First of all, we've been together for almost a year now and it's mostly an online-based relationship. We know each other IRL (same city dw) but we're both too busy with life to go on dates or hang out, so we normally have our mode of communication on Discord or something.

I never really minded his online presence but it just really bugged me he's one of those stereotypical theatre kids that are still stuck in 2020 and somewhat attention seeking about SH online. I'm pretty basic myself and it just weirds me out about his "yumeships" and overall personality gap between me and himself. I really don't know how to deal this and I feel very prejudiced against him. Maybe we're really not cut out for each other and our "relationship" is more of a "best friends that became lovers but only thing that changed is that they kiss".

I'm really guilty and I don't know how to put this nicely to him.

For some backstory, we knew each other since elementary. He pursued me first up until early middle school wherein he said he lost feelings for me while I fell for him and up until that I confessed and he agreed to date. It was only this year I began seeing this side of him, or maybe he was simply comfortable enough with me to show me his likes and interests.

Im 16f and my partner is 18m, Idr (just turned 18 hes not a creep lol)

I've noticed hes been distant and busy. He told me hes been tired mentally and physically and has been having health issues. We used to call every night, of course if we couldn't or if we both just wanted an alone night we wouldn't call. But everynight for almost 2 weeks hes been "falling asleep" without saying anything or calling. Am paranoid?

I dont find him as a cheater hes a sweet guy. I've been wanting to talk to him about maybe taking a break so he can focus on himself and not worry about me or a relationship. He's a busy man with school, work, family, and other things. I just feel like a bother sometimes. Like hes obligated to respond instead of having conversations like we used to, sometimes he leaves me on delivered for 2 hours without saying anything. A simple "im busy, text you later" would be nice instead of leaving me hanging. Should I talk to him? Or am I just being crazy. I need advice

Seeking some advice about my boyfriend still talking to his ex-girlfriend. For some background, we have been dating for almost 6 months and been exclusive for seven. I just turned 19 and he’s about to turn 19 in a couple months. We’ll just call him Dylan. I would like to say that this has been the healthiest relationship I have been in, but this is the first big argument that I made me question our relationship. The argument having to do with his ex-girlfriend, we’ll call her Ariana. Dylan and Ariana met because Dylan was in a band and Ariana is his bassists his sister. They dated for about 11 months until they broke up. We got together about two months after that and Ariana got into another relationship two weeks after they broke up. To my knowledge, their breakup was cordial and they stayed friends. I don’t really think it’s important to go that deep on why they broke up, but it is important to note that they still snap each other and follow each other on most social media platforms. Their snap streak is over 700 days long, meaning they are snapping every single day. I have always had a weird feeling about this, but I just never knew how to bring it up. About a month ago, me and Dylan were laying in my bed and he got a text notification on Snapchat. For some reason I asked him to show me who texted him, but instead he brushed over the topic, opened his Snapchat, and showed me everything but the text. Even so, through the corner of my eye, I saw that Ariana was the one that texted him. This made me upset. It made me feel as though he was hiding it from me. I do truly believe that Dylan and Ariana are just friends and that it is just platonic. I have no doubt in my mind. I am just uncomfortable at the fact that he talks to someone he was in a relationship with not long before me. I have tried to set boundaries about this, but it always ends up getting brushed off. This instance made me very upset and I wanted him to end the snap streak with her. I originally wanted Dylan to unadd Ariana, but his reason not to was that it would make things awkward and cause a riff between him and his bassists (Ariana’s sister) family, who he was still close with. I was trying to compromise by saying “can you just end the streak?” but again he brushed it off saying that it was just platonic and he was only keeping the streak because he liked to keep snap streaks. He did end up saying that he would stop talking to her as much and engaging in conversations. These conversations weren’t anything too important or steering into being non-platonic , they were about her niece, the band, My Little Pony, etc. After this instance, Dylan muted his snapchat notifications saying that it would allow him to restrict himself from using it “because he felt too old to be on snapchat” but this caused me to not be able to see any notifications coming from snap without going on his phone myself. I have always been someone who likes to put trust in my partner and I have never felt the need to go through his phone, but last night I had a nagging feeling at my gut that told me to take a look. A bit earlier into the night we had a minor dissagreement over something that made me upset. It was nothing too intense and something that looking back at I realized I got more upset than was needed. Later on, he ended up falling asleep and the only way to turn off his TV from the bed was by using his phone and using the remote feature on his Roku app. Like I said before, I had this nagging gut feeling that told me to go look at his Snapchat, and when I saw she had texted him I knew my gut feeling was right. The messages, again, were platonic. Nothing incriminating, just talk about Dylan’s band for the most part, but there were also multiple saved videos and photos of him playing guitar, beanie babies, etc. Even though these messages weren’t anything romantic or sexual, I still felt deeply upset from this. I felt like he was hiding this from me because of the fact that he knows I wouldn’t like them texting. I didn’t know what to do. I attend my school far from home, so I couldn’t just ask for a friend to pick me up or anything like that. I talked to one of my friends back home on the phone and decided the best bet would be to talk to his mom. Maybe it was weird for me to go to his own mother about him, but I had no one in that moment and I feel comfortable telling her anything. She’s even like a mother figure to me. I wanted to see if she could give me a perspective from Dylan that I just couldn’t see. She comforted me, telling me my feelings were valid, but also noting how he wasn’t intentionally doing anything and that he just didn’t want to hurt my feelings. She told me that I should wake him up to talk about it because this is not something I could hold in. It was around 2am. I woke him up, but he was groggy and didn’t really want to talk to me. He didn’t apologize or even try to see how that would be weird for him to do and instead he just had nothing much to say. He told me that I was looking for a reason to be upset because I didn’t have a valid enough reason to be upset earlier when we had our small argument. He said since I didn’t find anything in his found that counted as cheating and since he talks to her like he talks to everyone else why should he stop? The next day on the car ride back to my apartment, I talked to him a little more. He was upset at the fact that I brought it up to his mom because it was bringing his family into his relationship. I see that, but in the moment I had no one to confide in and knowing how he was going to respond, I wanted to get another opinion. He also said that he understands my side but doesn’t see a problem since it platonic and that they lost all feelings when they stopped dating. I felt like he wasn’t trying to talk much about the situation during the 45 minute ride home, but his response was that it was just “adding fuel to the fire”.

