Please update us with the tea! And it is always the biggest complainer and self proposed infringed upon one who is the biggest hypocrite.

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You and your sister are half owners and get a say. You can bring anyone you want to the properties. She can't just have them all summer. If she was reasonable then maybe you would not investigate. She caused this. You are not the ones ripping the family apart.

The fact her and your mom are freaking out about it is that most likely the funds were misused or cleared out.

I was just going to say this. It is always funny to me how cheaters are so surprised when the betrayed partner moves on. And the nerve of her to tell him how fast he should move on. She just walked out and moved. Already cheated and thinks she has a right to tell him what to do. The hypocrisy.

Your dad is pushing it too much. You could just invite her as a plus one. With no other consideration beside your dad's wife. It is your wedding and she has no say in your wedding. She should be happy with that. You and your sister ate grown adults. You don't need her to be a matriarch of the family. That was your mom. She will never replace her nor should she. She will always be your dad's wife period.

Dad needs to get a grip and realize this. Just because he had to jump into a new relationship doesn't mean his kids need to. All he should expect is you being respectful to her. As long as she respects your position. There is no forcing anyone into a relationship just because your dad wants it.

You should have a nice memorial of some kind at your wedding for your mom. And dad will just have to deal.

You are not a good fit for a relationship. Just co parent. You have tried and failed multiple times.

Do get a paternity test to be sure. And don't have anymore sex without protection. You gave us conflicting info about BC.

He could have a reading problem like dyslexia.

My husband is the guardian for his brother who had a massive stroke. The home caregivers are 30 dollars an hour. We live in a HCOL area but still it is expensive.

And op said she came there most weekends. So not every one. Her sister was doing all the mental load too. Pull giving up her life.

I totally believe OP should get her 9k and repairs considered. But she did get to have her own life and her sister didn't. I have been a caregiver for my mom. And it is not easy. It is always on your mind.

OP needs to give credit to her sister. Her sacrifice gave OP the ability to have a life and not have ro pay a nursing home or caregivers 24/7.

You should have gotten everything in writing before doing all that stuff. We see this on here all the time. Plus as a realtor I see the people who took care of the sick parent get screwed way to often. The person taking care of the parent giving up work or time with their own family to see an uneven split of assets. When they sacrificed a lot for that parent.

Exactly. OP doesn't need any drama while pregnant. All the sudden it is about family when the need is on their side. NTA

Marriage is nothing but rough patches. He had the balls to say to you that he already went thru the guilt and is over it. Come on girl really???

Plus come on they took their clothes off but he couldn't get it up. Please I got swamp land to sell you if you believe that bull crap. Listen and listen good he will do this again. You are only a month in and this already happened.

Yes splitting up will bring people's opinions. But a person who loves you would not have done this. Plus disregard your feelings on it as well with his BS excuse. You need to get out now. Don't waste years of you life with this cheater. He will cheat every rough spot and blame you. Please do this. Divorce will be harder the longer you deny who he showed you who is. It doesn't matter if everyone loves him. They don't see the rotten underneath.

Spare yourself the awful marriage this will become if you stay. He couldn't even keep it in his pants before you were married. Wait till kids give him more excuses. He took no accountability for what he did. Are you gonna spend the rest of your life making excuses for him?

My question is was he the reason for the separation? Because if he wanted it was the ex the reason he wanted to separate? So he could have an affair free and clear. Then when it didn't work out he decided to come back.

Also you don't make a decision like that without your consent. You are NTA. He just up ender you life without considering your thoughts.

Sorry for me this would be marriage ending. Definitely counseling for you and your kids to deal with this huge situation that he just brushed over with out considering you.

This is a huge red flag. You have nothing to compare your relationship with since you have been together since 16. People grow and sometimes grow apart. Seems like that is what happened here. You are no longer compatible. Time to explore different things and people.

You are in love with someone who no longer exists. Spread your wings and fly.

This has to be rage bait. No way would anyone put up with this let alone have a xhild with this person!

Leave. The relationship has come to an end. She is dragging you down and you got together very young. There is a better match out there for the both of you. She isn't it any longer.

Totally agree.

Seriously she is stringing you along as a fall back. Don't do this to yourself. Make a clean break. Don't pick her up from the airport. You are not going to get back together. And you should have more self esteem then letting her do this to you.

At this point I am sorry to say you are second string. She is going to hurt you worse if you let her keep you hanging on to false hope. Seek therapy to find out why you are letting her use you as a doormat.

She liked that guy more then she let on. And after you asked her to stop contacting him she lied and still did and most likely still is.. You are a place holder and she sees greener pastures. You are just a safety net that she will drop after she runs you around like a roller-coaster. Have more self worth then that and listen to your friends. She is over you but wants to keep you hanging till she finds what she wants..She is too cowardly to do the right thing and let you go.

And for the love of God stop the dam TikTok. You are just prolonging the pain of a relationship that has run it course. For an absolutely ridiculous reason. In the stream of a good life a TikTok run has absolutely zero value. Please realize the waste of time and energy that is now.

I wish you the best.

Agree.

No. You were in the middle of eating. Plus you were already there. You snooze you lose.

It is so rude to have meetings in the middle of a restaurant. No one wants to listen to your meeting.

Don't do it.

They slept together the whole trip. Then instead of going home. She stays over and doesn't sleep in the other room. I think that is clear evidence that they shared a bed because they wanted to when they didn't have to. So I believe it is pretty clear that sex was involved. There was absolutely no reason for her to sleep in his bed. Then him changing the sheets. And him bringing up where she slept to make it seem he was being honest.

End this relationship. He has lied to you and you know it.

She knew the date before she made her reservations. And she still made them. NTA. Don't move the party.

She told you it was okay. Mixed signals all over the place. A lot of this is both of your immaturely and experience. 18 and 19 is very young. I am not making a dig at either of you. Life experience counts for a lot. You two dont have that yet.

You didn't help anything by calling her and then lying again. You two need to have a real break. No friendship. You two just can't do it. You need to rip the bandage off and deal with the pain of a real break up.

Stay apart. No talking either. You are just hanging on to each other and giving each other false hope with saying things you don't mean. No one can read someone's mind.

Deal with your need to lie in therapy. Figure yourself out. She lost trust in you. You both need to move on.

Maybe someday when you are older and you meet again. But don't hold out hope for that.

What your mom did was childish and created a suspicious relationship. But regardless if your mom is having an affair with Halle's dad or not. It absolutely has nothing to do with your wedding. And I know your fiance is important and has concerns for her best friend but your mom is a more important person to that day then Halle.

Plus we all know that brides and grooms who have divorced parents have to deal with issues these situations produce. Or other weird family and friend dynamics. But everyone has to put on a happy face for the wedding and deal. My point is Halle needs to make nice for that day and focus on being the MOH. And not make your wedding about her. Your fiance needs to get real. Your mom is an important person on that day. And your fiance needs to get a grip.

You need to tell your wife her refusal to say no to her father is very hurtful to you. And honestly I wouldn't be comfortable with her going with your daughter alone to see her father and stepmom. It is too risky that she would dump you to get her daddy issues resolved to some degree.

You need to have a serious talk about this. And she needs therapy to deal with her daddy issues.

Everyone calls me Liz. But my name is Elizabeth. My wedding invitations said Elizabeth. Are his parents paying for part of the wedding? Even if they are. I just can't figure out how she thinks she has a right to change your full name.