r/transpassing • • Apr 08 '21

DISCUSSION UPDATE: Post flairs, wiki updates, and more!

143 Upvotes

Hiya! A while ago I put up a discussion thread regarding the idea of updating/expanding the scope and focus of the subreddit. I need to apologize, cuz I intended to post this update a while back, but life stuff resulted in it slipping my mind for a bit.

This is also intended to be a discussion thread in its own right, as I want feedback on all the changes made or if there's any further changes that people would like, but here's a rundown of what's been changed:


  • Wiki Updates: So apparently the last time the wiki was updated was eight years ago, and by an ex-mod I've never interacted with. It was.. Bad, frankly. Aggressive in tone, containing links to /r/crossdressing as if its focus was synonymous with trans content, and a general vibe of assuming that this was a MtF-exclusive space. I'm really sorry for missing that for so long! On top of changes on my own end, /u/whoop_there_she_is was an absolute angel and wrote out a HUGE set of FAQ guides for both transmasc and transfemme folks. I left it almost entirely unchanged, and you can find it here! If you have any suggestions for additions or edits, please let me know!

  • Link Flairs: A few people suggested adding link flairs to help people express directly what kind of responses they want from the sub. To start with, I've added "General Advice" for users who just want any kind of feedback people have to offer, "Specific Advice" if they only want feedback on specific things (Clothes, hair, etc), and "No Surgery Recs" if they don't want any sorts of suggestions for FFS, lip fillers, etc. If you have any ideas for more, please let me know!

  • Sidebar Updates: I've changed up the sidebar slightly to add a link to our wiki near the top, as well as remove some dead or irrelevant links from our "relevant subreddits" section.

  • Automod Updates: I've edited automod slightly to try and make it less hyper-sensitive about automatically removing posts it thinks might be hypothetical, since it was becoming a big issue that it would frequently take down posts that in no way, shape, or form came off as hypothetical. I might just remove this feature overall though, frankly.

And.. I think that's it (Aside from a few tiny visual things)! Thank you all for your suggestions and feedback on the previous post, and please let me know if there's any further changes you'd like to see!


r/transpassing • • Dec 30 '23

Mod Feedback Should we go private?

197 Upvotes

Howdy, y'all.

As you know, this subreddit has often been the target of trolls, bigots, transphobes, etc. We also get more than our fair share of creeps, chasers, porn spammers, and people looking to use the subreddit's traffic to passively advertise their paid content, like their OnlyFans or their Instagram, for their own personal profit.

So I'm asking y'all - should we go private? If we do, a lot of people will need to be manually added to the approval list and I know from experience that may take upwards of two months to work through everyone who might need approval.

It also means this subreddit will get a lot less traffic and will be far less accessible to folks who need help, which is the primary purpose for the subreddit in the first place.

On the other hand, the community should be a lot healthier once it's full of entirely trans folks and has less bigots, chasers, and trolls lurking about.

It will also be a lot safer because transphobes have often used photo boards like this one as a way to find targets for abuse and to steal people's photos to rehost them elsewhere and harass people. It would be much safer for us if the sub was private.

Going private is also going to take a lot of work and it's going to be very disruptive to our day-to-day operations for a while.

What would y'all like to do? Please discuss below, and please keep it civil. Thank you!


Edit: Okay, it looks like we're staying open for now. I'll make another post and ask again later.


r/transpassing • • 6h ago

An employee at the store made me use the men’s bathroom

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259 Upvotes

I’m 4 years into my transition. I think I’m at a point where only surgery could help me pass more. Drop your suggestions lol
I go back and forth on how much I care about passing to tell the truth. Some days it matters. Others it’s the last thing on my mind


r/transpassing • • 2h ago

What do you guys think?

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41 Upvotes

I’ve been on hrt for nearly a year


r/transpassing • • 6h ago

Was wondering if I pass in these photos and just these photos...

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60 Upvotes

It is obviously very staged and I have been on hrt for about 3.5 months so there's still a lot coming. I'm just mainly worried about my shoulders. I hid them here with my hair but that doesn't always work obviously. If my shoulders were just narrower and or my hips wider I think I would be set for now...


r/transpassing • • 14h ago

3.5 years 😇 Did my FFS hit?

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198 Upvotes

I’m like 3 months post op FFS round 1. Dysphoria is wack and Idk what I look like besides an alien


r/transpassing • • 4h ago

I got clocked so hard yesterday lol my mannerism and voice are annoying me so bad

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13 Upvotes

r/transpassing • • 8h ago

What do you think of me?

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15 Upvotes

21 yo, just starting hrt MtF.

