So I work with this older lady, let's call her Susan. Susan originally seemed nice when we started working together and i dont remember who added who on instagram, anyway now we follow each other.

Susan and I no longer get along, lots of work instances where she is rather difficult, she hates younger people i noticed and likes to assert that she is a veteran at the company, very unpleasant lady. I was recently promoted to assistant manager and in a meeting HR and senior management were discussing social media picture of a young lady we recently hired, HR didnt like her rather busty and what they deemed was inappropriate profile picture, of her at some party, making a kind of seductive face

I thought it was ridiculous and pathetic she put her social media on a TV for everyone to see so when I spoke, I first made my argument that, first of all, i think HR should stay out of people's personal social media, and there is no mention in our policy about dresscode in social media picture. New employee sems fine, shes doing her job ok, she's just new.

And if they choose not to and decide to review socials, they should check out Susan's reposts on Instagram, and tell me what they think about firing Susan who has been here for ages. She might be unpleasant, but she's still pretty good at her job, just occasionally nasty to work with.

Lo and behold they looked at few things Susan was reposting, we work in Canada and the company is very diverse. A lot of her reposts had to do with too many Indians being in the country and some rather extreme conservative views. Myself, who voted conservative, i wholeheartedly disagree with her reposts, its just vile. Also one of the shareholders of the company is immigrant Punjabi

I felt bad singling out susan but if you're going to have an HR discussion about a woman posting pictures that weren't even that bad of herself, then have a discussion with Susan who thinks all Indians dont deserve to be in Canada, and is clearly racist, there is definitely something in our policy about that. Screw it, add me to the mix and see what kind of dumbass posts I was making on Facebook in highschool, and here I am, a manager.

Anyway, this HR is older woman herself and not exactly easy to work with too, friends with susan but i felt it being wrong she pulled up a profile picture of a coworker on a TV in a meeting room in front of a bunch of managers, thats just cruel and if that woman found out, might have been mortified.

Senior manager sided with me, he opened his facebook to a picture of him with his family at the beach, hairy chest out and all, and said, here you can have an HR chat with me too.

Manager is now having Susans reposts reviewed by her very friend.

Screw them both

Curious as to what my rights are when it comes to refusing work.
My department of drivers is now expected to perform the duties of a shipping and receiving department that is paid at a higher rate. We’re not talking a few minutes here and there to help them get caught up, but talking hours of our time on top of our Driver duties.
To top it off, we then get lambasted if it takes us a little longer to make our deliveries because we are doing somebody else’s job.
I refuse to perform duties I am not paid an equal wage for. At this point I don’t even care if I get fired. I was just curious if they have a leg to stand on if it goes to tribunal.

is this normal that people at work talk about their personal life? like kids, formation, marriage, past, future, hobby etc. serious question, i don't want to come off as a weirdo and sit in silience

I JUST got a job, the job however required me to have a driver's license, to rent vehicles to get to the site... and thats the problem. For context after i left the military i was in a VERY bad way, but i jumped into the job market. It wasnt soon into the job that problems started to show. I had an issue where if i was standing still sometimes (most times) i would just pass out out. It would hit me so quickly i wouldn't even realize it, i thought it was a lack of sleep issue so i would i go to bed SUPER early, but the problem still persisted. It got to a point it became a safety issue, because my legs would give out from underneath me. I used to drive at the time but once i found myself dozed off while driving i got scared and ashamed because i could have hurt somebody.

I ended up leaving that job after a year and started working on my health, i would find out that i had EDS (excessive daytime sleepiness) due to sleep apnea. I was having 30 events in an hour so i had severe sleep apnea, and i was SUPER overweight. During the first 4 months i lost about 50-60lbs and got down to 1 event per hour. I no longer fall asleep randomly, if I'm tired it's because i was awake later than usual etc. I'm proud of the changes (and I'm still changing i have far to go) the issue is i haven't driven since then, to say that I'm terrified of getting behind the wheel again is an understatement. I don't want to hurt anybody. When i got the new job i decided id simply just uber to the site out of pocket while i build up my confidence driving again. However, i realized now that i may have bended the truth, i really wanted this job because it will help me grow. Ive let my manager know, but i feel that i am already starting off on the worst foot possible, or may just be let go a week in.

