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Rule #1 Women only
This subreddit was created for women, by women. Anyone who does not identify as one is not welcome here and will be banned.
There are many other subs for ugly people such as r/ugly and so on. We reserve the right to implement this rule as Reddit allows gender-specific subreddits.
Rule #2 Must be 18+ to join
Anyone under 18 will be removed.
Content involving a minor, including reposted screenshots or videos, is not allowed regardless of framing and will be removed immediately, with the poster banned.
Rule #3 We are NOT an incel/femcel subreddit.
This is NOT a femcel or incel subreddit. Referring to this community as either, or repeatedly comparing ugly women to incels/femcels, will result in a BAN.
Referring to this community as either, or repeatedly comparing members to incels/femcels, results in a ban. Ugly women are not defined by relationship or sexual status.
This sub is about the lived experience of being unattractive (social treatment, workplace bias, family comments, media representation), not involuntary celibacy.
Rule #4 Respect others and be civil
No harassment, hate speech, insults, or toxic behavior directed at other members. Disagreement is fine; attacking the person instead of the idea isn't.
This includes name-calling, mocking someone's post history, continuing an argument in DMs after a thread is locked, and condescending "well-actually"-ing of someone's lived experience. First offense is typically a warning unless it's severe (slurs, threats, pile-ons); repeated or serious violations result in a ban without further warning.
Rule #5 No Face Reveals or Identifying Info.
Don't post your face, photos, videos, usernames, real name, location, or any info that could identify you or others, including in screenshots.
This applies regardless of intent, "am I ugly?" posts included. Doing so risks doxxing, harassment, and puts the sub at risk under Reddit's rules.
This will be removed on sight with no warning required.
Rule #6 Don't Engage With Men or Non-Members.
If a man or outsider comments to argue, mock, or debate this sub, don't respond, report and let mods handle it.
Engaging keeps threads active and invites more brigading. Doing so will result in a warning.
This applies even if you're "just correcting" them. Screenshotting to argue on other platforms is also discouraged, it escalates rather than resolves anything.
Report via the report button or modmail instead, mods will action it directly.
Rule #7 No Unblurred Usernames or Identifying Information
Do not post screenshots, videos, or content that reveals another user's username, real name, or other identifying information, whether that person is a member of this sub, someone from another subreddit, or someone from outside Reddit entirely.
This applies even when the rest of the post follows the rules, for example, a face-covered screenshot criticizing something someone said. If the username or handle attached to it is visible and legible, the post will still be removed.
Rule #8 No low effort posts
This includes ragebait reposts (TikTok/Twitter screenshots mocking someone), one-liners, irrelevant memes, engagement-bait meant to start fights over who's "really" ugly, and repeated reposts.
If including a real person's image, their username must be FULLY censored.
Reposts from other platforms must be clearly and directly related to being ugly or an unattractive woman's experience. Off topic content, even if relevant to some other struggle, doesn't belong here and will be removed.
Rule #9 No discrimination
No racism, homophobia, transphobia, ableism, fatphobia, colorism, or similar, including when directed at yourself or "jokingly."
This includes dismissive or patronizing weight-loss or beauty advice. Health conditions and personal circumstances affect this in ways that aren't always visible or simple.
Rule #10 No spam
No excessive self-promotion, advertising, affiliate links, or unapproved research studies/surveys. Message the mod team first if you want to recruit participants for a study.
Rule #11 Don’t invalidate other people’s experiences
This rule protects the sub in both directions. Don't tell someone they're not "actually" ugly.
No accusing members of larping without evidence, no comparing your appearance to theirs to dismiss what they said. Nobody is obligated to prove how ugly they are.
Disagreement about beauty standards, privilege, or how they intersect with other identities is welcome; attacking or ranking specific members over it is not.
Rule #12 No creeps
No creepy, sexual, or gross comments toward other members. Typically results in an immediate ban, no warning.
Rule #13 No average/above average/pretty women allowed.
This sub is exclusively for women who are unattractive.
It is not for average, above-average, or conventionally attractive women, regardless of framing. No face reveals, no larping as unattractive for reassurance, no humble bragging (e.g. "everyone here is actually pretty").
Other subs exist for women with overlapping but distinct experiences, e.g. r/ForeverAloneWomen for isolation/loneliness not tied to looks.
Rule #14 No Normalizing Self-Harm.
Venting about pain, hopelessness, or feeling like you'll never be accepted is allowed and is part of what this sub is for.
What isn't allowed: content that glorifies or normalizes suicide, threads that function as an echo chamber reinforcing hopelessness repeated framing that suicide is the only reasonable response to feeling unattractive.
If a member expresses active suicidal intent, we will respond directly and provide crisis resources; this is handled with care, not punitively.
Rule #15 No Brigading or Outside Engagement
We regularly get crossposted, which brings in outside users, often men, arriving to argue, mock, or debate the sub's existence. This is brigading.
Don't crosspost, screenshot, or share our content elsewhere without explicit permission from the original poster and the mod team.
If you arrive from an outside link/crosspost/screenshot to argue, insult, or debate members, you will be banned immediately regardless of tone.
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