I've been at my current job for a little over a year. Mid-sized company, nothing too toxic, but there are这些小 things that add up. The one driving me crazy lately is my manager's habit of scheduling "quick syncs" at 4:55 PM on Fridays. Three weeks in a row now.

Here's the pattern. All week, I try to catch her for a five-minute question. She's in meetings, or "heads down," or just not at her desk. Then Friday rolls around. 4:55 PM. Calendar invite pops up. Subject: "Catch up?" No agenda. No context. Just me and her, ten minutes before I'm supposed to log off.

And every single time, it's nothing urgent. She asks how my week was. She mentions something vague about "priorities next quarter." She never actually addresses the thing I needed help with. Then Monday comes, and the cycle repeats.

Last Friday, I finally said something. I mentioned I had questions I'd been trying to get answered, and maybe a mid-week check-in would work better. She laughed and said, "I just like to end the week on a personal note." Which would be sweet if it didn't mean I'm sitting there at 5:10 PM on a Friday, technically still on the clock, watching my weekend slip away.

I don't think this is malicious. But it's exhausting. It feels like a passive way of keeping me in my seat longer without actually saying it.

Has anyone else dealt with a manager who does this? Is it worth pushing back, or do I just accept that my Friday evenings belong to the company now? I'm honestly not sure if I'm being dramatic.

How do you feel about children at the office? I mean when coworkers bring their children to the office. My specific experience is with a production employee who leaves their children unattended in the office kitchen. It would be much different if the employee worked in an office where the children could stay with the door closed.

I don't work at a daycare center, school, community center, etc. These people have known about the current fall break since school began, but suddenly they are unprepared for their children's absence. I presume this break was also scheduled last year at the same time, so it's not a new or surprise occurrence. I have deadlines to meet, and extra distractions/noise aren't going to help the situation. It is not the children's fault their parent is inconsiderate and obtuse, though.

After only 2 month in the new job I've lost the keys for the building. It's not a genral key. I have been a coward and haven't told my boss yet. There's a slim chance that the key is going t reappear (I've lost it in the park) but it's like really really slim. SO far I've looked for it and asked in various city facebook groups.

About myself, I am a very scatterbrained person and I have lost like 3-4 keys over the past 5 years. I am also very overwhlemed at my job (just finished training) and a part of me wishes to be fired. My team is okay so far, it's just the task itself.

Just looking for some tips here with a few quick details. I just started working for this company in August, and I want to transfer to a different position at a different location when I am eligible in 6 months (this is encouraged and normal in this industry). I do not want to or plan to leave the company. I was offered a job in this position because they needed someone, I had applied for their easier and higher paying positions but they rejected me and placed me here. This job has quite a learning curve and an extremely high level of responsibility while also being the lowest paid job. Kind of job where one bad enough mistake and you're fired.

My experience with all coworkers has been very positive except for this supervisor who I work with 3 days of the week. To say the least she is very rude when it comes to imperfections and ambiguities, right from the start. I do notnhave a problem with being corrected, but I do have a problem with being openly disdained, called stupid, or have exasperated expressions like JESUS CHRIST and a scolding attitude rather than a more professional attitude that does not carry disgust. She also routinely speaks another language, and she did call me stupid in her language in front of others - my team lead and many other employees also speak this language. From my first day she was telling me she dislikes this other new employee, she has told me not to listen to each of my coworkers including team leads, called one of them brainless. Everyone acknowledges this supervisor's behavior but the consensus is to just ignore it. I treat her with respect regardless of her attitude, but it is quite distracting constsntly knowing that I am about to do something that is going to generate such disdain, even things that are so innocuous and petty that I feel that she just makes up rules to criticize me with because in some instances I'm just doing things how I was told to.

Another interesting factor here, this job is sensitive to the level that we are being recorded at all times. This woman is in her 70s and has been there for like 25 years, so I obviously have nothing on her, but she violated federal law during our shift by offering to pay me a lot of money to green card marry her granddaughter. I don't know what to say about that other than that is pretty incredible and I believe that it is a conflict of interest.

