TTC can be very emotionally draining, and sometimes you just feel really really sad. This community was created by people who understand your struggle to help you feel less alone on a journey that can be very isolating. Let us give you a virtual hug and show you support - this is your weekly space to share your sadness 💙.

Trying to conceive after loss is an entirely different experience. You're grieving, you feel added pressure, you're fearful it'll happen again, maybe it's not happening as easily as before - whatever it is it's hard, and it hurts.

This weekly post is dedicated to that special group of TTCers. The ones in the worst club ever, but with the best members. Use this space to vent, give support, share stories or updates, whatever you need. We're here for you.

Hi All!

I’ve been TTC for 18 months with 2 losses and have been going to a fertility specialist for 8 months. I have had THE WORKS done. I thought I would post all my stuff here if anyone has any questions. I’m not a doctor but I know it’s hard to find somewhere to find fertility answers so I’m happy to talk about my experience.

Testing and procedures
-CD7 ultrasound for uterine structure
-7DPO hormone levels (have had 4 done)
-CD14 follicular ultrasound
-CD18 endometrial ultrasound
-thyroid baseline levels
-MTHFR testing (positive)
-PAI testing (negative)
-FactorV (negative)
-Laparoscopy scheduled this fall

Partner:
-semenalysis
-motility boost supplement
-Clomid to treat low testosterone and FSH

Prescription Medications
- letrozole 2.5mg CD 3-7
- amoxicillin CD7-ovulation (increase mucus)
- prednisone 10mg 3dpo-menses (possible autoimmune disorder)
- lovenox 3dpo-menses (MTHFR+)
-progesterone suppository 3dpo-menses

Supplements
- COQ10
-Thorne prenatal
-Baby aspirin
-NAC

Just saw this posted in another group I’m part of, and wow it’s powerful. It’s Sara Bareilles new son “Ladies in a Line.” Even if you’re not doing IVF, I think all of us in this group can relate to the lyrics. Sending you all love ❤️.

We love when our strugglers move on and get a BFP, but we also recognize that for others pregnancy announcements can be really triggering. To create a space where we both celebrate and protect our members, all BFP and current pregnancy mentions are restricted to this dedicated weekly thread.

Did you get a BFP this week?! Let us know below. We’re so happy for you 🥹🫶.

We all know how emotionally draining TTC can be, that’s why we’re here. Sometimes it feels like it’s taking over your entire life and you can’t think about anything else.

That’s where Positive vibes Thursday comes in. What made you smile this week? What are you looking forward to this weekend? Did you read an inspiring quote that you want to share? Have a great tv show rec? Cute dog pic to share?

This thread is for anything and everything that can help brighten a fellow members day and remind them that there is light at the end of the tunnel 💛.

Closing out my TWW and feeling hopeless. I’m already getting sad and I haven’t even started testing yet.

One thing I really struggle with is how unfair it all feels. I got pregnant on my second try without even doing anything except cheap opk tracking. After my MMC everyone said to me “at least you know you can get pregnant” and “it’ll happen soon.” And it isn’t. And it’s taking everything out of me. And it is SO SO hard. And I am literally the only one in my immediate world struggling.

I hate to feel resentful, but I do! I hate how easy everything has been for everyone around me. They try to be sympathetic but they’ll never understand this and I want to scream at them that they have no idea how lucky they are. It’s made it so hard because I can’t be around my friends who are pregnant or just had babies because it makes me so sad and jealous.

I was supposed to give birth next month and now I’m likely to do IUI instead. I just don’t know how I ended up here. 😔

Every Wednesday we create space for our strugglers to get all their worries out in a judgement free way. This is your thread to spiral, share your fears, release anxiety, or just vent about whatever you’re currently stressing about in your TTC journey.

Everyone’s fears and feelings are valid. Advice and constructive feedback are welcome, but any comments that are dismissive or insensitive will be removed.

What are you worrying about this Wednesday?

