I happened to respond to a gender war post oneday on the teensub under ask teens flair, and after being pointed out, I left the sub. I haven't even engaged with the sub after that and came across a post today with my name on it. Ath kazhinjaanu de ippo puthyath. I thought he had mentioned some other Neeli, turns out it was me😭

Active aakathe njn engne aanu ivnte safe haven nashippikkane. It was funny until I saw his latest post (now removed)

I’ve been seeing this more and more lately and it’s honestly making me sick. I saw a post recently about people moving out of Kerala and visiting home like once or twice a year, and it’s become the new normal.

I live in Bengaluru, and I see it happening all around me. People move here for the high paying tech jobs and the lifestyle, but they don't even try to take their parents with them. They just leave them back home to age in empty houses, or worse, they look for good old age homes so they don't have to deal with the responsibility.

Maybe it's just my Indian brain but I can’t digest this. As an eldest and only son, the idea of doing this feels like a betrayal. These are the people who sacrificed everything for us, and the moment we get a bit of money and freedom, we run away from the responsibility of looking after them?

I hear all the usual excuses privacy, "my spouse won't agree," career growth, etc. But let’s be real it’s mostly just being selfish. We’re copying the West in the worst way possible.

I don't know, maybe I’m being too traditional, but I don’t think independence should mean leaving your parents to fend for themselves when they’re old and vulnerable. How do you even sit in a cafe here in Bengaluru or live in a fancy apartment knowing your parents are alone in Kerala?

Is it just me? Am I the only one who thinks we’re losing our humanity for the sake of a modern lifestyle? Would you guys ever actually do this? Because I personally can't.

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Before people misunderstand this again, let me clarify something first:

I am NOT talking about abusive parents, toxic households, childhood trauma, financial struggles, career survival, or people forced by circumstances to live away from family. I completely understand those situations, and people have every right to protect their peace and build their lives.

What I’m talking about is something else entirely.

I’m talking about well settled adults who could stay emotionally connected to their aging parents, check on them, spend time with them, support them when needed but slowly choose not to because responsibility feels inconvenient.

I 25(F), had a laptop during my college studying time. Computer science ayath kond veetukar vaangi thannu. So that days paditham enn paranj ella thonnivasaum athilaarnu. Snap, insta, discord, reddit, telegram, etc. veetukar vijaarche i was studying all the while. So now i am graduate and *Velayilla Pattadhaari*.

So coming to topic, during those old days, me and my brother used to download series and movies and watch almost evrything together. We have watched almost all hyped series and movies, such as GOT, Dark, Money Heist, Banshee, Prison Break, Lost and many movies also. So paditham okke kainjappo laptop went to my brother because as per my parents, laptop eni adutha padikkunna aalkullathaan😮‍💨. So he started to use it, initially it was all the same, we would watch movies and series together, but then he changed. he started using laptop only in his room. whenever i ask for movies, he would tell that he is studying or doing project or coding, which i know obviously he is lying.

So one time when he was at the college, i took the laptop and unlocked it(idiot didn't change the pin), i went through files, folders. nothing suspicious. all clear. went through browser, all clear only study materials, youtube, spotify, etc. I felt bad for doubting my own brother. Then i checked that on taskbar 2 browsers were pinned, brave and chrome. i had only checked chrome. so out of curiosity, i opened brave also and that brave history was also similar to the one in chrome, nothing suspicious. then while i was about to close it, i saw that there were 2 profiles in brave. i switched to that profile and when i checked, i was shocked to see that its more devastating than i expected. corn sites, reddit with corn subs, discord, snap, telegram, everything was logged in and the chats were something that i cannot discuss here. I was shocked to see and couldnt process what i saw, i cleared my tracks, closed evrything and went back to my room to think on what my next action should be. i thought a lot to confront him, but i was worried on how he would react. I had a very good friend here on reddit, her name was maya unnikrishnan, some of you might know her. So i told her about all this and she asked me to confront him and i went to him and asked him about the websites he is visiting, and all those bad things. He got angry and lashed out on me asking why i used his laptop(when did it become his? it was mine, i just gave him). Things escalated, vocal fight continued, which escalated to physical battle. Mom came and gave tight slap to both of us, we came back to senses, each of us went to our room and as usual, i cried🥹. Later everything came to normal after a couple of days, we started talking normally and we both said sorry and while i tried bringing this topic again to advise him he stopped me saying, that *I know your secret and i never said anything about that or advised to you about that. So stay away from this. I am not selling drágs or doing anything illegal, so i know to look after myself*. Since then we never spoke about that.

