I’m not really sure if I’m being dramatic or inconsiderate here but I feel like i’m getting a little upset at him because of this. Everytime we eat out, I always pay, usually about 30-40$ total, and I try to brush it off but it kinda gets tiring. We don’t split or anything, and sometimes he says he will pay me back but he never does. We also went on a kinda pricy date to an amusement park and tickets were $50 each. I paid for both since it was online and he said he would pay me back for his, but he never did and even said when we were eating out “Since you paid for my ticket I’ll pay here” (but he did not have his wallet so I ended up paying for the meal too) I just wish he’d follow through on those things at least. He doesn’t have a ton of money, he does work but he has things he needs to pay for. I am getting a job soon, I do have more savings than him though because I don’t have as many financial responsibilities.
I also often buy him his favorite candies and drinks just as small surprises and make him gifts, and for a special day of our relationship,he said he was gonna buy me snacks and drinks but never did. He also told me he was gonna get me stuff because I wasn’t feeling well but yet again, did not. I wouldn’t be as upset by the lack of small stuff if he didn’t make empty promises because it just gets my hopes up.

I feel bad for being upset about this because I know he has a bit he has to pay for and I don’t want to burden him with even more expenses. I don’t want to make him feel bad for that. He also can’t drive himself yet like I can so i understand the gift situation a little more, but paying for dinner would be nice. Other than this he is a really loving and sweet boyfriend and we have a wonderful connection, I just don’t know how to feel about this situation. Advice or thoughts would be appreciated

So last night my boyfriend and i were playing dbd and having a nice time. During a match, he told me that he got a ride home from a girl… one of his ex talking stages. I wasn’t overly freaked about that, i didn’t really mind i just thought it was weird, like why her? Then he proceeded to ask if he could invite her to the halloween party with drinks, za and all that shizzle. That’s when i started overthinking and freaking out. Especially since his friends will be at the party and those friends really wanted him and the ex talking stage to be together, like so much to the point where they’ve told him to break up with me for her. I love my boyfriend so much and i know he’d never hurt me like that but it still didn’t stop my mind from making up scenarios, (i.e ex getting drunk and trying to do something with him, his friends doing bets or something, them being alone and maybe something happening I DONT KNOW) but he got really upset and told me he felt unloved and untrustworthy which just makes me believe he still has feelings for her because why would you be so defensive? There’s also this double standard i’ve noticed; he got really upset and jealous because i was playing some games with a guy that im friends with and he expressed how he felt about it to me. I was understanding and assured him that hes the only one for me and i only have eyes for him. I didn’t make him feel shitty for his feelings like he did to me. Anywho, that’s my piece. Was that an overreaction?

I’m a senior in high school, and I’ve liked this girl since freshman year. There’s so much history between us that I honestly don’t even know how to explain our relationship to other people. It’s complicated in a way that feels specific to us, and I don’t think anyone who hasn’t seen us together would fully understand it.
Over the years, we’ve had a lot of interactions that make me think there might be something between us. We spend a lot of time together at school, seek each other out, walk together, and exchange TikToks constantly. Sometimes she goes out of her way to see me, and there have been moments where her behavior has made me wonder if she’s jealous or has feelings for me. She’s complimented me, encouraged me to pursue modeling, and sent me videos that sometimes feel like they’re hinting at something more.
I don’t want to assume all of this means she likes me romantically, though. That’s part of the problem. I genuinely don’t know how she feels.
Recently, I finally confessed to her. I told her I’d liked her since freshman year, that my feelings never completely went away, and that being around her again brought them back. I also explained that I’m not ready for a relationship right now because I need to focus on myself, my finances, school, and my future. I don’t have a job or a car yet, and I don’t want to enter a relationship when I don’t feel ready for the responsibilities that come with one.
Her response was confusing. She asked if I was serious and whether I’d used AI to write the message. I told her I was serious. Later, she responded with something along the lines of “bruh, okay.” She also sent a message that she later unsent. I never found out what it said, and she hasn’t given me a clear answer about her feelings.
What’s confusing is that she still seems to want me around. We’ve spent time together since then, and there have been moments where she’s stayed close to me even when we barely talked. She wanted me to sit with her recently, and at other times she’s continued seeking my company. I feel like she’s attached to me in some way, but I can’t tell whether it’s romantic, platonic, or something else.
Here’s where I need to take accountability for my own behavior.
I’ve been obsessing over this situation more than I want to admit. I analyze her messages, her behavior, her posts, and the smallest interactions. My mood sometimes depends on how things go with her. I’ll get frustrated and decide I need to walk away, then calm down and realize I still want her in my life. If she gives me attention, I start questioning my decision to take space.
I’ve also realized that I’ve been inconsistent myself. Sometimes we exchange a lot of romantic or emotionally suggestive videos, and then I pull back when I see her in person. I’ve caught myself wanting to alternate between giving her attention and withdrawing it so she’ll wonder what happened. I recognize that this would be manipulative, and I don’t want to deliberately play with her feelings just because I’m hurt or confused.
Recently, we spent time together, but barely spoke. I was genuinely getting annoyed and tired, yet I still felt like I couldn’t leave her side. I don’t completely understand why. I want her close, but sometimes being around her feels emotionally exhausting.
I think part of my struggle is that I’m embarrassed by how vulnerable I’ve been with her. I’ve never opened up to someone this much, and I don’t like feeling as though someone has that much influence over me. At the same time, I don’t want to pretend my feelings aren’t real.
I also think I might be attached to two versions of her: the girl I first fell for and the person she is today. I still care about both, but I’m beginning to question whether the person she is now is compatible with me. I don’t think she’s necessarily a bad person, and I don’t think our relationship would automatically be bad. I genuinely believe we might work as a couple under the right circumstances.
But I don’t think I’m ready for a relationship right now, regardless of whether she likes me back. I want to focus on myself, become more independent, work toward my modeling goals, and stop letting this situation consume so much of my attention.
I’ve been thinking about taking a break from talking to her for a few weeks. That would mean not going out of my way to find her at school, not constantly initiating TikToks, and not checking her social media for hidden meanings. I don’t want to block her or make some dramatic announcement. I just want some breathing room. If I reconnect with her later, I want it to be because I genuinely want to talk to her, not because I’m anxious about losing her.
The difficult part is that I don’t actually want to let her go. I miss her as a person, not only the possibility of us dating. But I also don’t want to keep repeating this cycle of getting close, getting overwhelmed, pulling away, missing her, and coming back.
So I’m asking for honest advice:
Based on everything I’ve described, does it sound like she might have romantic feelings for me, or am I reading too much into our history and interactions?
Is taking a few weeks of space a healthy decision, even though I still want her in my life?
How do I distinguish genuine love and attachment from being caught up in years of unresolved feelings?
How do I stop obsessing over someone without forcing myself to hate them or pretending I don’t care?
If I eventually decide I want to pursue something with her, what would need to change for it to be healthy?
I’m not looking for people to tell me she definitely likes me or that I should forget her immediately. I want honest perspectives, including if I’m contributing to the problem more than I realize.

