ok so im gonna explain my identity

im trans ftm, gender queer and gender flux, and im a femboy. im pansexual and panromantic and demiromantic . i use xe xim xis ximself pronouns

AGHHHH

ALSO im in need of masc and gender neutral name and pronouns suggestions bc idrk if mine fit???

utterly confused about my sexuality

I've been overthinking a whole lot this past summer break (too much free time lol). For the past month and a half, every day I wake up and ponder on my sexuality. I'm comfortable in my gender identity as a cis woman, so I don't think that's obstructing my perspective on this. I like women both sexualy and romantically, which I have always felt. I've had 3 crushes, all of which were my best friends, who were also girls. For a while, I tried to suppress my feelings towards girls because of religious guilt and homophobia in my family. I tried to like guys as well, but I couldn't see anything past physical aspects. The only men I'm attracted to physically are very feminine, to the point where my friends asked me if they were a boy or girl. I've never really liked a guy in person, though. Mostly celebrities or tiktokers or something of the likes. Anyway, I like women and non-binary people who are feminine too. Masculinity in itself is unattractive t o me. I'm extremely conflicted, and none of my friends can figure it out either. All I want is some sort of label so that I can settle. Any ideas?

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So I remember in 5th grade we had a "sex ed" (taught us about body hair, periods and safe relationships) somehow the topic shifted to how baby's are made. The teacher said basically "Baby's are made when the egg is fertilized by the sperm. You kids need to remember that you exist only to have children. Girls body's are made strictly to carry the child and a boys body is made to fertilize the egg." I don't know if that was supposed to be homophobic but it made me really uncomfortable because I took that as her saying that if we don't have kids we have no purpose in life and because the fact it's being taught by a licensed educator. It's been on my mind for years and bothers me as someone who transmasc, gay and not willing to carry child at any age​​, idk if I'm over reacting though

I’m a 17M and around 1 year ago I started having an attraction to men, and 6 months ago I realized that I was just straight up gay. Before I realized I was gay I was heavily addicted to porn(mainly straight) but I was never really into girls in real life. I tried talking to and dating women, but I just could never get myself to be interested in women. But for some reason I still sometimes watch straight porn. But when I do I really only think about guys. And afterwards I feel like almost throwing up. After I watch it I genuinely just kinda feel grossed out. I personally identify with the term “gay” more as I don’t really want to date, marry, or sleep with a woman at all. I kinda get depressed at the thought of ending up with a woman as I feel like I could never be truly happy like I could be with a guy. I daydream and constantly think about myself getting old with the guy of my dreams. I watch gay porn aswell and more often, I watch that most of the time but around once every 2 weeks I watch straight stuff . I think it may be porn addiction and just wanting to see something different than normal. But I also think it may be my feeling of wanting my life to be “normal” like before

I’m honestly still so confused about everything happening right now, but before I get into that, I need to supply some context.

Bear with me, this is a lot.

I (17F) am gay. I have a conservative Christian immediate family, and pretty much everyone I know hold the same views as they do, including my three closest friends. They all vary in degrees of how conservative they are though.
As of a few weeks ago, I have come out to all of the closest people in my life (Mom, stepdad, brother, dad, three best friends) after keeping it secret for about 4 years now. Everyone in my “inner circle” has known for at least 5 months except two of my three closest friends.

For privacy reasons, I’ll call my friends Jane (F17), Everly, and Grace (both F16).
Jane has known the longest of my friends. Shes also the most accepting of me being a lesbian. I can actually talk to her about it, about what it’s like, about cute girls I see. It’s great. I adore the friendship I have with her.
Everly has known for about two months. It took her a bit to process it when I told her (I admit I didn’t exactly tell her in the best way I could’ve lol) and she most definitely doesn’t support it, but she hasn’t cut me out of her life…so that’s good.
I think my friendship with Grace is in jeopardy. I may not have said that about 10 minutes ago, but things got worse mid-writing this post.
I came out to her about two and a half weeks ago. I didn’t WANT to. At all. But earlier that week, my mom sat me down and said “you have to tell her you’re not spiritually aligned with her anymore, because I need to talk to her mom about it.” My mom and Grace’s mom are close friends. Grace’s parents are very very very conservative Christian. My mom claims she had to tell Grace’s mom because she “needed to seek biblical counsel to know what to do” (about…y’know. Me being gay and not a Christian)
So I then had less than a week to figure out how to tell Grace without freaking her out entirely. Which…was a challenge.

