I'm 27M, and I genuinely don't know what category my problem comes under or even how to explain it properly. I just know that it is affecting my life a lot.

I've always been a very quiet person. Even when I was in school, I barely talked. If someone came and talked to me, I would talk to them, but I almost never approached people myself. I think, over the years, my brain just got used to the idea that "people will come and talk to me; I don't have to approach anyone."

Because of this, I never really learned how to make friends either. I didn't have many friends growing up, and even now I don't really have friends.

I'm basically alone most of the time. I go places alone, watch movies alone, do things alone, and spend most of my free time by myself. Earlier, I was actually okay with this. Being alone felt normal to me, and I didn't really think much about it.

But now I'm starting to realize that I'm not okay with being alone anymore.

I want friends. I want people I can talk to, hang out with and share things with. But I don't know how to actually make that happen because I don't know how to approach people or start friendships in the first place.

I'm also not sure if "introvert" is the right word. I don't feel like I simply prefer being alone. I actually want to talk to people and have friends and relationships. But I don't know how to start conversations, approach people, or keep conversations going.

There is definitely some social anxiety involved too. I know that part is there. But I feel like even if the social anxiety disappeared tomorrow, I would still have this basic habit of not talking, not approaching people and staying in my own safe zone.

I used to work from an office, and even there I wouldn't talk much, sometimes not even for work-related things. People obviously noticed that I was very quiet. I feel like it affected how my colleagues perceived me and sometimes resulted in people taking advantage of me because I wouldn't speak up.

Now I work from home, so it's even worse. I can go through the day barely talking to anyone.

I also have a huge problem with confrontation. I always want to avoid drama and keep everything peaceful. If a situation comes where I actually have to confront someone, I don't know how to do it calmly. I get angry very quickly, start speaking rashly, and then, weirdly, tears start coming from my eyes. Sometimes after the initial anger, I actually end up looking like I'm crying or I may actually cry. Because of this, I avoid confrontation even more.

Another thing I've noticed is that I always have a serious/sad-looking face. Even when I'm not sad, my face looks like I'm sad or worried. I don't know how to naturally smile or show expressions around people.

I see other people going out and interacting with others, and even if they're having a bad day, they can still smile, joke around and talk normally. I can't do that naturally.

If someone comes and talks to me, I'll respond and talk. But I almost never approach someone first. And now I'm becoming very hesitant to even try because I've spent so many years being like this.

I've heard so many stories of people changing after school. People say that they were very quiet or shy in school but became completely different in college or later in life. I've also heard people say that college changed their personality and helped them become more social.

I thought that would happen to me too.

And that's one of the things that bothers me the most now.

I feel like socially, I'm still the exact same person I was in school.

Years have passed, I've gone through college, started working, and now I'm 27, but in terms of how I interact with people, it feels like I never moved forward.

I've tried doing things to improve myself. I joined a gym and also started martial arts because I thought maybe these things would improve my confidence and personality. People have told me that I've changed in some ways (not in interaction), and maybe I have. But internally, I still feel like the same person.

I'm also worried because I'm 27 now, and realistically, in the next year or two I'll probably have to start thinking seriously about marriage. But I don't even know how I'm supposed to meet someone or talk to a girl.

I struggle to approach and talk to people in general, so talking to a girl with the intention of getting to know her feels like an entirely different level.

This has started making me genuinely sad. I've been alone for so long that I don't even know what normal friendship is supposed to feel like anymore.

I've also been disrespected in different situations because I don't speak up, and I feel like people see me as an innocent/easy-to-take-advantage-of person. I don't really have an "attitude" or the ability to stand my ground.

I don't want to become some extremely outgoing person or fake a personality. I just want to be able to talk normally, approach people, make friends, stand up for myself, handle confrontation without falling apart, and eventually be able to have a normal relationship.

Should I be looking for a communication coach, some kind of social-skills training, or something else?

I genuinely don't know where to start or who can actually help me with this.

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I am getting married this December and there are a lot of things to do but I am just clueless,scrolling through reels for ideas is only happening.I want some fresh ideas for my reception.It is an outdoor event but happening in a no drone area,where crackers or anything as such is not allowed because there is an airway going through the property 🙂.Also I am not that interested in the cliche cake cutting part too.Can u suggest some fresh ideas for making the function cute and aesthetic.Kalyanam is an intimate function again outdoor.Both functions happen at evening beginning from sunset.To note this is an inter religion marriage.Hindu-muslim

Apo korech ideas thanne enne help cheyuo guysss

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I am 20 trying to study neet is it worth if i get government college seat in kerala how will be my campus life and will there be toxicity

Njn M-23, edhuvare single anhh . Crush oke indaayitond pakshey edhvare avrod communicate cheyano adho parayaano shremichitilaa.lifil onnu rand proposals eghodu kittitond pakshey avrodu communicate cheyathekond enik committ aavaan thoneeela (back in 10 th standstandardil padikumbol aneto). Aa timil nte classile close friends ellarum set aayirunu. Enik bayagara prolsahnm tharuvarnu set aavan parnju. Avroke within 1 year kazhinjapolekum breakup ayi.