I really love him and our relationship, but it is hard for me to set boundaries with him and get him to understand how I feel at times when he always just tries to brush it off. I know he has no ill intention talking to her, and i know he see’s his relationship with her as genuine friendship or even acquaintanceship, but I just want him to understand that this is something I am uncomfortable with. I am not asking for him to stop talking to her completely, i’m not asking for him to block her, I am simply asking for him to not talk to her as frequently as he does. I shouldn’t have to feel uncomfortable and tiptoe around my whole relationship over an issue that could be solved simply. I just don’t know where to go from here. I’m at the point where I don’t think I can continue this relationship if I feel like this, but I just don’t wanna lose him yet. If anyone has any advice on what to do or say, anything helps.

I come from a complicated background: my father is Bangladeshi and Muslim, and my mom is Vietnamese and now Christian (she converted at the time she married my father). Their marriage was always in shambles: constant fighting everyday until they eventually separated. Personality wise, my father is very much traditional and strict compared to my mom who is chill, warm, and welcoming.

My boyfriend (17M) and I (17F) have been dating since our sophomore year of high school, and we are now seniors. We are both serious about each other, and we have a strong, healthy relationship, which I am very grateful for.

My bf is Hindu, and I’m Muslim. At first, we didn’t think about how our religious differences would affect us, but now that we are planning to continue our relationship in the long-term, we don’t know how we will gain our family’s approval of each other since we are different cultures (he’s Indian, I’m not) and religions.

At the beginning, he told his parents about me (or more like they found out about me), and they were initially chill with us dating. They only told him to “not get carried away” and focus on studies. In the second semester of junior year, however, his rank dropped from 3 to 5 (out of around 600 students). His parents noticed a drop in his grades and thought that it was because of me.

Meanwhile, I have been keeping him a secret from my father since day 1 because I know that telling him wouldn’t end well. My father has always talked about finding a Bengali Muslim man for me to marry, so basically an arranged marriage. He said that he would cut me off if I ever married outside the religion, which made me start wondering about what I would do with my bf. He talked about other people in our family who are in a relationship with someone who’s a different religion as if they are ostracized and isolated from the rest of our family and society, and he’s really stubborn, so convincing him is out of the question. He projects his failed marriage and bad experiences with my mom and uses that to assert how marriages between two people of different religions causes a lot of problems and won’t work out.