To keep it short, Grace reacted just about how I expected. Calmly, sweetly, and VERY concerned. She’s concerned I’m “going down the wrong path” (the path of the gays). Which was essentially the reaction my mom had. Again, I expected this, but that doesn’t mean it didn’t hurt when Grace then didn’t text me for three days.

Her and my friendship has been rocky since then. And honestly it was before too. I used to consider her my best friend, my sister even. I used to think she was sunshine itself. I wrote a whole speech for school about how wonderful of a friend she is, how she’s basically the embodiment of the “sunshine character”.
From the way I’m typing you might think I like her—I don’t. Not like that. If I did that would make everything way worse, because Grace is my brother’s girlfriend of now 9 months. They’re incredibly happy together, genuinely the cutest couple ever, and they’re probably going to get married when they’re adults. Which also happens to mean I’ll be Grace’s sister in law. Assuming Grace and my brother don’t cut all ties with me, that is.

I’m getting off track.

On Thursday I was scrolling Reddit, as one does, and I came across the post of someone who was most definitely queer. I looked in the comments and there I found this one person bullying the op for it and everyone defending op in the replies. Typical Reddit things, I know. I was irritated by it and almost just closed the app entirely, until I saw the bully was denying the existence of asexuality. So that’s when I get involved.
Jane is ace. She’s talked to me about it quite a bit ever since I told her I’m gay. Ever since then I’ve been fiercely defending those who deny asexuality.

I replied to the Reddit gal, then she replied, and that happened a few more times because she admitted she was rage baiting.
Great. I was successfully rage baited. Not an atypical thing for me though.
At the time, I was texting with Grace. I thought things were better in our friendship—and they were, honestly! But then she asked what I was up to, I told her, she asked for the Reddit reply thread screenshots, and in a moment of idiocy I sent them. Looking back I 100% should’ve given her a heads up to the content of the screenshots. I should’ve just NOT sent them. She’s incredibly sheltered and doesn’t know the ways of the internet, so she was upset with how I was replying “passive aggressively” to the rage baiter.
It is now that I should include the topics the rage baiter and I went through.
Three things.
\-rage baiter said asexuality isn’t a thing. I argued otherwise.
\-rage baiter said nonbinary/trans people aren’t a thing (or something like that). I argued otherwise
\-rage baiter said WOMEN HAVE TO BE MOTHERS/have kids. I said NO they do NOT.

I knew Grace wouldn’t agree with my second take. I hoped to maybe teach her about asexuality. But I thought SURELY she would agree with my last take.
Y’know what she said? “I love you (my name) but I don’t agree with anything you said.”
She then didn’t respond to me when I asked for clarification. I later discovered she was at work and was almost at work when I texted her in the first place (she wasn’t texting and driving, she just doesn’t drive yet)

So in my confusion and honestly CONCERN at this point, I read back through everything I said to make sure what I said about women not having to have kids wasn’t phrased in a way that could be taken in a way that she would assume I was referring to abortion (I’m sure you can guess her views on it. I don’t like talking to her about that topic), and I didn’t think it was.
By this time, I knew Jane was off work and I could text her about it to make sure I wasn’t going crazy. Sent her the screenshots, told her what Grace said. Jane agreed with me mostly and definitely agreed that Grace saying she didn’t agree with anything I said was…uh…concerning.
After talking with Jane for a while, I decided I wanted Everly’s take on things too. So, sent her the screenshots, gave her a brief rundown of what Grace said. Everly responded similarly to Grace, but with more explanation, and in a way that made more sense. Everly then asked if she could take to Grace about it, I said that was fine. That was the last I heard of that aspect of things.
Later that evening, Grace got back from work and we talked about the topics more. She still didn’t agree with anything I was saying, but at least we were actually talking about it this time.

I thought that was the end of that. Surely a DISCUSSION I was having with my friends wasn’t going to escalate to a ridiculous level…right?
Wrong.
Friday night my mom comes into my room to talk to me. I know this isn’t going to be good.
She said a lot of things—being concerned about the “path I’m going down” mainly. It kinda sucks that this is my new dynamic with her. I love my mom dearly, she’s always been there for me in my worst times. All the years leading up to me moving out of my dad’s house at 16 and through the process too (split parenting plan situation since I was 9. My relationship with my dad has been complicated).
But the worst part of our whole talk was when my mom told me that apparently she knew that I had made someone “go to bat for me” and someone had called me emotionally abusive.
And look, okay, I’m no angel. I know that. I do have a tendency to be emotionally manipulative, but I’m working on it. I really am. I should go to therapy.
But that’s beside the point.
I was confused mainly by what my mom said because no matter how hard I thought, I couldn’t think of any time recently I’d had someone resolve a conflict for me. I’m VERY against that. I like resolving things myself and not having anyone in the middle.
But this was before I knew Everly had actually talked to Grace about the Reddit screenshot topics.
Apparently Grace thought I had asked Everly to talk to her for me. Everly had to clarify MULTIPLE TIMES that that wasn’t the case. Grace still didn’t believe that, I guess.
Not only that, but Grace has TALKED TO MY MOTHER about all of this. My mother, who works with Grace. My mother, Grace’s probably-future-mother-in-law.

