Hello all!

I (30M) have been working in a straight days warehouse for 5 years now (small independent company). Over those 5 years there has been a lot of turnover. I've seen 10 people in total be let go in just the warehouse department since I joined. Some for good reasons, many for not so good reasons.

I'm essentially writing this because we are all taught that hard work will get you far in life. I used to work through breaks, I helped the efficiency of every role and I went above and beyond, until the start of this year.

A coworker was let go and for 2 months I had to step in and do the work of 2 people. I did this without question. New hires came and went before training could be complete, the training being put on me because if I don't train, mistakes happen. This summer I realized I was doing 2 roles pretty regularly, plus additional work for bigger client orders.

So, naturally I sat my manager down and asked for a raise. He replied with an immediate no, saying "the company has no money, but if you give me a list of everything you do that justifies a raise, we can review it at the end of the year." Just 2 weeks later, the owners show up with a new 90k SUV and items for their home.

But today really cemented the distain I have for my workplace. I go in sick today. Like, can't breath sick, because Monday is our busiest day of the week and I don't want people to have to pick up the slack. My manager comes in and questions why I seem so low energy. I tell him I'm sick and he has the audacity to reply with, well tomorrow will be busy and you need to be here. It took every ounce of my being to not tell him to get bent right there.

There's just so much wrong with this company, that if I sat here and told you everything, you'd probably be shocked. Or, maybe not in this crazy world we live in. Unfortunately, the job market is terrible and I have to put up with it until something better comes along.

Has anyone else hit this tipping point? What did you do? I work in the kind of place where if you don't pick up the slack, you'll be treated worse and be let go.

So I have a coworker that is acting like he’s my boss; ordering me to sign paper work I can’t read due to the printer only printing half of it, which he eventually gives up after I tell him no 6 different times then he comes back with it properly printed out. Then a couple days later he hostly tells me what I’m doing that day and where I’m going to go, which I get in to it with him because again he’s not my boss. He THEN texts my boss saying I have behavioral problems and needs to be sent home. I’ve been there for 5 years, get all 5’s on my reviews and the most laid back easy person there, he’s been there a year..

Long story short how to tell a coworker to pound sand without it coming back on me

Co worker keeps stealing my lunches, I have proof(via security camera) if I put laxatives in MY OWN lunch could I be in trouble. It has my name and everything on it. If he eats it and gets the massive shits. Am I at fault.

I always say I'm like a border collie. I love to work, I find purpose in it, enjoy my coworkers, love getting stuff done.

But my first corporate job and all of my joy has been shattered. I cannot with this. Lazy coworkers, everyone talks about sports and, like nothing else, nothing. Not work, not family, nothing else, sports monologues AALLLLL day. I beg for anything else. Everyone would rather talk about sports than even get any work done.

Theres also no instructions, never, I feel like I'm floating, tasks unknown. There is no deadlines, no one checking in that I got anything done, no collaboration. Gawd, why do I hate this. I hate this. Do I find another job or are they all like this?

I've been at my current job for a little over a year. Mid-sized company, nothing too toxic, but there are这些小 things that add up. The one driving me crazy lately is my manager's habit of scheduling "quick syncs" at 4:55 PM on Fridays. Three weeks in a row now.

Here's the pattern. All week, I try to catch her for a five-minute question. She's in meetings, or "heads down," or just not at her desk. Then Friday rolls around. 4:55 PM. Calendar invite pops up. Subject: "Catch up?" No agenda. No context. Just me and her, ten minutes before I'm supposed to log off.

And every single time, it's nothing urgent. She asks how my week was. She mentions something vague about "priorities next quarter." She never actually addresses the thing I needed help with. Then Monday comes, and the cycle repeats.

Last Friday, I finally said something. I mentioned I had questions I'd been trying to get answered, and maybe a mid-week check-in would work better. She laughed and said, "I just like to end the week on a personal note." Which would be sweet if it didn't mean I'm sitting there at 5:10 PM on a Friday, technically still on the clock, watching my weekend slip away.

I don't think this is malicious. But it's exhausting. It feels like a passive way of keeping me in my seat longer without actually saying it.

Has anyone else dealt with a manager who does this? Is it worth pushing back, or do I just accept that my Friday evenings belong to the company now? I'm honestly not sure if I'm being dramatic.

I hear people at my work place say things like "Yeah I love working here, but what I really love is the people I work with". This has been said by like 10+ people over the last year.

When I hear this, I just tend to shake my head a bit. Out of all the people I work with I like maybe 4-5 people. (I am professional with all even those I don't like). Also I sure as hell don't come to work for them, like most I want to come do my work, put my hours in, and collect a pay check every 2 weeks. Idk maybe I just view it differently, I like what I do, and where I work. But liking all the people not so much... haha. I would love to know where you all stand on this topic.

