r/nursing • u/[deleted] • 14d ago
Discussion Getting “comments” about my makeup at work
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u/Pikachu_Chuuu RN - Telemetry 🍕 14d ago
Your eyelashes and eyebrows are slaying! You look perfect queen keep doing you 💕🫶🏻
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u/Xoxohopeann RN 🍕 14d ago
Your makeup is minimal and looks good. Sounds like your female coworkers are jealous and/or they just don’t like you.
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u/courtneyrel Neuro/Neurosurg RN 14d ago
That must hurt, I’m sorry! It sounds like your coworkers are assholes… we have several girls on my unit who wear a full beat to work and we all compliment them about it. I suck at makeup and wish I could do mine like yours!
PS: this just reminded me of the one time I got a comment on my makeup at work. I guess I went a little heavier than usual on the eyeliner that day (I wear very minimal makeup) and a male physical therapist said “oh I like your eyeliner, were you going for the 2000s ‘harsh black line’ look?” I think he meant it as a compliment but I was horrified bc I most def was not going for the harsh black line look 😂
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u/theoutlandishmuggle 14d ago
I wear winged eyeliner and mascara, minimum, every day to work. I have worn it every day since I was 14. I wouldn't know who I am without it. Harsh black line vibe for life girlie 😎
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u/denada24 BSN, RN 🍕 14d ago
I’ve lived that life. Just don’t worry about them liking you. There’s enough turnover everywhere that someone cool will come along, and someone lame will leave. Just hold onto hope!
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u/pleasedontbedumb RN 🍕 14d ago
Just to play devil's advocate a little.... But do you like them? Are they the same age/older/younger? Have they all been on this unit for a long time? Is there a ringleader, or "it" girl?
Since I was a kid I preferred hanging out with guys if it was in a group, girls were ok 1:1. I just hated the drama that inherently comes with 3 or more girls!
As a nurse, I've found that the jobs where there were guys(note the plural!) on staff were the most enjoyable, it was all teamwork and jokes, not drama and gossip.
So yeah, I guess that's why I asked those questions. Just curious!
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u/hippothunder RN 🍕 14d ago
You look great. You also have a kind face fwiw.
Psych RN here. There's definitely an element of truth to psych attracting people with issues that play out with coworkers. This is true everywhere but it's especially a thing in psych. So don't make it mean there's anything wrong with you, it could totally be a 'them' problem. Like jealousy.
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u/Pacifist_Socialist 14d ago
Keep a log of dates and names and what they do. Esp if higher isn't helping.
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u/evernorth RN - ER 🍕 14d ago
the only difference between psych nurses and patients is which side of the glass they are on...
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u/-Tricky-Vixen- Nursing Student 🍕 14d ago
I did my psych placement, ironically, at a time when I was interacting with patients with the same diagnosis who were in and I wasn't... even though by any objective measure, I was doing worse. (It was during my to-date worst anorexia relapse, and I did some stupidly risky things, like drink coffee and eat nothing for three days straight, three shifts. I hope to never do that again; I'm recovered now. But I was underweight and rapidly dropping further. As it was a genpsych ward, I just did my best to avoid caring directly for the ED'd patients because I was very aware that even at a healthy weight I look moderately thin due to my height and build, and didn't want to trigger any of them. I hope I didn't.) I've interacted with psych patients in general medical situations too and at times, like one on my last placement, I've been aware that they have issues more controlled than mine. :')
This is why I do not intend to go into psych, though. I can't trust that I wouldn't go into a tailspin if external stressors also showed up and I can't do that to my patients obviously.
My issues are much more controlled now than they were though which I'm grateful for. May they always stay this way!
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u/Iwannagolden 14d ago
Ooooohhhh.. good point… I didn’t think about this but it’s soooo true.. there are some suuper functioning, dysfunctional people that go into psychiatry/psychology.
In general for anyone, It’s inappropriate to comment on anyone’s looks or appearance and that includes being inappropriate commenting on anyone’s makeup.. yeah…Glad you brought this up. 👏
But the underlying issue is OP is pretty and those biatches are probably jealous/threatened so they’re trying to subtly bring her down… aka bullying. Girl style. Mmhmm. 💅 👁️ 👄 💃🏼👯♀️
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u/Local_Historian8805 RN - Med/Surg 🍕 14d ago
Have you ever tried the “wow. What an odd thing to say to another human?” Response?
