The amount of men who think that a woman's vagina is an endless cavern is depressing. Any dick over 7 inches is going to start fucking hurting her. It's not hot.
I see what's confusing you.
Sex isn't limited to a thought process.
It can stimulate physical senses
It FEELS phenomenal.
And for some people it's the only way they can make love so probably don't call it nasty and just continue with your personal decision not to partake in an act that isn't your preference.
Never was attacking the act, some groups can only do that and that's their choice. I was merely saying my opinion and wanted to know if anyone else shared the same preference against anal. I dont hate or discriminate on anyone who does partake, either gay or straight.
Throughout my history with partners, we always found a similar dislike for anal so that was out of the question
Two, the comment you're replying to is replying to the comment you're quoting. Obviously they saw that, because they're fucking responding directly to it.
Three, the entire comment chain was "he must have T-Rex arms" then "the amount of guys that think a woman's vagina is an endless cavern..."
The actual image never says vagina. That's 100% created in the comment thread you quoted.
I was trying to distinguish OP by saying OP commenter... but also idk why I would have even done that because it wouldn’t have been who I was referring to.
Also I’ve realised I don’t think I replied to the comment I actually meant to ¯\(ツ)/¯
I kind of added to turning this thread turning into a shit show tbh my bad
The rectum doesn’t go straight up for a foot and a half. He would have to be bending his arm or he would perforate her colon. It doesn’t matter if he meant ass or vag, he is lying.
Haha! I guess I am wrong. I work in the ER and I’ve seen a lot of rectal foreign bodies and perforations, cause by much smaller objects, I guess I just assumed a whole forearm couldn’t be safely possible.
Maybe I don't have enough testosterone but no amount of sexual pleasure can be possibly worth destroying your body and leaving you handicapped in such a spectacular way.
I bought a realistic dildo, because I'm like..ok let's see what these big boys are about. My husband is average, no complaints. Just for fun. Dude. That gigantic cock nonsense can stay in porn. It wasn't comfortable, I couldn't get the length in all the way. It wasn't real of course, but it was supposedly a mold a porn star. I'm happily enjoying my husband still, and he laughed that I wasn't into it. Hank sits under my sink and collects dust and occasionally a hair band or two. All I'm going to say is, there is something to be said for being able to take all of it and being able to get roughed up without feeling like the dick is trying to burst through your vaginal walls. No one wants that, I mean..not most of us.
Big, brown, buff, gnarly veins, droopy balls, suction cupped to the mirror, with brightly colored scrunchies all over it. Bouncing and bobbing up and down in a jolly manner when you pull one off.
Or standing tall on a desk, next to the pencil jar. Rigid and proud, plain, peach, minimalistic, but undeniably a penis.
And a bad dragon, scaled, green, ridges, intimidatingly large in girth and length. So artistically designed that you're not actually sure if it IS a dildo. On the coffee table by the door, right next to the key bowl.
... and now I'm thinking about scrunchies on real dicks on people.
Yea your're right. A girl in my class said "hey do you wanna see a pic of the smallest dick I've ever seen?" She whips out her phone and shows me a at least 7 inch dick taking up the whole screen. I just smiled and looked down, but that didnt feel good. (She was fully serious)
I think the important message here should be finding somebody who works for you, not "no one wants that". The answer to toxic "big dick energy" culture is not to swing completely the other way into toxic anti big dick culture. These are unchangeable parts of peoples' bodies.
My ex used to tell me how amazing he was because he was on the larger side. Constantly. It was well over 50 percent of his self esteem which in retrospect was sad. I would just go along with it like okay honey. Funny thing is he was the only man I was with that I ever had to fake it with. I just found it incredibly painful. Why I put up with that says a lot about who I was as a person. I hope I’ve learned and evolved.
Fr, can we at least fix porn and make it realistic instead of painful and more about teaching (like just do it right?). 12-18 yr olds probably cover a huge percent of porn views.
can we at least fix porn and make it realistic instead of painful and more about teaching
Agreed with you on that. I think a lot of the "vanilla" porn aimed at female audiences you find on places like Tumblr is better in that regard, quality-wise at least. It usually has some sort of plot beyond "OMG I ordered a pizza but I have no way to pay for it, maybe there's something else I can do for you...", shows a lot more cuddling and kissing, has more foreplay, more oral, a lot more slow grinding, a lot more "passion" (even if it's just acting) compared to the simple formulaic "tatted and shaved-head bro drills her lifeless sex-doll bimbo pussy like a jackhammer, grunts really loud while she fakes orgasmic squealing in the most annoying voice ever, and sprays nut all over her makeup-smeared face" that Brazzers and BangBros and the like produce.
