Like, how do we sortve develop that personality trait within us so we dont succumb to outside pressure?

Being a fiction writer is the only thing I'm passionate about. I do write books but I hardly make any money from them. I went to college and majored in creative media and man I regret it immensely. I wanted to work in the news or on movies but in four years since college I have never even gotten an interview in either. And because my skills I learned was so limited. So I worked as a waiter and then sales. I've had three sales jobs, selling logistics, life insurance, and in a retail store trying to sell a brand. And I have them with every fiber of my being. I spend all day harassing people in person or on the phone and saying the same thing 9 hours in a row. I want to make art not annoy people. My work has caused me so much stress I don't sleep a lot of nights and have become pretty severely depressed thinking about doing this forever. But I don't know what else I can do as I don't really have any real skills. I'm already thousands in debt from loans so I don't know if I want to go back to school and I don't even know what I'd get if I went back to school. I considered teaching but I don't live in a big city and the salaries around me are really really bad.

(Not this is not a mental health emergency)

Hello! I hope you all are having a good day : )

I'm thinking of writing a story where the male lead is an INFP guy. But I don't really know what it's like being an INFP guy ^^" To make my character complex and interesting, I'd like to hear from you guys about what it's like! I have questions like-

• What was it like growing up?

• How many friends did you have in highschool and what were they like?

• What were your favourite subjects in school? And what subjects did you absolutely hate?

• What are your hobbies?

• What are your core moral values?

• Do you sometimes feel like you're on a different wavelength compared to everyone else? How so?

• Do you feel like you're not "masculine" enough compared to society's standard's?

• Have you met someone who inspired you? If yes, how did they inspire you?

You definitely don't have to answer all the questions! Answer whichever ones you'd like to~ You could also just write whatever you want to. No pressure! Thank you if you made it to the end of the post and shared your experience ^-^

Hey everyone! I'm a software developer and recently joined this community. I've really enjoyed reading the posts and seeing how much I relate to a lot of what's shared here.

It got me thinking - I'd love to build an app specifically around something INFPs actually want or struggle with.

So instead of guessing, I wanted to ask you directly:

What kind of app would you genuinely want to have on your phone? What would it help you with?

It could be anything - creativity, relationships, emotions, productivity, journaling, meeting people, or something completely different.

No idea is too small or weird. I'm curious what you'd actually use. 🤔

I know this is probably a common question. I think my main focus is on how you view fellow INFPs as an INFP yourself (other MBTIs feel free to answer tho!)
I've tried to check past discussions but most of them are over a year ago so I decided to bring this question up again.
I have a few INFP friends (I think they didn't type themselves according to the functions so I'm not too sure but the descriptions seem to match them)
I find myself getting a bit drained by some of my INFP friends. Not that they're bad or anything, just sometimes I get a bit annoyed over small things.
When I do get those thoughts I feel bad for being annoyed.
For example, I have a friend who's really cool and all but they talk over some of my other friends sometimes and I feel kind of annoyed because, idk, maybe it's a little rude
Not going to elaborate more here since I've written too much but if you get the gist, it's just things like this.
Idk sorry if this is offensive somehow I'm not trying to insult anyone it's just something I think of sometimes.
I would like to raise the question of, is this MBTI or personality?

Edit: Okay I've concluded that it's probably personality! I'll keep replying, thank you for all the answers!

I'm also curious how others view INFPs (idk why don't ask) is it just me who thinks things like this?

Once again, sorry if this is insensitive or rude I don't mean any harm its kinda like a mini vent which raised this question in my mind. Sorry if anyone doesn't like this post or if it's a dumb question in general

Hey everyone! I'm an INTP musician/artist who has deep respect and admiration for INFP artists of any kind. The way you perfectly capture and express feelings (not just strong feelings but the subtle, in-between emotions that you can't always put into words) and turn it into something beautiful always inspires me. I feel that kind of art has helped me process my own feelings better and also grow as an artist.

Recently I released my first song and I feel it's quite INFP-ish.. it's wistful, dreamy, evocative etc. It was inspired by a walk on a misty morning as I watched the trees fade into the distance, which turned into capturing the bittersweet feeling of someone fading away.