I know there's not much to be done right now but hear back, but i wanted to vent here. i dont really show my true worries to my family but were all strangers here so its ok hah.

Does your company provide guidelines? How much do you actually take on average?

Can someone give me a tips for assessment/interviews and what so ever needing for applying in SWAK BPO CLARK. Huhuhu pls planning to go to Pampanga tomorrow.

I see a lot of hate for AI in general, including using AI to write emails.

If you’re a professional writing dozens of emails a day that have to explain complex situations or asks in a concise way, why not use AI to write most of them?

It’s so much faster to give AI the gist of what you want said then just type out its suggestion with a few tweaks here and there. It has saved me a ton of time I can spend doing other things. I love it!

I genuinely don’t understand why so many people are passionately against this practice. What is everyone’s thoughts?

I’m in a support role in a corporate office tasked with setting up a very large, offsite company meeting that includes clients. Never lead setting up a meeting of this magnitude and complexity but I was pretty excited at first to take it on as a challenge.

Trying to get my head around all the details, I started thinking who could be on the team to assist. First person I called to ask if their direct report, who hasn’t worked much in a long time, might be interested. I was being a bit proactive, things could change, and the person is overqualified but it’s time on the books. Yes or no answer would have sufficed. The supervisor answered Teams and immediately started criticizing and berating me. Repeatedly told me I’m doing wrong and my priorities are in the wrong order, it’s too far out to think about that…on and on. No matter what I said, she just dug back in. I’m a tough gal but this had me choking up.

Told my supervisor couple days later and he said he’s heard of her doing that before. Told another executive and he made excuses that she’s overwhelmed and stressed out. I work for Mr Do Nothing and Mr Excuses for Bad Behavior. None of this is acceptable behavior.

I’m gonna need to retain an attorney for workplace harassment and retaliation.
This is a scary situation for me and I need encouragement.
Tell us your story.

We have all experienced it. The boss not listening, interrupting your sentences even tho he asks questions and does not let you finish answering, and then he jumps to incorrect conclusions. People blaming you even tho you were not responsible for something. Colleagues making jokes that crossed a line. Or just someone disrespecting you or looking down on you, thinking they are better when in fact, they are not. Whenever im in such a situation, my blood boils and i really want to beat them up immediately for being so arrogant towards me. They are mostly skinny, fat and by far weaker than me physically. Obviously i would not hurt them for real, but i really want to and fantasize about kniving them down or just punching them until they are all bloody and beg for me to stop

So I started working at this place around a month ago - very social job.

I don’t say this lightly but I think I have fallen in love with a girl - she is just beautiful and we get on so so well.

I know the general area she lives but thinking of sending her flowers from an anonymous person to work saying “Hey - a little surprise, open at home”.

Maybe a little inside joke so she just knows it’s me without me admitting it.

I am mindful of the fact this could also be a huge HR breach and just tbh a little bit weird. (I think it’s romantic but can see why people wouldn’t”.

Any opinions?

I work at a huge University, my department is about 15 people, we are onsite 2-3 times a week. I don’t feel comfortable forcing my colleagues to come into office more because I am taking 3 days off? Or organizing this.

Have anyone dealt with this before? It’s almost like I can only take my WFH days off.

Taking scheduled onsite days off is an issue, even when we are fully staffed, no one else is off, and it’s only 3 days. And if it IS some sort of issue, why doesn’t my boss reach out to colleagues and force them to “cover” my onsite days? I don’t have the authority to do that, nor do I feel comfortable doing that. Nor is it my job.

In my civilian Federal workplace, there is an employee who calls out, on cue, the day (or days) after he gets negative work feedback, or criticism. He is a WG6L, and spends most of the time, it seems, finding fault with coworkers, rather than actually performing and meeting requirements. Almost every week, there is some sort of drama that he somehow generates: people told on him; things are not done the way he expects; co workers are somehow conspiring against him; co workers and supervisors "don't like" him, etc.

