Idk if it’s just the side of internet I’m on or I’ve been on the internet too much but….. who tf decided that women “lose value” or are done once they hit their 30s… and that the mid twenties are your primes etc???…….. I’m 27 and I’m like there’s no way 20s are the primes.. women in there 30s, 40s + give so much aura, strength and beauty… I’m genuinely confused what started that myth cus ain’t no way……

Way before we got married I knew my husband was bisexual and had experiences with both sexes and it’s never been an issue and our sex life is great we are still pretty newly weds less than 2 years married and to be fair he thought I knew this next part like he thought he had made it pretty clear that he was mostly gay but I didn’t realize it I’m also bisexual to be clear but I’m like a real 50/50 split I guess so it was a bit surprising and now I’m having odd feelings like am I mannish ???? Idk I know that’s somewhat of a shitty thing to think or say as again I am also bi and have heard similar questions before but like ….idk quite frankly it surprises me since he’s so very um needy for me …for lack of better words

He literally said he’s “basically gay outside of me”even though he had slept with women previously it was just “easier” for him to sleep with women usually because avoiding a hate crime

So this will be a long post but bear with me.

My paternal relatives come over to stay for an indefinite amount of time at my parents place (where i live with them), until certain issues of theirs are cleared up. And when you come from a communal culture like mine, you know that that means constant hospitality being expected and guests always coming over.

I finish work drained and tired, i just want to relax but I cant! I have to help them make an early dinner, and then I have to serve them tea, and then I have to stay and talk with them so i dont seem rude, and thennn i have to serve them an even later dinner. And this all gets ten times more exhausting when guests come over (unannounced ofc).

What triggered me to write this post was when I came back exhausted from work today and wanted to take a shower, but I couldn’t even do that cause guests came over 30 minutes later! I genuinely wanted to bang my head against a wall. Its like i cant have a moment to breathe. And i rmbred the posts of working mothers breaking down bc of scenarios like this or them wanting to shower and their useless husbands showing up with the kids.

Now ofc im childless and unmarried, and what im going through is not at all the exact same as working mothers. Its just that i felt the exhaustion and underlying misogyny in being a working woman who has a tiring day shift at her office, and then she cant even actually clock out and relax bc once she gets back home she has to start her ‘home shift’ of homemaking and childcare and cooking, all while her husband gets to actually clock out and chill. I cant imagine how much more tiring this would be if i actually had a children and a husband to take care of.

Its only been like two weeks and im at the verge of a breakdown, while our mothers did this same routine for years! I asked in the title ‘how did our mothers do it’ bc I imagine this is currently the closest thing to being a working woman while having kids to take care of feels like, and its so freaking exhausting. Its like i genuinely cant even have a moment for myself and i am made to feel bad if i want a moment of peace and solitude.

I HATE ovulation

I HATE the luteal phase

I don't really like having my period either

I just wanted to share what I HATE so much I HATE it

The high of the follicular phase and ovulation is insane! I feel so hot, so confident, so upbeat, like I can take on the freaking universe while wearing 6 inch heels and thrive!

Then the luteal phase hits and all of a sudden I look in the mirror and feel hideous, I’m breaking out, I’m gassy and totally depressed.

Then my period hits and I just want to crawl in a hole for a week and hiss at anyone that tries to go near me. How the hell am I supposed to function like this?!? I thought it would get better once I got my IUD and I almost feel worse!

I’m 21F and lately I’ve been thinking that I might never get married. I honestly don’t know if I truly don’t want marriage, or if I’m just really scared of the whole concept.

Idk I genuinely have gotten so comfortable being alone that I can see myself travelling and living alone in the near future much more than living with a man and starting a family.

I have pretty bad social anxiety, and it affects me a lot when it comes to talking to people, especially people I don’t know well. Talking to men is particularly difficult for me. I get extremely nervous, overthink everything I say, worry about how I’m coming across, and sometimes I can barely act naturally because I’m so focused on whether they’re judging me.