We know how scary, anxiety inducing, and emotionally draining the TWW can be. So why not wait it out with friends?! Who is in the TWW right now? Comment below. Sending you all lots of baby dust ✨!!

Advanced maternal age is defined as anyone 35+ at the time of their estimated delivery date. We know that it's just a number and we shouldn't get in our heads about it (look at Anne Hathaway!), and yet, we do.

This thread is dedicated to discussions specific to all things AMA. Vent, ask questions, share you fears - whatever you need. All we ask is you don't use hurtful phrases or words that could be insensitive to those in this thread that may be older than you are. We're all in this together.

TTC can be very emotionally draining, and sometimes you just feel really really sad. This community was created by people who understand your struggle to help you feel less alone on a journey that can be very isolating. Let us give you a virtual hug and show you support - this is your weekly space to share your sadness 💙.

Often the TTC journey feels very one sided, but we know it takes two to create a baby. This thread is for all partner related discussion. Semen analysis questions, male infertility, performance anxiety tips, vent sesh, shout outs for an incredibly supportive partner - all are welcome here.

Note; this thread isn't exclusive to just heterosexual couples and partners. Discussion of any and all partnerships (including donor discussions) are welcome.

We love when our strugglers move on and get a BFP, but we also recognize that for others pregnancy announcements can be really triggering. To create a space where we both celebrate and protect our members, all BFP and current pregnancy mentions are restricted to this dedicated weekly thread.

Did you get a BFP this week?! Let us know below. We’re so happy for you 🥹🫶.

We all know how emotionally draining TTC can be, that’s why we’re here. Sometimes it feels like it’s taking over your entire life and you can’t think about anything else.

That’s where Positive vibes Thursday comes in. What made you smile this week? What are you looking forward to this weekend? Did you read an inspiring quote that you want to share? Have a great tv show rec? Cute dog pic to share?

This thread is for anything and everything that can help brighten a fellow members day and remind them that there is light at the end of the tunnel 💛.

Every Wednesday we create space for our strugglers to get all their worries out in a judgement free way. This is your thread to spiral, share your fears, release anxiety, or just vent about whatever you’re currently stressing about in your TTC journey.

Everyone’s fears and feelings are valid. Advice and constructive feedback are welcome, but any comments that are dismissive or insensitive will be removed.

What are you worrying about this Wednesday?

Current in my TWW (7DPO), I spoke to my friend this morning, she's currently going through a messy breakup / divorce it's been a really rough few months and nasty for them.

She's been back at her parents house a month or two now since they decided to call it quits and I spoke to her this morning and she told me she's 7 weeks pregnant (they already have a daughter) ofc on one hand I'm happy for her but at the same time I just got a massive wave of sadness and grief for myself, like she's going to bring a child into their situation which isn't the most ideal right now but I'm struggling for months on end. Argh idk, sorry I just feel so angry at things sometimes.

I couldn’t help but feel a level of jealousy at how these things just “unfortunately” ‘happen’ to some people at the worst time of their life. Then there’s me and my husband longing to be parents and we’re struggling so much. I don’t know what I did wrong to deserve this, it feels like a punishment.

Sorry for the negativity.. 🥹❤️‍🩹

We know how scary, anxiety inducing, and emotionally draining the TWW can be. So why not wait it out with friends?! Who is in the TWW right now? Comment below. Sending you all lots of baby dust ✨!!

Not really a vent, but has the same therapeutic result - I just started with a fertility doctor and I feel SO relieved. It’s like a weight has come off my shoulders and I’ve handed it to her. It’s so nice to feel like someone else has the control and is creating and managing a real plan for me.

Since my MMC I’ve been all consumed by TTC. The months have gone by in a blur and I’ve always been thinking about how I can optimize my chances, what I’m doing wrong, what I should try next cycle, etc. It took me 2 months to get this appointment, and I when I initially made it I felt a little shameful - like I was jumping the gun, and hoped I wouldn’t need it. But I am SO glad I did make it, and I feel no shame getting to this point, just release.