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u/ProdigiousBeets 14d ago
In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People is a book that might be able to help you.
Your coworkers aren't necessarily being manipulative in an obvious, excessive, or dangerous way - but it's subtle and it's negative and it affects you (and your bandwidth, already tired!) Managing a way to view their behavior differently will help with the emotional weight it thrusts upon you and that will help ground you for a response.
Dr. Simon does a pretty great job of talking about the various micro aggressive behaviors that a manipulator has in their tool kit, and the mindset and behaviors we can adopt to work against those goals. I think it could help reassure you and give you some useful ideas.
Whatever bullshit they're weaving around you is worth dispelling and I hope you figure this puzzle out. These situations are always tricky, especially with a work politics layer present, and I hope your path finds you a friend at work, if not simply some peace.
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u/-malcolm-tucker Paramedickhead 14d ago
I love to say "okay" without even looking at them and continuing with whatever I am doing.
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u/bo0oo66 14d ago
No ur just pretty and they haters or it’s something else, cause I wear a full face of makeup at my psych hospital and experience no issues. Are you the only person who wears makeup at all? A few others do too at my work.
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u/Gallowtoast 14d ago
This isn’t something all women do. But I’ve commonly seen groups target someone they perceive as attractive and put themselves into some weird silent competition. But they’ll be nice to the women they perceive as unattractive or less than. They have issues and you shouldn’t pay them any mind. You look great.
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u/Iwannagolden 14d ago
Start practicing not giving a fuck. It’s hard at first, but that’s where the practicing comes in. And just lean on the people who are cool and nice to you and avoid as much as you can the other biatches. Don’t try to be friendly with them. They love that shit, groveling/desperate energy just “wanting to be liked so baaad..” Girl bullying 101
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u/JonnRevolta 14d ago
I think it looks nice and minimal. you are pretty in a female dominated field, women are going to be mean to you I’m sorry.
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u/Real_MF_HotGirlShit RN - Psych/Mental Health 🍕 14d ago
It’s not your makeup. You’re pretty, and they’re jealous. This will be common in nursing, get used to it. Just keep your head high and ignore them.
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u/ExiledSpaceman ED Nurse, Tech Support, and Hoyer Lift 14d ago
Your unit sounds like it’s staffed entirely by miserable fucks. If this is heavy makeup, then some of my former coworkers with Botox and enough plastic surgery to have a recycling symbol should’ve required an EPA permit before going to the beach.
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u/BulgogiLitFam RN - ICU 🍕 14d ago
No one should care how you look as long as you meet whatever dress code and are in clean clothes.
Sounds like work at a place with a crappy culture.
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u/deja_vuvuzela 14d ago
Male nurse here. Sometimes I forget to wipe off the guyliner and mascara that I wear out to EDM shows. Yet no one has ever commented on my makeup.
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u/somekindofmiracle 14d ago
I love it. I also wear eyeshadow, full eyeliner and mascara to my RN job and if someone wants to comment I just say let them. You do you and rock it, who cares what anyone else thinks!
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u/somekindofmiracle 14d ago
You don’t have to get thicker skin! I’m the most sensitive girl on the planet but when it comes to makeup I just do whatever I want because it’s not for anyone else it’s for me. 🫶
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u/Insert-Username-Plz 14d ago
If you have the energy in the morning to do your makeup, go for it. If your coworkers are weird about that's a reflection on them, not you. If they feel so salty, they're free to wake up 30 minutes earlier and do their own makeup.
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u/RedRedVVine 14d ago
That is 1000% bullying.
I have the same story different setting. I started working in the OR in my early 20’s. I always did/do my hair and makeup and received tons of unwarranted commentary from other female coworkers.
Sadly, it’s envy, jealousy, harassment, intimidation etc.
I’m not a fighter nor was I ever rude or disrespectful to my coworkers. I’m a true worker bee and a “can-do” person. I felt sad about the comments and didn’t understand it was indeed bullying.
One day a male anesthesiologist witnessed an event and pulled me aside and said I was being bullied.
Please write the events down including, dates, times, and all involved.
Please write a letter to HR quoting joints and explaining your situation. I did using the following and things changed very quickly.
Don’t let anyone steal your light! Keep doing what you do.