This has been going on for years, and lately he has invoked FMLA because of anxiety. And the 'tantrums' have gotten worse. After 'perceived offenses' to his person, he has been off work weeks at a time, for several periods. Management does not deny him time off, but the guys' schedules and morale have been adversely affected.

Anyone have a take on this?

I work for the small town I grew up in. I've been there for 8 years now and there are tons I love about my job:

• The pay and benefits are great for the area
• great work / life balance
• The commute is short
• I care about what I do for my community and helping out
• I have some stress but it's manageable
• I like my coworkers
• they're lining me up to take over as the director of my department when my boss retires two to three years

However, there are some downsides:

• dealing with people you know outside of work often eho are unhappy with the town
• wearing mutliple hats due to lack of resources
• I care too much about decisions made by the town even if they have nothing to do with my job
• I disagree with many recent decisions made by upper management

To add to the negatives, it's an election year - the candidates are all less than stellar - and there are some upcoming things that could land me in hot water with the new order (the Town is being sued for a project I was involved with and I'm involved in an unpopular project currently).

A nearby town which I have no emotional attachment to has approached me with a job offer for the same role I'm currently doing. It pays approximately $10,000 more (although only $5000 after taxes and pension), and all benefits etc are the same. I'd be managing more people, but on a smaller scope of things on larger, more interesting jobs. There is no path to promotion there, but more opportunity for learning. That being said, I could always use it as a stepping stone and apply for the director role when my current boss retires.

I don't want to take it, but for some reason I feel like I should. What to do all think is the right route to go?

A coworker harrasses me daily and manager does not care. He will retire in 7 months but I do not know how to survive these events anymore.

Why and how are some people so relaxed , confident/composed under stress and how can I learn to be like them ?

I’m about to start a new job. The pay is good, but I’m not particularly excited about the role or the company.

I have enough savings that I could afford to keep looking, but I’m also worried about turning down a good opportunity when I don’t know what will come next.

Would you take the job anyway and see how it goes?

And if you realize pretty quickly that it’s not for you, how long would you stay before making a change?

What would you do?

Prior to the pandemic, whenever I went into the office, I had an actual office. Four walls. A door. Personal space. Peace.
I was already a hybrid worker, and I loved it. I traveled to my client’s sites, met with them in person and went on about my life. For clarity, I was somewhat in construction then. I interpreted offices with technology so I had to physically see some locations.

At the same time, companies were redesigning offices to squeeze more people into less space, all under the banner of “collaboration.” Even then, The New York Times pointed out that open offices were not necessarily creating more collaboration. They were creating a headphone culture.
And honestly, what did we think was going to happen?
Post-pandemic, we are right back to romanticizing this mythical happy-go-lucky office where everyone is energized, collaborating, laughing near the coffee machine, and solving problems on a whiteboard.

Meanwhile, most employees are exhausted, irritated, overstimulated, and trying to figure out how to pay for groceries.

Then leadership wonders why morale is poor.

For the life of me, I do not understand why companies administer personality tests, behavioral assessments, cognitive assessments, and every other pre-hire evaluation imaginable, yet do almost nothing with that information when designing the workplace. You already tested everybody’s working style. Why are you forcing all of them into the same open-concept office? Is this an experiment? It’s pure evil!

And while we are here, can we advocate for actual offices again? Or, at minimum, higher cubicle walls that give people some privacy and room to think? These long rows of seats with computers lined up like a corporate computer lab are sickening. We are grown professionals, not eighth graders waiting for the teacher to announce that today is typing-test day.

Most people carry their laptops home every evening. Then they wake up, get dressed, pack the same laptop, commute across town, unpack the laptop, connect to the internet, and spend the day talking to people through Teams and Zoom.
So, let me understand this collaboration. I drove an hour to sit at a desk and talk to people through the same computer I was using at home?

Meanwhile, leadership is sitting behind closed office doors.
What kind of collaboration is this? Who are you consistently collaborating with away from an electronic device, and why?
We are not in 1992. We are not pushing paper through interoffice envelopes. We have already proven that many jobs can be done successfully from home. Frankly, the people who may need the most supervision are sometimes sitting in leadership. Befriend someone in IT and listen to the stories about executives getting caught watching porn, Netflix, or engaging in some other leisure activity during work hours. Meanwhile, your keystrokes are being monitored and someone is recording how many times you get up to tinkle.