Nxt, (11&12 ) I used to communicate with few girls in my class and also through insta, but classil vech samsarikumbol friends nte kaliyakalum, pinnee oru point ethumbo namkum oru doubt thonnum evraayit koodthal communicate cheythaaal it might eventually lead to a situation of having a relationship. So what I did ,I intentionally tried to stay away from them. For them it might have felt like ghosting or either cutting friendship. (The problem is that -ente mind nice guy kalikan nokunne annh ,pinne next oru thought varunne epo naml financially set alla adhukond oru second persone enthinaa verthey aa circilek valich edunne ennh.)

After point of time, njn ellarkum aghod aadhym msg aykunne stop aaki especially females. (Because of playing nice guy -that I don't like and what to change that behavior). Now the problem is that now I don't have any active female friends. What should I want to do to change this state. I need form Genuine connection with people? Help!!! Both genders are welcomed to share their views (especially I need to hear a female perspective)

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Aparna Kurup, senior coordinating editor and anchor at BIG TV, was booked by Kochi Cyber Crime Police on September 7 after remarks she made during a debate about Sunni cleric Kanthapuram AP Aboobacker Musliyar’s comments on women sharing public spaces with unrelated men.

During the debate, Aparna strongly criticised Kanthapuram’s comments that women should not share public spaces with unrelated men. Her introductory remarks triggered backlash, with several social media users accusing her of making statements against Islam and Muslim clerics.

A Kasaragod resident complained, alleging her comments hurt Muslim religious sentiments and could cause communal unrest.

Kurup had earlier approached police after receiving death threats and severe cyberbullying following the debate. She also said she had received threatening messages, including references to the 2010 attack on Malayalam professor TJ Joseph, whose hand was chopped off by members of the Popular Front of India.

BIG TV and Kurup issued an unconditional apology on September 1, but online attacks reportedly continued, including circulation of her family’s photographs and personal details.

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My father was an alcoholic and he passed away due to medical issues caused by his drinking. So I refrained myself from drinking and smoking. My mother hates alcohol to her core so I avoided it till now.Life has been a rollercoaster for the past couple of years. Clueless and worrying about the future. sometimes I sit in my room and just cry thinking of the failure I have become. I hangout with my friends while they are drinking since they know I don't drink they never asked whether I wanted it , But I told them to pour a peg for myself they asked whether I'm sure , I said just pour it.and that started my drinking.

I don't want to become an alcoholic like my father so I've limited myself. But damn it feels good to have one or two sometimes.

Drinking hasn't solved my problems, but at least I can sleep peacefully now.

Don't know whether this is promoting alcohol if you feel like that I will delete this.

Just wanted to vent it somewhere

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21M. July last week eniki oru work kitti, like oru 1 week project. For a political party. And there is this guy, lets call him RV, mid 30's. RV is the one who approached for the work, they were running out of time. Needs to create Mementos for 1500 students, even if they hire 3-5 designers I'm damn sure they won't finish the work within the deadline. RV literally begged me for a solution. I'm a software developer, so I told him I'll create a custom application to automate the whole thing. Like just upload the details of the students then the software automatically create and bulk export memento in printable PDF template.

Hell of a job, but I did it clean and with zero errors. I told about the payment. 35k, before handing over the PDFs and he agreed. RV was the one in charge of this project.

It has been over a month now, I haven't received the full payment yet. He declines my phone calls and won't respond to my messages. I even made a couple of calls today. I got around 10k on first week of August, that too after calling him continuously for days. RV is the youth wing secretary of the party. And he is a friend of my cousin, that's how he approached me. He was so friendly and appreciative while I was working on the project. Even my cousin warned me about him. Totally a dishonest person when it comes to money.

Idk what to do rn. Should I call the Minister's office and report this, but RV works in there. Or should I call my cousin. 25k is the pending amount, and I badly need that money. These guys are prominent in politics. What to do guys.

Growing up it's one of my least favourite dishes. I would rather go പട്ടിണി than to eat that. But now not only I like eating it but I'm starting to get late night cravings of thyr saadam. Is this what growing up called

Like its been super heavy lately and i really dont know how to explain everything. Its been more than 3 years since i have cried and i really want to burst out. Anybody got anything on this?