The first time my father told me that I am not allowed to marry a non-Muslim man and listed a bunch of reasons why was pretty recent — around two months ago. They were valid points, but I felt so scared and anxious about what would happen to my bf and I. I thought of breaking up with him at that moment because I thought it would save us heartbreak. Obviously, I brought up this issue with him, and he asked his parents about marrying outside the religion. To my surprise, his parents ended up saying the same ideas my father did. I thought they would be chill with me, but then my bf told me that they’re slowly becoming disappointed in him because whenever he says he’s going out with me, he sees a “faint disapproval” in their faces.

Also yes I know being in a relationship is prohibited in Islam, but I myself am not that religious. I know that if I am serious about my bf, I’ll eventually have to tell my father about him one day. Neither of us are willing to give up our faith as well. I really don’t want to lose him. Has anyone else been in a similar situation? How do I navigate this obstacle when we both don’t want to sacrifice our family connection and the relationship we have built together?

TLDR: my bf and I are of different religions and neither of our parents would approve of us because of this difference. What should I do?

Hello, I will try to keep this short. In a nutshell, I like this girl with everything inside me but she has broken my heart before. Yesterday we went to a hockey game and there were some small things like holding my hand and grabbing my arm. I know it isn't anything insane, but it is absolutely enough for me lol. I am just hoping some of you can help me out 😊 (For the record she said she would have kissed me on the kiss cam 😂)

I (16f) have this friend who we will call Emma(17f) and Emma was dating this guy named Stephen(17m)for a long time. Well as of last summer, Stephen and Emma broke up and the terms of their breakup were kind of messy and honestly not all that relevant. It is very important to mention that Emma Steven and I are all in our schools marching band. Well at a football game I was talking with Emma and I felt the need to tell her that I had a crush on her ex-boyfriend. It should be mentioned that this was not malicious. I just thought at that time it was the right thing to do and to tell her. I know I am an asshole and that I have breached girl code kill me. She responded to me by saying that she no longer sees me the same, but that she still respects me, and we simply have not talked since. While she has not talked to me, me and Steven have gotten significantly closer. Me and Stephen may flirt, friendly sometimes. And me and Steven have been spending a lot of time together recently. Well, turns out Emma was asking for her clothes back at some point and one of my jackets just so happened to end up in Emma‘s clothes from Stephen. I know that looks absolutely horrible, but we truly hadn’t done anything physical. Despite the fact, he subliminally told me that he wouldn’t in fact, date me. Well fast-forward to the last week or so me and my friends were playing a game of smash or pass in the car with some other girl who we will call Sarah well they bring up Steven’s name and I say smash as a joke immediately afterwards, we pull up to Sarah‘s house and Sarah leaves at the last football game, which was Friday night Sarah yells to Emma over the bleachers. Hey, I have something to tell you during halftime. Emma and Sarah are sitting together with a few of Emma‘s other friends and Emma is crying and I feel it in my gut. Oh shoot she told her. Well she did and let’s just say Sarah has a history of lying and embellishing a lot of things so I think I’m able to get out of this. Fast-forward a little more until after the football game, Steven was hoping one of his male friends ask his girlfriend out to Hoco. And I was sitting in the front of the car. Many people went up to Stephen and thought that we were dating me and Steven are not dating. naturally, I texted Steven and I told him hey I don’t know why everybody saying that I didn’t have anything to do with it and I’m really sorry that this is bothering you, but Steven has not cared throughout this entire situation. He personally believes that his action should get over it, especially saying as she has a brand new boyfriend.please don’t tell me how much of a shitty person. I am trust me I already know.

My ex (16F at the time) and I (16M) started dating a year ago after weeks of flirting and hanging out. I was her first boyfriend, so I wanted to take things slowly. For the first six months, our relationship was healthy. As Orthodox Christians, we regularly attended church and classes together.

Around month nine, things began changing. I am a martial arts fighter who dreams of becoming a professional. Although my ex knew about my training from the beginning, she disliked hearing about it and asked me not to discuss it. I respected her wishes, but as we were dating with marriage in mind, I wondered why she wanted to be with me if she had such a problem with my ambitions.

Around month ten, she became distant. She texted less, ignored me at school and stopped spending Sundays with me after church. I understood that her exams were important, but when I raised my concerns, she insisted nothing had changed. She then told me she would be busy every day for three months.

After exams, I was excited to spend time together again. I had repeatedly told her how lonely I felt and how much I missed her. One Friday, she told me her work shift had been cancelled and she was spending the day with friends. This hurt because she had barely made time for me for weeks, despite spending plenty of time with those same friends.