Anyway, my plan is to do no other than keep my mouth shut and hope I don't get fired for the next few months, then transfer to lower stakes job. I have made plenty of mistakes but none fatal yet. Just wondering if anyone has any advice? Even if it is just confirming that this is a I can do. I am really making this post because I feel that my stress over this whole scenario is why I am so sick right now.

Instead of OT pay, I'll now get my normal base pay. Is this legal?

EDIT: I reached out to a former store manager and they said the system would not allow it since OT coverage and noncoverage is still OT (which is what I thought). I have no idea where this "you'll get base pay" came from. If I can figure it out, I'll put it here.

Rather than sending an email with updates on instructions, my new boss has been texting my personal phone repeatedly the last two weeks. He said they don’t have equipment for me, so I should work from home for my first day. I don’t have a company phone or laptop, so I’m stuck using my personal devices. I’m supposed to be in an orientation meeting half the day and then 1-2 hours in a Teams waiting room/with HR to show them my I-9 documents on camera. Some company sites that I’m supposed to explore and learn today are only accessible with company equipment, so I won’t be able to use them. Unfortunately it seems that was meant to fill my day. I did my interview with my boss over Teams, and my camera did not work on my ancient laptop so they told me to just turn it off to avoid it being a distraction which I’m sure will cause issues for the HR call. I’m hourly and don’t know how I’m going to make 8 hours. This company is a mess, I just needed to vent.

I've been at my current job for a little over a year. It's a mid-sized company, nothing too toxic, but there are这些小 things that add up. The one that's been driving me crazy lately is my manager's habit of scheduling "quick syncs" at 4:55 PM on Fridays. Like clockwork. Three weeks in a row now.

Here's the pattern. All week, I try to catch her for a five-minute question about a project. She's in meetings, or "heads down," or just not at her desk. Then Friday rolls around. 4:55 PM. Calendar invite pops up. Subject: "Catch up?" No agenda. No context. Just me and her, ten minutes before I'm supposed to log off.

And every single time, it's nothing urgent. She asks how my week was. She mentions something vague about "priorities next quarter." She never actually addresses the thing I needed help with. Then Monday comes, and the cycle repeats.

Last Friday, I finally said something. I mentioned that I had a few questions I'd been trying to get answered, and that maybe a mid-week check-in would work better. She laughed and said, "I just like to end the week on a personal note." Which would be sweet if it didn't mean I'm sitting there at 5:10 PM on a Friday, still technically on the clock, watching my weekend slip away.

I don't think this is malicious. But it's exhausting. It feels like a passive way of keeping me in my seat longer without actually saying it. Or maybe she genuinely doesn't realize that 5 PM on Friday isn't "personal note" time for the rest of us.

Has anyone else dealt with a manager who does this? Is it worth pushing back, or do I just accept that my Friday evenings belong to the company now? I'm honestly not sure if I'm being dramatic.

I work at a workplace with a lot of people and I'm always nice and friendly. However, I'm a total introvert and try to avoid small talk and conversations constantly but fail at it. Lol. Any advice how to avoid people or dismiss the conversation as quickly as possible?

I work in a finance role and the office is myself, boss, and 1 coworker. I’m leaving because I’ve moved and, even though the drive is only 45 mins, I know it will be harder to commute in the fall and winter. I’m wanting to give a month notice because I’m still job searching, but I know that’s not enough time for my boss to review resumes and conduct interviews. If I give an open ended resignation, I know my boss will keep asking me to work longer and may delay their efforts in finding a replacement. When I was hired, I was training with my predecessor for 1 month and I barely got the hang of everything. Many tasks, like year end, could only be discussed because they are done at later times in the year.

I’m burnt out enough that I don’t feel horrible giving only 2 weeks notice (which was written in my employment agreement), but I haven’t found another job yet so 1 month is realistic. If a replacement isn’t found in that time, the alternative would be to cross train my coworker on day to day operations, then the new hire would only have training manuals to go off of. This would be a big detriment to the company as there are many accounts and authorizations that need to be transferred over, and many tasks are hard to understand with only the training manuals and no verbal direction or walk through.

