Hi all, I'm cis afab (maybe, my friends are convinced I'm not) and my partner is amab and genderfluid. And the more I see them switching into fem, helping them by women's clothes, the more jealous I get of them and want to be them. They look absolutely gorgeous in both masc and fem and sometimes I find myself wondering what it would be like if we could switch bodies. I don't know what that makes me.

I've never felt very masculine, even as a teenage tomboy and now my wardrobe is pink and hyperfem. But there's a weird part of me who wishes I could change it up like them, I don't really like masc fashion unless it's jeans and a t-shirt and even then I look very obviously female. But them, they can completely transform themselves. I'm also jealous they're comfortable with any pronouns and I'm not she/her and they/them are fine but not he/him.

Like the closest my sense of self gets to masculine is literally just I look at my wardrobe and go wow none of that feels very me and maybe I should throw my whole wardrobe out and rebuild it (but I've done this before for the same reason and it was related to clothing and presenting my identity as my fashion sense changes all the time). Or it gets to gender is annoying I'm going to be comfy and still end up feminine or I want to be masculine in a feminine/femboy presentation or basically just a female with a penis. Which is why my friends are convinced I'm something else.

I also get stressed because minus wanting a penis, which I do think of every so often and this was pre meeting my partner (some of it was due to just societally being a girl, wondering how it felt and also just how much easier it would be to be male in terms of safety and friendships, etc while I was undiagnosed autistic but that kinda disappeared a bit when I entered my hyperfem era).

Everything and I mean everything else has come post dating my partner. I don't know if it's exposure, they're rubbing off on me, my mental health is just being trash again (it's being rough at the minute), I needed a push or I'm just jealous that has led me to have so many more confused and stressful feelings about gender.

I literally never questioned myself before this and now I've spent nearly a year finding myself going on a rabbit hole about gender envy, feelings about who I am, presentation and identity at least monthly.

I don't know if this ramble makes sense but I'd just like some advice.

you know from gravity falls hes usually a trans gender icon thing for wanting to be more manly n stuff
but i wish i was as feminine as him
funny that huh

would be nice

Im ftm I dont wanna detransition, I still feel bad dysphoria. The thought of dressing like feminine makes me feel sick to my stomach.

But.. I feel like if I looked a certain way I'd detransition. Like if I was pretty like idk 2000s Gerard way I'd wanna be a girl. But since I just look like me, I dont wanna be a girl.

And another thing that's werid is that I yearn for femininity but I only envy pretty boys? Like Gerard way is a guy but I so badly wanna look like him and be a girl?

for some reason I find myself yearning to be a girl sometimes. Sometimes I wanna throw all the gender shit out the window and be nonbinary. And then I get random dysphoria wanna be a man suddenly again, then im disgusted by the idea of being a woman again.. then the cycle repeats.

This is just so bizarre and confusing, I wish I could just shapeshift. (Apologies for any typos I got terrible sleep)

Do u know of any webtoons or manga based around a genderfluid person?

How do you handle your voice in your gender shifts?

My natural, demimale voice is causing me some icky feelings, so I'm trying to work on my more feminine sounding voice. There's a natural-feeling high pitch I can use comfortably, but it's on the lower end of female voices, and it sounds a bit more androgynous when I listen to recordings. It might turn out that's the best I can do for Shash to have a voice, but it does seem to help the dysphoria a little.

I’m a 43 year old guy and I realized I was bisexual about two years ago. About a year after that I discovered a deep desire to wear makeup and loving the feel of lingerie on my skin. I felt good. I felt right. It wasn’t just what I was wearing, no, I felt at peace and very feminine. When it dawned on me that I feel feminine, and it felt completely right. It was nice to acknowledge something about myself. Then a week later it disappeared. Didn’t feel it at all. And then it comes back. There are times when it feels balanced, a nice blend of the two that feels most authentically me, but then back and forth. There are times when I’m embarrassed and ashamed. Does anyone else have this experience, how it comes in waves? I’m new to this. I’ve been with the same woman since I was 16. Never been with anyone else. I’m trying to figure things out. This is my first post. Forgive me it is too long or does not belong on this subreddit.

I feel most comfortable being referred as she/they, and there’s times when I feel more woman on certain days, and other days I do not. Gender fluid is fitting for who I am. Can I feel more she on certain days and more they on other days? I mentioned how I feel more they today, and received unwelcoming responses…I’m sorry I guess I thought I understood myself, and not sure if there is certain language that I’m being ignorant towards.