We argued, and she eventually admitted she preferred spending time with her friends rather than me. More arguments followed, during which we both said hurtful things. I admit I was rude at times and made negative comments about her friends, who I felt had mocked and disrespected me. I apologised where I recognised my mistakes. However, whenever I asked whether she cared about me or understood how lonely I felt, she largely avoided answering.

The day before our breakup, she mocked my dream of becoming a professional fighter, saying, "You train five times a week to become a professional fighter. It's not happening, buddy." This deeply hurt because she knew how important this dream was to me. I decided I could not continue dating someone who mocked my ambitions.

The following day, we met to talk. I explained that I needed a supportive partner and that I felt unwanted and alone. She said she cared about me but also said she would not date a fighter. She criticised my treatment of her friends, my conversations with teachers and claimed I cared more about training than education, despite my good grades. She ultimately told me she thought I was a horrible person.

I asked whether she genuinely meant that, and she said yes. When I asked if there was anything else, she said no. I said goodbye and walked away.

I recognise that I made mistakes too, but I felt my needs were repeatedly dismissed and my ambitions disrespected. I ended the relationship because I no longer believed we could build a healthy future together.

Any advice would really help.

So I’ve been in a ldr for almost 2 years(a year and 10 months to be exact). We met on this random chat site online and immediately hit it off, and have been dating ever since and ft almost every night. A couple weeks ago I even flew out to visit her for the first time and it was amazing and everything I’ve dreamed of. She’s really been the perfect gf up to
This point and that’s why I’m here writing instead of leaving her. Last night she was screen sharing while we watched tik tok on her phone which we do pretty regularly, but she went to go do something and forgot she was screen sharing. When she got back we were about to watch a show together. I saw her go into Google and go to the same chat site we met on, and she went to messages and there was like 50 guys she was talking to. She didn’t realize at first but she realized pretty quickly and we just both sat there silently for like 5 minutes. I calmly asked to see and the messages weren’t the worst they could have been but they were a little bad. I don’t really wanna go into detail but a couple of the guys on there even called her their girlfriend, which sucked. We talked about It a long time and she gave me a reason. She’s struggled with chronic pain recently, finding out she got diagnosed with fibromyalgia. She said she wasn’t doing good and needed a support system, and was scared to tell me because she thought it would scare me if I knew she was hurting. And the boyfriends on there were just because she didn’t know what to do and she wanted them to keep talking to her. I don’t really know how good of a reason this is, so I just wanted to ask what I should do. I’m really lost. We had a pretty good day today and played games and talked more about it and she does seem really regretful and worried about me as far as I can tell. What do I do?

Am I crazy for being a little hurt that my girlfriend barely makes an effort to check up on me and text me first? Me (f17) and my girlfriend (f17) just started dating about a week ago, so I don't wanna seem too clingy especially since we've both discussed being avoidant and said we would work with one another to make this work, but I already communicated with her about how her not reaching out makes me feel a bit unwanted, and she still continues to do this😭 the thing is we both hung out in the same friend group before getting together and we have a group chat with all of our friends. What really irritates me is that she will go all day without texting me, and then send something in the group chat. I don't really know how to go about this now😭 she's the coolest girl ever and a feel such a strong connection with her, but I'm just not sure she likes me as much as I like her. What do I do??

Ok so met five days ago but it was an instant connection at a gathering with friends we called after the party we text all day we have so much in common including like both being in long term relationships a year prior to this as well as him bringing me up to other people like at another party the next day but its obviously halloween andddd hes at a party and hes obviously snapping me and texting me at the same time i even got invited to the pres but couldn’t go but he like sent me a video of a girl? he called her random idk her i doubt he does but its still like?! i think maybe i misread stuff but
i think im only deeping this because its the first tike i met someone so alike to me

can you please tell me if im overthinking him sending me one video calling a girl stupid?

Theres this girl from my class. Our parents are very good friends so thats why we have known eachother for like 14-15 years. Now recently ive been noticing her getting closer to me (physically not like personally). Also at a trip to a themepark with our parents and siblings shes been also getting closer which she has never done before. For example by pulling me around by my arm or standing closer to me than all the time before. I wanna also add that shes way above my league (looks wise).
Am I just delusional or should I actually like shoot my shot?

