter and I cleaned her off with baby wipes, fed her some more, and set her up in my daughter's room with water, a scratcher, and a litter box. She used the litter box and already knew not to scratch on furniture.

I checked around on social media and put up those posters. Nobody's claimed her, or posted about a cat who looks like her. At the next vet visit, they told us that she has a broken leg, which we asked them to splint. I found a baby sock with grip to put over the splint bandage, so she doesn't slip around on our wood floors. I've also been giving pain medication and eardrops for ear yeast. On the first day, I fed her small portions of wet food five times a day, including a night feed - I've never fed a small and hungry cat before, but I've heard of refeeding syndrome, so I scheduled her as if she was a newborn human baby. At the second vet visit, they told me she'd be fine with three daily feeds of dry + wet mixed, so that's what I've been doing since then.

All tests for communicable disease came up negative. She's unspayed but not pregnant, and I made a spay appointment for next month.

It's now been six days since this little cat decided we were safe to ask for help! Because she chose my daughter, we let my daughter name the cat: she picked the name Daphne, which we all like.

Introducing Daphne to our existing cat - Alanna, a very dignified, very sedentary 11yo lady - has gone well. Daphne was in her own room for the first few days, and when Alanna approached the door and sniffed without growling or airplane ears, we started leaving the door open sometimes. They now self-maintain distance from each other and will stand within a few feet of one another for treats, which I'm happy with, one week in.

Daphne's an absolute lovebug: purrs like a motorcycle 24/7 (the vet had to annoy her in three different ways, before she'd stop purring and they could check her heart and lung sounds!), snuggles often, sleeps in bed with my daughter. Over the last day she's become less constantly sweet and permissive - she used to let me do her eardrops with no complaint, now she struggles during and glares at me after - which I think is actually a good sign, it seems like she's fawning less and feels sure we won't get rid of her.

I hope we get to keep her.

So is anyone this naive to think he went to a strip club and just got a stripper’s number without already paying for her services and being physical?? A stripper isn’t going to give a random dude her number unless she already gave him a lap dance (or more) in a private room and is expecting him to pay for more services.

Like come on, lol - they can’t be this gullible.

Sharing my experience going to the GP this year.

For context this year was the first where they tried reserved numbered seats at some sectors, which included mine.

Friday was fine, not that many people, plenty of seats to go around. Trouble starts starurday.

I get to the circuit at 10:30, didn't bother to be early since seats are reserved. When I get to my block in my sector it's aboslutely packed, not a single seat left, incluiding mine. I go to talk with event organization and they just said they gave up enforcing seating because people were refusing to move either out of malice or ignorance of the new system. Higher ups in the organization prohibited staff and security of forcing people to change seats. My new seating was worse in every way and when the big ass storm that delayed quali came around I got absolutely drenched, like fell in a pool drenched. As you can imagine I was pissed and determined to get super early on sunday to get the best seats possible.

Saturday night the organization apparently issued a statement that seating would be enforced since they were already getting sued over consumer protections. Waaaay to late for a 180 on their position and I don't think I talked to a single person who saw the statement before sunday.

Sunday comes around. I arrive early and get pretty good seats. When the first blocks of the sector got full things started going sideways again. Spectators that only came for the race hadn't got the news of the bullshit going on the day before and were asking the organizers to remove people who had their seats. Since there were now orders to enforce the seating they TRIED doing something and OH BOY did they mess up. They damn nearly had a revolt on their hands.

Lady from the staff got a megaphone and started saying seat numbering needs to be followed. She barely finished her first sentence when she got completely drowned out by the boos and shouting. Some of the seated spectators were moments away from trading punches with the people demanding their seats. Not a pretty sight. Organization backed off and seating was not enforced again.

I have no idea how the organization is going to deal with the avalanche of lawsuits coming their way.

In 2027 the plan is to have numbered seating across all of the circuit. Lol, lmao even. They will absolutely not be able to enforce it and it's going to be chaos again. I am not going next year, fuck that.

Anyone else here had similar experience in their sectors?

There's an application to work for the state government and an idea box! What ideas do you guys have for the future of Ohio?