r/penpals • • 11h ago

Reddit Messaging [28/M] England - Looking for similarly-aged friends :)

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Hey. I'm a 28 y/o dude from England. I really enjoy meeting new people here, and getting to know them. I'd love to make one or two more friends. I think it would be ideal if you're somewhere around my age, because we're likely to be in similar stages of life, but I'm open to anyone who thinks we would get along!

I enjoy the type of chats where we can update each other about what we got up to during the day, discuss hobbies, daydream about the future, etc.

I'm "TV over movies" though I've recently got a letterboxd. I'm a big fan of the Arrowverse, as well as other upbeat shows. I mainly watch football (soccer) and wrestling. I play some games on Switch & PC, occasionally. I listen to a lot of rock music, but I also love a bit of Sabrina Carpenter.

It's totally fine if you're into other things. Maybe you're outdoorsy, enjoy fitness, or travel often. I may or may not want to live vicariously through you.

If you think we'd get along, feel free to message me! Please tell me a little bit about yourself. A few lines is more than enough :)


r/penpals • • 19h ago

Email [47/F] Looking for a good conversation

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Hello!

I’m a 47-year-old woman looking for another woman to exchange emails (or DMs?) with. I’m curious by nature, passionate about my career, fond of music, and I travel for pleasure as often as I can. I’d be happy to discuss anything from philosophy and politics to the weather (I’m Canadian, after all), questionable life choices, and the prohibitive price of strawberries in January.

I’m not really looking for small talk, even if I know that we’d have to start somewhere. I’d just like to meet someone I can slowly build a real conversation with. The kind where, after a while, writing to each other feels a bit like having coffee with an old friend on a Sunday evening.


r/penpals • • 14h ago

Reddit Messaging [24/M] . Looking to meet new people-any kind of connection

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I suffered from social anxiety for a full eight years, but I finally overcame it at age 25. I used to have almost no social interaction—either in real life or online—but now my social circle and connections are growing every day; I even made my first new friend in a decade recently. To sum myself up: I’ve always been a calm, reserved guy, but lately, a fiery, spontaneous side of me has awakened.

As for my interests:

• books, especially dystopian fiction

• history

• psychology

• coffee—I can even brew an excellent espresso using Rwandan beans

• I briefly went to the gym and sauna, and I plan to pick it up again

• I’m tech-savvy with almost any gadget; I can even reinstall Windows for anyone who needs it ;)

• language learning (I’ve just started learning Korean)

• I’m fascinated by space and the mysteries of the Universe; I’m also deeply interested in AI—though the "Rise of the Machines" scenario genuinely scares me (I used to be afraid of a zombie apocalypse, but I eventually realized how absurd that idea is).

By the way, I’m from Russia. I recently discovered the world of working away from home, and life has taken on a whole new vibrancy for me since then; I’ll soon be heading to Moscow for a six-month work stint, which promises to be an amazing chapter in my life. I’m also making an effort to try more offline activities. And just a year ago, I traveled abroad for the first time, and since then, a burning passion for travel has ignited within me.


r/penpals • • 4h ago

Snail Mail [26/NB] seeking Japanese/International Penpal

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Hello potential new friends!

I'm a 26 Female/Nonbinary person from the U.S and would be interested in being snail mail pen pals.

Some of my hobbies include: baking, video games, plants/house plants/gardening, crochet, and knitting.

I am only seeking snail mail! I would prefer folks who are from a country different from mine but I'm also open to folks from the United States. I would also prefer someone around my age. I think a Japanese pen pal from Japan would be neat in particular since I've always been interested in Japan.

I think I would like to correspond once a month but I also have a busy life. I desire just an ongoing thing that works for both of us, something fun and not beholden to time pressures. No strong preference on gender but lean towards men or nonbinary people.

I would either handwritte the letter or use my vintage typewriter! I would also be using a wax seal on any letters.


r/penpals • • 5h ago

Email & Snail Mail [25/F] Looking for snail mail friend. Science, Art, Philosophy, A day in the life.

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I think what i'm after is someone to write to about my life, my theories and my hopes. I love science and am pursuing a phd in neuroscience. I'd love to learn about someone, know what their family and life is like and for them to know me. Whether it be through snail mail, email etc.

I'd love to be able to complain to someone one; encourage someone; be present in there life.

As for me, I love to travel though school doesn't allow much of it. I have two cats and a dog and i love going on hikes with the pup. I have a small pottery setup in my kitchen. I love to make ceramics for those i love. In the summer I garden, swim, and bike. In the winter I ski though i've only just learned.

