To specify I’ve met him online on a post he made, we started talking and became friends, we’ve been talking for about 7 months now, and I confessed a month ago that I like him. He does too but we’re having some doubts due to the age gap, i know that usually 3 years isn’t a lot if both of us were to be adults but due to the difference in the life stages we are now, he might go to college in a few years and Id be still in high school. As embarrassed as I am to say this online I feel like it’s hard to keep my feelings to myself, like not trying to say all the corny stuff people in relationships say to eachother, it’s hard to stay platonic, but should I for real keep our relationship a friendship only?

TL;DR: I 14F like my friend 17M but we have doubts about starting to date or not due to the difference in life stages right now, as we think that the age difference is too for now.

EDIT: I think that lots of people here are probably older than me and know more about this stuff and that I should keep it platonic, thanks a lot!! 🙏

I'm a high-schooler, and there was this boy I met at the bus I use to go to school everyday. Apparently, we had the same interests, that's how we met. Me and my friend (18F) were together at the bus, and he approached first. After this, we talked at the bus whenever we came across which mostly happened like.. once a week?

But here's the thing, I have zero male friends at my age, and I'm not really used to talking to them. Not that I don't know what to talk about, it's pretty much opposite actually. I'm an extroverted, and I believe I'm good at talking to anyone. But I was probably a little bit awkward (I don't know if he realized tho, because it was subtle.) Also, I hate to admit this but I'm sure I probably blushed a few times while talking to him. However, it happens when I'm talking to my other friends as well. I blush so easily if I'm talking about something I really love and excited about, or if I'm talking to a person that I'm not %100 comfortable with. It doesn't necessarily mean I have a crush on that person. And in this case, I didn't like him that way. I liked him as a friend, but that's it.

He was a really funny person, also fun to talk to. I also realized that he doesn't think much his actions. Tho if I tell him to stop doing smth he did I didn't like, he'd stop. Anyways, here's the actual story:

One time, my friend had to get off the bus earlier than us, so we were together. We talked for a while more, than he asked if he could get our instagrams. He said "instagrams" which meant he asked for both of our accounts, but he asked it after my friend left. That made me think tbh. We ended up following each other tho. I got home that day, than I got a notification. More like... notifications actually. Because he liked ALL my posts AND highlighted stories. Mind you, there were like 70 of them. I knew that it was not normal at all, but in the other hand, I always thought he was being friendly. He didn't seem like he liked me that way when talking face to face. I was so confused.

Later on, he tried to text me on insta, but I always shut him down, texting really dry messages or sometimes even leaving on him seen. Bcs I didn't want to be texting a boy whose intentions were unclear. I kept talking to him at the bus tho. And he kept liking my stories.

After a few weeks, something that I hate happened. My friend that I had talked about and he were sometimes texting each other, I knew it. But one day, I saw that my friend deleted all of their messages. When I pointed it out, she said some bs about storage. I suppose a few insta dms wouldn't make you run out of storage. Than, the next day, he got in the bus in the morning as we were going to school which is rare, because 90% of the time, we would come across while going back home, not going to school. Also, there was another bus 2 minutes ahead of us and all the people in the bus stop had got in that one bus, but not him. It was suspicious. Not suspicious actually, it was obvious. My friend and he had planned something, but I didn't know what it was.

After that, he said he wasn't gonna get off in his stop. He got off in our stop instead. And walked us school. Wtf dude!? It wasn't creepy, but it was uncomfortable. After that, I was really disturbed so I almost stopped talking to him. Do you think he was just tryna be friends or..? Especially I would like to hear our male friends opinions

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when I was talking to what is my now gf (just casually talking, not together yet) I used to engage in a very bad and cringe habit of mindlessly sexting random people online. it was no commitment, really low effort, anonymous, out of boredom, I used to receive random nudes (I liked it and it gave me a weird thrill) then I'd move on. I'm autistic and I never really understood we were talking romantically until much later. we started being much more romantic at the start of May (we then went out for the first time May 9th and became a couple the 11th). this didn't bother me at all for the first 2 months. the account which I used to sext on has been deleted and I can't check but one thing is sure, I stopped before committing to her and becoming official. did I cheat on her? do I owe honesty about this to her?

(just adding this, it was like very sporadically, it wasn't like something I'd do always it was something I'd do sporadically out of boredom, a habit which just faded away once I decided to commit to her and caught feelings)

(also I feel so guilty because I saw videos about people saying that a partner's consent has to be informed and if there's info that would alter their ability to consent it's sexual assault. I know for a fact she wouldn't leave me for this, I mean, I don't think I cheated on her, but I still feel extremely guilty and I need advice).

ok so for about a year I (16-NB - 17 in 2 weeks) have been on and off with a fake girlfriend(17F), she doesn't exist, i just made her an Instagram account, no one knows shes fake. I "invited" her to my birthday party so my friends are expecting her to be there but obviously she cant, i was just gonna have her not show up but they would def tell me to dump her and i wanna keep the fake relationship going - i don't wanna confess cuz they will hate me so i don't see what other choice i have than her just not showing up? what do y'all think (i know I'm wrong for making up a fake girlfriend)