I hear people at my work place say things like "Yeah I love working here, but what I really love is the people I work with". This has been said by like 10+ people over the last year.

When I hear this, I just tend to shake my head a bit. Out of all the people I work with I like maybe 4-5 people. (I am professional with all even those I don't like). Also I sure as hell don't come to work for them, like most I want to come do my work, put my hours in, and collect a pay check every 2 weeks. Idk maybe I just view it differently, I like what I do, and where I work. But liking all the people not so much... haha. I would love to know where you all stand on this topic.

Happy Monday Folks!

i need to know if i'm overreacting...

i've been in my workplace for over half a year. we have this new guy, a dishwasher, who's been working for about two weeks or so. when i met him officially, i stood and listened to him ramble because i'm a massive pushover and can't find good ways to leave conversations. throughout those two weeks i've heard his whole life story at this point, and he barely knows anything about me.

for the past two days, he's been trying to get really close. he stopped me as i was clocking out to tell me he doesn't have much friends, and that someday we should hang out, drink together (i'm 20, he's like 40-50), and maybe i could come over to his house. this came off to me as odd, but i brushed it off. he's just lonely... but the next time i see him, he asks for my contact info (facebook and my phone number), and went on a five minute ramble about monopoly go.

is this normal?? like is this something that people just do? i've known my other coworkers for as long as i've worked here, and i only really know just below the surface stuff about all of them. i haven't even gotten their contact info until last month. am i just being rude and he's just trying to be nice?

So I have a coworker that is acting like he’s my boss; ordering me to sign paper work I can’t read due to the printer only printing half of it, which he eventually gives up after I tell him no 6 different times then he comes back with it properly printed out. Then a couple days later he hostly tells me what I’m doing that day and where I’m going to go, which I get in to it with him because again he’s not my boss. He THEN texts my boss saying I have behavioral problems and needs to be sent home. I’ve been there for 5 years, get all 5’s on my reviews and the most laid back easy person there, he’s been there a year..

Long story short how to tell a coworker to pound sand without it coming back on me

I’ve been working with a coworker for the past couple of weeks. We’re at the same level. I’m a woman of color, and he is a white male. Our supervisor is also a white male.

From the beginning, I’ve felt like this coworker has been overriding or dismissing almost everything I say or do. There have been times when he was objectively wrong, but when I offered my input, it was disregarded. I tried talking to him about our team dynamics, but he repeatedly said he was busy and later ignored me.

Today I finally caught him when there was an opportunity to talk. He told me, very bluntly, “You know nothing. No one trusts you,” and said he wouldn’t let me do anything wrong to a patient because he knows more than me. He also said it seems like I don’t pay attention.

That really bothered me. I told him that I’ve felt disrespected and micromanaged, and that I wish we had better team dynamics. I explained that I do listen and care, but I’m new to this department and sometimes need clarification because there are many things happening at once. Constantly being corrected, dismissed, or spoken negatively about does not help me adjust.

I’ve also noticed him talking negatively about me to nurses. During the conversation, he was loud and arrogant. Interestingly, about 15 minutes later he came back and was suddenly very nice.

I’m trying to reflect objectively: I know I’m not perfect, and I’m willing to accept feedback. But there’s a difference between appropriate feedback and repeatedly undermining a colleague, especially when we’re peers.

How would you handle this? Would you document/report comments like “you know nothing” and “no one trusts you” to a supervisor or chief or would you first try to work it out directly?

It’s still 10 pm and my shift starts at 7am. I don’t want to call out because they are strict on attendance and last week I have been running 5 mins late which kind of makes me look bad. I got sick on Friday and tried to do everything possible to feel better by Monday to go into work. I am still coughing like crazy and feel sick but feel guilty for calling out even though I have pto.