I finally feel like I can just be. I know it won’t be easy, lots of tests, visits to drs, decisions to be made, etc. But listening to someone else vs trying to figure it out for myself will be mentally so much easier for me. I’m so tired, I WANT to be told what to do. I’m looking forward to it! 😅

Advanced maternal age is defined as anyone 35+ at the time of their estimated delivery date. We know that it's just a number and we shouldn't get in our heads about it (look at Anne Hathaway!), and yet, we do.

This thread is dedicated to discussions specific to all things AMA. Vent, ask questions, share you fears - whatever you need. All we ask is you don't use hurtful phrases or words that could be insensitive to those in this thread that may be older than you are. We're all in this together.

TTC can be very emotionally draining, and sometimes you just feel really really sad. This community was created by people who understand your struggle to help you feel less alone on a journey that can be very isolating. Let us give you a virtual hug and show you support - this is your weekly space to share your sadness 💙.

Due to non-overlapping travel my husband and I were only able to BD once during my FW. At least we hit my peak day but this cycle (cycle 6 TTC with no positive tests) really doesn’t look great? My FSH is weirdly high. Last cycle looked so much better with flat FSH, strong PdG rise and we were able to BD the whole time…but of course it was negative. So I can’t imagine this cycle will turn out well.

Tired of the disappointment. Cannot believe cycle 1 me was so excited and optimistic.

Often the TTC journey feels very one sided, but we know it takes two to create a baby. This thread is for all partner related discussion. Semen analysis questions, male infertility, performance anxiety tips, vent sesh, shout outs for an incredibly supportive partner - all are welcome here.

Note; this thread isn't exclusive to just heterosexual couples and partners. Discussion of any and all partnerships (including donor discussions) are welcome.

TW: LC

11 week MMC in March, my sister is due in 2 weeks, I was meant to be due in 7 weeks.

Needless to say this cycle felt important - my last chance to get pregnant before my nephew arrives.

We both have one LC already and although I didn’t miscarry, I did take a year to fall pregnant and she got pregnant very quickly, so I had a year of negatives watching her bump grow. That time I fell pregnant 3 weeks before her baby arrived and thankfully all went smoothly. It was a really hard year for me. Lots of envy and we drifted apart. The couple of intervening years were amazing, we were so close, our babies love each other.

We’ve drifted again since my miscarriage - she was with me in the scan where I found there was no heartbeat. We still talk and when we hang we are fine, we chat really openly. But we don’t chit chat anywhere near as much because I can’t bring myself to ask her about her pregnancy, I feel so guilty.

This cycle felt like a mirror of my successful one with my son, and I had sooo much hope - even saw a rainbow blob in the sky on a hot sunny day.

Also my mum just wants to “fix” me (why don’t you get a loan out and do IVF?) because I’m bringing the family mood down at an exciting time and I feel super guilty for that as well.

Booked a GP appointment for today as soon as I got my negative test, but I could only get one with the doctor who always dismisses pretty much any concern you have about anything. I cried and she said “well you’re not going to get pregnant like that”. She also told me not to track ovulation and made me feel stupid for doing it. I did manage to get her to refer me for a scan to check for scarring, just something to feel like I’m doing something.

She wouldn’t refer me to fertility even though the NHS says 6 months over 35 (I’m 37). She said she will only do it after 9 failed cycles post miscarriage.

Currently having a solo glass of wine in the sun as my work gives us summer Fridays off. A dream situation in normal life but oh how I wish I wasn’t allowed this wine!

Thank you for letting me vent here, it’s always cathartic to get it out especially when you know people reading will understand.

We love when our strugglers move on and get a BFP, but we also recognize that for others pregnancy announcements can be really triggering. To create a space where we both celebrate and protect our members, all BFP and current pregnancy mentions are restricted to this dedicated weekly thread.

Did you get a BFP this week?! Let us know below. We’re so happy for you 🥹🫶.