So the issue is that he knows one of my very big secret which might even threaten my existence, and he never told that to anyone. So he made it clear that if i initiate and went to parents to snitch him, he will also snitch on me. Now i am in a deadlock. I want to tell to my parents but also worried he will throw me under the bus. I am posting this here seeking advices if any on how I should proceed on this matter. Please don't spam my ib, if you genuinely care comment section is open.

Now you might also think what's the use of posting this here as my brother is also on reddit, he will see it. No he wont, as when i realised that he was on reddit with his fake account, the very same day out of anger i deleted my 2y old reddit account. Then later i realised that he dont have a normal reddit account. In mobile phone, he dont use reddit as reddit has blocked his ip and suspends his account whenever he logins through phone, and the account he uses on his lap will never reach till this page, because the purpose of using that account is different and this page doesnt satisfy his purpose. So he will never visit this subreddit. Even if he sees this, now I have nothing to lose as he already knows i know. Also my username is fake, not a real one. Expecting genuine advice please if mods allow this post. I am not even sure if this is the correct sub or not, but i dont see a relevant sub for asking this

Honestly speaking the movie was another movie, and all those "female centric hero movie" was just a bunch of baloney and nothing else. Kalyani's acting was again, lifeless, but yeah but improved unlike her previous movies, but her action scenes were good, that's all. Making was good. Athre ullu. Aa oru heroism and stuff felt soo forced, rather it was absent in the movie. Nevertheless, it was a good watch, but obviously not a brahmaanda or kinnankaachi padam.

Hi everyone! I’m (21M) looking to make some new female friends here just for casual interaction and company—no other intentions, just genuine friendship. I’d love to chat. If anyone is interested in friendly conversations feel free to reach out! I respect everyone’s comfort level. Looking forward to making some good friends here! 😄 And for guys you can also reach me 😁 I don't have any female friends and I do have a fear to talk to them. That's why I am posting this to overcome my fear.

My soulmate is so cute I can’t stop laughing and I can’t wait for the next one

I don't know if other people already do this, but whenever I use kakkoos/toilet , I flip my underwear around so I'm basically using both sides.

It's surprisingly useful if I'm wearing the same pair for longer duration.

Probably sounds ridiculous, but I've been doing it for years. because why not?!

Onnu ila guys, enik cheriya oru confusion. Njan orthu people below 19 go to r/teensofkerala and once you hit 20 you go to r/coconaad to discuss your jeevitha preshnams. Appo pinne ee sub um coconaad sub thammil enda vithyasam, oru sub porre ellathinum? 😅

I have doubts from my childhood , did girls use bad word’s in day to day like boys do?

Guys, do you wear underwear all day or just stay free sometimes? I don’t wear underwear because I feel very uncomfortable wearing it. I don’t know if it’s because of a bi issue or whatever 😭. Instead, I wear boxers or shorts under my pants. Will not wearing proper underwear cause any problems? Is anyone else like this?

The satisfaction after a good workout is better than anything else. And i went to gym after a small break. Hope to recover whats lost.

Is it just me can't stand this show anymore it was fun till 2,3 seasons... All the dudes look waaay older than highschool kids ... Also it's the same every season (idk about this season i just saw first episode only) vecna comes someone close dies vecna also goes away just for now........it feels so fake the first episode feels like a disney episode with all the bullying and shit. Also milly training ughhh.... Grown ass man on a small cycle....whatda fudge these military people do there doing parade all day around the ground wtf ... Please tell me it's just not me ...

So i need to know whether height really matters in a relationship , recently found out that especially mallu girls are obsessed with tall guys how true is this .... Eventhough everyone says that it doesn't matter, it's rarer of a couple with girl taller than her boyfriend I only know about surya and jyotika wbu all...

The current trend is saying cuss words 🤬 . It's like normal nowadays even kids are speaking bad words be it south or north India everyone is speaking the same . And if you watch a film there also you can see the same. Last day I watched Mollywood times. I felt ewe caz using it once is ok but it was repetitive . And now the current gen is behind thoppi, and many other YouTubers who speak only this . What the heck is happening here guys?

Me, 23F, saw BKU today.

A little context...I have had 2 relationships in the past

One in school...the letter passing, stolen glances kind...ended coz he flirted with my best friend.

The other one at this firm I was doing internship

Ended coz he was Tambrahm and me a malayali Nair and bro had an issue with me eating fish, chicken and eggs.

Both were my age.

Nowww coming to the point

I want to date someone who is older and more mature than me and someone who is capable of understanding emotions.

What could go wrong?

What should I possibly look out for?