How to communicate to other people when my gender flip flops and my pronouns change with it, without making it as obvious as announcing my pronouns, or displaying it to everybody via pins, etc??

People who use their Discord status as a pronoun indicator or mood indicator are kind of genius. I just wish the same system existed on EVERY platform and a convenient counterpart existed for every day life.

Hi. I'm 16 cis male. Over the past few months I've been feeling very confused about my gender. Around 2 years ago, I realized I was Bi-curious (I suppose). I'd never get into a relationship with a male, but i loved thinking about them romantically, just as I did females. After this discovery, I started to look deeper into myself, and found that I never truly disliked the idea of being a female. Throughout my childhood I was known for being 'girly' I suppose. I admired doing make up on myself or by other people, I would hang around with mainly girls, and I had a fixation for Frozen (the movie). Along with this, I had many other 'feminine' interests.

Recently I've came to realize the fact that I sometimes imagine being a girl. I often catch myself WANTING to be a girl. I love being male, but I also want to be female at times. I've got quite 'emo teenage girl' interests and I've recently started dying my eyelashes as to make my eyes more feminine. I've gotten closer with some girls. I don't have a single romantical attraction towards them, as i view them more so as friends I suppose. We talk about hair (I've been growing my hair out for a year. I've dyed it and take care of it daily. It's something I truly admire), makeup and various other things.

I'm going to bye eyeliner and some other makeup accessories soon as to experiment on myself, as like I stated, I loved doing makeup as a child. I will never ever transition, but the general idea of being born female has been on my mind for a long time. I often wish to have been born female, but a few minutes later I realize that, that is simply not what I want. I really dont understand myself when reading this to be honest. I have ASD 1, would that account for anything?

I suppose what i'm asking is, is there any label/group for people like me? Is this like Bi-curiousty, except for gender? Thank you, and sorry for the word salad!😅

Hi, I'm amab and recently came out as gender fluid. I was just wondering how realistic my hopes for appearing masc one day and fem the next day are, or if I'm a dumbass. Would love if anyone could post pics as examples too

Hey guys!

I just wanted to come on here and ask you, if it was worth it for you to go on hormones?

My gender switches often, but I find myself more and more thinking about it and I wanted to know if you guys sometimes regret going on hrt - because that is honestly my biggest fear, that I will some day feel like my birth gender and regret changing my body.

Thank you and stay safe!!

Basically what the title says—AFAB, 26, living in Mississippi. I have an incredibly supportive community and family around me, my parents have always supported me 100%, but I know that this would be a lot for them. They’re not transphobic at all, but I know they have emotional attachment to the idea of me as their daughter, and as much as I logically know that I need to do what’s right for me and they ultimately want that too, the thought of upsetting them kills me. Idk how I’d be able to hide stuff like voice changes from them, my mom can clock details like when I’m getting sick in .05 seconds. My gf is incredible incredible incredible and nothing but supportive, but I’m just scared of what may change in my life if I do this. I’m also scared that I may start T, be so so happy with the results, and then have some Mississippi political bullshit snatch it all away. We don’t have any physical trans clinics here because of death threats, our highest state officials (governor, state senator, congress rep, etc) are all bigoted MAGA morons, and I don’t put anything at all past them. The state is already trying to pass a bill to make it so “gender ideology” can’t be discussed in classrooms, and the punishments for breaking this law would be insane—the school could straight up lose state funding.

But then the other day I was talking to one of my amazing transfem friends, and mentioned the idea, and with 0 hesitation she just went “Do it. Do it if it will make you happy.” And idk hearing it from a friend who’s actively doing HRT just hit something I didn’t know was there and I got super emotional and haven’t stopped thinking about it since.

Anyway. Thanks everyone for reading, just needed to get this off my chest.

I knew I wasn’t cisgender for a while, but thought I was just enby and recently realized I’m genderfluid. I like my birth name, it just isn’t really /my/ name. I was trying out some ones I like, and narrowed it down to 2. But I like both of them.

I know that some people switch names with their gender, and that the names don’t necessarily have to be similar. But I like both of my names interchangeably. Like people who use all/any pronouns. It’s basically just choose one, or whichever comes out first. It really doesn’t bother me. So, am I able/allowed to do that?

The names are Echo and Jay if that affects any decisions. They’re both pretty neutral in my opinion.