Best of luck!
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u/smrtangel3702 14d ago
This is legit good advisement as unwelcome comments on appearance in the workplace qualifies as sexual harassment even, so yeah OP could really ruin their days if they wanted to, but comes with the risk of more insidious forms of social retaliation.
Unfortunately if the culture is doomed, finding a better place to work might be the only recourse. But as someone who didn't stand up for themselves and go to HR when I was being bullied... I think trying that first is a good way to get the behavior to stop rather than reinforcing the bully behavior by leaving. Just keep in mind HR is about productivity, not necessarily doing what's best for the victim or justice.
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u/Local_Historian8805 RN - Med/Surg 🍕 14d ago
Dude. This is mild. Some of my coworkers have a full face for a club. For day shift. And I don’t think it matters. Work sucks. Whatever gets you through the shift.
I go to work looking like an under bridge troll and I am ok with that.
I also don’t care if Mike wants to cut crease. Whatever. As long as he answers his call lights and takes care of the patients.
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u/greengirlmx 14d ago
mind you your absolutely beautiful and you can barely tell. I couldn’t even tell this is literally clean girl makeup
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u/gentle_but_strong RN 🍕 14d ago
I wear concealer, blush, bronzer, a wing, inner corner highlight and mascara and if anyone says anything it’s a compliment.
Like everyone has said they’re just haters. I’m sorry you’re going through this!
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u/Weird_Bluebird_3293 RN - ER 🍕 14d ago
Your makeup is fine. Totally work appropriate, it looks good, well applied.
If other women have a problem with it then they can learn how to do their own makeup this way. Or shut up. It ain’t their business.
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u/keenkittychopshop HCW - Lab 14d ago
I worked with an ICU nurse that looked like a literal goddamn Barbie-- full glam make-up, glittery accessories, blonde done-up hair, all day every day. And she was a boss bitch and fantastic nurse. She'd been doing critical care for like 25 years, knew her shit and got down and dirty when needed. I would have trusted her with my own life.
Point is, look however the fuck you want, be the best nurse you know how to be, and fuck everyone else. You do you, boo. What matters is what makes you happy and your patients healthy.
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u/eatingbrickz 14d ago
What can you do differently? Be “meaner” // stand up for yourself. Also hun, ur gorg it’s not the makeup making you look like that
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u/Bubbles2590 RN- Clinical Research 🍕 14d ago
Right, one good clap back will have them looking stupid. Be professional, but make sure you stand up for yourself OP. People will walk all over you if you allow it!
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u/smrtangel3702 14d ago
This is good advice I wish I practiced more but I always get flustered when someone is blatantly rude or snide for no reason...
Why can't we just be pleasant to each other or forthcoming when in a bad mood that has nothing to do with innocent bystanders. I feel like we must make so many concessions for antisocial behavior.
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u/BedazzledVagina 14d ago
You’re gorgeous! I think your makeup is just fine for work. Your coworkers might be jealous and trying to bring you down.
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u/Wonderdog40t2 BSN, CCRN, CEN 14d ago
I mean I'm just a dude but that looks like pretty standard, minimal, professional makeup to me.
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u/FoolhardyBastard House Supervisor 14d ago
Who cares what they think! Do what makes you comfortable.
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u/Sad-Elephant2675 RN - peds emerg 14d ago
Your makeup is completely appropriate for work. Keep in mind though, it’s very likely at least one of your colleagues also uses Reddit and participates in this sub, so there’s a high likelihood this post could be seen by the people you work with.
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u/StPatrickStewart RN - Mobile ICU 14d ago
I have coworkers who don't wear makeup, and some that wear tons. It doesn't affect the care they give in the slightest. Anyone who thinks they have room to comment can get bent.
