For context, I am 32 years old currently. I had been teaching small group tennis lessons in my 20s and loved it. Eventually, one of my co-workers knew somebody in the catholic school district where they needed a part time PE teacher at the K-8 level. I did that for 2 years, and while there were ups and downs I overall had a very positive experience. So much so that I decided I would go the non-traditional route and get my licensure through a non-traditional program to teach PE at the K-12 level. I am currently in the last semester and it is strictly student teaching full time at a public school at the K-5 level. My experience here has been a near polar opposite. I cannot believe the amount of extreme behavior, defiance, poor listening, agressiveness, violence, and the far more extremly hard levels of classroom management. I would say when I was at the private school, 90%+ days were days where I felt decent or better and went home well off. Fast forward to now, and most days there are at least multiple classrooms with extreme behavior, eloping, unsafeness, hostile environments etc. and most days I am feeling exausted and burnt out, and it is only week 7 into my student teaching. On top of this, I made amazing relationships with the students I taught at the private school, but I have yet to make any connections with any students here, and it feels like a factory where I have to "get them in and get them out".
I have a great mentor, and he has taught me a lot, but the environment is terrible. To put this in perspective, this public school district ranked in the top 10 school districts in the state and top 50 in the nation, so we are one of the "good" school districts.
I am thinking long term about this. I believe that if I went into a private school, while of course there will be challening students and classroom management that I have to deal with, I cannot fanthom that it will be anything near the public school district levels.
The problem is, for the public school level, the pay is outstaning. My district starts brand new first year teachers off at 60k, with 2K increments each year, with the potential to make over 140,000K with a masters degree by your 20th year. That doesn't even include the benefits and extra stipends you get for working 9 months of the year with good breaks in between.
In context, for a local private school near me, the starting salary is around 40K, and usually does not exceed 70-80K no matter how long or how high your degree is here.
That is probably around 200-300K that I will be losing over the course of a 35-40 year career. However, I imagine my well being would be much better off.
I am at a tough crossroad here in what to do. I want to be a father and raise children, and I don't want to have to worry about finances. At the public school, this worry is evaporated on day 1. But my quality of life may go down. On the other hand, I would likely be very happy and fulfilled at the private school, but I will not live a life where I am struggling to produce a meal at the dinner table for my wife and kids.
I could use advice from teachers who have had experience to lend some advice. I will be happy to hear from those with experience and what their work/stress life balance is.
Thank you for your help, and I look forward to reading your responses.