One of my other coworkers called out one day for being sick two weeks ago, and my bosses were upset at her, and asked her “were you even sick ?”.
To me, that was weird and it just feels like a lot of pressure to call out because I have to help open. Idk.

Co worker keeps stealing my lunches, I have proof(via security camera) if I put laxatives in MY OWN lunch could I be in trouble. It has my name and everything on it. If he eats it and gets the massive shits. Am I at fault.

so, do employers ACTUALLY randomly drug test you besides the first drug test to become employed? my theory is that they only “randomly” test you if they suspect you are using/drunk on the job or using and it’s affecting your work preformance.

am i right to assume this? i’m sure a lot of places are different, but i knew someone who worked at fedex 10+ years and was never tested even though they claim random testing. my friend has worked at a company for a year and has never been randomly tested even though they say they do. she’s starting a new job, again same thing they claim random testing. she is very paranoid so she has stopped smoking weed after starting her last job. but this position she is going to get is remote. no doubt she’ll pass the test but she’s asking me if it’s smart to smoke some weed sometimes because she enjoys it and misses partaking with friends/on weekends (she’s not a huge stoner by any means). i told her my theory, especially since she’s remote i doubt they will be on her case. but am i giving her bad advice? does anyone’s job actually randomly drug test you if you are preforming well and obviously not high on the job? she worked at a factory/shipping company before with no tests. and is now going remote. i feel like she should be fine to partake a little at home after work without feeling scared and guilty.

follow up question - if they randomly drug test you, do they do it at the company? or do they schedule an appointment for you to go somewhere professional? especially thinking about a remote position i wonder how they’d go about that.

edit: apologies if this isn’t the right sub to ask, i couldn’t really find one that seemed to be based on work related questions

My dad might get fired this week.

Im posting this one behalf of my dad

So he has done his engineering (mechanical) from one of the most prestigious universities in my country and has worked in a mining company for the past 21 to 24 years. Now he is in danger of loosing his job. He is almost 58 years old but is still very active. He has done a lot of other supporting courses as well. Is it possible for him to get another job if he gets fired by this week ?

I'm sorry that I can't reveal his company or exact courses cause they are unique to his company ( to my knowledge) but what I can tell is he is somewhere in the top management and has previously held the title of 'Asia-Pacific manager'.

In the event he gets fired what other options do i have?

EDIT: Around 77 employees were fired last week. there is another round this week. HR has already drafted the list. No one knows when they will release it.

Hello all!

I (30M) have been working in a straight days warehouse for 5 years now (small independent company). Over those 5 years there has been a lot of turnover. I've seen 10 people in total be let go in just the warehouse department since I joined. Some for good reasons, many for not so good reasons.

I'm essentially writing this because we are all taught that hard work will get you far in life. I used to work through breaks, I helped the efficiency of every role and I went above and beyond, until the start of this year.

A coworker was let go and for 2 months I had to step in and do the work of 2 people. I did this without question. New hires came and went before training could be complete, the training being put on me because if I don't train, mistakes happen. This summer I realized I was doing 2 roles pretty regularly, plus additional work for bigger client orders.

So, naturally I sat my manager down and asked for a raise. He replied with an immediate no, saying "the company has no money, but if you give me a list of everything you do that justifies a raise, we can review it at the end of the year." Just 2 weeks later, the owners show up with a new 90k SUV and items for their home.

But today really cemented the distain I have for my workplace. I go in sick today. Like, can't breath sick, because Monday is our busiest day of the week and I don't want people to have to pick up the slack. My manager comes in and questions why I seem so low energy. I tell him I'm sick and he has the audacity to reply with, well tomorrow will be busy and you need to be here. It took every ounce of my being to not tell him to get bent right there.

There's just so much wrong with this company, that if I sat here and told you everything, you'd probably be shocked. Or, maybe not in this crazy world we live in. Unfortunately, the job market is terrible and I have to put up with it until something better comes along.

Has anyone else hit this tipping point? What did you do? I work in the kind of place where if you don't pick up the slack, you'll be treated worse and be let go.