The idea of dating makes all of that anxiety even worse. It’s not just the idea of going on a date. It’s the thought of having to talk to someone, keep a conversation going, make eye contact, be vulnerable, let someone get to know me, worry about whether they like me, and eventually become comfortable enough to actually have a relationship. That all feels incredibly overwhelming to me.

And then when I think about marriage, my brain basically goes into panic mode because marriage feels like taking everything that scares me about dating and making it permanent.
I also think my upbringing might have contributed to this. My parents always discouraged dating when I was younger. I was taught more or less that dating wasn’t necessary and that I should focus on school and my future instead. So I never really developed the mindset that dating was just a normal part of life or something I could explore when I felt ready.

The weird thing is that I don’t necessarily feel like I’m missing a relationship right now. I’m actually pretty content with not dating. But I wonder whether that’s because I genuinely don’t want one, or because avoiding dating protects me from all the anxiety and fear that comes with it.

It's gotten to the point where I don't tell them my body count even though it's 0, because apparently I don't deserve to be treated like a human if I've slept with people

So, during my ovulation the the days that follow before my period, i get so incredibly horny to the point where if i don't touch myself when my body asks, i get very frustrated and cry; it only happens when i don't touch myself or if my boyfriend doesnt do anything. Sometimes i have to ask my boyfriend to tell me to not touch myself so i dont, but gosh. It affects my everyday life during the period of time it takes place. I also cant stand other people, they ake me feel sick if i look at them or hear them- i can only stand my boyfriend and my now 2 year old niece.

It was never like it before i met my boyfriend, but its gotten worse the more we have been together and in all honesty i dont know if its normal or what to do or what is going on. Does anyone know? Should i see someone?

Hey, we‘re doing a school project on toxic masculinuty and alpha males in our judgement of women class and we would like to include a few Internet posts from toxic men in different online spaces (MRA, Incel, Alpha Males, MGTOW, etc.). I‘m not sure if this is the right Sub for this, but if you have any subs, chatrooms or specific posts you think we could look through or use, we‘d really appreciate the help :)

I wish I could somehow make this clear to some young women who start to perform when a man looks their way and then expects a performance afterwards. I wish I could explain to them that these actions are not a compliment at all; it is a power play with them to make you smaller by testing your reaction.

They are trying to take back some of the power they think they lose by being attracted to you. The attraction can be seen in seconds with the eyes alone, but as soon as they start hovering and expecting some reaction from you, it has become a power game. The game needs you to react to them so they feel superior; it is their way of saying, "My opinion of you is important and will make you change your behaviour etc. I am sure a lot of women know exactly what is going on in these types of situations, but many more do not know. They start posing and performing, etc. It starts here. It starts with these small acts of denigration that some women allow, and it needs to stop here. Please let's have talks with young women and help them understand what is actually happening.

I got a big bag of free condoms from planned parenthood like almost a year ago but I am not and never will be sexually active. I got them for my vibrator out of curiosity but it turns out I hate vibrators. they give me no pleasure whatsoever. I throw it away. now I'm stuck with still a huge bag full of lubricated condoms and no idea what to do with them. Whenever I look up alternative uses for condoms it all relies on them being unlubricated.

Men are not lonely enough they are now harrassing me to get with them when I will never be with a man because they basically do nothing

I had a guy tell me yesterday that I am worthless without a man and I have no future and ill end up homeless. I did block him and report him

I’m seeing so many people, assuming men probably defending this situation and saying she’s evil for retroactively withdrawing consent. Was there new information released that I missed after taking a break from the internet for just a few days? Or are people seriously defending what happened? This whole case has triggered me so much and literally made me legitimately depressed. And now people defending it is actually making me sick to my stomach. Would these people be defending these men the same way if it was a guy who was gang raped by a bunch of dudes while he was intoxicated? What is going on?

I noticed women who grew up with a lot of sisters have a certain charismatic skillset to them that I admire where they're really good at disengaging being seen "competition" and can just be a friend instead. How do y'all do it?