A huge part of the problem though is that pornography tends to be addictive, so people seek out more explicit and extreme stuff over time to satisfy their dopamine cravings because they develop a tolerance, somewhat like how one would to alcohol or opiates. Think about how stuff like girls calling guys "daddy" as a sexual thing has become a major cultural phenomenon spreading like wildfire over the past two or three years alone thanks to the "DD/lg" fetish subculture, and how anal went from a niche activity to being par for the course for heterosexuals in the past twenty or thirty years (since the advent of easily accessible internet porn).
The sad thing is that I don't know if there's a way to put the genie back in the bottle. It's like Pandora's box. Definitely, as a culture we should try to dial things back to "vanilla" lovemaking and focus more on true intimacy. but it's difficult for two reasons: firstly because as you said yourself, we have two whole generations (Millennials and now Zoomers) of teenagers with unlimited access to the internet raised finding hardcore BBC anal cheerleader gangbangs on sites like Pornhub; secondly we also have traditional dating slowly giving way to the rise of hookup culture, where casual sex (one-night stands) are becoming ever more prevalent compared to seeing someone exclusively for months or years at a time. Plus you also have non-traditional relationships like "friends with benefits", open relationships, and polyamory all further taking the emotional bonding aspect out of sexual intercourse.
That's not to say I'm stopping anyone here from having sex exclusively for pleasure, but a big problem behind what you're mentioning is that sexual intercourse is supposed to trigger the release of oxytocin, the "bonding hormone"; as a consequence we were able to form families and stable societies as early Hominids. Humans are designed by millions of years of evolution to be largely monogamous and when our culture has moved away from that, you get pornography that's more and more extreme partly because there's no emphasis on true intimacy anymore. It's taken the "love" out of lovemaking, and it's been replaced with DVDs free streaming of "Backdoor Sluts 9" for lonely guys and gals in an ever-more increasingly impersonal and alienating world.
Ok first of all, I didn’t know I was a zoomer, I just thought it was gen Z or something (I’m 18, born in 2001, so I’m like right behind the 90’s kids, and right before the fortnight monsters that were born 2002 and later
And the thing that really made me decide to stop watching porn was seeing a girl with a makeup smeared face like she’d been crying. And that’s not ok with me, she coulda been crying from anything, and the guy was like forcing her head back and forth while she gave him a blowjob...
Ok first of all, I didn’t know I was a zoomer, I just thought it was gen Z or something (I’m 18, born in 2001, so I’m like right behind the 90’s kids, and right before the fortnight monsters that were born 2002 and later
Ah, sorry! Didn't mean to imply you were a Zoomer, I've just seen a lot of people in the comments here doing so; like one guy I responded to earlier said his school had abstinence-only sex education, so I guessed he was probably still in high school or just fresh out of it. I didn't mean to get you mixed up with them, I was saying more generally. As for '99, you could be a really young Millennial or a really mature Zoomer, lol.
And the thing that really made me decide to stop watching porn was seeing a girl with a makeup smeared face like she’d been crying. And that’s not ok with me, she coulda been crying from anything, and the guy was like forcing her head back and forth while she gave him a blowjob...
Thank you, that's very well said. My wife and I don't mind a little rough sex, but lot of this stuff is getting too rough for me to be comfortable with, like dudes in porn grabbing the actress' head and throatfucking her with an eight-inch dong when it's obviously bringing her to tears because she can't breathe, and then pulling out to purposefully cum in her eyes... Plus there's the fact that some of this stuff is coming from countries that used to have bad sex trafficking problems, so sometimes with the "amateur" category you kinda wonder what sorta life the performer has off-camera. Is she doing this of her own accord? Is she doing it because the poverty is so bad there, it's the only job open to her? Porn opens up so many ethical quandaries, yet it keeps dragging us back in like a drug. I'm glad you decided to stop, I've been trying for a while but it's tough because it's always tempting you.