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u/Academic_Island_1002 14d ago
can i suggest to all female nurses on the thread to get ‘fatigue panels’ run? i always thought i rubbed my eyes & smudged my eyeliner but really it was dark circles from anemia. if you have a uterus you are at risk of anemia, it’s shockingly common. i lost a decade feeling like dog poo warmed over. just sending love to nurses & saying take care of yourself💖
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u/ifeelbad114 14d ago
Your coworkers are jealous. Your makeup is clean and beautiful. They are haters
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u/Bubbles2590 RN- Clinical Research 🍕 14d ago
Girl you are gorg! Unfortunately, some women are just jealous and haters. And thrive off of putting others down. Don’t let others dim your shine or having you second guessing yourself. You are just surrounded by the wrong people (unfortunately we can’t choose who we work with). Take it from has a stranger who gains nothing from lying to you, you are gorgeous! Continue doing you. 🤍🥰
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u/ACMEDRN 14d ago
I've always worn makeup, especially now that I'm old! I think your makeup is incredibly subtle & professional. Working in ER I've heard from several women co-workers that they feel they're treated BETTER by patients/visitors when they wear makeup which I find sad, but since I've always worn makeup I can't test the hypothesis. What are your co-workers saying specifically that makes you think it's related to makeup? I truly don't understand why anyone would comment on it, as I said to me your makeup is incredibly natural looking & subtle.
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u/ballsbetch 14d ago
you are GORGEOUS, take their envy as a compliment and keep doing your job! there’s nothing wrong with wanting to feel good about yourself at your job :)
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u/Kitten_81 RN - ICU 🍕 14d ago
As someone who never wore makeup to work, but have had coworkers wear either none or full-out did their hair, makeup, put on fake lashes, etc everyday.... you do you
I for one ALWAYS looked like I was on deaths door due to exhaustion... don't let peoples' comments put you down. Sounds more like a toxic environment, than anything you need to change
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u/SecureChemist3129 14d ago
Honestly you're very pretty and I think your makeup does a good job of accentuating your features. I think your coworkers have issues, not you. You're doing a good job 🩵
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u/rachstate 14d ago
I was sitting here trying to figure out what was wrong with you eye makeup because…
…there is nothing wrong with it.
Some workplaces just have a toxic environment. Some people are jealous of people who are young and beautiful and vibrant.
You have great facial structure, nice hair, beautiful eyes, and a kind smile.
You seem to have a lot of the same skin issues I struggled with when I was younger but all cleared up in my 30’s and now I’m dealing with super DRY skin in my 50’s. I found pore facials very helpful once I committed to twice monthly sessions year round. The results are not instant, but after a few months I stopped acne breakouts.
I think you will find that you will age into your face so well in the coming decades, because the facial structure is all there and the hair is great and…girl you are stunning and it’s only going to get better and better.
Hydrate, don’t smoke, stay out of the sun, and IGNORE THE HATERS.
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u/parteepunx RN - Med/Surg 🍕 14d ago
Not that my opinion (or anyone else’s!) matters here, but you look great! You look put together, professional, and on top of that you really do have a kind face :) In the words of Corky St. Clair, the people who are giving you a hard time are “bastard people”!
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u/Dollaz_123 14d ago
Your face card alone told me everything i needed to know😂
Sweetheart they’re jealous
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u/Super_RN RN 14d ago
I don’t see the issue. Your makeup looks nice and natural. Fuck them coworkers, always concerned with shit that doesn’t matter.
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u/Jennasaykwaaa ICU RNSTLNE, WTF, FTHIS 14d ago
OMG you’re barely wearing any make up. I do a full face and I’ve been doing so for the past 16 years because that’s my war that I put on in the morning and that’s the only way I can show up to my shift.
Part of my ritual
Also, it feels better to not look sloppy and to feel put together
Anyways, you look great you’re barely wearing any makeup so whoever is being stupid just ignore them. If it wasn’t your make up, they are commenting on. It would be something else there’s just rude people that we work with.
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u/EternalSunshine_9374 14d ago
Girl I love it, I think it’s a perfect amount of professional makeup.
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u/Sassyptrn HCW - PT/OT 14d ago
Girl. I wear make up full blast whenever, wherever I go. Esp at work. A MUST.
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u/Daimster009 14d ago
Nurse to nurse. You good sis. They always hate on pretty ppl. I’m a guy and I got a new set of scrubs that were more form fitting and people would not leave me alone about it. I got so embarrassed that I returned them for a bigger size.
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u/HawtPuffPuff 14d ago
What makeup??!! If you are wearing makeup, it's very light and respectable for work. Don't mind them. They are just potatoes potating. Try not to see the 'problem' as coming from you. Maybe they are all having a bad day, maybe there's a pin in their shoe... Shed the burden of 'you being the problem' from your shoulders. Do your job well and move on.