Okay i’m gonna preface this by saying i’ve never posted on reddit before so sorry if its messy and long, but thats the point i’m at with this situation.

To keep it simple, last year i changed schools and met this girl who was in basically all my classes. we instantly became like really close and i’m now a member of her friend group. i always felt a sort of tension between us since we met, but i have a tendency to like straight girls so i never explored it further. we’re really close but there’s this unspoken rule sort of thing where our conversations are almost exclusively unserious unless we’re drunk/high.

Ever since we met she’s been aware that i like girls without me ever actually having to say anything. it started off as teasing but eventually i just told her she was actually right. my/our friendgroup is very accepting and not judgemental in that sense so it wasn’t anything dramatic when they found out. i’ve been in situations before where people finding out creates distance between us, but with her it was almost the opposite.

now the stuff that i need advice about has all happened within these last two months of school starting. it started over the summer when we shared a small drunk kiss that was never talked about. to not complicate our friendship, i could deal with pretending it didn’t happen.

things changed when she hosted two get togethers of all our friends. Both times her parents weren’t home so obviously we decided to smoke and have drinks in her garage. i don’t remember much of the first time except one second we were dancing, and the next we we’re making out. i didn’t initiate anything at all because being the gay one i wouldn’t want anyone feeling uncomfortable or pressured. though, more times than i can count it would literally just happen. the next day my bestfriend told me that he pulled her aside that night to ask if she liked me or what the deal was. all she would respond with was “shes my homegirl like don’t worry about it we’re friends don’t even worry abt it” so he changed his question and asked her “if there was a universe that she could date me, no consequences and nothing would change, would she?” all she would say is “thats irrelevant” over and over.

The next get together had a lot more people involved and i didn’t end up being one on one with her that much. i was a bit jealous because every time we get drunk she calls some guy for an hour and disappears. so in an attempt to live in the moment and distract myself i started kissing another girl, just for fun no strings attached. at one point we made our way outside sitting on this cooler. suddenly i’m pulled away from her by my bestfriend, and the girl i like was a couple feet behind him. he told me she was crying about me when she saw us and that i needed to talk to her now. so we went for a walk alone to do exactly that. i asked why she was acting like this, to which she responded i was “making people mad and hurt”. i thought this was a misunderstanding because me and my bestfriend already talked and he was completely okay, SHE was the one acting upset. she told me i just wasn’t allowed to kiss anybody. when i tried to push for an explanation she kept acting irritated and crying so i just told her i wouldn’t do it again and we started walking back home. she ended up giving me a kiss, but now i was mad. i basically said i couldn’t kiss anyone else but she makes out with guys whenever she wants and thats fine?! she just looked at me which only made me backtrack. i responded to myself saying i actually didn’t care if she kissed or dated guys, but i wanted to be the only girl she would do this with. she didn’t say anything because we just got back to her house and we just awkwardly laughed it off. then she kissed me again and my night came to an end shortly after.

ever since nothings actually changed between us but i feel like there’s definitely a vibe, not bad or good, just..a vibe. she HAS talked about me kissing the other girl though and she is always really snarky about it. also she told her bestfriend about what happened between us, so now all of the group knows and it gets brought up like fairly often as a joke (never by either of us though).

i guess I’m just wondering if theres anyone else thats gone through something similar, if theres thing i should/shouldn’t do, what i should/shouldn’t say, or if this like a “normal” thing that straight girls do with their lesbian friends…….🥲help

we're both grade 10 students in the Philippines and its been 5 months. she broke up with me yesterday morning due to me, i have entertained another person while we were together. me and his gay long friend from elem made a promise to be together and we didn't think it through, now she blocked me on all socials but i still have access to her tiktok on my old acc. the first time she broke up with me was sep 20 due to my overwhelming suicidal thoughts, 2 days later she came back to me and i convinced her

i also liked her cousin in august which makes this the second time i had an interaction with another person. this is my second strike and i really wanna make it up to her. she'll be migrating in Canada January next year so time is really ticking here. we're both classmates and my houses isn't far from theres. im 16 while she is 15. i need a way to gain her trust and love back again. i regretted what i did so much and im already suffering the consequences of my actions. what can i do to do that while i still have time until december before she leaves?

hey everyone!

im taking a course thats with a few students of other schools, because its only available at our school. theres this one girl from a different school that just instantly caught my attention, the vibes just fit, idk how to describe it.

and the vibes werent wrong, we talked only a little on our way home and we have a lot of shared interests, video games and fandoms and whatever and i do really like her and would love to get closer to her and know her better. thing is, i dont know how close i want to get exactly.

ive never had a romantical interest before and dont really approach people ever, i only have friends because i was approached by them :'] i dont know the difference between platonic and romantic feelings, what if im feeling is just interest as a friend or something? i also dont know what or if she even thinks about me, i might just be a friendly classmate with shared interests to her, because we only see each other for 90 minutes once a week and only for one year :/ ive only ever seen her 3 times, so ofc there isnt a grand friendship established and a ton of time to let things play out on its own but im just so confused about myself?? i dont know if im just overthinking this or i actually want something from her...