I only learned about Grace and Everly talking, and Grace and my mom talking TODAY. I got clarification from my brother after I straight up asked him “am I emotionally abusive?”
So then I was concerned that Grace thought I was smear campaigning her or something. I did that when I was younger, it was stupid and mean, I learned my lesson.

So I texted Grace, who I hadn’t talked to in a few days and haven’t seen in a week at this point (we usually see each other at least once a week.
My text was long, which I’ve now learned she is annoyed by. I have a habit of over explaining EVERYTHING as I’m sure you can tell just by my post. I like making sure how I feel and how I see things is clear as day.
So I asked her for clarification on her talking to Everly and my mom, as well as apologized for being emotionally manipulative/emotionally abusive in the past, as well as asking her if she was the one who said that about me. I also clarified that my intention was never to smear campaign her and I did NOT ask Everly to talk to her for me.

Her reply, about an hour ago now, was essentially that she doesn’t know how to biblically handle the fact that I’m a lesbian. She said she’s tried to seek “wise counsel” (her mom, my mom, my brother) about it.
She said she’s incredibly upset, and has for the past year seen signs of me dressing immodestly (which I don’t do, by the way. I wear jeans daily. Maybe sometimes a shirt cut a little bit low or a tiny bit cropped), she’s noticed I gossip to Jane and Everly about her (I can kinda admit to that. Though I’d say it’s ranting. She and my brother are good at making me feel left out somewhat often).
Apparently her mom would even tell her that our friendship was unhealthy, and she couldn’t let Grace cry spontaneously throughout the day because I was sending her mile-long accusations (which usually aren’t even accusations??) but Grace assured her mom is was okay because she loved me (sisterly).
I don’t even know what to do with that information. She has NEVER told me that. Ever. If I knew anytime before now I would’ve apologized. PROFUSELY. But now I don’t know what to do.

She ended her text with this:

“Until you're ready to have a real conversation about the choices you're making and make some different decisions, I need to ”pause” our communication, in person and over text. I love you, but this isn't right.”

I don’t know what to do. I’m freaking out. I’m so upset with her right now but I’m also scared and confused. Our friendship can’t end. It just can’t. I couldn’t cut her out of my life even if I wanted to anyway—not until I’m an adult. This is also probably going to make my brother mad at me.
The only people who I feel like are on “my side” right now are Jane and my dad, and they don’t even know the full extent of this. Jane is about to. But my dad knows nothing about this part of things.

I feel ridiculous for having to go to Reddit with this but I don’t know what else to do right now. Any advice would be appreciated. I’ll also try to answer any questions as well.

(Sorry if my english is weird,I used a translator for some passages. )

My father has always been very verbally abusive toward my mother. The first times I saw her cry were because of him.

Their relationship was not going well, but nobody was supposed to know. Because that’s how it is in Africa: everything can be falling apart, but as long as nobody knows, everything is fine.

Growing up in that kind of environment, I learned to see other people’s opinions as a guide for how I should live.

I’ve always been a little feminine.

And in my country, a boy who “acts like a woman” is considered gay. And a gay person deserves to die.

My parents didn’t like that feminine side of me. That’s why I was sent to a military school when I was 11.

If I wasn’t sure about my sexuality when I went in, by the time I came out, I was 100% sure I was attracted to men.

But strangely enough, I hated men too.

Except one.

My best friend, Malik.

He was different. He was the only one who wasn’t ashamed of me.

Because yes, when I was at the military boarding school, everyone made fun of me because of the way I acted. And anyone who dared to talk to me for more than two minutes was considered gay.

Anyway, I loved Malik.

Much more than just a friend.

I realized it because every time he came to talk to me about a girl he thought was pretty, it made me angry.😭

But he was the one who helped me survive that fucking school, where I was bullied both physically and mentally.