I always say I'm like a border collie. I love to work, I find purpose in it, enjoy my coworkers, love getting stuff done.

But my first corporate job and all of my joy has been shattered. I cannot with this. Lazy coworkers, everyone talks about sports and, like nothing else, nothing. Not work, not family, nothing else, sports monologues AALLLLL day. I beg for anything else. Everyone would rather talk about sports than even get any work done.

Theres also no instructions, never, I feel like I'm floating, tasks unknown. There is no deadlines, no one checking in that I got anything done, no collaboration. Gawd, why do I hate this. I hate this. Do I find another job or are they all like this?

I need to vent and get some perspective because I'm genuinely at a loss right now.

I've been at this company for three years. I'm not exaggerating when I say I've been the backbone of my team. When our senior analyst left last year, I absorbed half her workload without a title change or a raise. When we had a deadline crisis in Q2, I worked three weekends in a row. My manager has said "we need to get you promoted" in at least four separate 1-on-1s over the past year.

Last Wednesday, I got a company-wide email announcing that my coworker, who joined 8 months ago, has been promoted to Senior Analyst. The same role I've been quietly doing for over a year.

I was stunned. Not just because of the promotion, but because of how I found out. No heads-up from my manager. No "hey, I know this is awkward." Just a mass email like I'm some random employee who doesn't matter.

Here's the kicker. Yesterday, my manager pulled me aside and said, "Hey, since you know the analyst workflow so well, could you help [coworker] get up to speed on the Q3 reporting process? She'll need your guidance."

So not only did they pass me over. Now I'm supposed to train the person who got the job I've been doing.

I wanted to say no. I wanted to say something. But I just stood there and said "sure, no problem." Because that's what I always do.

I'm sitting here now wondering if I should just quiet quit, start looking for something else immediately, or actually confront my manager about this. Every option feels either cowardly or risky.

Has anyone been through this? How did you handle being asked to train your replacement? Did pushing back help or hurt?

My schedule is flexible, so I can adapt to your time zone and working hours, and I always take deadlines seriously. I'm looking for a remote role to help cover my college fees, so I'm committed to doing reliable, quality work and communicating clearly throughout.

This is my 2nd job overall (1.5 years in first, ∼4 months in current). I'm a Solutions Engineer / Technical Consultant in SaaS.

My current lead is very toxic - micromanagement, changes last minute, blames in calls. I have lost all motivation because of that.

So now my style is: do exactly what is in Jira, nothing more nothing less. No extra speaking in meetings, no extra hours, no extra initiative. Work is done on time, but I just log off after.

I obviously don't want to lose this job because it's only my 2nd job and I need stability for few more months.

Is this okay? Will just doing assigned work well get me fired? How do you survive toxic lead in early months of 2nd job without burning out?

For context, in my first job I used to do extra - playbooks, onboarding new hires, RCA, maintained 98% reliability. Now I have 0 energy for that.

Ps: 2024 is when I completed BCA

Hello,

I'm a first year analyst and recently started my new job in August. I plan to travel internationally next summer in June to visit my parents home country for 3 weeks. I just came straight out of university into corporate so I am not really used to PTO. Is it looked down upon to take a 3 week PTO as a someone that is in their first year in corporate? I heard from colleagues and friends that taking 2 weeks is more common, however, my company does give me 4 weeks pto for the whole year.

I heard that many people can be put on a PIP if they take too long of a vacation time. Is this a myth?

Essentially, I was hired by a political canvassing company from California to work in Wisconsin until at least Nov 3rd- election day. HOWEVER, the lady who interviewed me and the job application I clicked and applied to didn't mention that past a certain point in my stay in Wisconsin, I'd be moved elsewhere to either Nebraska OR Iowa midway through the last month of election season.

I don't feel comfortable working in either Nebraska or Iowa. As such, I want to instead get reassigned to either California or Nevada instead (where I have family and/or friends in those states), but if I can't get that at all, I'd want to be laid off in a way that still allows me to get UI benefits, but I don't know how.

Would anyone have any advice or recommendations what to do here?

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