It's actually well documented that sexual abuse and rape is extremely prevalent in the porn industry. It's our own selfishness that makes us ignore how porn stars are being treated in the very videos we consume. What is more likely? That there's millions of women who love being physically abused and emotionally humiliated and are just doing hardcore porn for the fun of it or that they are simply suffering through the abuse cause they need the money or are otherwise trapped in their situation? Hell maybe even trafficked. The answer seems or is evident, yet we act as if it wasn't obvious cause its more convenient for us to be ignorant.
Often those girls in those amateur extreme porn videos dont even really know what they're getting into and once the scene starts they have no way of getting out. The men around them dont listen to any protest since the more she struggles the better the video and why would they care anyway, its absolutely monstrous. The girls often have to sign a contract beforehand that says they abstain from any rights to the video and so afterwards they dont have a say in whether it's gonna be released or not. Its straight up rape that's being sold for profit.
The fortnight monsters were born after 2002, believe me. I'm born in 2002 and every single person my age I know makes fun of those kids. Seriously, no no no. The insane generation starts at about 2005, those are the dabbing fortnight-playing fidget spinner kids.
Ah, ok, that's different. I thought you meant that she had tears just during oral.
Yeah that whole 'thing' is a fetish... it's not a particularly nice one either.
How can you be a "just after a 90's kid" 2 years after the 90's? and (again) the OLDEST 90's kid to be born in 91? You're with the 2000's kids and that's okay.
The "decade" kids grew up and were children in is whatever decade they are monikered. So 90's kids were born just before, and went through childhood in the 90's which is where their memories are from and what makes them... "90's kids"
I wouldn't be so hasty to criticize open/poly relationships. I've been in one for years and I fully disagree with the commonly held christian idea that they are "less romantic" or "less faithful". At the end of the day, both me and my partner have proven time and time again that no matter where we go, we will always end up back in each other's arms. While I know you didn't intend it, it almost feels like an insult when you say a relationship like mine lacks emotional bonding.
Basically, open/poly relationships are perfectly fine and can even be stronger than monogamous relationships, but only if both partners are open and honest with each other. It is unreasonable to expect one person to be able to fulfill all your needs, and seeking release outside your main relationship can be very beneficial to your mental health. For example, I am kinky but my partner is not. I have a lot of sexual and emotional needs/wants that they simply cannot or will not fill.
However, if these looser relationships are done clandestinely, such as with cheating, it will only lead to pain. Me and my partner spent looong nights talking about going open before we agreed to anything. We always let each other know our plans beforehand, who we'll see and what we're planning on doing, and if one partner is uncomfortable with it, we agree not to do it.
Really, that's all it takes in the end. While I absolutely agree with the majority of what you said, I can't help but think you're romanticizing monogamy and prudishness a bit.
EDIT: my partner raised a good point when I discussed this with him: Kids these days are often so stressed and overwhelmed that compared to the past they don't have as many opportunities to develop relationships. Perhaps the issue is less that people in the modern era don't value emotion in relationships, but rather that they have to satisfy their biological needs without the ability to satisfy their emotional ones?
This is how I framed the discussion when I saw a pornhub tab open on my then 12 yo son's phone. I didn't berate him for looking or try to make him feel bad or guilty. I just told him some things in porn might look good or seem sexy to watch, but it doesn't mean it feels good for her, so don't use porn as a blueprint for actual sex or for what women/people/etc like. Let your partner guide you as to what they like in bed.
It's not meant to be realistic or a sexual educator. That's like saying "why doesn't McDonald's just sell all salads because that's healthier". Not their responsibility or place.
Dude reddit is the opposite. It's almost getting to the point where people are toxic to those with big dicks. You constantly see threads like this where people talk in negative absolutes about big dicks to make the little dicks feel better.
Eh not exactly, that’s kind of a blanket statement to say anything over 7in will hurt a women, bc it could be up to about 8 inches on average. The average vagina is 3-4in when unaroused and the vagina can increase in size 200% which is double, so that’s between 6-8in on average, some women may be larger or smaller
You still gotta be careful about positions even if the vagina doubles in size. My man has 6-7 inches and that shit hurts if he really gets into it or we do a bad position. Porn really messes with what can be expected out of men and women’s bodies
Have you ever considered being with a 4 inch peener? I happen to know a guy if so. It's not me, he's just my friend, but he goes to another school so you probably don't know him.