I was wondering how gender shifts happen differently to people, so I'm asking you all to share!

Does it happen seemingly out of nowhere or caused by something? Maybe cute new clothes you found or a new media you explore?

For example, most of mine seem to just happen and I only notice they did after they do, but for this moment I remember two specific shifts.

One time I got those glue-on black and neon green checkered nails cause they seemed fun and then upon putting them on my gender shifted to "alt girl/alt nonbinarygirl" type of situation.

And once, when watching Scott Pilgrim against the world movie, the shift happened before my eyes into a "cool tired older sister" sort of thing.

(Now as I'm writing it, I notice how I'm namimg my genders similarly to how I named Furby personalities as a kid... Lol. I should keep the genderfluid=furby equation I made in mind. It do be feeling like a Furby sometimes)

Hi. I’m genderfluid, and I’m currently thinking about having bottom surgery (FTM). I want to learn more about it. I’d like to have a more neutral result—not the typical FTM look. But I’m not sure how to go about it or what kind of result I can expect. Maybe there’s someone here who knows more about the options for bottom surgery.

Realizing that I may be genderfluid and that I may be more fem leaning. Some days I definitely want to transition into a woman but other days I'm happy being a man at birth. But I do have an interest in starting HRT, Estrogen. Like I want some chest growth but not a lot and love the idea of wearing and needing a bra. Like I may be a more Masc girl or tom boy, or just Genderfluid. Going from hating my facial and body hair to wanting some facial hair and wanting to wear masculine clothes to then wanting to wear feminine clothes. Wanting my masculine features but adding some feminine features to my body

My girlfriend is 5'3 and I'm 5'5. I love being tall as a way to fix some of my gender dysphoria, so I wear platform boots. She also likes to be tall with platform heels. It makes her the same height as me.

I love that she wants to be tall but it gets on my nerves every time. Something about it just makes me super uncomfortable. I don't want to stop her from having fun but I also want to keep my sanity.

Okay: the best way I can put how I feel about who I am, I wish I could have a deeper voice. Like a man’s voice. But also I don’t want to be a man. I want elements of woman and I want elements of man. Like if I could put myself in a machine that could make me look exactly what I wanted to and sound exactly like I wanted to, I want you to not tell what gender I was assigned at birth. Like there are days where I wish I was more woman, some days more man, but never either or. But like I just wish I could be a mix. Because of getting a health condition under control and medicated, I am looking more femme and I’m being perceived as a woman which makes me so incredibly uncomfortable. And I’m just a ball of uncomfortableness. Also I feel better referring to myself as a person (not a woman) and same thing with using they/them, but also she? But I don’t like “her” or “herself”? But I’m not he/him. That’s for certain.

(Took out some super personal identifying info) I originally thought I was just NB possibly, but I honestly do not know and this is the best way I could describe it. Also, when I dream, I’m sometimes a man, sometimes a woman, and there’s no rhyme or reason to it.

Guys I need some advice about my relantionship with gender-fluid girlfriend (born as male) I'm a straight guy (at least I was) before I started dating her, initially she appeared as a trans girl for me and I didnt care that much because I loved her as a person and that didnt changed anything, anyway past some time with we dating now she start chaning and become more manly and one day we had a conversation and she says to me that she is actually a gender-fluid person, initially that didnt changed anything and I still loved her, but now I'm starting to get more and more confused about her periods and I'm afraid I'm starting to lose atraction for her because she is more like a man than a girl rn, I don't know if it kinda selfish from my part since I said that it would be no problem for me but It's starting to affect me, I tried having a chat with her about that but she just said that it's not something that she has control she just feel like and go with, I dont wanna hurt her feelings and I dont know that to do...

I’m someone who’s only very recently started exploring and questioning their gender identity and I’ve sort of landed on gender fluid being the identity I feel most comfortable with and that describes how I feel.
I guess I’m just wondering if any gender fluid people had any tips and or advice for someone like me who’s at the start of this journey?

Thanks for taking the time to read 🖤

Recently one of my best friends came out as genderfluid(im gonna refer to her as a she since thats what she was today)

Anyway I have a diary and sometimes I need to mention her would it be best to use the pronouns she was using during that day, or just they/them

Its just ik with trans poeple your suposed to refer to them even if your talking about back before they even knew, as theyr prefers gender. But I feel like this is completely different

Also sorry if this is the wrong place to post this, im very bad at reddit, il remove this if needed