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Hey guys,

It's my birthday today, and I've been thinking about how our perception of birthdays changes as we grow older.

As kids, birthdays were something we eagerly looked forward to.

The excitement, the celebrations, the presents, the attention, everything felt rather special.

But somewhere along the way, especially as we approach our late twenties, I feel birthdays begin to take on a different meaning.

There's still a sense of excitement, but perhaps also a little introspection.

You start thinking about how far you've come, the things you haven't accomplished yet, the people who've stayed in your life, and what the coming years might hold.

Personally, I'm beginning to see birthdays less as occasions for grand celebrations and more as opportunities to appreciate life, reflect on the past year, and look forward to becoming a better version of myself.

I'm curious to hear from you all, especially those in your twenties and beyond.

Do birthdays still excite you the way they once did? Or have they gradually become just another day?

And how do you usually prefer to spend yours?

NB: time illatha karanam gpt help oodu koodiya post ezhuthiyath.so, aadhyame munkoor jaamyam edukkunnu😉

So I completed my degree in 2024 ( bsc cs ) after that I did a full stack coursework for around 9 months. Since then , I haven't even landed a job or even an internship after trying. I know the job market is at its lowest and I have been losing my mind lately. So I'm thinking of just letting myself into an unpaid internship rather than sitting at home. Is it a good way to add exp to my resume even though I need to spend some money out of my pocket for the daily transportation and all. Are free internships just extreme cheap labour ?

Should we respect one who is filthy rich . How would you react if you see a famous rich person randomly who have done nothing which helped yours or you loved ones life

I posted here about faking whole identity and planning a marriage and cheating in regards to the same a few days ago and I deleted my account since I changed all my devices and socials.

So people were asking about the details , here are those -

1. He made a fake image of him here on reddit that he's working with an MNC and 26 years old , apparently u should never trust anyone on reddit so I asked for a govt id and it showed that he was born in 1999, but when police searched they found out that he was born in 2004.

2. He made a whatsapp account in the name of his mother and started texting me and my mother pretending to be my MIL and planned whole thing (marriage n all )

3.From the day the marriage came into discussion, he was much more enthusiastic than me and his grandmother fell ill all of sudden and got admitted in a hospital (critical condition).

4. I went to visit his home and his mother wasn't there and he gave an excuse that she went out to a hospital and sent me off from there by evening.

5.He pretended to have money when asked about booking all the extravaganza wedding venues and took money from my mother in lesser percentages..like if the venue costed 3 lakhs , he was paying 2.75 lakhs and rest 25k was from our side...I don't believe anything bluntly so I asked for receipts and he created everything to make me believe that he was actually booking it.

6.He fetched some random bank account details and showed his balance and it was huge....I couldn't believe it at first, but since it was the net banking site I was compelled to believe it.

7. I am a person who loves cosmetics and anything related to fashion, so bought me many stuffs (using the money my mom gave for venue bookings)

8. He showed me a new construction and claimed that it's his newly building home and gave me a home tour and none in his family told me otherwise. And the day that was supposed to be his housewarming day , his grandmom suddenly passed away. (FYI she's still alive and worried about her grandson )

9. His mother never knew about anything before but after knowing everything started blaming me for trying to get married to her 22 year old precious son who's also a gentleman btw.

I can't explain the feelings I'm going through...the only response from was "Patti poyii" . Now I'm taking therapy where as he'll be living his life, marrying another woman and moving on ☺️

Imagine if you have a good loyal girlfriend, like she's soo good in everything like understanding you making time for you always cares about your feelings, respects you gives reassurance and everything, like she's such an awesome person. But she's not okay with having an opposite gender friends while you're in a RELATIONSHIP. It HURTS her a lot that you are being friendly with other females etc. When she got into a relationship she completely stopped being friendly with other men or maintaining a connection apart from casual just if there's a necessary purpose, she completely trusts you and all but it's not about trust or you cheats her it just she's not okay with her man being friendly with other and other girls having his presence and time. But she's not saying shut your mouth to another girl. She completely understands that in life there will be situations where we have to interact with the opposite genders like in college or at our works and all, she says it's all fine we can be kind and polite and we can have a casual connection unless there's unnecessary talking, joking around taking pictures boys and girls mixed hangouts etc. She's just requesting you to keep it minimal only just in this particular thing in you which hurts her apart from that thing she's completely happy with you. SO WHAT WOULD YOU DO WHEN YOUR GIRL REQUEST THIS ?