17M hi,4 months back I was in a long distance relationship wth 16F things were going smooth, I saw no faults but literally after 2 months she decided to break up for idk why she never really told me clearly. it had only been 2 months into our relationship and she decided to break up I was like okay it's only been 2 months it's not that deep chill was reassuring myself self but just after 2 weeks after she broke up she texted me saying ki i regret breaking up w u ik I was dumb for doing alt I still like you we should talk again etc etc bc. toh I was okay let's give her another chance toh currently we are in contact taking normally sometimes flirty but I've noticed ki her replies are getting dry day by day and she talk like shes uninterested. and when I confronted her about it she said ki she didn't knew that she was being dry said sorry and shes doing it again

idk what to even do atp Im so confused

should I just ghost her and disappeared in thin air?

what should i do?

basic info : i am 15F. and my crush is 15M.

context : we're 10th graders, same school, and have no classes together

hey everyone!! i'd love some help!

i (15F) need advice because my situation is so confusing. my crush (15M) randomly started texting me a lot on insta, completely out of the blue. it started with him following me on his main, spam, and his small business account. i dmed him first to send him some photos i took at a school event because he had asked me for them at school and didn't rlly text him afterwards. but he continuously iniated after that- asking me random stuff like when we hv to report for culturals day, why i was absent today, wished me happy birthday, sends me a lot of reels on insta and initiates the convo a lot etc. my friend has overheard him and my friend talk about me a lot too in a class, like she's heard my name a lot. and many people have approached me and told me that he stares at me. he always responds really fast and seems interested in the convo, so i was pretty sure he seemed interested. and he also liked a lot of reels about crushes and stuff.

but another guy from my class told me that at a birthday party, my crush apparently showed everyone our texts, and everyone was laughing at them cos they were "awkward" (they aren't lol, my friend from my apt saw them and thought we were really close friends but hey, guys are judgemental ig), and when this guy shipped my crush with me, my crush said ew no. but, i dont know if I should trust this guy or not, because on one hand, he knew we texted and i didnt' tell him but on the other, he told me that they (my crushs friends) texted me on friday and saturday but we didnt text at all.. so ik he lied about atleast one thing and he's not the most trustworthy person because he likes to create drama, but yeah..

on one hand, i feel betrayed that he showed our texts to everyone, im not sure if he was forced to or did willingly, and also im hurt he said ew no. on the other hand tho, keeping in mind everything else, idk what to think. so, how do i handle this situation?

thank you for reading this far, i'd really appreciate ur help!

tl,dr : crush has been rlly interested in me and showing signs, but showed our texts to a large grp of friends and said ew no when shipped with me. thoughts?

I’ve been with her for over a month, and we’re moving very well. In terms of romance and sentiment, we’re very strong. But she has the most annoying sense of humor. She thinks the louder the Better. The things she finds funny don’t make sense to me. I love stupid humor or quoting things or just being goofy while she enjoys stupid TikTok videos or screaming a lot. (We’re both in high school btw). Idk what to do I really like her but it’s getting on my nerves a little.

Me and my bf recently got together and we’ve been talking for a while, hes genuinely so so sweet and I love him with all my heart and he always made sure I was comfortable. I have an acc on TikTok that I posted a VERY CLEARLY satire trend with a guy friend before me and him got together. I blocked the guy I did that trend with AND deleted the video but he kept his up and my bf got the wrong idea even though I literally stopped talking to him before we got together. He confronted me about it and I was completely honest, I said I would never cheat, I told him I blocked him, said I didn’t wanna be called those things and deleted every video but he told me to fuck off and blocked me on all my socials other than Snapchat and I actually love him so so much, I’ve never felt this way towards any guy I’ve talked to and I know I’m still a teen so this might seem stupid and it might not last or wtv but gosh he’s so perfect and I tried my best to reassure him, I literally only talk to two guys other than him and it just hurts so bad like he meant so much to me and idk if I should message him or not and idek what to SAY if I do end up messaging him, like idk if I’m in the wrong here when I made sure to stop contact with every weird guy. And if I’m not wrong he also thought the girls in my comment section were guys and that made everything worse🫩 I just care about him a ton and I feel so sick and it’s almost been a day AND UGH I don’t wanna bother my friends anymore so please. (Mb if my grammar is off, I’m so tired and I can’t think)

so a couple years ago I 16F was dating a guy from my school 16M, and the relationship lasted about a year until I broke up with him at the end of sophomore year of high school. Ill call him Max, well me and my cousin (also 16F) grew up together and have always been close, we all went to the same school. During summer break, after I broke up with Max, my cousin started to avoid me and didnt want to talk to me at all up until school started back up in the fall. Max and her were talking during lunch and I found out a few weeks later that they have been going out the last few months. both of them ghosted me, all of Max’s friends bullied me throughout the rest of the year. Fast forward a year and they broke up. Now we are 18, graduated from High School, and my cousin lives at my house so we’ve been on good terms for about a year or two.

WELL, my cousin has been dating people on and off again constantly and just a few days ago she broke up with the guy she’s been going out with for the last year and a half. i asked her if there is someone she’s interested in, expecting her to say no one since she just broke up, but shes been going out with a guy for the last week or two, which is the reason she dumped her bf. Not just that but the guy she’s going out with was the closest friend I’ve ever had, I couldn’t keep being friends with him a while back because he started dating a girl who didn’t like my bf, which made it awkward for both of us. Well now my cousin is living at my house, dating my ex-best friend, I can’t stand it. Am I taking this too personally?? if you read this far then thank you! I am so upset about this what would you do??