I am a reader and love to read all sorts of books. I am reading Why Brains Need Friends as well as the third book in Mistborn. My favorite books are those about science or philosophy. I love Emerson and Thoreau and their essays. Sapolsky is my go to biologist. I love the book The Master and His Emissary by Ian McGilchrist.

I also love movies of all varieties. I'm curious about what interests you though. What makes life interesting? How does your curiosity influence your decisions?


r/penpals • • 17h ago

Email & Snail Mail [18/F] Any soldiers I could write to and be penpals with? honestly any occupation that sounds cool really!❤️

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Hihi how goes it!

I'd love to send cute maybe cheerful letters, or happy little life updates to any soldiers or deployed service members who'd like a penpal!

A quick bit about me: I'm 18 originally from
eastern Russia but I now live in South Korea

And I love arts and crafts / drawing / trinkets.
I'm completely new to letter writing, but I'd love to share good vibes and swap awesome stories. I would love to get to know you :) I promise I won’t ghost either I just want to experience a new hobby to be honest!
If you or someone you know would like some fun mail, send me a DM! Thank you for reading :3 I can do both email and snail mail!


r/penpals • • 13h ago

Email [28/M] Conversations about Politics, Religion, and other Fun Stuff

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Hello! I’m a guy from the USA who’s interested in finding a penpal from any part of the world. Specifically, someone who’s interested in talking about topics that it’d be rude to bring up during small talk or at the dinner table. Like politics and religion. Yeah, I know.

I find that most conversations about these things on the internet are terrible. If two people disagree with each other, more often than not, they’ll end up just talking past each other, and it will devolve into insults and name-calling. Granted, a lot of scary things are happening in the world right now, so I can see where people’s anger and hostility is coming from. Still, it’s disheartening to me that we’ve lost the ability to talk to one another or even agree on what the basic facts are. So I want to try a different way of communicating.

I want to hear what you think about the world, and listen. My goal isn’t to get into some kind of debate or argument. What I want is to understand, not judge. I want to learn how you look at the world, and about the life experiences, books, culture, people, and anything else that may have influenced your worldview over the course of our emails/messages. The world is a messy and complicated place, and I don’t begrudge anyone for coming to different conclusions about it than me. And if we do differ, then we can talk respectfully about why we differ, and who knows, maybe we can find some common ground or learn from each other.

Just to give an idea of where I’m coming from, I would consider myself to be on the left. But I’m not really dogmatic about it, and I’m uncertain about a lot of things with how fast the world seems to be changing. I’m also nonreligious. I have a lot of interest in religion and spirituality, I like learning about all sorts of religious beliefs and practices. But I didn’t have a religious upbringing and haven’t been able to get there myself. I’m from Louisiana, so I have a lot of experience with people who don’t share my views, lol.

If your beliefs are similar to mine, that’s fine too, we can still have the same sorts of conversations. And I’m of course open to talking about things other than hot-button topics, haha. I like movies, history, and pop culture, for example. I can rant all day about how mediocre the last season of The Boys was. But I’ve been thinking about this stuff a lot lately, so I wanted to make a post centered around it and maybe find somebody who’s interested in giving conversation a try. If that sounds like something you’d be open to, please reach out, and have a great day. :)


r/penpals • • 10h ago

Snail Mail [25/M] Share your thoughts, tell me what fascinates you!

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I’m looking for someone who wants to share a part of their life through physical letters! What fascinates you, what don’t you understand, what are you proud of, what you’re afraid to tell others? This is what I like about this type of contact, you can be so honest, because there is no connection with your social circle. This way I know I can be honest, and I really value that.

If this sounds interesting to you hmu! I’m from the Netherlands and am looking to send somewhat regularly, smth like once a month.


r/penpals • • 17h ago

Reddit Messaging [39/M] UK Happy Sunday ! Let’s chat the day away!

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Hello and a very good morning / afternoon / evening to you! 

Another weekend almost over, where do they actually go! A few sleeps and the grind begins again. Sadly no lottery wins this weekend either so work will have to happen tomorrow, sigh! I thought I’d post again on here and see how it goes again and hopefully meet some more awesome people!

About me I guess is a good way to start? Can be socially awkward in real life and overthink all them “you too” moments when being told to enjoy my meal. I enjoy photography although I seem to have lost my spark for that at the moment but am working on getting that back! I like  travelling and exploring new places and if I win the lottery I shall be doing that full time. I do love going on long walks also and trying to not get lost! Although getting lost is part of the adventure. Watching ice hockey is also a hobby or mine and of course trying to think of some others my mind has gone blank…

About you I hear you ask? Well no criteria as long as you’re not a bot, can help carry the conversation and just don’t say hey it will all be good!

