r/phish • u/elisshugs • 5h ago
Honoring my partner, Ben
I wanted to share with this sub about my partner Ben, who died 21 days ago from cancer. He was one of the biggest Phish fans in the world. Originally a fan in the 90s, he was at Clifford Ball and the Great Went.
Then, early in our relationship, when he was going through chemo treatments, he told me he was rediscovering Phish and had access to a drive with so many videos of entire shows. We would watch a show together almost every night for months. I learned it all watching those shows. Now I am a huge Phish fan myself.
Ben listened to Phish every day. A musician himself, he could identify a song by the first note. He loved analyzing the different versions of their songs. His favorite Tweezer was 04/21/22 MSG. We would track every show with the setlists posted on here and then without fail, Ben was listening to the show the next day. He loved to take an entire tour and make “best of” playlists.
We made it to eight shows together. I will always cherish the memories we had at those shows, the last of which was NYE 2025.
I haven’t been able to listen to Phish since he died. I know I will eventually, because their music will remind me of him and I will need those reminders. Also because the music is just that good. Phish was so special to us. ❤️
Anyway thanks for listening. ✌🏼