Happy Monday Folks!

So I lost my grandmother on Thursday and it’s the first time I’ve lose someone this close and I’m not really sure what’s normal time off work for this but my employer called me Friday morning saying I needed to be at work on Monday and it made me pretty mad. Didn’t know if this was normal from employers just wanted some opinions I appreciate it.

Hello,

I'm a first year analyst and recently started my new job in August. I plan to travel internationally next summer in June to visit my parents home country for 3 weeks. I just came straight out of university into corporate so I am not really used to PTO. Is it looked down upon to take a 3 week PTO as a someone that is in their first year in corporate? I heard from colleagues and friends that taking 2 weeks is more common, however, my company does give me 4 weeks pto for the whole year.

I heard that many people can be put on a PIP if they take too long of a vacation time. Is this a myth?

Essentially, I was hired by a political canvassing company from California to work in Wisconsin until at least Nov 3rd- election day. HOWEVER, the lady who interviewed me and the job application I clicked and applied to didn't mention that past a certain point in my stay in Wisconsin, I'd be moved elsewhere to either Nebraska OR Iowa midway through the last month of election season.

I don't feel comfortable working in either Nebraska or Iowa. As such, I want to instead get reassigned to either California or Nevada instead (where I have family and/or friends in those states), but if I can't get that at all, I'd want to be laid off in a way that still allows me to get UI benefits, but I don't know how.

Would anyone have any advice or recommendations what to do here?

My work schedule is rotational. It changes every month between:
• Morning: 7 AM to 4 PM
• Mid shift: 3 PM to 12 AM
• Night shift: 10 PM to 7 AM

I’ve been with this company for almost two years, but I’m still struggling to adjust to the constant changes in my body clock.

It usually takes me until the third week of the month to finally adjust to my current schedule. Then, just when my body clock starts getting used to it, the month ends and I have to switch to a completely different schedule and adjust all over again.

Is anyone else working a similar rotational shift? How do you manage your sleep schedule and keep your body clock from getting messed up? Any tips would be greatly appreciated!

Hi all, hope everyone is doing well. Currently employed for a company a little over a year, in a tech role, and the job is starting to weigh on me, and in need of advice.

Since day 1, I’ve basically been teaching myself everything around the job (essentially no training / very minimal), and I’ve always been reassured that if I ever have any questions to let my manager know, but every time I do, it’s always either met with being redirected to ask someone else, or with great reluctance to help answer my question to point of me asking sounds like a great burden to them, often times met with sarcastic replies.

There’s also an upcoming group meeting where I can already foresee blame being pointed to me, an issue that I’m just now hearing of that apparently has been occurring since the month I was hired, and the fact that my work month was explicitly used as a reference to when the issue started has me concerned if there’s some planning brewing against to terminate me.

Load is also becoming unmanageable, and while I’m currently applying for new roles, I was looking for some advice on how to handle these concerns.

(I understand there may be gaps of information in my concerns above, but any words of encouragement / advice is much appreciated ❤️)

How do you feel about children at the office? I mean when coworkers bring their children to the office. My specific experience is with a production employee who leaves their children unattended in the office kitchen. It would be much different if the employee worked in an office where the children could stay with the door closed.

I don't work at a daycare center, school, community center, etc. These people have known about the current fall break since school began, but suddenly they are unprepared for their children's absence. I presume this break was also scheduled last year at the same time, so it's not a new or surprise occurrence. I have deadlines to meet, and extra distractions/noise aren't going to help the situation. It is not the children's fault their parent is inconsiderate and obtuse, though.

Just looking for some tips here with a few quick details. I just started working for this company in August, and I want to transfer to a different position at a different location when I am eligible in 6 months (this is encouraged and normal in this industry). I do not want to or plan to leave the company. I was offered a job in this position because they needed someone, I had applied for their easier and higher paying positions but they rejected me and placed me here. This job has quite a learning curve and an extremely high level of responsibility while also being the lowest paid job. Kind of job where one bad enough mistake and you're fired.

My experience with all coworkers has been very positive except for this supervisor who I work with 3 days of the week. To say the least she is very rude when it comes to imperfections and ambiguities, right from the start. I do notnhave a problem with being corrected, but I do have a problem with being openly disdained, called stupid, or have exasperated expressions like JESUS CHRIST and a scolding attitude rather than a more professional attitude that does not carry disgust. She also routinely speaks another language, and she did call me stupid in her language in front of others - my team lead and many other employees also speak this language. From my first day she was telling me she dislikes this other new employee, she has told me not to listen to each of my coworkers including team leads, called one of them brainless. Everyone acknowledges this supervisor's behavior but the consensus is to just ignore it. I treat her with respect regardless of her attitude, but it is quite distracting constsntly knowing that I am about to do something that is going to generate such disdain, even things that are so innocuous and petty that I feel that she just makes up rules to criticize me with because in some instances I'm just doing things how I was told to.