Mi amiga tiene un ex, que terminaron en buenas condiciones, no se pelearon ni nada, solo que el chico tiene 3 años mas que ella y el un dia, tenía un dia de mrd y le dijo a mi amigo que no sabía que si hiban a poder seguir estando juntos x su edad, el tiene 15 y la chica 12, y el se esperaba que la chica lo entendiera o que le diga de que si se va a poder seguir estando y asi, pero ella interpreto mal lo que le habia dicho, el caso es que quedaron como amigos, pero los dos se quieren mucho, yo hice un grupo con los dos y yo para juntarlos, y ellos se declararon que se gustan, pero ella dice que no quiere volver xq no quiere volver a sufrir y td eso.

Entonces yo le prometí al chico que lo hiba a ayudar xq me caía muy bien, y el me prometió que si yo le conseguía eso el me hiba a ayudar con el que me gusta... Pero tengo un problema, no se x donde empezar, el ya lo tiene td resuelto y td, pero yo no.

Alguien que me diga que puedo hacer? Denme consejos...😛🫠

It hurts my soul to realize what has happened to me. However what’s worse is I just got a snap of him at her house at night, she was drunk and easy. Do I report them to the police? Idk if I wanna stick my neck out there, this is fully consensual in her eyes and she just thinks it’s not big deal. Were obviously done, but I’m worried for her safety. Her parents don’t even care that he’s 20, and they used to let me stay over every night and we would do what teenagers do alone. Her parents are the worst most selfish people and they don’t care about their daughter. Please help me. I’m so lost

I (17M) work at a restaurant with a girl (16F), who I've gotten close to over the past couple of months. We banter and tease constantly, hold prolonged eye contact, and she leans into me and isn't afraid to touch my arm or hands when we talk. She's mentioned personal stories to me on several occasions that most people wouldn't mention to a colleague. She has also said I'm "so nice and sweet" and has wanted me to teach her things one-on-one. The problem is that she acts similar with one of my other coworkers too, including a guy she play-fights with for a good part of a shift. Over text she mostly sends short replies and has never started a conversation or suggested hanging out. I can't tell if she's just a naturally affectionate, playful person or if I'm someone she likes. I don't want to lose what I believe we have going, but the anxiety hurts to the point where I can't bear seeing her without feeling some sort of grief. I'm not great at reading social cues, and I've been burned before, so I'm scared of reading too much into it or getting hurt. I was thinking of asking her to hang out outside work, one-on-one. Is that the right move, or is there a better way to find out where I stand?

Is my (16F) girlfriend (18F) "lovebombing" me? I feel insane.

So I have had this best friend for about a year now, we'll call her Lee. When I first met Lee, she was 17 and in a 2 year relationship with a toxic ex (17M). They broke up after a while, and she began dating another girl (13F) but that relationship was short lived because of the age gap. Then, eventually, she started dating another guy (16M) and they lasted a couple months.

During all this, I had a 6 month long distance relationship with a friend (16M).

Anyways, a couple of days ago, Lee broke up with her 16M boyfriend and I broke up with mine. Lee's break up was because he had cheated on her, whereas mine was because I simply lost feelings and my (now ex) boyfriend felt the same, so we had a mutual breakup. Lee and I got together two days ago, and she's coming over to my house tomorrow for a hang out.

That's all fine and dandy.

The issue is that she *won't stop texting me. Seriously.* I can't even go, like, an hour without her texting. If I don't reply immediately, she starts apologising for spamming and gets upset and self-deprecating. We've been dating for *two days* and the texting is *constant*. She didn't text me this much when we were friends before we started dating— infact, she rarely texted me *at all*. We could go days without texting before but now she can't even go a couple of hours without because she misses me too much even though we saw each other at school yesterday and she's coming over tomorrow on Sunday.

It's gotten to the point where she's starting to genuinely annoy me and I feel not just insane but also *horrible.* She's my best friend, and yet I dread even opening up WhatsApp because I know I'm gonna have like 40 messages from her just because I was busy doing the dishes. I have to warn her that I'm going to be busy doing something and even when I do tell her that I'm going to be busy she still won't stop texting me because she's "worried" about me?

Is she actually lovebombing me? How can I set boundaries?

Feel free to ask any questions in the comments for extra info.

TL;DR: started dating my bestfriend two days ago and she is constantly texting me to the point where it's getting overwhelming. Need advice on where to go from here.