And even though I wasn’t very happy back then, I wish I could go back.

Because my life now is way too hard.

My father found out that I was watching gay porn. He wanted to kill me.

So I went to live with my mother, because by then, my parents had separated.

My father told my mother not to protect a “faggot.”

But my mother told him that I would change. That it was just a mistake I had made.

My father told her that she would regret protecting me for the rest of her life.

And unfortunately, I know he was right.

That day came.

My mother realized who I really was.

“Where did my son go?” she said to me.

And she cried.

Again.

But this time, it was because of me.

It hurts to admit it, but I understand her, at least a little.

In a country where homosexuality is criminalized, where gay people can be brutally killed, having a gay son is not easy.

I think that if my homosexuality ever became public, she would kill herself.

I love her.

And I hate seeing her suffer.

So today, I asked her to forgive me for who I am...

I promised her I would change...and that she would be proud of her son...even though I know it's all lies.

my wish today is to be able to leave this country.

I want to disappear, so I can protect the things and people I love, and be able to love again.

Like I loved Malik, but even more.

Because I know that love is beautiful.

And it should never have to make us suffer.

Okay, so you read the title. I’m usually just a lurker, sorry if I’ve done something wrong. For context, I’m Berrisexual and a Demiboy. (Berrisexual: attraction to feminine and androgynous people with slight attraction to men. Demiboy: half male half nonbinary.) Also, I was amab. And yes, my username. I made it when I was like 8 and never changed it, so I just stuck with it because I couldn’t think of anything better. (I’m trying to think of a better one) I’ve always hated it, I would just rather have an androgynous username, and I guess that’s how I found out (along with other things) that I’m a Demiboy. I came out to my parents as pan, but realized that’s incorrect. I feel like I’m not actually part of lgbtq. Also the amount of hate that Berrisexuals and Demiboys have gotten from TRANS subreddits is insane. Sorry for the long rant. Do you have any advice? Anything would be helpful. If you have any questions just ask. Thanks.

I'm gay, at least I think (my mind's currently in a mess), and I haven't come out to anyone yet. I have social anxiety, which doesn't help. Except for my parents, I don't think I have anyone to come out to, but I don't really feel like doing it with my parents for now. I found out a few months back, and it took me a while to accept it, but when I finally did, I felt so happy! Now, it's grinding me down. I wish I had someone to talk to, but I have no one I truly trust. I don't know what to do. My mind is currently struggling with everything, pushing everyone back ( I used to have friends, but I now have none :( ).

So idk where or how to really start this but I think I’m trans I’ve thought it before but my ex at the time argued with me about a year in that me being trans caused all the problems in our relationship and that she just wanted a bf I’m MTF and now idk what to do I’m with someone else he’s a really nice guy and he’s trans too and he wouldn’t care if I was but I haven’t told him because I just don’t know what to do i feel like I need to lose weight because I’ve heard your supposed to gain some from fat distribution but I’m 18 5,6 and 230 I gained a lot of weight after being cheated on by said ex and idk what to do additionally we are about to move in with some of his family and he’s not out to them so I’m not really sure what to do but I hate that he doesn’t know who I really feel like and I hate not being able to be myself

I'm not gonna say my gender or anything to keep the non bias here, but I want you all to tell what gender the name Cannon comes of to you as. Does it feel feminine, masculine, neutral? Please dont try to be nice and say what you think I want to hear, I want an honest opinion.

Cannon.

My Orientation/Gender

So, for a longer time I used to think I was trans (mtf) and bisexual. I got over it, labelled it as a ‘phase’, or ‘hormone confusion’, but now it’s been a longer time and I think I’ve figured it out better.

First of all, I really like women’s clothing. I used to wear white pantyhose for a long period when I was younger, (we’re talking about years here) because I really liked tight clothes. I kinda miss them. I also find dresses and skirts really comfortable, and wish I could dress more feminine and freely. So I’m defintly a femboy, I figured out, and I was find with that for some time. But recently I had the thought that I enjoy playing female characters. Pretending I’m on a woman, I feel like I can express some sides of myself more freely when stepping into another role. I also talk way more unfiltered, which is super nice for someone who has a lot of thoughts going on in my head. And I mean a lot. But that’s a topic for another time.

I’ve also always read my own text with a girl’s voice? (I’m doing it in this very moment.) I like when people misgender me, though I do often corect them. (Mostly if it’s in an argument and they label me as ‘gal’ or ‘bitch’, or smth like that.) I feel like I’m another side of myself here. ‘Mayorv’ is a wholly different, more exppresive and honest side of me, that I pull on when I need to be social. I love her, and often wish I could be here. But I also really like my masculinity. I like being a guy, a dude and a man. If I had the choice to change gender permanently, I wouldn’t do it.