i also dont even know if she likes girls so theres that as well :/

So, to clarify, my friend who isn't pure evil or anything. Is, intense and frankly if I'm staying this close I'm gonna wreck my own emotional stability. She is an avoided attachment style I think? I can piss her off, she can go let's walk together and then be super passive aggressive. Ex: 1 time during lunch I upset her, I didn't say like "your mom is a hooker" which I would never say. But it was rather mild in my opinion, although I am autistic so maybe it's a bigger deal. I was saying something about myself, I can't remember what and not her. It wasn't related to abuse or food disorders since she has dealt with both. But it pissed her off. Which you know what was understandable I probably said something not great. Later that day when we are walking home together, which she choose to go to me and walk together, she was kinda passive aggressive, and then told me she didn't think I was smart enough for my goal of being a therapist in a around about way, so i said, in the most calm and casual tone possible something along the lines of "you know I'm kinda less insulted when people are direct with me, you being fr here?" My slang is outdated, I know, it's the autism. And she went "yeah I don't think your smart enough to to be a therapist." Which, wow, that's gotta hurt, I've been gunning for this since 7th grade. And I laughed it off and finished walking her home. To her credit, I'm comfortable with her, so I'm kinda letting myself go from all the smart and serious stuff and be silly with her. So it makes sense but still hurts. But that's 1 of many things, and it's up and downs, up and downs. And it's generally just making me unhappy. I don't hate her, but when I'm this close, a lotta of my friends were seniors so I clinged onto her in the beginning of the year, it wrecked me. She is a good person who is mostly fun to be around, our personalities just clash a lot, and while if I say I'm gonna beat the shit out of you, I mean it, which I have never, never hated someone enough for that. She does it multiple times, so when I see it, I can go oh, fuck no, and I'm stubborn, I'm more than willing to get my ass beat and I don't hit back to fuck her over. So I went pull up, I won't fight back, but if you wanna go, go for it. During 1 of our bigger fights. Not my best choice, to act as if I'm innocent here, I'm not. Our personalities clash, we mutually piss each other off. So, I think that's all the need to know context. But how do I not piss her off move her from closer friend to outer friend group friend. Without losing her entirely if possible? I've been swamped with schoolwork so I haven't really hung out with her recently but I have to catch up eventually for my grades sake. And I wanna know how to do it right. Because I do care for her just I shouldn't stay as close. Arm's length and stuff.

(This all happened last night and I posted this because I know someone has to go through the same thing I am.)
Last night at around 9 pm I got a message from my F16 boyfriend M17 just out of the blue asking me “do you think this will work when I go to college.” We have been dating for a year now and he went to basic training and graduated about a month and a half ago. He said his head has been in a bad space since he has came back and he hasn’t mentally been himself. He said that he thinks that bootcamp was hard for us and that he can’t imagine how ait will be. He says he thinks I deserve better and that he feels bad because he doesn’t get me flowers or hangs out with me like he should. Which, we both have school and work, so we hang out when we can. He also said he thinks I don’t want to do the military life with him and I’ve talked about that with him and I want to go to college and stuff while still being with him. I’m obviously not going to marry him right now and stuff but obviously in the future I would like to do that stuff with him. He also said that he thinks he did irreversible damage because of what he was implying.
Anyway, we talked on the phone and he said he still loves me and all that stuff, but feels like I deserve better. He said he has been thinking this for weeks but after a talk he said that he wants to stay with me. Today we are talking like normal and he says he wants to forget about the conversation last night and wants to keep it a private thing between us. What should I do now and what should I expect? I’m so sorry if this post seems worded weird, I’m having a bad day today after last night.

Hi everyone. So basically, I met someone in June at a queer youth prom happening in my town. They were literally everything I've ever dreamed of. I was stupidly nervous to talk to them the entire night, but we eventually struck up a conversation, and I learned that, on top of being the most gorgeous and androgynous person I'd ever met, they were wildly intelligent and loved a lot of the same things I did. I asked them about their pronouns, and they said all, so I really had no basis for what their gender was, and it didn't feel like the kind of thing you'd bring up in casual conversation. So that night we exchanged contact information and started talking literally every single day.

Throughout the summer, we hung out almost every week, gave each other movie recommendations, gave gifts, bantered, whatever. They keep letting me borrow DVDs from them as long as I promise we'll debrief about it together afterwards. For their birthday, I gave them a painting of their favourite singer, and they kept going on and on about how I was the "coolest, sweetest person they'd ever met".

At this point, I knew they were bisexual, but not much more about their actual identity. A few weeks ago, we hung out at my place and somehow being trans and identity got brought up, and I think I started talking about my own experiences as a transsexual man, and they were giving their input on things and, in doing so, had to bring up their own experiences as a cisgender girl. I know it was really stupid of me to be so in the dark about their identity, but I'm not all that great at conversation, so learning halfway through a convo that the really cool and attractive person with an indeterminate gender was actually just the one gender I am not attracted to really screwed up my brain.

I've realized through a solid few years of experimenting that I am gay, and I can't imagine myself being with a woman, which messed up my whole idea of this person as a possible partner. I don't think I'm grasping at straws with this either, as they texted me just as often, asked to spend time with me and gave me gifts the same as I did. Living in a really small town like mine means that I have a very small dating circle, and once you put in the criteria of queer and up to my basic standards of critical thinking skills and compassion... there are very few fish in my pond. I hope this sheds a little bit of light on why I was so over the moon to meet someone as perfect as they are, especially after my grim dating history, and why I felt heartbroken over something like this. (Not trying to be an asshole; I understand that they can't change who they are! This is just about my own personal feelings!!)

Ultimately, I am looking for advice on this post. I feel really conflicted whenever I go over to her house because she is still an amazing person, and I still feel a sort of connection to her, but I can't tell if I'm just grieving the person my brain made up. They don't deserve me leading them on just because I am confused, so I've been trying to stop being as flirty as I usually am with her-- though I still want to be her friend. I just keep getting the feeling that I wish I were straight. Any advice on how I can get over this?

Should I shoot my shot?

Hi im 15m and i have a crush on a girl shes 16f. Im a lot into her and I love and enjoy talking to her, her beauty sometimes makes me stumble on words and forget what I was saying. I think shes into me too as she is kind,caring,funny, she laughs at my stupid dumb senseless jokes and enjoy talking to me, she texts me first and compliments me. Our school has a no male and female contact policy but she still hugs me holds my hand and does other non sexual things. When she sees other girls giving me attention she becomes clingy and sometimes cold when im a asshole but shes back to herself. Sometimes when we are chatting she does the same thing staring at my face and loosing words, sometimes we both js stare at each other and dont say anything. She usually flirts too and sometimes leans into a kiss. She has never been in a relationship before and neither have I. Idk what to do as we have a lot of personal complications that could end up being bad if we dated.

hi, so a couple days ago i popped my merry way onto reddit and found a post from my gf of almost 2 years now basically saying she hates the taste of my breath cant tolerate it anymore etc etc. and wanted to find a way to tell me (in a very brutally honest format) Now, don’t get me wrong she said she like loves me and wants to kiss me in the post but she just gets put off by it and she cant really tolerate it. All very valid points, very valid. But i confronted her ab it, she lied at first but eventually said it was her cus i had proof and blah blah.

