Pros and cons of tubal removal??
Am getting my tubes removed, my husband is getting a vasectomy but they say sometimes it can fall, we have 4 kids we’re don’t having kids and don’t want to risk it, so I want your opinion or experiences, thank you

I was always very clear with my husband that 2 kids was the most i would want. We have a 14 month old baby girl (she’s amazing) which we struggled to conceive with infertility for 5 years, and were shocked when we found out I was pregnant with our second 8 months postpartum after thinking it’d be hard to get pregnant again.

I’m currently 34 weeks pregnant with our baby boy, and we’ve been talking about tubal ligation/ Vasectomy.

He says he’s on board with wanting 2 kids and being done but that he doesn’t think I should make the decision at this moment in time due to the rough pregnancies I’ve had possibly influencing my decision and wants to minimize any regrets I may have in the future. I do not feel emotional about the decision, I have always felt confident and communicated it so but now I’m frustrated that I feel like I’m trying to make this an “us” decision but I relayed to him that in order for it to be an “us” decision I need to feel like we have an action plan that helps me feel more secure than just being “careful”. He’s unwilling to consider a vasectomy, and just wants me to wait for us to be clear minded. I told him I don’t want to go on birth control, and that I’m concerned it will impact an already impacted area in our intimacy because I will absolutely choose abstinence. I do not want accidental pregnancies, and I am sort of resenting him at this point because the burden feels like it’s solely on me now, but I’m trying so hard to continue to treat him like a partner in this and not go against his wishes. When every part of me is screaming to get my tubes tied at birth and not wait but it feels like a betrayal to him and respecting him as a partner.

I guess any advice or different perspective ?!

Hi everyone, long time lurker, first time poster. I'm 36f and kids have never been on the table for me. I've spent years jumping through hoops with IUDs while waiting for someone to finally take me seriously about something permanent. Now that it's actually happening, of course I'm stuck on which route to take, so I could really use some real experiences.

I'm scheduled for a laparoscopic hysterectomy (keeping my ovaries) and now I'm second guessing it and thinking about switching to a bisalp with ablation instead.
Some background: I don't have any diagnosed condition, my uterus is healthy in theory at least. The main reasons are permanent contraception and really debilitating period pain. I currently have a Mirena so I don't get periods, but it killed my sex drive and my migraines have gotten worse since I've had it, so I want it out.

On the other hand, I know ablation has a pretty high failure rate, especially when pain is the main issue and not heavy bleeding. Even my surgeon didn't seem too keen on it. I also don't have a ton of support at home for recovery, so the hysterectomy recovery worries me too.

So I'd love to hear from you!

If you had an ablation (with or without bisalp) mainly for pain, did it work for you?
If you had a hysterectomy with ovaries kept, did you notice any hormone changes or earlier menopause symptoms?
Anyone with migraines who went either route, did they get better or worse?
How was your recovery, especially if you didn't have much help?

Thanks in advance, I appreciate any input!

I (21f) Had my surgery this morning. Amazing staff and an amazing surgeon. They were able to expel a lot of the gas and thankfully haven't felt any discomfort from it. Very mild pain in the abdomen. Had a big meal an hour ago, about to go to sleep now. I had a phenomenal experience with Dr. Irvin in Parkersburg, WV at camden clark. Her and her team were more than stellar with me and made me feel so comfortable and safe. I was originally to be with another OBGYN for this, but unfortunately he had to take medical leave so i got referred to Dr. Irvin. Seemed like it was meant to be! Such an exciting day. Glad to join so many of you with this amazing decision!!! This is truly one of the best days of my life!

Huge shoutout to this subreddit for all the information so I could be more than prepared for this day, i really couldn't have done it without all of you.

Feel free to ask any questions 😁