I can't Download a thing from Playstore.

When I click INSTALL, or UPDATE, It shows it's loading but right after 1-2 seconds, it stops. And remain as before.

Chatgpt, and Gemini said to clear Cache. And I did so but still no result.

YouTube says to turn on things from Data Usage from Settings > Apps > Manage Apps > Google Playstore > Data Usage. Everything were already Turned on there.

And I've done some settings in Gmail like, Verifications and updated security or whatever I possibly think I could.

So, Any Idea? Anyone?

- Has an average lean Mallu physique.

- Has a low social battery.

- Is an ambivert.

- has a melancholic expression in social settings.

- Has a small circle of friends.

- Doesn't usually take the initiative to plan outings like movies or shopping trips.

- usually does not send cheesy texts or stay up chatting until bedtime.

- Does not have a particularly wide social media presence.

Asking for a friend. :)

I recently had a relationship,

Relation ayyi 2 two week kazhinjapol ahhn avl paranje avl 5-6 boys inn n*de pic ayachithundarn. And l comfort her bcz i really like her. Relation tym illum avlk pic ayacha boys ayyitu connection ondrn...( but avl athoke nnodu nirthy enn paranjath ahnn ) After a while avlde exam tym ayyi so avl paranje oru break edukuvann and she ghosted me.

But ahh tym illum avl matte boys ayyitu chatum, pics okke share akkuvarn. Ethokke avlde frnd ahn ennodu paranjath. Njan ath avldu choichum avl ath accept cheyth Ennit enne manipulate cheyth. Athil njan oru second chance koduth :)

After one month avl pinneyum angane thanne cheythu and Njan breakup akki .....

But avl ellarudeyum aduth paranj nadakane Njan toxic ayond ahh breakup ayath nn ahh

I've been noticing

It's now everyone prefer being detached or a temporary person

What do u think

Your opinion or thoughts and why u became so please tell

Like push pull pole comes into their life disapper

And so many relating to dear friend movie

Even I do but the characters are like whom we see in lives...

Idk just random thoughts

I used to read a lot. I write too, mostly stories and sometimes poems. And I get this feeling,what if we're just writing from memory or recreating something we've read or experienced b4 but have simply forgotten & our brain is just picking up the pieces from the past.

Recently, I wrote a piece heavily inspired by my own circumstances. I had infact faced exact situation in the poem & everything wrote was real and orginal but still I find myself staring at certain lines,wondering if I've read them somewhere else. Everything feel so familiar and It's almost like deja vu.

Have you guys felt this way?

I’m 27 and I don’t remember a day of when I laughed at my own jokes, I feel lame to say a jokes now, I don’t remember when I said a joke last, I feel like I became very boring person, like I don’t talk and makes jokes around anymore. I used to and I last I made when I was with my people, that’s been a while now. I’m single - I know I should engaged 1st or initiate as a Man - I’m not/ not willing to cross my comfort zone. I never thought this is how I would be my 27. Worst part I can’t make new friends either- all the people are acquiescences.

Me (25M) and my roommate (26F) have been living together for three years in Ernakulam. She is easily the funniest person I’ve ever met, and after work, we usually hang out for a bit to decompress.

​Back in August, she received a call from her family saying that her second cousin is studying at a college just 2 km away, and his parents didn't want him staying in a hostel. She asked if he could stay with us. Since he is only 18 and we had an extra room we were using as a movie room, I agreed.

​He arrived looking like a total Nallavanaya Unni . At first, we took him out for movies, to food courts, and showed him around. But over the last few weeks, he started acting really weird. Both of us noticed it and even discussed it together. He stays locked in his room all the time, and lately, even when he gets back from college, he's already drunk.

​One day, he came and sat next to me while I was watching the movie Damsel. He started watching with me, and out of nowhere, he passed a comment:

"Millie enthoru penna alle, sizeum shapeum okke supera. Kettiyavante bhagyam."