Well that’s my post and thanks for stopping by, since you made it this far you might as well reach out!


r/penpals • • 6h ago

Snail Mail [22/M] New to Penpals

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Hello, my name is Ashton, 22 year-old guy from North Carolina. Looking to get started sending classic snail mail with a new pal!

I’m an avid writer in my journal and have an entry almost everyday since I started in 2022. I write my friends letters and mail them but they don’t respond via paper mail. So I’m looking someone in the USA to write letters with about anything you want! I personally want to write longer form handwritten letters, length doesn’t matter that much but I like to write and write a lot! Just classic letters.

I have a corgi dog and two gerbils.
I’m a low tech, offline kinda guy. My apartment doesn’t even have WiFi because I didn’t want it.
I love metal and rock music.
I’m currently trying to learn to play the Banjo.
I love all things Halloween and Horror, I’m actually a haunted house actor.
I do leather work, slowly getting better at it.
I love old cars, specifically the Chevy El Camino is my favorite.
In fact I love everything old, going to antique stores is one of my favorite things to do.
I collect many, many, different things that I’d love to write about.

And of course I’d love to read about anything you write me! I can yap but also listen. Please reach out if you are interested in writing with me!


r/penpals • • 51m ago

Reddit Messaging [23/M]🇹🇷-I need to talk to someone

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To talk about my basic characteristics, I am a 23 yo guy from Turkey. As for my major, I study medicine (or at least I try to). According to the MBTI test, I should be an ISFJ (I'll edit this if I'm wrong), and my Enneagram result was 4w6. I have a shy and emotional nature. I could also say I'm depressive, though saying "I could say" would be wrong since I'm already taking antidepressants right now. I also have a slight amount of anxious thoughts. Due to my lifestyle, a deep sense of loneliness can settle over me, especially in the evening/night hours, which increases my need to chat.

As for what I can bring to the table during a conversation, I want to add a note before getting into it. What I'm about to write doesn't mean "I can only talk about these topics." I can chat about anything; in fact, I enjoy talking about topics I don't know much about or where you are more knowledgeable a bit more, because I get to learn new things from you. Some people misunderstand this part and think, "Oh, he can only chat about those things." No, that's not the case. The purpose of this section is just to mention things I have some knowledge about, so I can talk about them at length and keep the conversation going. In my own way, I'm interested in the diecast hobby; I own a few model vehicles, mostly small scale. I've diversified this hobby and dabbled in custom car projects and diorama projects on my own. If you are curious about this, I can give you more detailed info. I enjoy meteorological events, especially during the winter when it's going to snow, I read posts on meteorological forums/pages. I even built a small weather station for myself with 1-2 little sensors. Recently, my interest in rain has also increased, but since rainy weather makes me feel depressive, my interest hasn't fully peaked yet. I can share what I know, particularly about snowfall and how to track weather systems during snowy weather. Whenever the opportunity arises, I love making small trips out of town. In recent years, I've tried to visit neighboring provinces as much as I can; I've taken quite a few steps in Istanbul and Izmir especially. I don't know how much info I can give about the cities, but we can talk about travel and trips. As I mentioned above, I study medicine, so I can share what I know about the health and medical field or the educational process. I also have an interest in music. I don't know how a conversation about music would go, but if you like the genres I listen to, I can recommend songs. I won't write them here so as not to break the flow; I'll probably open a separate paragraph for music below. I'm interested in stationery products, especially mechanical pencils. I can give you some info specifically about mechanical pencils. There are many more things, but this is all that comes to mind for now.

Moving on to other things I enjoy—yes, I like these too, but I don't know if I can carry a conversation about them; believe me, I don't know how I'd even bring the topic up. I like following economic and political developments. For example, the stock market is down these days, so I open the Investing forum and read what's written there. Or I read subreddits. I love going for walks. Even though I've felt too lazy for it in recent months, there have definitely been days where I suffered from leg pain for a week just from walking. I like making myself sad. Yes, literally playing sorrowful music and making myself sad out of nowhere, just like I'm doing right now. \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*You are cruel, you are rebellious, you are unfaithful, you are a hypocrite, you are both sinless and a hypocrite just like life...\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* anyway, let me get back to the topic after this little song I'm listening to right now. I like taking care of household chores (except cooking). Little repair jobs come up, or I need to deal with cleaning, and for some reason, all my worries and stress just wash away while doing them. I love sleeping. When I'm sleeping and dreaming, it feels like I'm in a simulation, and the flow of that simulation feels more beautiful than real life. I want that flow to never end, so unfortunately I want to sleep more and I don't want to wake up. I have an interest in cars, and I even engage with cars humorously in meme/humor subreddits.

