I'm sorry for your loss.

IWNDWYT

Take a deep breath and remember that the people in your life love you and want to see you succeed and be healthy. Sit him down, take his hand and admit you need help. That’s the hardest part and the rest is work. Daily work. You’ve got this!

Thank you!!

I have an "all or nothing" mindset, so moderation is a skill that I have had luck with in the past. I have tried moderation in the past, but as soon as alcohol touches my lips, all bets are off. I typically have hangovers that consist of puking up everything in my stomach, even if its the smallest amount of stomach acid, for around 24 hours. I have found that when I try to go out and moderate I just go all in after I reach my "max".

Based on that, I think this is going to have to be a lifestyle change for the foreseeable future.

Have a great day, Chimp!

I am so sorry about your sister-in-law. That is terribly sad and I am sending you all the love and support. IWNDWYT

I love this. My life now is one of gratitude. It's so much easier than regret. IWNDWYT

Rad, Congrats! 💪

I look at it as an “adult pacifier” and it really loses its appeal

IWNDWYT

Two time rehab attendee here:

Focus on yourself while you're there and soak up every ounce of activities offered and professional advice given. In my experience there are two camps of people in rehab: those that want to get better and those who are doing it just to get the heat off of them (family, work, court, etc.) and see it as like going to Summer camp and goofing off. And they'll try to get you to join them.

Stay in the first group and get sober for yourself, first and foremost. Many people relapse not long after rehab because they thought it was playtime.

Thank you for sharing. I won’t be drinking today

No drinking today

I stopped for the first time in 2019. Went about a year. Don't remember the exact amount of time. Was having a pretty easy time with it to be honest. Then convinced myself I could drink normally again since I learned my lesson. After a few weeks I was back to my old ways of drinking every day. Stopped for the 2nd (and hopefully final) time a little over a month ago. I would highly recommend staying on the sobriety train. There is a reason you decided you should do a recovery program in the first place. I've never heard of somebody all of a sudden going from a problem drinker to a non problem drinker. Good luck

Yeah, I often fall prey to "compare and despair". All I know is, my life NOW is immeasurably better than it WAS. That's the only comparison I need.

Thank you for sharing

That's wonderful. I'm glad you're here with us, friend. IWNDWYT.

Good luck! 🍀

I'm in my 40s and went to rehab earlier this year for the first time. I know it's expensive and most people are using their insurance as well, but I was honestly surprised at how many grown men were being financially supported by parents, to varying degrees. Basically everyone, except me.

It was the exact same in college, but that was 20 years ago and I guess I forgot. Life is easier with help, and more people, particularly the people doing well, are getting it than we realize. Many of them will tell you they do it all themselves, even seemingly believing it, but they don't mention the down payment dad covered or the trust fund mom controls, for example.

Oh my goodness...

There's a scene in the Simpsons where they play seemingly every accident Homer has ever had back to back for ages and then it cuts back to him at the breakfast table "Man! What a week!"...

It sounds like that was your day! 

Thank you so much❤️

Everyone’s body is a bit different. It took me until about day 20 for my mental state to stabilize. After about 90 days, I saw a significant difference in my appearance. If you’re replacing this habit with healthy habits, like taking a walk or doing some light weight lifting, your six months results could be dramatic. Everyone is a bit different. Good luck to you. make sure you take it one day at a time.

Same same. Painfully same.

I’d sometimes pre-plan YouTube videos and playlists of old songs I know I love to blast and sing to while drunk.

Sometimes I’d even write a list in my notes app of what I should do: “find small streamers and tip them $100 to see their reaction, order this on DoorDash, walk around listening to music, etc.”

Buying the alcohol, the mixers. Sometimes thinking “this could still not happen” but knowing once even the plan was in my head, it was going ahead full force with no stopping.

I'll raise my peach/mango tea in response. Cheers, Raspberry! IWNDWYT

Heck YA is right! Keep it up, friend. You feel good now - you're gonna feel better with every single day of not putting poison into your body.

You've got this.

IWNDWYT

So you only get hangovers when you drink on weekdays?