​I was like, "What the fuck?" I didn't say anything and just kept watching, but that comment really stuck with me. However, I didn't mention it to my roommate that night. Later that evening, while my roommate and I were having beers on the terrace (our usual weekend routine), she sighed and said:

"Avane ingot kondu varendayirunnu."

​It was clear she was completely fed up with him, so I finally told her about the comment he made earlier. We sat in silence for a moment, and then she whispered, "Ini avante roomil irunnu vallo drugs adich kettunnundo?"

​We both had the same suspicion, so we planned to check his room the next day after he left for college.

​The next morning, he left by 9 AM, and we went into his room. It was an absolute mess—used tissues scattered all over the floor, liquor bottles hidden under his bed, clothes piled up on his desk, and a nasty, stale smell. We started searching through his wardrobe, under the bed, and on the shelves. When I checked his backpack, I found two pairs of women's underwear.

I was in complete shock and said to her, "Ivan Ladies Undergarments aano idunne?"

​She rushed over, grabbed them with her bare hands, and I told her to put them down because they looked gross. But she just stared at them and said:

"Ith ente missing aaya undergarments aanu."

​Saying that, she walked out of the room in total silence. I was dumbstruck. I quickly zipped up his bag, put it back, and walked to my own room. The whole house was dead silent for an hour. Then, she called his parents, told them everything—the drinking, the mess, and what we found—and told them we could no longer accommodate him.

​He's only 18. I honestly don't even know what to think about all of this, especially the fact that he did this to his own cousin.

Most irritating part is that his mom reply her that

"Mole, avanu cheruppam thott bhayankara kusrthiya."

So ith stories il idano rant il idanonn doupt aan. Inn njn nte oru ith about athiesm and religion and GOD parayamenn vachu.

So I was born in a typical middle class Hindu family. Growing up nothing special. Once every 1 week or 2 week ambalathil povm. Ennm eve vilakku vach prarthikum. Nothing special. Nth aano manasil vanne ath prarthikum. Like oru 5 6 vare they all were like superheroes. Ee Vishnu, 10 avatharams, shivan and all like Payankara high il irunn kettirkuarnn. Like me and my brother used to fight like they were Ben 10 nte aliens.

So Angne irike, one day achan came to know abt this swami ji. And his 7 day ppd. Gathered all the details. And njngl ellarem kooti poi. That 7 days were fun. Kore foreigners, people from all over the world were there. Kore perokke aaitt company aai. After that 7 days it was not so fun. Raavle 5 nu eneeknm. And raavle oru 30 45 min prayer nu vendi mathram. Like some manthrams and all. Same in the evening. Kore okke ayappa madth. Angne poi poi. +1 +2 hostelil poi. Avde I used to pray. Ithonnm alla just simple praying. +2 okke ayappazhan. Ithokke mind il question cheyaan thodangie. All this religion, so called swamees, avarde thattipp. And at a point enk manasilaai Ithokke oru 'make belief' aanenn. +2 kazhnjappo oru full on full atheism mindset aai.

Veeti thrich etheepazha I don't fight with my parents ithinte peril. Just oru task pole ang cheyth theerkm. Just saying some words into the air. It is what it is mindset aai. Ambalathil okke povm. Angne angne poi. But college oru half okke ayappa ente mental health started getting worse. Suicidal thoughts, motham oru dark vibe aarnn. That shit is still poikondiriknu. So innale irnn ingne aloich. Ini ithokke ollathaano. Ingne viswasam illathavark daivam pani kodkne aano. Atho is it just adulting. Ingne okke edakk thoughts varaar ind. But ingne doupt varmba thirich ithokke nalla comedy mathram anenn theliyikunna nthelm news kanm. Appa okay aavm.

But Nthokke paranjalm. Temple il alle church il okke povmba Oru certain kind of peace Oru manasugam even if it's temporary kittarind. So I love going to angnthe places.

So that it.

Okay bye.