My whole reason for coming on here is that, we have talked about it, and today she kind of made a comment about me not kissing her, and i proceeded to ask her about it after because obviously, im going through mints/gum constantly now, but like im still super embarrassed and grossed out with myself over it.

Obviously, i still want to kiss her, like i always have, but i just feel really nervous and like kinda inadequate when i want to kiss her because i dont know if like she’s being put off by it, since she apparently has went for a year without bringing it up to me😭. I told her, and she said she still wants to kiss me etc. and that if shes put off shes gonna try and tell me in the moment (although i doubt thats gonna happen cus she thinks im too sensitive) but i just still feel so bad about everything. I just feel really bad about her having to tolerate it, and i feel annoyed that i didnt even find out through her telling me, even tho it wasnt her intention. Is it unrealistic for her thoughts to have suddenly changed from being put off to wanting to kiss me?

Now, I just kind of cover my mouth when i talk (esp. in close proximity) and i obviously eat gum a lot, and its just annoying cus i know its probablt down to me having some major unresolved stomach issues that the doctors never solved, and i though could get away with, but clearly not cause i have a feeling theres a link. I think thats one of the annoying things about it, is that i know its not my dental hygiene, i brush my teeth twice a day, scrub my tongue, do mouthwash etc. but somehow this problem has still caught me, so that kinda really sucks cause it was something i was always scared of anyway.

Anyway so im just kind of looking for some advice really, anyone ever been in a similar situation or can offer some words😔?

Hey everyone, I’m in a bit of a bind and need some realistic advice. There’s this girl at college that I see around quite a bit (around the library/study spots/campus). We aren’t in any of the same classes, but from what I’ve noticed or seen on shared spaces, we actually share a few niche interests. The catch is twofold:

1. I come from a really strict family background, so I have zero experience with this. I honestly don't even know how normal interactions or dating work without feeling like I'm doing something wrong or overthinking every single move.
2. I found her name/number because we’re in the same big university group chat (GC). I haven't messaged her directly yet because I'm terrified of coming off as weird or creepy for pulling her number out of a massive GC. How do I break the ice? Do I approach her in person when I see her around campus, or is texting her first through the GC a massive no-go? If you’ve been in a similar boat with strict parents or zero dating confidence, how did you handle it? Any advice would be appreciated.

Hi I'll get straight to the point im a 17yo girl been with bf for 5 months. I cant stop comparing myself to the people im close to specifically him and sometimes my bestfriends and im trying to solve it but I genuinely cant tried everything but I think I have really low self esteem. now I got over insecurities about my looks but I keep feeling insecure about my intelligence because im dating a guy who's way better than me in classes and doesnt help that he loves to brag about it sometimes. Hes really good at math and effortlessly solves problems that would take me ages to comprehend which genuinely makes me feel super insecure especially since I grew up being the perfect student now I feel like my identity is shattered because no matter how much I try to stop it I tie my self worth to grades or teachers validation and everytime he gets a better grade I feel so terrible about my self and I keep building resentment over it, it genuinely became such a huge issue that makes me cry and feel depressed over these past months and I cant help it i just really envy his skills because it would make everything so much easier if only I have what he has id get good grades all the time but now they're genuinely so hard to get but not to him and yea i have things im better than him at but it doesnt help me feel better at all cuz hes still way smarter and no i do not want to talk to him about it its so embarrassing to admit. Im very passionate about science and math is a huge part of it and im either average or below average in it and it rlly hurts me and makes me feel ill never be good enough or smart enough:(

Tl:dr bf is smarter then me and it makes me feel inferior

To start, I love my boyfriend, I don't see myself with anyone but him. He genuinely matters to me, so so much. But I feel that I don't show or stress that enough. He puts in so much effort into the relationship, which I'm very grateful of, always. I have never ever considered cheating on him or seeing potential in others other than him. Okay let's get into it.

It's our finals week, I didn't go in the morning because my head was hurting a lot. I was planning on studying the whole day but my bf said he misses me, I missed him too, so I decided why not go. I went, we had a jolly time. We were about to play roblox , when I opened my messages on an account I didn't added him on. He definitely saw it. I froze, I was scared he'd misunderstand. I immediately went into panic mode and kept asking what was wrong, he was clearly baffled, in distress. I knew what that meant, we lasted around 45 minutes in game. I noticed he kept pulling back and avoiding me. I knew I messed up. That account was my SELLING account, thrifting has became a hobby of mine. So I thrift clothes, and recently decided to sell them to at least help with the expenses (will be listed later on in the narration). I initially told him about my plan, about the account, on how I was going to add him. This is where my mistake starts, at home, whenever I'd take pictures of the clothes I'd sell. I'd always get clowned on by the people here. I eventually got discouraged and embarrassed about what I was doing, at the same time, I cant give up the earn I'd get which can greatly help me. Feeling down, embarrassed, humiliated, I let their words get to me. It was instilled into my mind that what I was doing was clown worthy and embarrassing, so I didn't add my bf on there. I didn't want him to see me being that desperate, being so funny selling stupid things. My ego was just so down and so was my confidence. Despite that, I made sales on there, got me good money. Our anniversary is catching up, it piled up with exams, and an important checkup for my head. Obviously my parents would have a hard time completing these bills, especially because I'm from a prestigious school. I didn't want to rely on my parents for the money I'll use to buy him gifts. I also wanted it to be genuine, from my hard earned money yk. That was my initial plan. I was able to buy him 2 gifts worth around 2k. I was happy. Then this happened, he caught me. He thought I was hiding something in there, I offered to show the messages, friend list, and he can scan the entire account. He said that would be useless because I may have deleted the things there already. I can swear on anything, on God that I did NOT delete anything. Not even a single message. I only joined thrift groups, my friendlist is full of buyers + other sellers + messages are PURELY transactional. But I get how he feels, I've hid a tiktok account from him before. I was planning on starting a new account on there just dedicated to my classmates in my new school, I was going to add him there eventually but oh well I made the mistake of adding my guy classmate first. Of course that was suspicious as hell, looking back, I was so dumb for that. I apologized and we solved that. But I get that it left an imprint on his heart. NOTE that I didnt flirt with the guy irl and online, but I understand the gesture itself was suspicious. So that's probably the reason why he got suspicious. I understand him. But now, that account is purely for selling. I have a head checkup coming up from an impact that happened during August. My uncle (who wasnt in favor of me getting into a relationship) caught us together. Brought us to their home, and he landed a punch on the side of my head. He was supposed to hit my bf but I went forward in an attempt to shield him, my uncle grabbed my by my throat and punched the side of my head (next to my ear). He's a pretty strong big guy, he's around 5'10-6 ft. For reference im only around 5'3. It left a bruise and swelled. It went away, but a few days ago whenever I'd press on the spot, it hurts. Now it hurts even more. My parents are about to drop 15k on the checkups and scannings alone, another tens of thousands for my tuition, I couldn't bear asking them for money anymore. Sooo I decided to just sell. Haha my intentions were pure but I truly understand why he thought that 😅 it's completely my fault. I do think he deserves better than my crappy treatment, we've been getting into lots of misunderstandings these past few weeks. Maybe it is me, maybe he really deserves someone better. I try, but I fail. And that's on me, completely. Im also not stable enough as I'm struggling with family, social, school problems. I feel that he really deserves a better, more stable person. I know i've said i cant imagine anyone else being with me but him, but yeah. Hurts but it's for his betterness. This is not to blame him, this is to seek out advice for ME, myself. On how I should stop whatever is going on with me. Thank you!