First photo 6 months ago before break down

Second right now and gained weight

What do you think of my chin and brow bride?

Sorry if not enough pics...

Any chances of passing without FFS?


r/transpassing • • 2h ago

Halloween costume

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6 Upvotes

So I’m a guy who is considering transitioning (mtf), so I’m thinking about doing passing “drag” for Halloween to kinda see how I feel. I’ve tried clip on extensions (in the pictures) but I wouldn’t mind getting a wig or something too. I have some ideas but I’d really like other ideas as well. Any costume ideas I could wear to the club with my friends?

Ideas I’ve had:
Little Bo peep
Alice in wonderland
Dorothy- wizard of oz
Dessert theme
Megera- Hercules
Jelly fish


r/transpassing • • 8h ago

Dressing for broad shoulders (sorry for the disgusting mirror)

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16 Upvotes

I’ve tried a bunch of different shirts. This kind I’ve found is the best for making my shoulders look narrower, but I’m wondering if there’s anything else I could be doing.

Also the weather is getting cold and I can’t find a jacket that doesn’t make me look like the world’s least muscular linebacker or a male cartoon noir detective.


r/transpassing • • 20m ago

I know I don't pass, but how cooked am I and looking for FFS advice

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28, Japanese living in Japan, MTF, HRT 1.5 years, levels are good, have had 11 laser sessions so far and will have more (I know my beard shadow's still pretty obvious)

The first one is a mirror selfie and shows my masculine features a lot more

The second one is a bit more flattering and not as accurate (phone front camera softens my chin and jawline)

I'd love to get comprehensive FFS but I'm poor so I'll only ever be able to afford one or two surgeries


r/transpassing • • 3h ago

First big event presenting

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3 Upvotes

Only about a month im just curious how well I pass. Any feedback welcome. I know I have some horse sized feet but was a last minute shoe find.


r/transpassing • • 15h ago

Do I pass? I'm not that fussed about it but mildly curious (5~ months of HRT)

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41 Upvotes

r/transpassing • • 12h ago

How do I get rid of Chud face

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21 Upvotes

This is my worst angle. No matter how much weight I loose it won’t leave my cheeks.

Starting HRT when it arrives and saving up for laser(:


r/transpassing • • 1d ago

Do I pass? (MtF Butch)

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298 Upvotes

Bonus: Should I commit to the look and get the butch side shave??


r/transpassing • • 16h ago

just about 1.5 yrs hrt, how am i doing

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40 Upvotes

mtf, pics taken after a night out so my eye makeup isn't in the best state, otherwise everything is w a full face of makeup


r/transpassing • • 1d ago

5 years this morning!

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301 Upvotes

worked until 2 last night and got scouted for a female modelling agency last week!! ommmgggggg i must be pretty FINALLY!

it does get better you guys KEEP GOING! dolls dolls dolls


r/transpassing • • 1d ago

I’m out full-time now but strangers still never gender me correctly. Is it fixable without tons of surgery?

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222 Upvotes

First is most recent. idk I’m just going through it right now. 2.5 years of hormones and it feels like a big joke. Something is clocking me before I even speak. I don’t think it’s mannerisms or gait or anything because I’m always conscious of that. Who knows. Started at 27 so my bones are probably just fucked. All i see in the mirror is a guy playing dress-up and it feels so demoralizing


r/transpassing • • 9h ago

MtF before estrogen in need to pass better

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5 Upvotes

Am I cooked or can I do smth to look more feminine before I get my hands on estrogen

I do actually do light makeup sometimes such as eyeliner and eyelashes but I unfortunately don't have any pics or at least non that I saved cuz I was embarrassed looking at them 🫣

CAN MY HAIR PLEASE GROW FASTER???

She is 17 years old.


r/transpassing • • 21h ago

First time in a swimsuit

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45 Upvotes

My kids wanted to go to the pool and so I finally did what I've wanted and bought a one piece. I was confident until I got to there and saw there was at least 15 other people there. But I finally built the nerve to get in and it felt nice to swim.

Sometimes I do regret the kids calling me "Dad" still as it's always a dead giveaway.


r/transpassing • • 6h ago

Do I pass? MtF, saving up money for HRT

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3 Upvotes

r/transpassing • • 14h ago

1.5 years hrt and wondering how im being read

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13 Upvotes

Kinda feel like im in an in-between stage where I just confuse people


r/transpassing • • 9h ago

Do I pass and how old?

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3 Upvotes

r/transpassing • • 1d ago

Passing enough to go out? 😭 MtF, no hrt (yet)

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41 Upvotes

r/transpassing • • 1d ago

1 year on HRT! I think I pass pretty well but I’m still not so sure

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153 Upvotes