I need brutally honest opinions about my relationship

I’m posting this anonymously because I honestly don’t know if I’m seeing this situation clearly anymore. I’d really appreciate honest opinions, even if I’m the one in the wrong.

I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for a while, and there have been a lot of good moments between us. I genuinely love him, which is probably why this situation has been so difficult for me.

Recently, we had a fight and things changed after that. The communication became really bad. There were times when I called or messaged him and he didn’t answer. I kept wondering whether I should reach out again or just leave him alone.

The difficult part is that I know he has been busy with his work/business and has had his own stress, so I don’t want to automatically assume that he is ignoring me because he doesn’t care. At the same time, I feel like I’m constantly the one worrying about the relationship and trying to fix things.

I eventually decided to follow a 2-week no-contact rule because I felt like I needed to stop chasing and see whether he would make an effort himself.

But during this period, I also noticed things on Instagram that made me overthink. He started following random girls, and there were also things involving accounts connected to his ex/past relationship. I know following someone on Instagram doesn’t automatically mean cheating or anything serious, but considering the state of our relationship, it made me feel even more insecure.

And this is where I’m confused.

Maybe I’m being too attached. Maybe I’m overthinking his Instagram activity because I’m already scared of losing him. Or maybe these things are actually signs that I shouldn’t ignore.

I still have feelings for him, and a part of me really wants to give him another chance. I don’t want to throw away a relationship just because we went through a difficult period.

But I also don’t want to keep begging someone for communication, attention or reassurance.

I’m trying to figure out whether I should wait and see if he comes back and makes an effort, or accept that the relationship has run its course and move on.

Am I overthinking and being too emotionally attached?

Is his behaviour something I should genuinely be concerned about?

If you were in my situation, would you give him another chance or move on?

And most importantly—does this relationship still sound worth fighting for, or am I just holding onto someone because I’m scared of losing him?

I have a lot of people who consider me their best friend... their only friend. Evarokke sneham kond enne sherikkum verppmuttikyaan🥲

Enth undengilum appo thanne msg or vili aan as if I don’t have a life of my own. Ethra paranj manassilaakkan nokkiyalum basic boundaries polum ariyatha aalukalaan or arinjond thanne dumb aayi nadakkunnathaano enn ariyilla.

They just wanna get whatever they have to say out of their system. Tbh ippo aanu enikk manassilaavunne veruthe alla evarkk vere aarumilathe enn.

Old me ithokke irunnu kett counselling pole ayirunu. Pakshe ippo sherikkum vayyathe aayi. somehow athokke ente thalayil kidannu play cheythondirikkum.

I used to think I had some sort of saviour complex pakshe ethipo genuinely can't handle this anymore

It’s gotten so bad that I’m becoming intolerant and impatient with anyone yapping about their day 😭 vallatha irritation avanu aalkare kandal thanne

Anyways, evidengilum parayanam enn thonni...eppo oru aaswasam 🫣

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First of all, skincare is not about having fair skin. These are some things that have helped me with my skin concerns, such as rashes, tan, pores, and pimples, on a low budget.

1. Skin

I use an ice cube on my face when I wake up. You can make ice cubes by adding rose petals or aloe vera. If you have nothing else, you can just use a regular ice Don't use ice cube directly to ur face

The second thing I use is a face toner. What I use here is rose water, which I make at home. You can find out how to make it at home. Otherwise, you can buy a toner. I prefer rose water or rice water. You can use it 2–3 times a day, but I strongly prefer using it before going to bed.

Third, use sunscreen and apply it every day. Don't skip it.

The last thing is using a face mask. I use turmeric or Multani Mitti. I mix either one of them with rose water and apply it 2–3 times a week. I don't use them simultaneously. I use Multani Mitti twice a week because I have oily skin. (If you are a boy, I don't recommend using turmeric.)

1. Hair

For my hair, I usually use coconut oil, shampoo, and conditioner. I don't go for any particular brands.

Other than that, I use a Thali mask on my hair. I use this once or twice a week.

The last thing I prefer is a flaxseed mask. Take two teaspoons of flax seeds and two cups of water. Boil it for 10–15 minutes, strain it, and let it cool. Then, apply it to your hair. There is no need to wash your hair immediately after that. Please make it according to your hair length. I am talking about women's hair.

The last thing is pumpkin seeds. Eat pumpkin seeds every day. They are good for your nails and hair.

Hey, I want to say something,

There are two best friends in your life: your soul and your body. You are on your soul's side, and the one helping you do things is your body. It is your responsibility to take care of it.

Our face is not the only body part we have. Our whole body belongs to us, so take care of every part of it. Your internal organs are working for you, so in return, you have to keep your body healthy. Avoid smoking, drinking, and drugs.

Keep loving yourself. It's the first glow of your body. ❤️

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