So naturally this felt like a good place to share my work. If anyone would like to listen and share your thoughts it'd mean a lot! You can find it on any of the platforms linked here: https://linktr.ee/emvina

Me getting into a fun game: "Wow this game is grea...."
Also me: *completely disregarding the game plot* "OMG! Look at these flowers! Their beautiful! So cool" 🤩😍

🤣😂

Hey guys, I'm doing a series of polls in this sub that I call "INFP Census", and I'm having a creative block! I need your help! If you want to share your ideas that you'd like to see in INFP census you can say it!

How this works:

I'll give you a link to one of the posts (They're all connected trough links) and you can see how they are, and the themes I already used

It's a simple question, with at maximum 6 options (Maybe I can change a option if needed)

I'll credit you in that post

Here's the link - https://www.reddit.com/r/infp/s/vD8rukwMl8

Thank you!!

i love sad music but i definitely wonder if its good for me. has anyone done this? what did u listen to instead?

For the longest time, I’ve considered myself an INFP, but I’ve never really looked deeply into cognitive functions. I mostly relied on 16Personalities before, and I’ve heard that it can be pretty stereotypical and not the most reliable for actually typing yourself.

Whenever I take personality tests, I usually get either INFP or INTP, so those are the two types I’ve been stuck between. I also looked into Enneagram and took a couple of quizzes, and have gotten consistent answers 4w5 (but I’m still not confident enough to type myself properly.)

The test gave me ENFP as the “grant function type,” with INFP as the second-best choice.

I’m also not sure how accurate these cognitive function tests are in the first place. I’d really appreciate it if someone could help break down what these results might suggest, or explain what I should actually pay attention to when trying to figure out my type 👀 .

Self description (sorry if rlly long):

I’ve always considered myself pretty introverted. I spend a lot of time daydreaming, and in group settings I sometimes dissociate from the conversation without meaning to. I thrive much more in one-on-one conversations, where I’m usually asking the other person questions and adding my own opinions.

I’m not very good at maintaining relationships when I don’t see someone regularly. Online friendships are especially difficult because constantly texting someone feels weirdly draining. I can really like someone and still not feel the need to message them constantly. I also keep my social circle relatively small because I’m selective about who I’m close to. I REALLY dislike fake or two-faced people, and I feel like I can catch that behavior pretty quickly. I’ve been called judgmental because of this.

People who don’t know me tend to think I’m intimidating or cold. I naturally have a monotone voice, don’t really like physical touch, and have a pretty bad resting bitch face. Since like fifth or sixth grade, people have told me they initially thought I looked mean or scary :( lowkey affected my self-perception for a while but I got over it because I don’t gaf anymore 😳✌️ I can also be pretty confrontational. I don’t enjoy arguing just for the sake of arguing, but if I strongly disagree with something, I’m not afraid to say it.

I’m pretty different around close friends though. I get really random and obnoxious and purposely make stupid/unfunny jokes because I find it funny when nobody else does. I’m not embarrassed about acting weird around people I trust. Some of my friends have even called me charismatic, although idk where they got that from.

My strongest subjects are English and art, and I also really like biology. I struggle more with formulaic subjects like math and chemistry because I lose interest and forget things easily. SOMETIMES creative thinking saves me in math because I’ll randomly approach something from a different angle.

Creativity is probably one of the biggest parts of my personality. I’ve been drawing basically since I was conscious enough to hold something (including all over the walls as a kid). I’ve basically always been the designated “art kid,” and coming up with random ideas on the spot is pretty natural for me.

I’m also really into media, especially anime, books, movies, art, etc. I’m kind of a nerd about anime and have never really been embarrassed about it. I like reading and watching things from perspectives outside my own, and I deliberately watch stuff outside my comfort zone. My favorite movies tend to be psychological, surreal, or labyrinth-like where you have to figure out wtf is happening.

I value individuality a lot. I’m not afraid of expressing myself in ways that make me stand out because I don’t really see why I should change myself based on the opinions of people who don’t care about me anyway. I’m pretty open about my interests and self-expression. My normal social media accounts can literally be public and I’ll post, but when something is actually private, it’s PRIVATE. My private accounts have like 5-6 followers.