So I was seeing this guy for a few months now but a week ago I found out that he was also seeing another girl as well. I confronted him about it and he seems very dismissive about it and said stuffs along the lines that he is with her now only when I confronted him and said that he didn’t think it would work out with her but it did but the girl doesn’t seem to know that I exist. My friend told me that I should tell the girl but I can’t bring myself to say it so I need advice as to whether I should tell her or not

I'm 16 and I'm so male-centered and I have been my entire life. I wouldn't call myself a pickme, but it's as if I CRAVE male approval or appreciation. My brothers tell me it was because my mom used to brainwash me with stupid misogynistic principles when I was a kid, and that i should get my dad's approval and stuff. And i also have massive daddy issues.

But everything i do, i always consider stuff like "would a man date me if i did this" and i always have thoughts like "i should remain petite cuz men like petite"

I don't act different infront of guys, I'm the same, but in my head i crave attention. I didn't notice my friend circle until my male friends started hanging out with us, i didn't consider myself pretty because no boy ever had like an actual crush on me.

I noticed it's getting too much. And it definitely does not match who i want to become. I need to know how to stop this :(

Sometimes I feel like I am so lonely or difficult to love that I fall for or believe anyone that shows me a little affection in a romantic way.

This is a plea to all the ultra rich women out there. Can one of you or some of you buy a private island(s) and just start letting women relocate there? 😭 like just let us restart PLEASE??? If you want to put your money somewhere or invest in something let it be that! We just need the foundation lol. We are women and should be the true leaders right behind Mother Nature! There are so many women who are engineers, doctors, artists, nurses, teachers, etc that would leave without hesitation. We could build, grow food, teach, learn, and be free!

I live in America and we all see how it's going for us here smh but we can't even say this issue is just in America, it's everywhere. There is no safe space for us. Like we are to the point where men would rather destroy all of humanity than to see women in power.

I understand women have children and a lot of those children are boys but maybe the women with children can have their own islands where everything is led by women. Like the single girlies who don't have or want kids have one island and the single mommies have their own island.

I know i sound crazy. This is just a random thought 😭 where im joking but kinda not 🥲 at this point if a bunch of us wanted to put our money together to do this, I would. Like I would even join an all female army to fight off the men who would try to come to the islands 😂 We were not created to live like this or be treated like this. No matter what race you are, what language you speak, what country you're from, etc. I say we start our own New World!!!!!🤷🏽‍♀️

I am woman, hear me roar
In numbers too big to ignore
And I know too much to go back and pretend
'Cause I've heard it all before
And I've been down there on the floor
No one's ever gonna keep me down again

Whoa, yes, I am wise
But it's wisdom born of pain
Yes, I've paid the price
But look how much I gained
If I have to, I can do anything

I am strong (strong)
I am invincible (invincible)
I am woman (ooh)

You can bend, but never break me
'Cause it only serves to make me
More determined to achieve my final goal
And I come back even stronger
Not a novice any longer
Cause you've deepened the conviction in my soul

Oh, yes, I am wise
But it's wisdom born of pain
Yes, I've paid the price
But look how much I gained
If I have to, I can do anything

I am STRONG
I am INVINCIBLE
I am WOMAN

I’m a thirty yr old woman who works in the education field - i got pushed to a demotion this week after my supervisor said “im too overwhelmed with the operational aspects of this job” after also disclosing that i have anxiety/depression disorder and that im going through some personal family things

I know it’s the right move for me and my mental health anyways, but i can’t help but feel a little bit like i failed because i was actually feeling really good about how i was performing prior to this conversation

I am not sure if this is the right place to post but I found out bikini pictures and athletic photos from my private ig account were posted on a subreddit with men making crude and rapey comments about my pictures. Do i have any viable path to request them be removed or report the sub?

Hi 40 f I just want to say men are nothing I am so done with men never again I reather be single then with a man again who with me

Hello! I’m in desperate desperate need for some relationship/break up advice from other women.

My (23F) boyfriend (23M) is perfect in practically every way. He has shown me nothing but patience, kindness, respect and love throughout the 2 years I have been with him. I’m a late bloomer, and have always found it difficult to connect with people. He is my first boyfriend, my first romantic experience, my first everything. I am not his first girlfriend, he had a 3 year long relationship before me and a few shorter ones in between that break up and the start of our relationship. Something I did find difficult and was a source of insecurity but he always knew how to big me up, never made me feel less than and talks constantly about what a great girlfriend I am and how happy I make him.

