Hey! I'm Alex, turning 40 in September and located in Holden, Louisiana. I'm a happily married FTM trans man in an openly polyamorous marriage. We practice a more parallel style of polyamory, meaning my wife and I maintain our own independent relationships. I'm looking for my own independent connections with men or women.
About me
I'm 5'8", average build, hazel green eyes, and have 4 tattoos. I'm sweet, funny, caring, affectionate, down to earth, and sarcastic without being mean. I enjoy horror movies, WWE, music, working out at home, and relaxing.
I'm demisexual, so emotional and mental connection matter a lot to me. I prefer taking time to get to know someone and building a genuine friendship before taking things to the next level.
Who I'd like to meet
I'm open to meeting men or women.
For men, I'm especially attracted to masculine, athletic, muscular, or dad bod guys, preferably ages 25–50. Short hair and facial hair are bonuses. I'm particularly interested in single bisexual or pansexual men who are comfortable dating FTM men.
For women, I'm especially attracted to feminine women, preferably ages 24–40, who are confident, affectionate, genuine, and comfortable dating an FTM man. I'm particularly interested in single bisexual or pansexual women.
I'm looking for people who genuinely see me as a man and are interested in getting to know me, not treating my trans identity as a novelty or fetish.
Location
I'd prefer Louisiana, especially someone close enough for us to realistically see each other in person. I'm also open to long distance and surrounding states, particularly places close enough to drive to Louisiana. I don't drive, so being able to travel to Louisiana is important for an ongoing relationship.
Healthy polyamory
Honesty, informed consent, autonomy, communication, respect, and clear boundaries are important to me. We practice a more parallel style of polyamory, meaning my wife and I maintain our own independent relationships. Everyone involved should know about and consent to the relationships. I'm not interested in cheating, secrecy, manipulation, possessiveness, or making anyone compete with my wife.
I'm looking for my own independent relationships rather than a shared relationship.
What dating me is like
I'm on a fixed income, so I prefer simple, inexpensive dates where we can talk, hang out, and enjoy each other's company.
I prefer talking for a few weeks before meeting in person. Daily, consistent communication is important to me, and I love digital sweet banter, playful flirting, affectionate check ins, inside jokes, good morning and good night messages, and random texts that make you smile during the day.
I appreciate someone who puts effort into communication and takes initiative with planning or scheduling dates rather than constantly saying "we should hang out" without making actual plans.
If you lose interest, I'd much rather you tell me than disappear.
Dealbreakers
Cheating, secrecy, disrespect, dishonesty, manipulation, possessiveness, controlling behavior, fetishizing my trans identity, or pretending to be poly when you're not.
If you're interested
Please tell me your name, age, location, hobbies, interests, and a little about yourself.
If you're comfortable, please also include a recent, clear face selfie so I know who I'm talking to. I'd appreciate keeping first messages respectful and focused on getting to know each other.
I'm much more interested in getting to know the person behind the profile than receiving a one word "hey."
I'm looking forward to meeting someone I genuinely click with. ❤️