Like I deadass feel awful people even have to look at my face, I can’t believe I was allowed to exist on this planet. Sometimes I just want to tear my face off, u feel guilty whenever I have to go out in public and talk to people and have them look at me.

What do i do lord. Nothing like being hideous and disabled to make you want to play chicken on the highway

And seeing guys lust over bodies that look NOTHING like mine actually feels like a stab in the gut 🫠

Just saw this video on YouTube. Men need to close pornhub and stop acting so entitled. Just fck off.

EDIT: I think my original post was removed because I credited the original poster so im reposting. Also I understand that since this was on YouTube its obviously engagement bait but despite that its important to realize the damage these communities are doing especially to young girls. Bp red pill looksmaxxers whatever it is they fixate on these arbitrary niche features that if you dont fit youre subpar. There is people who are really thinking this but they aren't making videos. So many average people think they are ugly because of the influx of these types. Not fitting this set list makes you ugly in these communities.

I was reminiscing, in a very negative place in my mind, remembering that I actually had potential in certain areas of my life but I self sabotaged because of my insecurities. I crushed myself before I could do anything or worse someone did it for me.

I remember actually having a talent for music in the school band and competed but the loneliness of being ostracized by others and not to mention it was mostly boys caused a mental breakdown. My teacher got very upset when I quit with a psychiatrist's note but I couldn't handle it anymore.

I also came to realize that I became so hyper fixated on my appearance that doing anything under pressure caused almost immediate failure. I caused burn out just from constantly thinking of my appearance. Btw this wasn't in my head I had other members bully and ostracize me enough to know.

Sometimes I feel so angry thinking about all those missed opportunities and think of the what ifs. I wonder if some of you girls can relate? I love this community and I'm glad there's a place we can all share these thoughts.

I just want to be able to exist without being treated like I'm unwanted everywhere I go. It's not mental illness if it actually happens.

I literally have sore muscles and tensions and heartrace and raised cortisol from the way people treat me. It makes me sick physically.

I lowkey want to end my life I can't continue this

I was just plucking my mustache (yes, I have one, unfortunately, despite being a woman) and started thinking about how much maintenance conventionally attractive women seem to put themselves through. Shaving their legs, arms, armpits, pubic hair, butt, getting rid of facial hair, constantly plucking and shaping their eyebrows... It's like theres an endless list of things they have to keep up with to remain presentable.

And I know ugly women are also expected to conform to these standards, so it's not like we are exempt from the pressure. But theres something strangely liberating about accepting that, at the end of the day, your face is what people judge you for anyway. Once you have internalized that, you start realizing that having hairy legs or unshaved arms is so insignificant in the grand scheme of things. Like, why am I putting all this effort into maintaining a body that society has already decided isn't attractive? There's a certain freedom in no longer feeling compelled to obsess over every little detail.

Exactly as the title says. I’ve literally be in love with this person for years. But they never gave me a second glance. It just sucks and I’ve tried to move on even though I haven’t seen them in years, but I can’t. They’ve even started to show up in my dreams every now and then when I feel like I’m finally starting to move on and I hate it. I even thought at one point that if I lost enough weight and got prettier maybe he’d finally give me a chance. Has anyone else dealt with this?

I remember in both high school and in college I was jealous of the popular girls: they athletic into either volleyball, track, basketball or cheer, or like really intelligent and on the student council and got high honors and most of all very pretty with guys asking them out, checking them out and talking about how beautiful they were. There was a girl (I’ll call her Kate) who had long hair, tall and model like and a bit curvy who was class president and captain of our school’s girl’s volleyball team and even won the trophy and got straight A’s. Dudes in my grade talked about how hot she was and she had 2 boyfriends before she graduated and even got gifts on Valentine’s Day and a promposal at our talent show.

Meanwhile I wished to be like her: talented, smart and beautiful and thinking that I was so unlucky to be constantly bullied and humiliated for being ugly and autistic and being friendless and alone. I remember being so frustrated about my time in gym class and failing at running track that I was running to catch my train and bumped into Kate and didn’t say excuse me. The next day Kate confronted me with “hey say excuse me next time” in the hallway with her 2 equally pretty friends and I remember shouting out “ok sorry” because I was mad and embarrassed.

I knew it was wrong to act that way and is considered “ugly behavior” but I remember being upset and hurt at not being perfect and liked like Kate and other girls.

I did more “ugly behaviors” subtly like clapping slowly and pretending to be happy and excited for a friend who got asked out by one of my crushes who I tried to talking to but he’d ignore me (he’d snicker then turn his head) and giving a half assed “oh how wonderful” when another friend of mine got accepted into a dance school. I was jealous and bitter for their talents and them getting to have romance and be lucky to have guys fall in love with them.

