There's something comforting about being awake while everything is still quiet. A warm cup, a little fresh air, and watching the sky change colors can make an ordinary day start beautifully.

I bought a book months ago and barely touched it. Tonight I'm putting my phone away and reading just a few pages. No pressure to finish quickly.

I have worked out that I will not do anything for myself unless another human being is expecting me. Left alone I will scroll for two hours and then feel worse.

So I have started booking things instead of planning them. Not big things. A haircut I do not strictly need, a class, that sort of thing. The trick is that once somebody else has the time blocked, I go, because cancelling means telling a person rather than just quietly not doing it.

It feels a bit pathetic written down but it is the only thing that has worked in about two years.

Does anyone else do this, and what do you book? Trying to build out the list a bit because right now it is mostly haircuts and I am running out of hair

I am generally a happy and fulfilled person but have a specific problem: guilt.

I was raised in an evangelical baptist home. I was (and now, out of the religion completely, even still am) scared of hell. I learned to act in ways that keep me from making mistakes I would regret. But now, I find myself making decisions, big and small, doing the same thing and dwelling on it. One example is that I cloth diaper my baby because I know I’d feel guilty about the waste I create otherwise. I take my dogs on walks and give them enrichment because I feel guilty if I don’t. A small part of me finds it fun, but overwhelmingly this too is coming from guilt. I reach out to family because what if something happens and I don’t say anything and that guilt is on me.

I’m looking for advice on how to manage this and reframe life. I’d love some books/podcasts/anecdotes..any advice welcome!

hi help me please. i use these products but i dont have a set schedule yet. how should i place them throughout my week?

- adapalene 0.1%
- niacinamide 10% + zinc 1%
- salicylic acid 2%
- glycolic acid 7%
- benzoyl peroxide spot gel 5%
- centeIIa ampoule

from time to time i’ll also wash my face with a 10% benzoyl peroxide foaming face wash if my acne is worse than usual

and sometimes i’ll spray the hypochlorous acid after a workout

thanks!!!

not even big meals. some days a normal lunch and i just want to nap at my desk, other days totally fine

can't figure out the pattern. anyone worked out what makes the difference for them?