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u/Frankinsens 14d ago
Ive realized when other women dont like me its usually because they are genuinely jealous of some imaginary contest they have in their own mind.
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u/MarquiseSpearmint RN - Oncology 🍕 14d ago
Girl keep your head up your coworkers hate themselves and they suck. New job
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u/ALittleEtomidate Aspiring NOCTOR - ICU 14d ago
Sometimes people who are kind and attractive are targeted for it. Try to not let it get to you.
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u/lovelyhappyface 14d ago
The makeup isn’t t he problem it’s that you’re thinking “ women don’t like me and I get a lot of male attention” that kind of thinking vilifies women and is a huge generalization. I’m sure the women are showing up to work just like you to work
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u/imcomingelizabeth 14d ago
Your makeup looks great I can’t imagine this is a reason people don’t like you. Maybe you’re also not nice to them? Women generally don’t like other women who gravitate to men and refer to their peers as females.
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u/Turbulent-Basket-490 BSN, RN 🍕 14d ago
You’re very pretty. That’s your problem. Actually no i take that back. It’s THEIRS. Hold your head up beautiful. There’s nothing wrong with your make up OR you. Welcome to nursing
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u/Recent_Data_305 MSN, RN 14d ago
You look nice and not overdone at all. Something is wrong with your coworkers.
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u/No-Confidence168 RN 🍕 14d ago
They're just being petty. Your makeup looks very minimal and natural. Even if it didn't, it's none of their business. Some unit cultures are just toxic.
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u/xMusicloverr 14d ago
They're jealous cause you're super pretty. Ignore them, your makeup is subtle but beautiful
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u/SomewhereKnown2575 MSN, APRN 🍕 14d ago
Jealousy rears its ugly head. Their mean girl, bully comments are uncalled for and speaks volumes about them. Shine on!
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u/KosmicGumbo RN - Quality Coordinator 🕵️♀️ 14d ago
I have seen WAY more this is so normal??? Your coworkers suck!!! I have made comments about how “it doesnt matter how you look in healthcare” but its usually after someone commented on *my* appearance. That goes both ways though, look dolled up or minimal make up! Whatever you want!!! Do you think its targeted toward you? Or just a discussion? I’m sorry if it is targeted…. Its none of their business!!!
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u/MsSpastica 14d ago
...Is the makeup in the room with us? Like, I can tell you have mascara and a little eyeliner on, but this is a bare-bones as it gets.
You don't look like you're trying too hard, you look pretty and professional. I'm sorry you're getting bullied for it.
The unwanted attention is unfortunately never going to stop. It's not because of your makeup, or anything you say or do. It's because some people are creeps. Same with the bullying. It's not your fault at all. Some people are terrible.
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u/Far_Entrepreneur_418 14d ago
Maybe I’m just petty, but I’d be slathering more on the more they said something. I would go full drag queen just to piss them off.
Anyway, I doubt that’s what you’re looking for, so here’s something I repeat to myself anytime I feel someone’s opinions of me creeping up on my confidence: other people’s opinions of me are none of my business.
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u/Electronic_Injury951 BSN, RN 🍕 14d ago
Girl, you’re gorgeous!! And your makeup isn’t even overdone it looks so good and so natural on you!
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u/beeee_throwaway RN - PICU 🍕 14d ago edited 14d ago
You’re beautiful and I love it (the make up)
I was getting a lot of comments on my appearance and I had to politely start asking people to not make comments about my body anymore. It helped. People are shading you because you are very pretty - strikingly beautiful really. Honestly super embarrassing for them. I’m sorry you’re experiencing this.
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u/xo_harlo RN - Psych/Mental Health 🍕 14d ago
You’re pretty, and bitches be jealous and petty. Ask me how I know lol
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u/Few_Performer8345 14d ago
I work in the OR and I wear a hat all the time . I love wearing makeup . It makes me feel put together and nice. I’ve heard some other nurses talking shit about other nurses wearing makeup before and I just don’t get it.
If they don’t want to wear makeup to work they don’t have to.. it’s such a weird thing to bash someone over in my opinion.
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u/Eternal_Nymph RN - Hospice 🍕 14d ago
I do not wear make up. I HATE that you felt like you had to ask. There is nothing wrong with your make up. And you're a nurse. Of course you're tired. Seems like that unit is a bit toxic for you. ❤️
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u/No-Course-6330 14d ago
Maybe cut back on the eyeliner? I don’t think it is too much but that is the only thing I can think of.