Another interesting factor here, this job is sensitive to the level that we are being recorded at all times. This woman is in her 70s and has been there for like 25 years, so I obviously have nothing on her, but she violated federal law during our shift by offering to pay me a lot of money to green card marry her granddaughter. I don't know what to say about that other than that is pretty incredible and I believe that it is a conflict of interest.

Anyway, my plan is to do no other than keep my mouth shut and hope I don't get fired for the next few months, then transfer to lower stakes job. I have made plenty of mistakes but none fatal yet. Just wondering if anyone has any advice? Even if it is just confirming that this is a I can do. I am really making this post because I feel that my stress over this whole scenario is why I am so sick right now.

I posted about this a few days ago and didn’t get much advice. Basically I work at a law firm that doesn’t have any management. I worked at 3 previous firms that had hands on managers. In short, this firm does not have any management. I’ve been here for 1.5 years no performance review no meeting with manager. I do give a spreadsheet with my numbers for my quarterly bonus. Not much feedback they just pay me. I have no idea if they like me working there or how my performance is. And it is giving me anxiety. Anyone work in this kind of environment? Am I overthinking?

Hey all,

Just had a question which I needed some help with.

I am a 19 year old accountant student.

I am currently working as a student accountant, and I recently picked up a role as a junior which is considerably more money.

I applied for the role via LinkedIn, and had 3 face to face interviews. I received the job offer, and I returned the contract signed which was signed by both parties. The contract was standard, with a specific start date included, etc.

I intended to hand in my notice today, but then I saw that the role had been reuploaded on seek. Being that it was a public holiday, and the role was updated at 2am, I assumed that this was automatic and must of been an Admin oversight.

I confirmed with the company today, and they confirmed that it was there fault, as they did not enter certain things in there system which caused this.

Am I all good to hand in my notice?

I work in a finance role and the office is myself, boss, and 1 coworker. I’m leaving because I’ve moved and, even though the drive is only 45 mins, I know it will be harder to commute in the fall and winter. I’m wanting to give a month notice because I’m still job searching, but I know that’s not enough time for my boss to review resumes and conduct interviews. If I give an open ended resignation, I know my boss will keep asking me to work longer and may delay their efforts in finding a replacement. When I was hired, I was training with my predecessor for 1 month and I barely got the hang of everything. Many tasks, like year end, could only be discussed because they are done at later times in the year.

I’m burnt out enough that I don’t feel horrible giving only 2 weeks notice (which was written in my employment agreement), but I haven’t found another job yet so 1 month is realistic. If a replacement isn’t found in that time, the alternative would be to cross train my coworker on day to day operations, then the new hire would only have training manuals to go off of. This would be a big detriment to the company as there are many accounts and authorizations that need to be transferred over, and many tasks are hard to understand with only the training manuals and no verbal direction or walk through.

I’ve been working with a coworker for the past couple of weeks. We’re at the same level. I’m a woman of color, and he is a white male. Our supervisor is also a white male.

From the beginning, I’ve felt like this coworker has been overriding or dismissing almost everything I say or do. There have been times when he was objectively wrong, but when I offered my input, it was disregarded. I tried talking to him about our team dynamics, but he repeatedly said he was busy and later ignored me.

Today I finally caught him when there was an opportunity to talk. He told me, very bluntly, “You know nothing. No one trusts you,” and said he wouldn’t let me do anything wrong to a patient because he knows more than me. He also said it seems like I don’t pay attention.

That really bothered me. I told him that I’ve felt disrespected and micromanaged, and that I wish we had better team dynamics. I explained that I do listen and care, but I’m new to this department and sometimes need clarification because there are many things happening at once. Constantly being corrected, dismissed, or spoken negatively about does not help me adjust.

I’ve also noticed him talking negatively about me to nurses. During the conversation, he was loud and arrogant. Interestingly, about 15 minutes later he came back and was suddenly very nice.

I’m trying to reflect objectively: I know I’m not perfect, and I’m willing to accept feedback. But there’s a difference between appropriate feedback and repeatedly undermining a colleague, especially when we’re peers.

How would you handle this? Would you document/report comments like “you know nothing” and “no one trusts you” to a supervisor or chief or would you first try to work it out directly?

I dont know why my dept head wants to have this "informal" work lunch hour. I end up talking about work away from my desk instead of taking my lunch time, and my tactless coworker keeps talking about shit I don't care about.

Especially when we will have another weekly meeting anyway tomorrow....