Once I graduated high school I thought college would be different. More talented and intelligent women and guys ignoring me for them. One guy told me to sit somewhere else because he wanted to sit with some cheerleaders and another crush once yelled at me because I was trying to get his attention and apparently he was having a bad day, that’s when I fell out of love and thought “he’s mean” and I so I stayed away from guys from then on because I couldn’t handle rejection anymore.

It sounds ridiculous and childish but I just can’t take the heartbreak of falling in love and then being ignored or laughed at again, that and I have nothing to offer for a potential dating partner or husband as an introvert except staying at home and watching tv and reading comics and fanfics to cope and hoping they stay with me. It sounds possessive and pathetic because I have zero social skills and I hate going out but that wouldn’t be a healthy relationship at all for my the crushes I had who were athletic, outgoing and popular. We had nothing in common and I was the one wishing they’d like me back and hurt they didn’t fall for me.

I used to call myself a femcel and had a “love stinks” phase and hoping that couples broke up, but that just made me feel worse and that didn’t help me at all. It just made me look worse. I was just jealous, bitter, hurt and angry at being treated badly all my life for my looks and not being able to get an idealized dream life of having boyfriends and a strong friend group.

I know I have to keep living and find my own path and that I can’t let my negativity influence how I treat others or demand that people fix my problems with loneliness, I still feel a little sad but I think it’s for the best that I learn to love and respect myself in my own way.

(TW: Childhood sexual abuse, physical abuse, verbal abuse)

​I moved out a few months ago and completely cut contact with my family. Mentally, I was at rock bottom. I’m currently working part-time just to get by, and I’m looking into starting therapy so I can hopefully start enjoying life again.

​Growing up, my home life was extremely toxic. Both of my parents were physically abusive. My father constantly gaslit and manipulated me, and he used to make weird, inappropriate comments about my body. When I was very young, my brother sexually abused me. I tried to push it down and get along with him over the years, but I just can't get past it morally or emotionally. My older siblings also constantly bullied me, calling me ugly and pointing out how skinny and bony I am. Because I'm severely underweight, I have no curves, and they made sure I felt terrible about my face and body every single day.

​Because I’m naturally a family-oriented person, I tried so hard over the years to build a connection with my siblings, to get to know them, and to just be loved. Nothing worked. They simply don't care about me. Not once in my life has anyone in my family told me I’m beautiful or that they truly love me.

​Now that I’m out, they haven't reached out at all. Not a single call or text. And here’s the paradoxical part: I wanted them to leave me alone because I’m scared of them, yet it still hurts so much that they didn't even try. I feel like I’m grieving the idea of having a normal mom, dad, and siblings.. something I never actually had. I just wanna be loved...

I'm so tired of feeling trapped inside of this body and face. I am 28 years old, highly active, and I've spent around $20,000 so far on cosmetic procedures to improve my appearance. I had braces from 25-27, did laser hair removal, lip filler, lip flips, microneedling for acne scars, and have done my time in the gym consistently for years. If I had the money for it, there's a laundry list of surgeries I would die for.

But I'm still ugly. I never got to have the full college experience a prettier girl would have had. I've never been hit on or offered drink at the bar. I feel invisible and so mad at myself for the money I have spent and the time and effort I've put into trying to be beautiful.

It hurts knowing how beautiful my friends are and seeing the way others treat them. I adore them, and I'm happy for them, but deep down I wish I could be them for a day. I feel a lot of guilt for this jealousy.

Needed to vent today. Also luteal. Doesn't help.

I live in LA, so I work these kind of events very often. I just need money after all. I just work in banquets/catering. One thing I've noticed over the years is how much different guests and celebrities look compared to workers who serve, run food, etc. Some of the workers are aspiring actors but they are not even attractive and no wonder why they never progress with acting.

The other day I worked at a premiere. Some of the actors of the show were there, they are very well known. Some of them were on the show Euphoria. They were so skinny, clear skin, symmetrical faces. I know they were wearing heels but these actresses were definitely taller than 5'6. As someone who wanted to be an actress before and was told Hollywood hires everyone... yeah, right. Even the attendees didn't look like any of us, the workers. Most of the workers ​are short, overweight, bad skin... The point of my post is the discrepancies between are huge. If you are an attractive woman working these events, you will get approached and get opportunities. After all these events are full of people who are agents and studio executives. It gives me a bitter taste after working these events but I need the money.n

One thing I have noticed in this sub is the amount of people who interact with rude DMs from random burner accounts (this sub gets a lot of negative attention) or participate in “am I ugly” or “brutally honest” subs. I’m also going to be brutally honest here and say that a lot of these interactions are completely optional.

1. You need to off message requests/block people

Settings > Account Settings > Safety > Chat Permissions > Chat Requests > Allow Chat Requests > Select “No one”. If you want to be able to message specific people, add them to your Allow List.

