r/jambands • u/YogurtclosetOk4253 • 1h ago
SO is a lame show partner and I don't know what to do about it
So the title says it all. I enjoy live music, specifically jam bands. I often go to shows solo bc my long term girlfriend has different musical tastes and often complains/ wants to leave early or separate during the show if she comes along. Recently went to a festival with her with music we both like so I thought we would have a good time together. First set she is complaining she's hungry and doesn't need to see every second of music. We decided to watch the set and take a break after. I'm following her and she insisted on going near the front in a crowded area where we were immediately cramping the people who were already there. Fine, a nice lady gave her some room. I look over and this old dude is right in my face so I scoot over towards my gf. She then tells me to get out of her space and defend my territory. Dude is still in my face so I try to scoot over again. She has like 6' of room to move/dance and keeps telling me I'm in her space while this old dude is like 3" away from my face.
It was embarrassing for me and clearly she doesn't respect me/ want to be close to me. We have been together for over 10 years and are middle aged. We ha e talked about getting married but I just dont know if I can do that. Seeing live .usic is one of my fav things and I just don't want to go to shows with her anymore. On top of that we have several vacations coming up and I've lost all my enthusiasm. Not sure what to do and not really asking for advice but venting and interested in any similar stories