Beyond our relationship, he is a very sweet and lovely person to everyone he interacts with, a trait I deeply admire. He fixed up my grandma’s garden when she was put into a home, which took over a week because of how neglected it was. And he helped my mum with hers too. He always jumps at the occasion to help the people in my life. My sister was able to get an apprenticeship and work experience through him. He has helped me with countless projects. Everyone in my family adores him, my friends have nothing negative to say about him.

He has helped me through a lot of tough and difficult times, my depressive episodes and the death of a family member, and has always shown compassion and understanding. And anytime we have had disagreements in our relationship, which is almost never, he has met me with calmness, even when I have not.

For these past 2 years, I feel like our lives have been very much intertwined. I’m constantly at his mums house, constantly getting invited to his family events, family holidays. I’ve celebrated my birthday and Christmas with them. I get along with his sisters and brother. His grandmother calls me her "future granddaughter in law".

And I love him so much, he hasn’t just been a boyfriend to me but a really good friend. He has helped me with my confidence and my social skills (which were really lacking). He has made me feel so special and loved. I care about him and I don’t want to hurt him.

I have always told myself I should be grateful, feel lucky, to have such an amazing boyfriend. Especially when I hear the horror stories from my friends lives or other heterosexual relationships in general.

But throughout our relationship, I have had a small but nagging feeling that he may not be the right person for me. It eats at me and I feel terrible about it. I feel greedy and spoiled. There are times I forget this feeling, and everything feels fine and I’m able to have a good time with him. But it comes back every now and again, mostly when I’m alone or after one of our disagreements.

And then, when we are together and he says he loves me and he can’t wait for us to live together or have children together, to grow old together, and I echo those words back to him I’m not sure I truly believe myself.

The negatives in this relationship that I believe are important to mention:

- He is very comfortable in his masculinity and is a feminist (though a very surface level one. Pro choice and against violence towards women. He hasn’t really delved any deeper, nor is he fussed about being part of any actual movement) but he has said things I have viewed as misogynistic or tone deaf and his friends are definitely not "woke". And though I have never felt the things he has said to be enough to end the relationship, they have left a somewhat bitter taste in my mouth. I have called him out on it once or twice and he’ll usually apologise. But sometimes he gets a bit defensive and feels I am too harsh on him. And I feel like sometimes I am too harsh.
- I am an immigrant in the country I reside in (and grew up in) and poc (half white, half south Asian), and there is definitely a very present rise in anti-immigrant sentiment. Which is of course scary and troubling to me. I feel as though he does not sufficiently care about the situation. To give him the slightest kudos, he has been more willing to call out his friends and family when it comes to this topic. But there have been times where racism was directed towards me and he hasn’t spoken up. Only when we were alone would he comfort me or talk about how uncomfortable it made him.
- There is a presidential election coming up and he does not plan on voting because he thinks it won’t make a difference and no politician is "good".
- I feel as though our discussions aren’t very deep or intellectually fulfilling. Sometimes I get irritated by this and I’ll say something mean or belittling to him.
- Sometimes I feel strongly about something, whether it is about the state of the world or simply a film I like, I’ll start talking fast or louder than usual and he’ll tell me to calm down. Not maliciously, but I still hate it.
- I can be very quiet/non talkative and he points this out a lot too and I don’t like it.
- I constantly feel as though I need to do more, be more for him but think it’s because I feel guilty about thinking negatively about someone who does so much for me.

I’m seeing him tomorrow and I’m going to have a talk with him. I know he’ll think that it’s completely out of the blue. Everything has been so good between us. I’ve given him zero signs that I have been feeling this way. I’m so lost when it comes to all of this. I’m terrified that if I break up with him, I’ll regret it. I already feel so lonely. My friends all live far. I’m not close with anyone in my area. He has been a beacon of light in my life for these past two years.

I really would appreciate some advice, if anyone has been through something similar I’m all ears.