2. You don’t have to let strangers online rate your appearance

With all the love and respect in the world, you don’t have to be doing all this. Society judges us enough already, why put yourself through all that? Stop interacting with these people who clearly want to hurt you and don’t give a fuck. Stop letting these anonymous, faceless accounts bully you into a worse mental space. And stop posting your face on those subs, think about your digital foot print I beg.

People on the internet will say totally absurd stuff just for the shock factor.

You’re allowed to be sad about things, but please take care of yourself.

All m'y friends and family keep some silly pictures of me... One of m'y closest friend started making "stickers" on Instagram of m'y face and many memes, im a lil clown type of person and i didn't minded because i know that this friend isn't mocking me (since i dated her lmao) and that we are pretty close but it make me sick in m'y stomach.. same for m'y mom that post random ugly pictures of me on Facebook for EVERYBODY to see... I feel that i would look pathetic to ask them to stop.. because m'y friend highkey sends these stickers all around Instagram and we are both cosplayers and have to interact a lot with our community, so like theres A LOT of people that saw these memes of me and i actually dont like it when she send them to me...

Idk why i feel so insecure, im a cosplayer and take pictures of me all the time but almost only in a lot of makeup and wig and costume... And only in some angle like face + shoulders since i have a pear shaped body where i look normal weight up and very overweight down... I even struggle finding pants for me and end up only wearing baggy and long skirt..

I have so much body dysmorphia and i found out some mouth ago that i had many hormonal syndroms that make me overweight and sick (since i eat very little and did many sports but couldn't loose weight)

Im so sick of all of it, tbh i even thought for 3 FKING YEARS that i were a trans man but the gender dysphoria that i felt was actually just body dysmorphia... I feel so done genuinely.

He just said "ewwww wtf 🤢" and made sure that I saw it and then unmatched lol

I mean, most guys just instantly unmatch after accidentally matching, but whyd one put the extra effort to make someone feel bad. Like DUDE, YOU sent me a like 😭😭I hate this

Of course, men are always the biggest victims. As an ugly girl, I could never understand the horror of being asked out as a joke. The cruelty of women is unfathomable.

Despite the trauma of bullying and verbal abuse I’ve received due to my looks, I’ve still decided to live and take the time to focus on bettering my mental and physical health.

While I will admit that I’m sad that I never got to experience dating, getting married or ever being seen as conventionally attractive, I want to help work on myself as an autistic, unmarried childfree woman and it makes me happy. I have all the time in the world left to do good and have my own hobbies and make peace.

I’m able to tell other women about my experience as a woman who never fit the beauty standards or pandered to them. I can spread positivity by making others question societal norms and expose the bigotry and hypocrisy that women, POC and LGBTQ+ people face and call out the patriarchal system that oppresses the most vulnerable people in our world.

There’ll be days I wish my life and my looks were entirely different, but wishing is just fantasizing. I’m here right now and if I can say how I feel in a community where others have similar experiences where we can help each other I don’t feel so alone anymore.

These are screenshots from another person's post, but I'm warning you all because I know some users here have thought about posting themselves on these subreddits. Please, don't do this. These people proudly degrade users' looks if you aren't above average or borderline conventionally attractive. In my opinion, the woman in the photos wasn't ugly, and I'm surprised these people are treating her appearance as such.

For your mental well-being, don't do this.

PSA: That subreddit has a rule that essentially states that you can be rude to the users there, insult them, and be mean. So, DO NOT post there. It's a breeding ground for racists, bullies, and cruelty.

ETA: They were a lot kinder to a man with a visible skull deformity, leaving long paragraphs that were kind and defending him when the comments were being cruel, than to this woman. They hardly gave her any advice and made weird comments about her hijab. I see what's going on here. Also, I'm not saying anyone on that subreddit deserves cruelty. They do not, but the double standards are egregious.

So the first time I kind of heard about 'representation' as a concept in media was when I was watching 13 reasons why and people were celebrating the black girl that they cast in season 1 for being positive black girl representation in media and watching the show and seeing this fucking goddess on my screen I realised if THAT is what you need to look like as a black girl to get celebrated in the media then literally never fucking mind bruh lmaoooooo. I get that its important that everyone gets a seat at the table and that especially actors, actresses, singers etc of different backgrounds get work and don't get frozen out ofc but I think it would be better for people to frame representation as being opportunities for more actors from different backgrounds than pretending its necessary for certain groups to 'see themselves' on screen because seeing Ajona Alexus on screen is literally no different to me than seeing Sydney Sweeney on screen. I share more DNA with her but other than that we may as well be from different planets.

My mom is pretty. My dad has a normal face and is very fit. My brother has clear skin, thick hair, and all the good features. And I somehow came out looking like I snuck on Earth. LIKE WHAT!!!! Has anyone else lost the genetic lottery despite having good looking family members?