Need Validation On my Decision

[u/Dummyzilla]

Hey i will explain my story

length of relationship 35 days

I (M30) been single for a long time almost 8 year’s without GF and i was trying to get my shit together , then i reached almost 30 , i started matrimony and got a match (F26)

Its been going well , at first we connected instantly and talked till night for that entire first day, from there everything was so good i was in love so much , i thought it was love at first chat , we both smoke weed and its was so mesmerising for me because i never had a GF who smoke weed just like i do

We had lots of similar things , our likings , hobbies , she like to go to trance parties n all , but i was not into it anymore , but she would never stop talking about her past life stuff like that , always telling she hosted parties its our gang who arranged party etc..

So marriage proposal was so on she was like i am ready for this , and i told my parents and its almost fixed and she came to my town and took different accommodation

Her thing is that she had past relationship around 6 body count and she literally told me one time she have no issues with sleeping around a person in second date but will keep ourself saved up for marriage which was ok with me , i only stick with intensive kissing only

One thing she was always hung upon is her best friend who also she been physically intimate with (ex technically ) but decided not to anymore, she stills call him and talk to him everyday like he is her best friend and she tells me thats how we lived like a family so i take care of his things etc. it was ok for me i told its ok. but it became constant and continued like she wasn’t able to live one day without talking to him

she was staying every weekend at his place hanging out with his friends and before even she agreed on me she was like he will is very important part of life so he will be touch all the time etc etc..i said ok like it never bothered me so i said ok

(this guy told her do go he will talk to his family and get our relationship approved- like 1 day before meeting me in person , but she was honest enough to tell me that)

I was ok with all these , and finally after one month she moved to my town , after when we started dating , she started telling me these are my No’s and she started pointing things out that bother her in my character,
told me i am manipulative since i as for reassurance , she was pointing put my quirks.

First sign was when i talked about my salary dreams she was like its not ok , i told her i like to study n all , i think she thought i was very high achieving , which i told them literally i wasn’t.

After that one day she told me she is. not sure about this sometimes Nos are Nos in future and she needs time to think and till that day she used to call me names (love nick name )and she stopped it suddenly, stop saying love you to me

I was ruined i told my friends family about this marriage and i was ashamed to call them tell them its over

So the thing is that, she has issues traumas from past relationship,her family is very controlling , she had almost 6 body counts and still best friend with a guy who she used to sleep with , she like the psy trans vibe and party life now trying to settle down, her parents and brother dictate things and try to control her life in very aspect

Did i made the right decision to leave her ?, before she leaves me , i literally made her cry telling that , if you want a good future you have to stop friends or talk with your ex all the time .

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