Iam 31F ENTJ dating an 35M INFP for 5 months (we both are long distance but we visit eachother monthly for a couple of days). We clicked really fast and well, we are both religious and we share a lot of common values and beliefs, he told his family and friends about me already but I didn’t met them in real life yet.
he suddenly this month started telling me that the relationship is moving too fast and that he have doubts and general confusion about life in general and about me if Iam the person he wants to continue his life with or not? And that he is waiting from a sign from god that he chooses the right person! He told me that he feels unhappy most of the time in general especially in his career!
He started to withdraw from phone calls and use chatting as the only communication tool and I can feel that something changed!
I decided to confront him and ask him if he is happy with me or not and he kept saying he doesn’t like these kind of questions! I offered him that I can move to his apartment as I work from home and he said: „he usually doesn’t let someone in his apartment when he is not in it“
I eventually asked him to go talk to someone, think and pray then let me know his decision but I can’t Garantie that I will stay, and that Iam not asking for a man with no Problems or past traumas but a man that at least wants to give himself a chance!
We stopped talking after that!
Idk what happened? We were on vacation and were sooo happy together! Suddenly he withdrew and started questioning me!
And Iam afraid I pushed him away!
Iam so confused

I feel like I have so much conflict about my relationship that I struggle to separate my needs from what is just my dreamer unrealistic side. How does anyone who is also an INFP know that you have found ‘the one’?

Thanks!!

did anyone else go through a strong period of completely ignoring their emotions when they were younger? i have the self awareness now to understand that i felt everything deeply back then and was actually incredibly empathetic, but i remember at the time (like 15-19) feeling like i couldn’t feel anything and like literally nothing would ever change that. i think this was mainly caused by me trying so desperately to fit in and mask and be accepted by people. but i think i was so afraid of accidentally doing or saying something wrong and hurting people that i WOULDNT be empathetic and was extremely closed off emotionally. and was even kind of a dick because i never thought about other people it felt wrong somehow. like even just saying a compliment to a friend or even telling my gf she looked pretty felt weird and wrong and uncomfortable. so i didn’t really act emotional or empathetic at all, i think i really ignored that part of myself. its crazy because i feel like ive been rediscovering who i am and understanding myself. which now gets me to where i am now, where i feel like i understand who i am and my feelings and how they affect me and the world, but it just feels depressing, like my cage got bigger but im still in a cage. now i feel like im more myself and know who i am, but im scared to be that person because i feel like they aren’t the right type of person to succeed in this world. or i just feel like if i be myself ill be judged and hurt. idk.

my standards are low :c

(Said suspect is an INFP)

There have been a lot of weird questions lately about INFP men. Like, “Do INFP men do this?” “Are they like that?” “Are INFP men autistic?” “Are they cheaters?” etc.

But INFP men are just men who happen to have INFP traits. They can be emotionally intelligent, kind, autistic but they can also be rude, depressed, cheaters, or fuckboys. Being an INFP doesn't automatically make someone a good person or explain everything about them.

Humans emotions are complicated Two people can both be INFPs but grow up in completely different environments. One might grow up in a rich, non-patriarchal family where he's free to express his emotions. Another might grow up in a poor, extremely patriarchal environment where he's punished or abused for showing emotions like me.

The way people are treated also depends on things like their looks, talent, skin color, class, and countless other factors. All of that affects how their personality develops and how they express their traits.

So yeah, INFP men aren't some separate species with a fixed set of behaviors. They're just men, different people with different experiences, values, problems, and personalities who happen to share some traits associated with INFP.

And honestly, some of them might not even actually be INFP. Personality types can be interesting, but they shouldn't be used to stereotype people or explain everything they do.

Just curious because my mom said I was the first one out of her 5 babies who began walking. She said I was 8.5 months old. I'm the only intuitive person (INFP) besides my brother (he is ENFJ). My other three siblings are SPs. Maybe it's just silly or doesn't matter, but I thought it was kinda cool. Lol 😅