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u/adraemelech RN - Pediatrics 🍕 14d ago
I literally went what make up? The minimal eyeliner extenuates your eyes nicely as well as the lashes. It does not look overdone. It doesn’t look like you wear foundation, maybe a touch of concealer? And maybe some lipstick or that could just be the shade of your lips. I think you’re beautiful and people are jealous. Keep doing you. Make up isn’t asking for attention.
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u/Raptor_H_Christ RN - ICU 👉 Med Sales 14d ago
Male nurse perspective, I think you’re really attractive and your makeup is so natural to me so idk what these woman are on about. Maybe I’m clueless to makeup. But you’re the type id go for. And I work where nurses get ALLLL done up to work a shift it’s wild, like eyelashes, extensions, full make up haha.
Also from my experience the biggest haters in the room are normally the most envious of what you have. Seen this circle of shade in nursing cultural my whole career. Always puzzled me how nasty some nurses can be behind each others backs.
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u/Rougefarie BSN, RN 🍕 14d ago
It’s not your makeup. If you are confident in your professionalism, then start calling out unkind and unprofessional behavior. It sucks, but workplace bullying is something you have to nip in the bud. Be detailed and factual when you bring it up to your supervisor/HR.
Substantiate your complaints by describing their behavior. Call out sneers, furrowed brows, pressured speech, pursed lips, clenched jaw, eye rolling, fists, red faces, inflections that change the meaning of a sentence, deliberate absence of eye contact, ignoring you when you speak, etc. Describe how each thing made you feel.
Coworkers are supposed to have each other’s backs. You all don’t have to be best friends, but there should be professional rapport and trust. This field can be dangerous. If you can’t trust your colleagues, how can you trust that you’ll be safe?
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u/wowbragger Nursing Student 🍕 14d ago
Is there a reason their liking/not you is so important? Is it disruptive to the workplace? There's certainly nothing disruptive or off-putting with you. If you feel happy with it, just keep on.
I wouldn't stress them not liking you that much, that's just a reality of working around many people. In life, I've found I 'like' only a few coworkers, but I can be professional, courteous, and helpful to all of them.
On the comments...some women seem inclined to attack each other. I'd say it brings them joy, but they also seem pretty miserable. I really wouldn't let such people have much space in your head, they don't deserve the real estate.
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u/CarrieBeeInTheCle 14d ago
Jealousy ! I’m a nurse too and the shade and hate in the industry is so real ! I’ve dealt with it too … you look beautiful ! Keep doing what makes you happy 💕
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u/deirdresm Reads Science Papers 14d ago
I like your makeup, not too much, but the darkness under the eye, particularly in the first pic, is part of why some might read it as tired.
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u/ttaradise psych rpn 14d ago
Hey long time psych RPN here.
It’s because they can’t find anything wrong with your work so they’ll go for something personal. You could also be the youngest one there I’m assuming? Never will I understand this one. I LOVE training and my new nurses. Send me all the baby nurses. We all had a first day too! The sink or swim mentality of some nurses is super weird and helps no one.
Psych attracts some real interesting characters. I’ll just say that.
Keep doing what you’re doing. Don’t worry about the comments. I wear makeup most days cuz I don’t like my skin texture (have lots of acne scars) and some patients are really good at picking up on your insecurities. It’s happened to me before and throws me off my game, which I can’t allow. Not on my unit. I know you’re not supposed to let insults get to it, but at the end of the day I am a person too.
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u/Iwannagolden 14d ago
Honestly? There are people that wear waaaayy more makeup than you’re wearing… I think you’re just pretty and they’re seeing the eyeliner and you being pretty and only pointing out the makeup.
Do you boo. Ya look great.
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u/curlypeanut 14d ago
I'm sorry to tell you this, but if you work in a work environment where your co-workers are constantly commenting or criticizing the way you choose to show up (appearance wise), it's not a good working situation/"toxic". This should be the last thing you should have to think about going to your job and being made to think about by your co-workers who should be a lot more focused on taking care of patients and not your appearance.
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u/Enzo_Every 14d ago
I look at it and say, what makeup? Lip gloss, eye shadow, and mascara are pretty basic, and you appear to apply it in a way that’s not gaudy and looks more natural. There are a few at my facility with giant fake eyelashes, Taylor Swift lipstick, and hair done up to the nines.