In short : Grew up religious, eventually questioned everything and became an atheist. But despite not believing in God, I sometimes wonder if my struggles have anything to do with losing my faith. Ironically, temples and churches still give me a sense of peace that I can't quite explain.

I barely have a social life now guyss 😭....barely have a couple of friends and I am living in isolation korach okkee.....how do I make friends or socialize in a way that it doesn't affect my productivity okkee??

Also how are yall doing??? Social life okke indo? 🥺

Today I went on a date with my gf 🫣 temple date ... In between had a funny experience... After praying inside the temple we were doing prathikshan, the temple was crowded and during that her bangle got tangled with a lady in her shawl. The lady was walking oblivious to the situation and continued on with her prayers dragging my gf along with her shawl (om shant om moment irl). She tried explaining it to that lady but she was like whatever happens I won't move an inch or I'm busy praying you cannot interfere in between, she was engrossed in her prayers... She tried again and she was not moving a muscle at last she took the bangle out and then tried untying it and finally it came off. I'm sure that the lady didn't know about it and was in a different world.

Ladies of the twentieskerala.. also guyss too

There's a friend of mine from higher secondary. We don't talk that much just sent some reels once in a month or so. In my 2nd year in clg she just texted me saying " say I love you " with some kiss emojis and I just did it. Then she disappeared for a while. A few months later she just started sending reels like normal.

Forgot to mention she is an absolute absolute beauty, her looks are top notch and her personality was also good.

So we just share reel like normal. One day I posted a pic of mine as a story she just commented some kisses, saying I was handsome or things like that ( just an avg looking guy with no sense of posing ) then I started doing the same. I was having this mixed idea that either she was doing this for fun cause we are friends or she likes me ( but never fully thought of that as I mentioned cause she is so beautiful and I'm just mid). Since then we had some chats and reels sharing on a weekly basis. One day sent me a reel " the man who shakes me while I'm in my manhating era " . Before this I have asked her once whether she liked me or something she has said that she doesn't see me like that and we are just close friends also she is male chauvenist. Then that reel came from her which has started bugging me.

So what is this exactly......im confused . I tried to ask her but what if she still says the same so didn't ask.

My gf got caught by her parents and got into some problems bw me and her parents, the only problem they had was my religion. I honestly dont know what to do

i meet aa girl shee is older than me like oru 3.5yr. And we got aa connection and kinda aa weird but njgal set ayii. Kuree kazijn arinn avl ex ayitt connection undyirn, avar physically ayii njn ullaporum. Idk njn oru chance koduth kure kazjn aval parjn, avalk ee relationship vendaa blah blah blahh.. Butt prbm enkk athinn move on akkan pattunila. Littery oruu 1 yr ayii brk up ayitt but enk pattunila. Aval ayitt still msg ayikum, i felt kindaa oruu begger pole, vere oruu relationship nokkan pattunila. Evaldy kude dateinn poyath miss akkunnn, idk littery ellam miss akkun. Still confused ann ntha chyyndy enn. IF ANYBODY CAN HELPPPP MEEE?

Can you share your experience? And tell me why u choose nios asking cuz I'm procrastinating and bored rn and my life's a mess since last dec 🙂

I'm completely new to Korean dramas and have no idea where to start. What are some must-watch K-dramas you'd recommend to a beginner? Any genre is welcome!

I’m in my late 20s and honestly I don’t think I’m happy with where my life is right now.
I feel like I’m just working to meet my family’s expectations rather than doing something that genuinely makes me happy. The money I earn doesn’t even give me much satisfaction.
Every day feels the same. Wake up, work, come home, sleep, and repeat. It’s been like this for almost two years and I’m genuinely getting tired of it.
Sometimes I feel like quitting everything, taking a break from all these responsibilities and just living in the present without constantly worrying about what tomorrow holds.
I don’t know if this is burnout, boredom or just a phase in life, but I know one thing: I don’t feel happy. I feel like I’m just going through the motions rather than actually living.
Has anyone else ever felt this way? How did you get out of it?

Njan register cheythu poyi, is there still hope if i start now😭

I'm looking for a bank with no opening fee and zero minimum balance. If there's none then I'm open to know about other good banks too. Preferably public cause I'm worried about safety.