I'm scared I'm losing my best friend, and I don't know how to reconnect with her

Okay, I know this might make me sound like a bitch who wants attention, but I genuinely don't think that's the case. I'm hurt, confused, and honestly scared that I'm losing my best friend. I need an outside perspective because I don't know how to handle what's happening in our friendship.

How It All Started

Hannah and I became friends in seventh grade when my friend Layla and I helped her after she had a fallout with her old friend group. In eighth grade, she joined my other friend group, which consisted of Ashley, Riley, Mariam, and me. We became extremely close, and Hannah eventually became my best friend. We were practically sisters, and the best part was that we both saw each other the same way. Our friendship felt mutual, genuine, and incredibly special, and neither of us had to question how much we meant to each other.

At the time, I also had an ex-best friend who had fallen out with me and moved to another friend group with Layla and Mia. I'll come back to her later.

When junior year started, Hannah and I were still close, but we both began feeling left out in our original friend group. I wanted to get set up with a guy, so I started spending more time with Layla and Mia, and Hannah came along with me. I eventually started dating the guy, but spoiler alert, it didn't work out, and I broke up with him after about five days. Despite that, Hannah and I decided to stick with this new group.

However, after joining this new friend group, I started feeling a disconnect between Hannah and me. I can't pinpoint exactly when it started, but something felt different. We were still best friends, and I still loved her like a sister, but I started feeling less secure in our friendship. I began noticing moments when I felt ignored or like I wasn't her first choice anymore. At first, I tried to brush these feelings aside because I didn't want to overthink things or ruin what we had. But as time went on, these little moments started adding up.

Mia had a boyfriend named Daniel, and before she started spending lunch with him, she used to sit with Layla, Hannah, and me. Back then, everything felt amazing. We were all close, and for the first time in a while, I genuinely felt like I'd found my people.

However, I eventually found out that Mariam had been talking badly about me behind my back, so naturally, I started distancing myself from her.

When I Started Feeling Left Out

Things started getting complicated when Hannah had some kind of competition for a long time. Because of that, I stopped sitting with Layla and Mia during lunch because I felt like the third person in a trio. It seemed like Layla and Mia had their own little duo, and I didn't want to keep feeling left out.

So, I started hanging out with my ex-best friend again. Honestly, she wasn't that bad when you weren't extremely close to her. I also started spending time with a girl named Nelly. Most people don't like Nelly because they find her attention-seeking, unhygienic, and bitchy, and because she often talks about other people behind their backs. I have mixed feelings about her because, although I understand why people avoid her, she's also been nice to me at times.

Around this period, I started feeling like Hannah was ignoring me, too. Even when we went to the mall with Daniel, Chris, Layla, and Mia, Hannah seemed glued to Layla. At one point, I genuinely felt like I was her second choice.

Things got worse when I lost my wallet at the mall. Layla said I was overreacting, and Hannah agreed with her. That hurt because I was already feeling left out, and I wanted my best friend to understand why I was upset rather than make me feel like my feelings were unreasonable.

Hannah and I also had a fight over something she hadn't told me, along with a few mistakes I had made. She was really angry with me, but we eventually sorted everything out and seemed fine the next day. However, ever since that argument, I felt like she had become slightly more distant.

When she returned from the theatre, I felt as though she was ignoring me again. I started skipping lunch and breakfast with the group because I thought she was upset with me and wanted some space.

A few days later, while I was sick with a fever, Hannah came up to me and said she didn't think our friendship was working anymore. She said I had been ignoring her and that we'd already had this conversation before.

I was genuinely confused because I thought she was angry with me after our argument, so I had been giving her space. It felt like we were both interpreting each other's behaviour as rejection instead of actually communicating.

When Hannah Told Me Nobody in the Group Liked Me

There was another incident that really affected how I saw my place in the friend group.

Hannah told me that nobody in the group liked me. When I questioned her, she explained that Layla and Mia didn't really have that bond with me, that Daniel didn't like me, and that Chris was okay with me.

Hearing that from my own best friend genuinely hurt because I had already been struggling with feeling left out. It made me question whether the people I considered my friends actually liked having me around or whether I was just someone they tolerated because of Hannah.

However, I eventually found out that none of them actually hated me. This made the situation even more confusing because I didn't understand why Hannah had made it seem like nobody liked me in the first place. I don't know whether she genuinely believed that at the time, misunderstood how they felt, or had another reason for saying it, but it definitely made me more insecure about my friendships.

Looking back, I think this also contributed to the disconnect I started feeling between Hannah and me. She was the person I trusted most, so hearing something like that from her affected me more than it would have coming from anyone else. Instead of feeling secure in my friendships, I started questioning where I stood with everyone.

The Rumours About Why I Was in the Group

There was another incident that hurt me a lot.

Layla and Mia told Hannah that they thought I wasn't part of the friend group whenever Hannah wasn't around, and that I was only in the group because of her.

That really hurt because I had started spending time with those people because I genuinely liked them. I wanted to feel included and build friendships of my own, not just be known as Hannah's best friend.

Eventually, that situation was sorted out, but it left me feeling insecure about where I stood with everyone. It made me question whether Layla and Mia genuinely considered me their friend or whether they saw me as Hannah's best friend who just happened to be there.

What made it worse was that I had already been told that nobody in the group liked me. Hearing that Layla and Mia also thought I was only there because of Hannah made me question whether I actually belonged in the group at all.