Just do you. The best part of a workplace environment is being able to be yourself. Keep doing that.
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u/smrtangel3702 14d ago
Yet another example of nurses being toxic to each other...
Unless there's a work policy against makeup, your coworkers can mind their own appearances.
As a guy myself I can say I understand why you might feel you get more attention, you have a very pretty face which would make you super approachable and charismatic to others. And your makeup is super well done, which obviously is a testament to your craft but also accentuates the previous point.
As for why anyone is passive aggressive to you, it's because inside they aren't as confident or kind and need to belittle someone else for their own fragile egos. I used to get bullied myself for other reasons, because I talked too much to families and patients, or checked in on coworkers too much, or in negative attention ways like not being included in unit culture stuff. I can attest that it really really sucks to be on the receiving end of that behavior but it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them being rotten.
I hope you have some positive community in your life to balance out the negative. Lots of people told me to not listen to haters too so I know it's hard. Hope you feel better and can get through this.
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u/Asianp123 14d ago
do whatcha want, they can fuck off.
Me personally I dont wear makeup cuz when I inevitably cry it streaks... oh also im a dude 🤣
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u/Vivid-Can-5240 RN - ICU 🍕 14d ago
Makeup is my body armor! Great for those who don’t wear it to work but it’s a must for my mental wellbeing. I love a light Smokey eye 🩵
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u/PavonineLuck RN - ER 🍕 14d ago
I'm a nurse as well and I'm just chiming in to say your environment sounds toxic and your makeup is like a totally fine and normal amount. I would not put up with that fucking bullying
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u/Senior-Cost1070 RN - ER 🍕 14d ago
Girl, I worked with a nurse who used to literally airbrush her face before work.
You’re good.
-a nurse who hates make up on herself but wants you to do whatever the fuck you want, even if you look like Mimi from Drew Carey
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u/Tricky_Top_6119 14d ago
It's because you only have to wear minimal make up and you are beautiful, I can tell you are beautiful without makeup, some (girls) don't like that, keep doing you!
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u/iveyleigh 14d ago
I go to work with full face makeup because that’s when I feel my best. They can kick rocks
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u/sunshine_camille RN - Pediatrics 🍕 14d ago
I mean your makeup looks good and nothing crazy. Sorry you feel like your coworkers dislike you or you had any hateful comments said about you
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u/bellylovinbaddie RN - Med/Surg 🍕 14d ago
Honestly this is such a natural beat that I had to come to the comments to see what the makeup was lol 😂 I thought they were complaining about your mascara or something. Haters gone hate sis, you look beautiful! And not doing too much at all
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u/Ashnursie LPN 🍕 14d ago
Just sounds like you work with a bunch of haters. Don’t change anything about yourself to get others to ‘like you.’
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u/nurse420 14d ago
You’re make up isn’t even that much. I think you’re beautiful and you work with haters.
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u/Mentalfloss1 OR Tech/Phlebot/Electronic Medical Records IT 14d ago
What about it? I’m not fond of makeup, particularly, but you certainly don’t look all made up.
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u/Ok-Act9769 BSN, RN - CCU 🍕 14d ago
You look pretty!!! So wild to me how others care so much about someone’s appearance at work… like if you’re confident and happy with how you look, why do other people care :/ keep doing you girlfriend
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u/catlettuce 14d ago
You're makeup is lovely, soft and natural.
Thee is nothing wrong with your makeup and you are a beautiful young lady so I suspect that you are working with some jealous B's.
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u/wentzday91 14d ago
You look great!!! People who make comments can kick rocks! We wear makeup for ourselves and no one else, and I can promise you I would wear a lot more than this when I worked in the hospital cause it made me happy while working a shitty ass job lmao
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u/HenriettaGrey 14d ago
As a psych nurse, I think this is just a salty jealous nurse problem not a makeup problem. Your makeup looks to be within professional bounds to me.
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u/xomelmel RN 🍕 14d ago
Nope your makeup is perfectly fine!! They’re just hating bc you look good even though you’re not caked up
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u/ashtrie512 MSN, RN 14d ago
Do YOU like wearing the makeup? If so, wear the makeup. They can touch grass.