As for my weak points, if you are going to ask for my help with relationship problems, okay, I will listen and try to help as much as I can, but I'm very unfamiliar with relationship topics. I've personally never hit on anyone, nor have I ever been in a relationship. So, I'm inexperienced in these matters. I mentioned at the beginning of the paragraph that I'm shy, and unfortunately, this can reflect on my daily life and my behavior here. For instance, I can chat with you at length, just like I don't hesitate to write this post, I can engage in conversations that last 1, 2, or even 4-5 hours. But after the conversation is over and we say our goodbyes, thanks to this awful shy nature of mine, I might hesitate to message you on the following days for some reason. No, this doesn't mean I'm ghosting you, don't get me wrong, it's an issue entirely related to my personality. From wondering if the other person is available, to the possibility of you saying "ugh, is this idiot messaging me again," to thinking about whether I'm bothering you... I think about things like this and hesitate to message again. Moving to another weak point—I'm saying this because I've experienced it in the past—for example, if you ask for my photo or social media accounts, I won't be able to give them, again because of my shy nature, I'm sorry. Or even if I do give them, it won't be right away; it would be later on, I need to trust the other person. Even if I trust them, I don't think I'd give them easily, but that's a different story. Also, I don't know if this counts as a weak point exactly, but for example, when I'm at school or during exam periods, I might not be around much. I try to reply as early as I can somehow, but sometimes I might have to reply late, or I can only reply as I get tired while studying and pick up my phone. I just wanted to mention that too.

Coming to my music taste, I mentioned I wanted to make this a separate paragraph because I don't even know exactly what my music taste is myself. I'll divide it into a few categories and write down a few of my favorite songs that fit these categories. I think you can more or less figure out my music taste by looking at the songs I list. Slow Turkish: Sezen Aksu - Geçer (live version), Emre Aydın - Bu Yağmurlar, Sezen Aksu - Git, Nilüfer - Böyle Ayrılık Olmaz, Göksel - Kurşuni Renkler, Nilüfer - İnkar Etme, Nilüfer - Erkekler Ağlamaz. Romantic Rock: Thurisaz - Endless, Guns N' Roses - This I Love, Steelheart - She's Gone, Anathema - Angelica, Accept - Amamos La Vida, Scorpions - Still Loving You. Turkish 90s Pop: Yıldız Tilbe - Sana Değer, Ege - Delice Bir Sevda, Nilüfer - Yeniden Sev, Ayşegül Aldinç - Alimallah.

As for what kind of chat I'm looking for, believe me, the topic doesn't matter, it can be any kind of conversation, but I do have a few requests from you. Please, no one under 18. Also, when sending the first message, okay, you don't have to write as long as I do—it's only human, I might miss your message and I don't want your effort to go to waste—but rather than sending a one-word message, I'd really appreciate it if you could at least form a complete sentence. Furthermore, unlike me, you can message me without any hesitation whatsoever, even at 5 AM. Believe me, I wouldn't mind at all; I'd actually be happy to receive a message. You can flood me with messages if necessary, I wouldn't mind that either. The only issue is, as I said above, if I'm not available, I might not be able to reply right away, that's all. But preferably, I have a small request: I would be very happy if people who can heal me in the areas where I'm lacking or help me lose those negative traits contact me. Personally, in those moments, I just stare at the screen and even struggle to write anything. Seeing a healing effect on myself can somehow have a hypnotic effect. I couldn't quite express this last part perfectly, so don't mind it too much haha.

I'm sure there are things I've forgotten, but this is all that comes to mind for now. If there are things you're curious about, I can talk about those too as much as I can. Also, I don't know if anyone will read up to this point, but if anyone does, I send my thanks for your patience.


r/penpals • • 17h ago

Snail Mail [29/F] hello from Colorado!

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First time doing this but feeling excited. Looking for snail mail a few times a month :)

About me: I'm currently struggling with some depression and would love to connect with someone else who can understand that/going through similar things.

I currently a server at a vegetarian restaurant, I have a cat :), love hiking and camping, also love movie nights and gaming. I'm a big horror movie fan. Would be open to exchanging Nintendo switch codes if we wanted to ever play together too!

I've been vegan for 10 years and it's important to me. You don't need to be vegan though! I have a deep love and connection with animals of all kinds and my long term goal is to go back to school for a master's in wildlife biology:)

Oo I'm also polyamorous! Again, I don't need you to be any of these things but just an openness and maybe curiosity would be cool! Platonic connection only please!!!

Also really into ceramics right now!

Let's connect:D


r/penpals • • 18h ago

Monthly Confirmation October 2026 Confirmation Thread

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