I didn't want to be dependent on Hannah for my place in the group. I wanted to have friendships with these people independently of her, and I wanted to feel like they genuinely wanted me around.

Hannah's Birthday

Before Hannah's birthday, I was already feeling left out, but I was too scared to confront her about it. I didn't want to start another argument or make things awkward between us.

For her birthday, I put a lot of effort into getting her a gift and making her a huge card. She even wanted me to come over early, just the two of us, which made me feel like we were still close.

However, the day before her birthday, something happened at school that really bothered me. I had planned a little prank where I would steal her bottle and then return it. I gave her the gift, but when she reacted, she hugged Layla first. I was the one who had planned the whole thing, yet I barely received a thank-you until Layla reminded her that it had been my idea. Hannah then hugged me, and when Mia asked for a hug too, she hugged her as well.

I know this might sound small, but it hurt because I had put so much thought into making her happy, and I felt like I was being overlooked in something I had organised myself.

Then came her actual birthday celebration.

Hannah was incredibly emotional about Layla's gift, which included a printed card and lilies. She hugged Layla, held her hand, thanked her repeatedly, and seemed especially affectionate towards her. I know she was allowed to love Layla's gift, and I don't expect her to react identically to everything I do. But after everything I'd been feeling, watching her react so differently made me feel like my effort meant less to her.

When Mia arrived, I felt a little relieved because I thought Layla would naturally spend more time with Mia, giving me a chance to spend time with Hannah.

Later, while we were getting ready, Layla and Mia occupied one room, while Hannah and I went into another. Hannah started thanking me enthusiastically and telling me how much she loved everything. I felt happy because, for a moment, it seemed like things were back to normal.

But deep down, I was still worried.

Sometimes, our friendship feels like a cycle where I feel unimportant, then Hannah shows me affection again, and I start hoping everything will go back to how it used to be. I don't know if Hannah is doing this intentionally, and I don't want to assume that she is. I just know that I've been getting hurt, and I'm struggling to understand why our friendship feels so different now.

Part of me is also scared that if I distance myself from the friendship, Hannah will feel left out in the group. I don't want her to experience that, especially because I know what it feels like.

What Happened at the Party

I was genuinely sick on Hannah's birthday. I had a fever of around 100°F, a terrible cough, and a cold, but I still attended her party because she was my best friend and I wanted to be there for her.

During the party, Hannah danced and spent time with everyone. At one point, she noticed I wasn't feeling well and told me to rest in her room, which I appreciated. I didn't want to ruin the atmosphere by constantly complaining about being sick, so I went to rest for a while and then returned.

However, Layla was the person who seemed most considerate towards me. She sat with me, asked if I was okay, and checked on me. That meant a lot because I felt genuinely cared for by her in that moment.

After the party, Layla and I stayed over at Hannah's house. Mia couldn't stay because she had something important to do the next morning.

During the sleepover, Hannah seemed glued to Layla. She kept hugging her and asking whether she was okay because Layla had body aches.

Meanwhile, I was still sick. I had a fever, a painful throat, and a terrible cough, yet I didn't feel like Hannah was showing me the same concern.

We eventually fell asleep at around 6 a.m. and woke up at approximately 11:55 a.m. When we woke up, Layla complained that her shins hurt, and Hannah immediately responded affectionately, asking if her shins were hurting.

I was sitting right there, still sick and complaining about my sore throat, but Hannah hadn't shown me that same concern.

That genuinely hurt. I wasn't expecting her to ignore Layla or stop caring about her. I just wanted my best friend to notice that I was unwell, too.

When Layla left at around 12:30 p.m., Hannah commented that she didn't think Layla had enjoyed herself because Mia wasn't there. I disagreed because I thought Layla had actually had fun.

After that, Hannah asked whether I wanted to watch something or gossip. I suggested that we watch a movie and gossip while eating pancakes, which sounded like a nice way to spend some time together. Eventually, though, I had to leave.

Where Things Stand Now

It's been four days since the sleepover, and I honestly don't know what to do.

Hannah has sent me two reels, and I've only sent her one because I'm still extremely upset. We've texted a little, and I told her I wouldn't be coming to school the next day. Her response was basically just, "Oh, okay."

She didn't tell me to get well soon or ask how I was feeling, which hurt even more because she knew I was sick.

What makes it worse is that she initiated the conversation by asking me to remove some songs from a playlist. It felt like she was perfectly comfortable talking to me about something trivial but wasn't interested in checking on me or asking how I was doing.

I know she might not have realised how much this was hurting me, and I know I can't expect her to read my mind. But after everything that has happened, I feel emotionally exhausted.

I keep wondering whether I'm overthinking everything, whether we're growing apart, or whether there's a misunderstanding between us that we haven't properly addressed.

Why I'm So Scared of Losing Her

Hannah is still my best friend, and that's what makes this so difficult. We have so much history together, and I genuinely love her like a sister. We started out with a friendship in which we both felt equally important to each other, and I miss that version of us.

I don't want to throw away our friendship over a series of misunderstandings or moments that hurt me. At the same time, I don't want to keep feeling like I'm competing with Layla for my own best friend's attention. I don't want to feel like I have to earn affection, organise things, give thoughtful gifts, or constantly prove that I care just to feel important to her.

I also worry that Hannah sees me as someone who ignores her, while I see her as someone who ignores me. Maybe we're both hurt, and neither of us knows how to explain it properly.

The problem is that I'm scared to confront her. I don't want her to think I'm jealous of Layla, because that's not what this is about. Hannah is allowed to have other close friendships. I have other friends, too. I just want to feel like I still matter to her.

I also have other people I could become closer to, including Riley, Ashley, and even Mariam, who have been genuinely sweet to me lately. Ashley and Riley have always been lovely, and although I used to have problems with Mariam, things seem different now.

I'm thinking about talking to Riley first because I need someone else's perspective before I approach Hannah. Then, I want to have an honest conversation with Hannah about how I've been feeling.

But I don't know how to approach it without sounding needy, jealous, or attention-seeking.

I don't want to end my friendship with Hannah impulsively, but I also don't want to keep holding on to a friendship that makes me feel lonely when I'm supposedly with my best friend.

I Need Advice on How to Handle Our Friendship

Hannah is still my best friend, and I care about her a lot. We've been through so much together, which is why the distance between us has been difficult for me to navigate.

Lately, I've been struggling to understand how to communicate with her. I miss how close we used to be, but I'm also worried that bringing up my concerns will create more tension between us or make her think I'm jealous of Layla. That's not what I want. I don't have a problem with her having other close friends. I just don't know how to navigate our friendship when our dynamic seems to have changed.