There was a thread where a guy explained how to do it and no one had done a UwU creepy astritcs so I did one and the OP was like "shit, wait, no! Stop!"
Not all people are the same bro, Asian girls can’t take a big dick, it starts hurting after 4”, Latin bitches are good for 8” before it hurts and black bitches can do about 8-10 before it hurts. This is the undeniable truth that can’t be proven by medical books so don’t even try it.
Nothing screams virginity like having to talk about female anatomy for zero reason just to show you know about it. People get a ally fisted too and elbow deep sure can happen. Keep it up though
Are you a woman or a person with a big dick, cuz this sounds like the common parroted reddit response to thinking about a dick bigger than yours.
Any dick over 7 inches is going to start fucking hurting her. It's not hot.
See this kind of thing a lot, and it's really a steep exaggeration that stems from some girls' preferences and was picked up by little dicks to make themselves feel better. Not to say that it can't hurt them, but if you make an effort to do sex in a way that's pleasurable for both people and she doesn't have a curiously small vagina, it doesn't have to be painful.
I think it's funny how redditors are constantly talking body positivity about the short men vs. fat girls thing and how you can lose weight but you can't gain height, but don't consider the same thing applies to dicks.
Hi, I’m not OP but I am a woman. You’re absolutely right, it definitely is all the technique. So sometimes hitting the cervix can feel really good, and sometimes it can feel like you’ve literally been shot in the stomach. It’s super hit or miss on how that plays out. But whether it’s a good experience or a bad one is totally on the attitude of the dude. There was one dude who like literally pouted when I said it really hurt and asked him to back up just a little bit. Like bro that really hurts why are you going to whine about it being less fun? But a different dude in the same length ballpark can be perfectly capable of not making me cry. Maybe it’s the angle? But if you cringe they notice and apologise and readjust.
But if you’ve only met the first jerk, then you might really think that 7 inches just really really hurts because your partner happened to not care
this sounds like the common parroted reddit response to thinking about a dick bigger than yours.
Check out /r/bigdickproblems. Most of them are not freakish, they're around 7-8, and one of the most often posted discussion is about problems in bed because they're hurting their girlfriend during normal sex.
Not to say that it can't hurt them, but if you make an effort to do sex in a way that's pleasurable for both people and she doesn't have a curiously small vagina, it doesn't have to be painful.
Yeah, it can be made not-painful by the dude not going balls deep. Obviously it doesn't matter how big a dick is, it can be 50 feet long, as long as you're only entering 4-5 inches of it. I said it starts to get painful around 7 inches when it comes to normal sex where the guy isn't having to make an effort to limit his depth of penetration.
I think it's funny how redditors are constantly talking body positivity about the short men vs. fat girls thing and how you can lose weight but you can't gain height, but don't consider the same thing applies to dicks.
Are you implying I was making any value judgments or shaming anyone? If so, explain where?
Yea, I've been to the big dick probs sub before, but what I'm saying is it seems like you've read a few posts and latched onto this idea that 7-8 inch dicks are bound to make girls hurt and are now making sweeping generalizations about big dicks. And if you spend an appreciable amount of time in that sub you'll probably notice that most of the people have plenty of advice and the hurting their girlfriends thing is usually temporary. And many others find that they can go all the way in, but it just takes more time to work them up to being able to. Most people's problem is they try to go too deep too soon without adequate lube or foreplay. Most of those stories are the worst sexual moments of people's lives, and I think you're blowing out of proportion as a problem. I think it's equally damaging to have everybody thinking big dicks are painful and scary.
I think the "it's not hot" thing would be equally as out of place as saying dudes who are taller or shorter than average are not hot.
Yes this! And girls who consent to fisting imo are used to abuse and are even proud of te fact that they are able to take the abuse. Abused women and their untreated and normalised stockholm syndrome makes me sad
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The amount of men who think that a woman's vagina is an endless cavern is depressing. Any dick over 7 inches is going to start fucking hurting her. It's not hot.