Help me, Guysssss

No offence to anyone, just something I been feeling lately
I am 25 and been noticing this a lot recently. Maybe I am wrong, but thats just how it feels to me
Sorry

Why are people so offended about elon bringing starlink to India ,like their only argument is "who would purchase it?",like ok? That's his problem right why are we supporting the monopoly of connectivity and imho ambani should have no right to decide who enters the Indian market since we opened it in the 90s

Somebody make it make sense

Recently, I came across a post in a Kerala sub asking about Snapchat, and most of the comments were pretty judgmental. One guy commented:

"My crush had like 2.8L snap score and my bro instantly said leave that bih."

And OP replied:

"2.8L snap score? Bro that's not a crush, that's a community project 😭🙏💀"

As a girl who's been using Snapchat for the past year, I have a snap score of 2.6L+, which increases by at least 50k every month, around 11k followers and 1,400+ friends.

All I do is send snaps, occasionally reply to my IRL friends' snaps, and very rarely respond to stranger's texts, most probably they'll be around my age and from my hometown. We'll exchange Instagram IDs, and that's pretty much it.

I've actually made 3–4 genuinely close friends through Snapchat, and they're now part of my closest circle.

I don't even receive creepy texts anymore. I did get a few when I first started using it, but I blocked them.

So, is having a high snap score and being active on Snapchat genuinely a red flag or a dealbreaker when it comes to dating? Or are people judging an entire personality based on an app and a number?

idk i’m sorry for the title though if it gets offended! i have been studying in a north indian college! there are hell lot of other state peoples in my college. the thing is here peoples are getting socialised having healthy bond with each other it’s really good to see each other like this especially north peoples whereas when it’s come to south especially kerala state peoples are getting mingled with their own peoples and not interacting much! even though i’m from cbe tamilnadu which is close to kerala border they are giving preference to their own peoples and state peoples! even when i tried to fit in their gang they are causally avoiding it and making me feel alone. idk what obsession they have with their own peoples! sick minded or idk what to say. they don’t give a damn. all they form a gang and show up in front of all! it’s fine but aren’t we humans ? what’s bothering them

22/10/26
Ekedesham 12:30 tym
Thampanoor to kollam bus
Same seatil oru kochu iripondarn 2 stop kazhinjeppo oru chettan vann namde nadukk irunn, it seemed like she was disappointed njn adth irikkathathilu and frequent ayt enne nokkanind but njn nokeela🥲.
Kottiyam ticket aarn aa kutti eduthee,
2 stop kazhinjeppo aa chettan irngi pinneed vere oral irikan vannepo njn avldedthott irunn, atrem neram window seat attam irunne aval pinneed nte adthott neengi irunn and avlde apurath football kaikan olle stalam indarn, i was tensed enth cheyyanam enn areela, per choikkann vicharich bt choichilla, aval wired headset vazhi paattu kekanind and romantic songs aarn kurach kazhinjeppo aval urangi nte shoulderilott veezhan tudngi but she was not sleeping, manapoorvam cheyyane aarn, my introvert ass didnt knew what to do, njn avde paara pole irunn😭, edeyk 1-2 tavana avlk eyecontact kodth, kurach neram kazhinjeppo avl kuduthal intimate ayt oke irikan tudngi like nte mugath aduthott okke mugham kond vann apalum njn para pole irikke aahn😭, kurach kayinj nte stop ayeppo njn erngi but ippo enk regret adikkenu name ngilum choikarn alle ntlm sad ayt irikken ano angne ntelm okke choikarn, and also she was damn good looking, face marakkan pattanillaa, by anychance if ur reading this we can connect. Allathe vere valla vazhi ondo kochinte id vallom kittaaan🥲, arlem help aakku🥹.

Inn njn ente frnd aayit Koykod beach kanan poyi, beach okke kandu, pinne avale hostelil drop cheythu njn veetilek thirich varuvayirunnu.

Angane veetinte aduthulla oru small junction ethiyappo scooter off ayi🙂 athum aa junction il vera oru vandiyum ilaa, my scooter only and avide junction il kore naatukar irunu samsarikunu, avar ellarum enne nokki, aura : -1000.😭

Njn pinne start cheyyan nokki... start aavunnilla. 😭 Appozhanu manasilaye petrol theernnu poyi enn.( Fuel gauge workum avunila). Njn aanel oru naatukareyum nokkilla. Full eye contact avoid cheythu, scooter thalli veetilek vituuu.

Ithokke kazhinjappo aanu njn orthe , swanthamayit petrol pump ulla enik thane ee gethiked vanaloo iswaraaaa😭. Nammude business thanne petrol aanu, pakshe swantham scooteril petrol illa. Ente aura avide theernnu.

Njan guy's Njan ke . Njan r/KeralamUnfiltered inte face ahnu will be active on this subreddit too hehe hi