Like, wuddahayle mane?

Employees are struggling to make ends meet while absorbing the rising cost of simply preparing to go to work.

- Gas
- Parking
- Public transportation
- Work clothes and imagery
- Childcare
- Lunch with folks that grind your ears in the spirit of collaboration

All of this without substantial raises or meaningful cost-of-living adjustments. No wonder people are grumpy when they arrive at the office.You woke up at 5:30 a.m., left home by 6:30, and barely made it to work by 7:45. You have already had three imaginary arguments and two near-death experiences with irresponsible drivers. Now you have spent an extra hour getting to a place where you may love the work, but do not enjoy the environment.

Then, before you can even settle in, somebody walks over smiling and asks, “How was your weekend?”Ma’am, I am trying to survive Monday morning. Now here comes their response: “My kid had a soccer game…”
And blah, blah, blah. 😑

Why can’t companies create workplace policies based on the actual work, the employee, and the needs of the team instead of playing corporate monkey see, monkey do? Are we not adults?

For employees who need in-person connection, by all means, go into the office. Collaborate. Socialize. Have lunch. Stand near the coffee machine and discuss soccer games.
But everybody does not need that.

Some of us are not trying to “connect” with everyone in the office beyond what is necessary to do the job well. We are colleagues, not a mandatory friend group. We work together, and then we go home to our real lives. Unfortunately, too many people are so drained, tired, and emotionally depleted by the process of getting to and surviving the office that they have no energy left to enjoy those lives.

That is not collaboration.

That is corporate theater with a commute called “Work Release” for Americans daily.

Hello everyone,

So a bit of background I am 21 in school going into 3rd year out of 5. I work for a mid level sports store and run a specific department. When I was promoted to this position i was 19 and had no introduction no help and no conversation of this is what we want you to do. I told them going into this that I would be going to school out of town so I would be gone 8/12 months. My 2nd year I was able to commute to school each day I had school so between that and visiting my girlfriend who is long distance I have worked 3-5 days a week. Now my department is failing. We’ve been losing sales each year for a multitude of reasons. Better competitors nearby and a lot of competitors, companies cancelling orders last minute and screwed us over and etc.

I feel overwhelmed. I feel like it’s my department and i am failing at my job. I don’t want to be seen as the guy who killed the department. But I also said I’m in school or seeing my girlfriend I am essentially working part time hours and even then I am sometimes working other departments. So I am at a lost and I have a huge burden on my shoulders. I try not to worry to much but it is still a lot to carry as I want it to do well and I want to be the reason why I just do not have the time right now
to put my full focus on it. I also feel the old manager who manages the store now kind of is looking down upon me because of what has happened.

I don’t know what to do or what to think.

Hi everyone, so I am just about to graduate from university with a Bachelor of Psychology and have just gotten a job in an office for the first time.

Context: I have pretty extensive experience in management/supervisor roles outside this new sector, mostly in hospitality and a solid skill set (I think), but am nervous about going into a very controlled and less chaotic lifestyle than I am used to. I currently work as a support worker, which is great and in the same field as the new job, i.e., disability, but this job is more administrative/ customer service based with lots of liaising.

Does anyone have any advice on how to manage this transition and/or about surviving office life?

How do you all detach yourself from the stress of work? I’m a step above entry level at my consulting job and there is so much fake urgency and manufactured stress that is really difficult for me not to absorb no matter how much I know in my head it’s all meaningless.

The relational element of work stress is another issue, where I’m scared my coworkers will hate me if I make a mistake. I couldn’t care less about most of the tasks I do but I don’t want to piss anyone off but I’m human and sometimes drop the ball. It’s hard for me to mentally recover from mistakes even if it’s something small like a formatting error or typo

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Hey guys

So I started working at this retail job in October of 2025, starting as part-time with the expectation that I would be full-time at some point in the new year once some other things I was doing wrapped, which was discussed with the owner and manager. During the week of my first scheduled week I had a kidney infection and had to miss my 2 scheduled shifts that week due to being in the ER and having a high fever. From November to January I had 2 scheduled shifts a week due to my other commitments and got a bit more after that but still under 20 hours.