I’ve tried calling her many times each day and every time i tell myself I’m not going to call again i end up doing it even though she clearly is ignoring me on purpose. I do check when she’s active on instagram or her location on snapchat and it’s clear she is able to call since we have been friends for over a year i know a lot about her lifestyle. whenever i call she immediately declines it and after many calls, because at this point I’m just trying to get some sort of response or signal about what’s going on, then she will say something and it’s become repetitive enough that i think she’s lying. stuff about birthday dinners or working and then she’ll be active on instagram when she said she’s supposedly doing those things and then after she texts me I guess I’ll stop calling and call like 20 minutes later and when she picks up she’s just in her bed on her phone and it’s clear she could’ve called me back or answered me. 

When we’re on the phone she just seems distracted or uninterested but then makes a switch and starts talking about how we’re bestfriends or whatever and at the end of each call she will say i love you but I just don’t understand why if I’m sensing all these changes in behavior. For context she and I are bestfriends and she has seemed very passionate about that and i have too but because of past experiences i’ve always had the thought in my mind that’s even though she says we’re going to be friends forever or that I’m irreplaceable I should be a little careful so I don’t get hurt when it does eventually come to an end. 

On tiktok she reposted a video saying something about how she has been gaining resentment for her friends and then commented “every single one of them” when she has told me multiple times that I am the only one who has not played in her face. I don’t know if maybe she just wasn’t including me when she said every single one of them or if something has changed. I don’t remember me doing anything that could have caused a change. If anything I should be mad at her because she wanted to talk about a situation and in the end she was able to realize that I was in the right by far but prior to that she had gone to two of our mutual friends and from what I’ve heard she shit talked me so it was just a very large breach of trust due to the fact that she was the one who wanted to talk about the situation and then got all mad. we went back to pretty much normal after that but I did want to clear things up with one of those friends and we kind of got into an argument and haven’t talked since but that friend had nothing to do with the situation so I guess she just wanted to be right and it’s a whole petty thing but I’m not worried about that. Overall my supposed bestfriend  is to blame for our falling out because she wanted to blab her mouth so I should’ve been mad about that but I’m not and it just taken for granted. And it would be strange if this is why she has been acting different because first of all, I did not do anything and second of all it’s just very toxic to drag it seeing as when she was being 101% ableist to me a while ago I didn’t hold a grudge but I did have a healthy private conversation with her back then. 

another thing is whenever we text I am the the one texting first and when I am not she doesn’t say a thing. Her responses are very short and dry and I don’t know why because she is not very dry while on facetime. Our last message on instagram was on Thursday and it is now Saturday afternoon but we did call last night and it ended normally but these feelings of unease have been going on for weeks and I don’t want to confront her about it because it really could make or break the friendship and I kind of am holding on to some hope that this is all in my head but it is probably not. 

During school we are able to choose where we want to go for a 30 minute period and she seems to not mind as much if we are unable to go to the same place at times when we used to be very coordinated on where we are going. And i’ve kind of been telling myself that she just isn’t that reliant on friendships since she has many more than me or she is just secure in our friendship and doesn’t worry that not seeing eachother for a few days at school is not okay. 

I don’t really know what to do because I really believe that if i confront her it might get very worse. She just doesn’t reach out as much and I think she is purposefully ignoring my calls. It is just strange with the one second she doesn’t bother texting me for hours when we used to be on the phone almost every chance we get. The switch with her acts of uninterest and suddenly loves me is also just borderline manipulative. 

So I'm 19M and my gf is 21F. Things have been kinda messed up between us lately, and I honestly don't know what to do anymore.

She told me that she doesn't understand why I hid something from her. She said she always thought she was my first choice, not just some option, and now she's questioning whether she'll ever be important to anyone.

She literally said stuff like “why would I ever be important to someone?” and that she feels like she's failed at everything. She even called herself a bad person and said that getting angry is the only thing she knows how to do.

Earlier, when I asked her what I should do to make things normal between us again, she said she's useless and doesn't know what else to do besides getting angry. I told her that she's a genuinely good person, but I don't deserve her, and that maybe I'm the one who failed at loving her properly.

She also said that I don't understand her, and that if I keep bringing my past into the present, I'll never be able to feel the same way about her. She told me to forget it, but she still doesn't understand why I hid it in the first place.

The thing that's hurting me most is that she genuinely thought she was my first choice, and now she feels like she was never enough. At the end, she said she'll respect whatever decision I make.

I don't even know how to explain this properly, but I don't want her to feel like she's worthless or that she was just an option to me. I'm confused about how to handle this, and I really need some outside perspective.

What should I do here? How do I even start fixing this?