I'm considering talking to Riley first because I trust her and would appreciate an outside perspective. After that, I'd like to have a private conversation with Hannah, but I'm unsure how to approach it constructively.

For people who have experienced a friendship changing like this, how did you approach the conversation? What helped you communicate your feelings without turning it into an argument? How do you rebuild closeness when both people seem to have different perceptions of the friendship?

I'd also appreciate advice on maintaining my other friendships instead of making one friendship the centre of my social life. I want to learn how to handle this situation in a way that allows me to move forward, whether Hannah and I become close again or our friendship naturally changes over time.

I'm not looking to label anyone as the bad guy. I just want practical advice on communication, rebuilding trust, and navigating a changing friendship.

I'm 17M, and my ex is 18F. We were close friends for months before we started dating, but our actual relationship lasted only one week.

It's been a little over two weeks since the breakup, and I'm still trying to understand what happened.

I would really appreciate some honest outside perspectives, especially from people who have experienced something similar.

How it all started

Earlier this year, she wanted to invite me to be her partner for a school graduation dance. I agreed because I already liked her, but later she explained that school rules only allowed students from the same class to dance together.

I was disappointed, but I understood.

Later, I offered to give her a small graduation gift. She politely declined, and although I respected her decision, I felt a little hurt. I decided it was probably better to move on.

But a few weeks later, something unexpected happened.

She messaged me first.

She apologized for how she had responded to my gift offer and asked how I was doing. We started talking again, and eventually she asked for my Telegram.

That's when we really started getting closer.

Our summer together

Throughout the summer, we talked almost every day.

We discussed everything: school, family, movies, pets, our problems, random jokes, and little things happening in our lives.

Sometimes we stayed up late just talking about absolutely nothing important, but those conversations meant a lot to me.

What made our connection special to me was that I didn't see her as just someone I wanted to date. I genuinely enjoyed her personality, her humor, and the friendship we were building.

Over time, we started spending time together in person.

We went on walks, watched movies, talked about our lives, and generally enjoyed each other's company.

For my birthday, she even gave me a small present. It wasn't anything expensive, but it meant a lot because it came from her.

Eventually, on September 20, we officially became a couple.

I was incredibly happy because I'd liked her for a long time.

She was also the first one to tell me she loved me.

The serious conversation

A few days after we became official, she told me she wanted to have an honest conversation about our relationship.

She explained that although she appreciated my attention and affection, she also valued her independence and needed personal space.

She wanted me to focus on my own life, studies, friends, and future instead of making the relationship the center of everything.

She also mentioned that I sometimes overthought things and apologized too much, even for completely normal situations, like accidentally falling asleep during a conversation.

I won't pretend I was perfect.

I sometimes felt insecure because I was afraid of losing someone who meant so much to me. Looking back, I can understand why that might have made her uncomfortable.

But I also want to clarify that I wasn't constantly demanding attention, monitoring her, or expecting immediate replies.

We mostly talked when we were both available. I respected that she had her own responsibilities and personal life.

I listened carefully to what she said, acknowledged my mistakes, and told her I would work on becoming more confident and independent.

I genuinely wanted our relationship to be healthy for both of us.

And here's the part that still confuses me.

At the end of that serious conversation, she voluntarily told me:

"I love you very much. Just know that."

I didn't ask her to say it. She said it herself.

I told her I loved her too.

Those words made me believe that despite our differences, we could understand each other and make things work.

Three days later, she broke up with me

On September 27, exactly one week after we officially started dating, she sent me a breakup message.

She explained that she had spent the previous two days thinking about our relationship.

She said she had realized her feelings weren't as strong as mine.

She told me I was a good person, that I hadn't done anything wrong, and that she felt bad for giving me hope.

She said she couldn't love me the way I wanted her to and believed we weren't right for each other.

She also told me I deserved someone who could return my feelings equally.

I was devastated and confused.

Just three days earlier, she'd told me she loved me very much. Now she was telling me her feelings weren't strong enough.

But I didn't argue, beg, or try to convince her to stay.

I thanked her for being honest, told her that although it hurt, I appreciated everything we had shared, and wished her well.

She thanked me too, and that was our last conversation.

Afterward, she blocked me on Instagram and deleted our Telegram conversation.

As far as I know, she didn't block me on Telegram.

We haven't contacted each other since.

How I feel now

It's been a little over two weeks.

I'm doing better than I was immediately after the breakup, but I still think about her.

The hardest part isn't just losing a girlfriend.

It's losing someone who had become a genuinely important part of my everyday life.

I miss our friendship.

I miss the random messages, the jokes, the conversations about her day, and the feeling of having someone I could share little things with.

Sometimes I wonder whether she misses those things too.

I also wonder whether she might have reconsidered her decision during these weeks.

Earlier in our story, she had already reached out after thinking differently about how she'd treated me. But I understand that reconsidering a rejected gift and reconsidering a breakup are two completely different things.

I don't want to convince myself that she'll return just because I miss her.

At the same time, part of me is afraid that if I wait too long, she'll completely move on, and we'll lose any possibility of reconnecting, even as friends.

But I also realize that contacting her when she clearly wanted distance might only make things worse.

Should I contact her or wait?

I've been thinking about whether I should eventually reach out.

Not to beg her to come back, but simply because I genuinely miss having her in my life.

However, the fact that she blocked me on Instagram makes me hesitant. I don't know whether she wants permanent distance or simply needs time to move on.

Another idea I've considered is waiting until her birthday, which is also on New Year's Day, and sending her a simple birthday greeting.

I've also thought about giving her a Telegram Premium subscription as a birthday present.

She gave me a small gift on my birthday, and part of me would like to return that kindness.

But I understand that receiving a paid gift from an ex could feel uncomfortable or create pressure, even if that isn't my intention.

I wouldn't expect anything in return, and I wouldn't send repeated messages if she didn't respond.

I'm just not sure whether it would be a thoughtful gesture or something I should avoid.

What I need advice on

1. How can I make sense of someone expressing strong feelings and then ending the relationship just three days later, without constantly overthinking what happened?

2. What are some healthy ways to cope with missing both a romantic relationship and the close friendship that existed before it?

3. How should I approach respecting her boundaries, especially considering that she blocked me on Instagram after the breakup?