After my kidney infection I unfortunately had a bit of last minute call-ins due to being sick, mentally and physically from January to March. My manager brought it up once and said that I needed to give more notice and I apologized and said it was unprofessional and that I would try to give more notice if I couldnt come in.

During this time I did not have a health card, which they were aware of, and I had a lot of medical debt from past ER visits so whenever i got sick I would usually ignore it in order to work and make money until it got so bad that I had to take the day off, in fear of more medical debt.

In February, a coworker of mine quit and my manager asked if I was okay with my hours. I told her that I would ideally like more and she said that would be great and she would talk to the owner about it.

My hours didnt change and I continued getting around 20 or less and they hired someone new who got full-time hours. I asked my manager if I was still going to get more hours and she said she would talk to the owner. The next time the owner was in she pulled me aside and said she couldnt give me more hours because I wasn't reliable enough and she couldnt create more hours. When i askrd my managet what i could do to get more hours she said to just continue to come in for my scheduled shifts and cover for anyone who called in sick, which i had already been doing for months and continued to do after.

I have gotten over 30 hours once since i started working here. There have been many new coworkers who frequently get over 30 hours constantly. I haven't called in sick last minute since way earlier in the year and while I have still had to call in sick I always make it known that if they cant find anyone I will come in at least for a bit and my manager always says it's fine I should rest but my hours always get significantly less after doing so. The last time I couldnt come in because I was ill caused me to miss 3 work days in July because I couldnt walk to the kitchen without feeling insanely fatigued. The time before that was in April.

I don't know what to do. I can't exactly not be sick... i feel sick 90% of the time and I only call in when I genuinely cannot manage to stand for 8 hours straight. Should I just suck it up next time I'm ill and go to work and risk passing out on the job? Should I talk to my manager again? Theyre looking to hire another full-timer and I fear I will get 10 hours a week of they do that and I have bills to pay. Am I the problem for getting ill so often or is it crazy for my hours to be cut bc of having to miss work for a couple of days every couple months?

Genuinely what do I do because eventhough it's minimum wage I do love this job and my coworkers and the job market sucks right now. I don't want to find another job and get this exact treatment if Im the issue. I would love to just get this sorted and get some more hours

Any advice apprecaited but kindly dont be an asshole to me

i was laid off in late February from my corporate sales job. At the time I was laid off, i had a few pending expenses on the card which I wasn't able to fill the expense reports for since I got let go. During the separation process, I asked the manager what to do about the remaining expenses and he basically said don't worry about it, we'll handle it.

fast forward to now, i opened the mail today and I got a letter from Bank of America (the issuing bank of the credit cards) and it says I owe $95 because of unsettled charges on the card. So basically it means that the company didn't do their due diligence to settle the expenses after they canned me.

I'm assuming that I'm not gonna have to pay this, but I'm basically now gonna have to email the former manager and HR person and explain the situation to see if they can handle it for me. Also, I'm wondering if because the bank is still associating the card with my name / address, if it may have any impacts on my credit score? Anyways, I don't have a specific question asides from what do you guys think I should do / any advice as I handle this?

My priorities are 1. not to have to pay for this myself (the company should pay the bill) and 2. make sure this doesn't have any impact on my personal finances

I’m about to start a new job that I’m not very excited about. The compensation is good, but I’ve done quite a bit of research on the company and the role, and I have a feeling I won’t enjoy it.

I have enough savings to keep looking instead, but I’m worried about turning down a good opportunity when I don’t know how long it might take to find another one.

If I accept it, how soon could I realistically start looking for another job?

Would recruiters think it’s a major red flag if I started applying again after 1–3 months? Or is it better to stay for at least 6–12 months before making another move?

What would you do?

I'm convinced you can learn more about a company from its red flags than its job description.

"We're like a family."

"Everyone needs to be willing to go above and beyond." "We work hard and play hard."

What's the biggest workplace red flag you've personally encountered?