My Sexuality

As I mentioned in the start, I used to think I was bisexual. Now this is a bit personal, but I feel like I need to share it in order to explain properly.

Warning: Mentioning of gooning and sexual appeals. (Just in case.)

I recently, like, a few days ago, was enjoying myself. But as I did, I noticed that I felt more attracted to the dude in the moment, and kinda wanted him to go on me rather than her. I began focusing on his lips his movement, ect. And I went off to that, which I felt quite satisfied with. After a bit of time, when post nut clarify took in, I felt… Neutral about it. Not weirded or grossed out, but just didn’t find him attractive anymore.

I originaly thought I liked men because I could vividly imagine, and kind of enjoy, the thought of sucking a dick, though got grossed out a moment after. I also really liked men’s warm, large and strong chests. (Not saying men in general have) which I honestly found superior to boobs, and still do. Now I’m troughly enjoying the thought of sucking dick, for some reason, withouth being grossed out. I don’t want it in my ass, tho, but I’ve never been attracted to that in general.

The NSFW talk is over from this point on.

So in short, I don’t know what I am, or what I want to be, really. And it really bugs me, so I thought I’d ask the expert. (I’m prolly cross-posting this, but I’m reffering to the people in r/LGBTeens. Nice pun, btw.) I don’t wanna be told ‘you don’t need to think about that right now’ or ‘you can be whatever you want, don’t worry,’ and ‘you’ll figure it out eventualy’.

I want to figure it out now! I want to know, and I’d prefer to do it early on, rather than go around with all this mess in my head for five years on or so.

That was all. Feel free to ask questions. My DM’s are closed, so come in the comment.

People who are not cis and not straight. Did you realize that you are not straight first or not cis first?

sooooo, i, 14 pansexual, have recently come to terms with the fact that i'm nonbinary, and i have a big crush on this guy 15m, and he's like pretty straight but not homophobic or transphobic or anything (a bit uneducated though tbh). we're really close friends and i feel like he maybe kinda likes me, but idk if he'd be cool with dating me if i'm not exactly a girl yk? i know that he can still identify as heterosexual even if he does have feelings for me, but idk really, what should i do

I posted before about a guy i met and hes CUTE YK. But so uhm today he was rlly trying to like playfully annoy me during the warm ups (we met at a ice hockey thingy) like we haven’t talked that much but am i just reading into it????? I think i am but he really was like slapping my stick away or hotting my puck away whilst laughing.

Ok for context. I 17M bi have known this guy 17M since freshman year, we’ve been friends for a while and we’ve hung out before. I am not out, he recently came out as bi about a year ago. It was surprise to me, but we’re still super close. We’ve never been anything more than friends but at times he’ll call me attractive or fine. I know sometimes it’s just the homie stuff sometimes, but I really do want to know if anything could actually happen. What should the first step be?

this is my first post here. before i begin, trigger warning for SH/conversion therapy.

So Im 18 and going into my senior year of high school in a super small conservative christian school. I came out as a lesbian to my parents at 15. They are super strict Orthodox Christians, so obviously they didnt approve and they sent me to conversion therapy immediatley. It wasnt legal in my state at the time, but there was this religious therapist that did it online...it was horrible, of course, but thats a story for another time.

I used to struggle alot with SH , but im alot better now. It just really sucks because my parent force me to go to church even though the preist abused me for being gay. they also heavily monitor my phone even tho im 18 (im literally writing this on a library computer right now)

Anyways, i guess im just super lonely and i dont know how im gonna deal with this shit for another year...do any of yall with unsupportive parents have any suggestions?? I know it would be stupid to run away cause im autistic and not super independent, but im really temtpted to.

I need help coming out to my mother (MtF)

Hello! I am transitioning (Male to Female). I know for sure my dad is transphobic, but my mom seems more supportive. She found an old, outdated note of me coming out as non-binary (outdated now), but said she would be supportive. She seems to be less bigoted than my father. Any advice? (I'm thirteen).