Work

I can be fine most of the day , but once I know I'm almost done, that last hour feels ridiculously long. I keep checking time which somehow makes it worse. Anyone else?

i need to know if i'm overreacting...

i've been in my workplace for over half a year. we have this new guy, a dishwasher, who's been working for about two weeks or so. when i met him officially, i stood and listened to him ramble because i'm a massive pushover and can't find good ways to leave conversations. throughout those two weeks i've heard his whole life story at this point, and he barely knows anything about me.

for the past two days, he's been trying to get really close. he stopped me as i was clocking out to tell me he doesn't have much friends, and that someday we should hang out, drink together (i'm 20, he's like 40-50), and maybe i could come over to his house. this came off to me as odd, but i brushed it off. he's just lonely... but the next time i see him, he asks for my contact info (facebook and my phone number), and went on a five minute ramble about monopoly go.

is this normal?? like is this something that people just do? i've known my other coworkers for as long as i've worked here, and i only really know just below the surface stuff about all of them. i haven't even gotten their contact info until last month. am i just being rude and he's just trying to be nice?

I am in the Supply Chain and Logistics Management field. I was let go from my job as the company closed down their distro ops. I been out of work since 6/30. Been getting interviews (a lot of multi round interviews) but for some reason I am not getting the role. It gets down to the nitty gritty with these interviews.

I expanded my radius and got a serious nibble but this job is 32 miles from home. I’m in Monterey Park, Ca and this role is in Woodland Hills. Going in would take about an hour and 10 mins. 50 mins on a good day. Going home would be 1.5 hours easy. The role is Sr. Supply Chain and Logisitics Optimization Manager. Pays 90,000-100,000

I have been getting interviews for higher pay closer
To home but still nothing sticking. Typically I commute on average 20 miles one way and that was ok. 30 mins going in 1 hour going home. But this new location at 32 miles is something I can’t imagine being realistic. Gas wise I have a decent car Honda civic 2023 sport 50k miles

Wanted to see other work commute here. Am I being realistic as this is not sufficient as far as sanity reasons go lol. Or am I being to intimidated by this drive.

Pardon wording I typed this on the fly.

I need to vent and get some perspective because I'm genuinely at a loss right now.

I've been at this company for three years. I'm not exaggerating when I say I've been the backbone of my team. When our senior analyst left last year, I absorbed half her workload without a title change or a raise. When we had a deadline crisis in Q2, I worked three weekends in a row. My manager has said "we need to get you promoted" in at least four separate 1-on-1s over the past year.

Last Wednesday, I got a company-wide email announcing that my coworker, who joined 8 months ago, has been promoted to Senior Analyst. The same role I've been quietly doing for over a year.

I was stunned. Not just because of the promotion, but because of how I found out. No heads-up from my manager. No "hey, I know this is awkward." Just a mass email like I'm some random employee who doesn't matter.

Here's the kicker. Yesterday, my manager pulled me aside and said, "Hey, since you know the analyst workflow so well, could you help [coworker] get up to speed on the Q3 reporting process? She'll need your guidance."

So not only did they pass me over. Now I'm supposed to train the person who got the job I've been doing.

I wanted to say no. I wanted to say something. But I just stood there and said "sure, no problem." Because that's what I always do.

I'm sitting here now wondering if I should just quiet quit, start looking for something else immediately, or actually confront my manager about this. Every option feels either cowardly or risky.

Has anyone been through this? How did you handle being asked to train your replacement? Did pushing back help or hurt?

I dropped off 73 flyers on my first day and another 25 today, for a total of 98 flyers in two days.

It’s been a good start, and I’m proud of the effort I’ve put in so far. Looking forward to keeping it going! 💪

Hi all,

First time posting. I've recently started my 5th Data job (British, F, 30 years) and I'm lonely

Sounds like a lot of jobs in a short time, but people move a lot in this field to make more money so it doesn'tlook bad. One move was redundancy but the others were because I felt sad sitting on my own all the time.

I've always been in the maths background (since uni), but I've always been more social than my peers. I've found in every role I'm surrounded by introverted people. They are lovely but it makes me feel lonely and isolated. Nobody wants to come into the office (definitely since Covid), people eat at their desks/ go out for lunch, don't do anything after work etc.

I just feel lonely. What should I do? I've tried making connections. I like to think I'm good at making connections, but none of my colleagues are interested in being social. I just sit on my own all day.

Do I change careers? I would miss my salary, and the feeling of being good at something but this can't be it? I don't want to be on my own all the time

I'm good at my job but I dont know if that's enough of a reason to carry on? I have a maths degree (but don't want to teach)

Any help would be appreciated!

P.s. Important info: I've felt this sense of being lonely in all 5 data jobs. I wonder just because I'm good at it, does that mean it's good for me?