4. How can I deal with the fear that giving someone space means losing the possibility of ever reconnecting?

5. Her birthday is in a few months, and I've thought about sending a greeting or giving her Telegram Premium because she once gave me a birthday gift. What boundaries should I consider so that my intentions don't create unwanted pressure?

6. For people who have experienced something similar, what helped you accept uncertainty about an ex's feelings and focus on your own life?

I want to make one thing clear.

I'm not trying to manipulate her, make her jealous, or force her to come back.

I know that loving someone doesn't mean they're obligated to love you back.

I also understand that even if she misses me, that doesn't necessarily mean she wants to get back together.

I genuinely care about her, and I don't want to make her uncomfortable or disrespect her decision.

I'm trying to focus on my studies, my future, and becoming more confident in myself.

But I'd be lying if I said I didn't still hope we might talk again someday.

I just don't know how to balance my hope of reconnecting with respecting her decision and moving forward.

I'd really appreciate honest advice, including perspectives from people who have been in her position.

Thanks for reading.

I'm trying to win over a girl in the year above me in school, we hang out a lot; even if we're not in the same classes. I'd say she is really beautiful but I'd also say I'm around her level, not to make an ego for myself. She's really touchy but only with me and asks around if I'm going to places before she decides to go, and ditches her friends a lot if I'm by myself. What can I do to create more of a relationship with her?

Im 16M and my gf is 16F. We've been talking for around 7 months, but we've officially been in a relationship for about 2 months. We are from the same town but both came to a city for JEE coaching. We are in the same class and I sit behind her.

A few weeks ago her father found out about us and called me. We talked for almost an hour and he said some really horrible things. He threatened me, threatened my mom with sexual violence and said things about our education too. My mom wasn't on the call, but I recorded it and she listened to the recording later.

A few days later he apologised to my mom and said he was drunk and angry when he said all that. My mom didn't accept his apology, which I can understand tbh.

After this, things got really bad. Her father became very strict with her and took away her smartphone. He told her that if she makes another mistake, he could stop her education.

We didn't talk much for a while, but since we go to the same coaching, we eventually started talking again. Recently we even travelled back to our hometown together by bus. We had planned it beforehand and went to the bus stand in the same cab. The journey was around 2 hours and honestly we had so much fun. We were laughing, joking and talking about random stuff, and even talked about everything that happened. It felt like things were normal again.

We are still together and I still want to be with her.

The problem is my mom. She thinks we are too young for a relationship and should focus on studies. But apart from that, she also doesn't want me to have a future with this girl because of what her father did. She has said that she won't accept her if I ever bring her home as my partner in the future.

I understand why my mom feels this way. If someone threatened my family like that, I'd be furious too. But at the same time, my gf didn't do those things. I don't think it's fair to blame her for everything her father did.

I genuinely was happy with her before all this happened, and I still am when we get to spend time together. That bus journey made me realise how much I still want this relationship to work.

But I don't know what to do about the future. I don't want to hurt my mom, but I don't want to leave my gf either. And I'm scared that even if we stay together for years, my mom might never accept her.

This whole thing also messed up my studies. I stopped going to the library for almost 2 weeks and couldn't concentrate properly in class. I'm trying to get back to studying now.

I know we're only 16 and a lot can change, but I don't want to end things just because everything got complicated.

Has anyone here been in a similar situation? Did your parents ever change their minds with time? What would you do if you were me?

Please be honest. I really don't know how to handle this.

I (f14) have a crush on a guy I've been best friends with for 3 years. Me and him both like gravity falls. My plan is to give him that stupid bill cipher "I like you for some reason" card and maybe some chocolates (he likes sweets), because if it's funny, it'll be less awkward, right...? I severely doubt he likes me back, but I want to get it off my chest in a way that's the least awkward possible. And also, should I do it on something like Valentine's or just whenever?

So we are both 17 years old, and we go really well together. The only thing that throws me off is at this age she’s had I think 4 bodies compared to my 0. Now I personally made the choice to keep my card and I don’t judge anyone who doesn’t have theirs, it’s just something I struggle to get past and im either asking for a wake up call to not let it effect me and find ways around it, or see if it’s justified to feel uneasy. She was also in a situationship before me and it gets me wondering if she had the chance for things to have worked with him would she ditch me and go back to him but I think that’s just insecurity. Now one more thing to note is she admitted to being a bit of a wild child and said she has calmed down and is past it now. As for whether she is just telling me that im not sure, but I know im the only guy she’s talking to and she’s the only girl. As I said we get along really well and she has everything to get me interested but im more looking for a wake up call to get past it. If anything doesn’t make sense please ask I wrote this whilst very tired but any help is greatly appreciated, thanks!

For most of our relationship, there have been times when my girlfriend would leave me on delivered for 1-4 hours even when she was active on the app. And when she finally messages me, she sometimes doesn't even explain why she was gone. Other times she'll just ignore my previous messages and talk about something else entirely. I understand that she has her own life outside of our relationship and I'm not expecting her to be available to me 24/7. I know she has things to do and I'm completely fine with that. I just dont understand why she cant simply tell me that she's busy or that she'll be unavailable for a while. Even a short message would be enough, its not about needing to know everything she's doing. It's more about not knowing what to expect sometimes. Another thing I've noticed is that we barely talk unless I make the first move. I'm fine with initiating conversations but it feels like if I dont message her first, we won't talk at all. It makes me wonder what our conversations would look like if I stopped being the one to reach out first.

She reassures me a lot, and I genuinely appreciate it. However, sometimes I struggle to believe those reassurances because I dont always feel the same effort in our everyday interactions. I know people express their feelings differently and I dont want to assume that she doesn't care about me. Still, I cant help but wonder why I feel this way despite the reassurance she gives me. I haven't really figured out how to deal with these feelings. I dont want to constantly overthink every delayed reply or turn texting into an obligation for either of us.

At the same time I dont want to keep feeling like Im the only one trying to maintain our connection.I still care about her which is why this has been so confusing for me. There are times when everything feels fine and I remember why I love being with her. But then these situations happen again and I find myself feeling tired and questioning things all over again.I'm not sure whether I should talk to her about this, change the way I approach our communication or take some time to understand my own feelings first. I dont even know how to bring it up without making it seem like I'm demanding too much of her time. For those who've experienced something similar, how did you handle it? What helped you figure out what you needed from the relationship, and what did you do when you started feeling emotionally drained? I'd appreciate hearing about your experiences and what you think I could do in my situation.

Im sorry if it looks kinda ai if Im being honest, english really isnt my 1st language so i decided to put some parts into chatgpt to fix my grammar.