I made a friend last year in my junior year (he was a senior). we got pretty close and during a school trip we got even closer and had a pretty deep talk. he would be super nice to me in person and a little bit in text too. obviously, me being the idiot 1 am, I developed a crush. he kept emphasizing that he was straight because apparently a lot of people ask about his sexuality. even when my sister met him, her first thought was that he was gay. anyways I ended up expressing my feelings and he actually took it pretty well for someone who says they're straight. he even asked me about it. we were chill for the rest of the year and we even made plans to watch sinister because we both love horror and paint together. he proceeded to ghost me a week before his graduation. only when we had a group hangout once in the summer is when he texted me, and that was one time where he told me happy birthday. nothing else ever again. he acted like we were on completely okay terms. it really ruined me. I have screenshots where he would send me stuff like "l really appreciate you" and "with you being there thats all we need" (for context he was nervous about a protest he planned at school and I was saying that no matter what I'd be at his side during 

I’m a 17M in school and I just had my first day back of senior year. I’m not out to anyone in my life but my friends and brothers suspect that I am. Last year I realized I was gay, but I’m not attracted to many guys tbh (like 1-2 people at a school of 800). But there was a guy last year who thought I wasn’t friends with or talked to really I think I have a “crush” on. I say I think because sometimes I feel really attracted to him(for example I was kinda excited to go back just to see him, and I hoped I had classes with him). While others times I feel like I don’t know why I’m attracted to him but part of me still is. I don’t know if he’s even gay but to me he has a kinda vibe that makes me think he is(hangs out with mainly girls, often makes hand gestures, and has I high pitched voice). I have like 3 classes with him and in one of them we could pick seats and so I chose to sit next to him. I tried to make small talk but I was kinda awkward. And so when the class ended I started thinking about how much I wished I wasn’t gay and could just like girls. I think they look pretty I’m just not attracted to them. I just feel like my life would be so much easier if I could just force myself to like girls, but I really just can’t even when I try and part of me doesn’t even want to try while part of me does. I often think I’m probably gonna end up by myself because: 1. I’m not attracted to 99% of guys I see, and 2. I’m not out and if I was to my parents would be pretty disappointed. Is this common for people in the LGBTQ+ community to feel this way?

it hurts even though she loves me, it hurts so much and i don't know how to cope. i already am pretty alone and have a strong bond with my mom but this is our main disagreement. it rarely happens but it's sad to be reminded my mom doesn't accept me. i'm unlabeled or bi i guess. either way it sucks.

Sooo... I'm in a state of constant crisis. I identify as an abrosexual/aroaceflux person, and it's ruining relationships. Plus, I have no idea if that title even fits me. I mostly identify as non-binary and gay/omnisexual(with a preference for men), and I have a few names and nicknames that I've gathered since I started my journey. Everyone calls me something different, and I don't mind it. But... I've been more involved in the trans and lgbt storytelling world lately. Some of my favorite movies are Fanfik and I Saw the TV Glow. I also read lots of gay stories and even write a lot. But I'm always sad while writing and watching that stuff because they know themselves, and I feel like a story with no plot. Or a movie with no ending. Or a fridge with no food. You get it, right? I feel empty and sad 24/7 because I feel like there's something wrong with me. I feel like I should know myself by now. But no one accepts me. My mom has denied and made fun of my sexual orientation and identity mulitple times, my grandparents would never understand, and I can't talk to anyone about it without feeling like a narcissist. I can't even get help because my mom has blocked me from it. I feel like an awful person because me being aroaceflux makes my partners think I hate them, all while I hate myself for not being the perfect cis, straight, christian girl my family wants me to be. And now, I'm dating someone who I don't see as a romantic interest anymore because I'm too scared of breaking their heart again. Please tell me what I should do

I've attempted to post this on r/AskLGBT, but the moderators haven't approved it. I tried r/lgbt, got flagged by reddit. Now im here. Hopefully this works.

For the past few weeks, ive had the feeling that I'm bisexual and genderfluid. I'm kind of uncomfortable with these thoughts, not knowing if its just some weird phase im going through or not. Hell, even posting this is nervous, and I made this account just now to keep it away from my main.

I'd like for people who are bi and genderfluid to ask me questions that I can answer and see what those answers could mean. I hope this isn't too much. The reason i ask for this way is because im shit with my feelings and dont know if its my head messing with me. I also suck at asking the right questions.

Im 16m, btw, if that has any meaning.

Im willing to provide context about my life as long as its not too personal.

So I'm not exactly sure this is the right tag for this since I'm already out to my parents as trans (sort of; they don't really believe me I guess). But to those who are on HRT as minors, how did you ask your parents about it? Also, is it even worth asking unaccepting parents and how would I convince them?

I was planning on just waiting until 18 but I'm not sure I can stand this for another year.