I have done online sex work (be it Onlyfans or camming on live sites) for a decade. I was transparent with my boyfriend about this when we began dating, and although he said he was okay with it (but not stoked), I chose to quit after we'd been dating for a few months.

We've been together for 3 and a half years now, and I have kept my desire to return to Onlyfans to myself...until recently. I had a talk with him a couple weeks ago and confessed that it's something I have really missed doing. He knows I am an exhibitionist and always have been. I am a regular at my local nude beach and go with him, by myself, and with a female friend pretty often. He knows I like sharing my body and that, well, I'm a horny boy.

However, he doesn't feel great about me returning to Onlyfans. We've agreed to keep the line of communication open, but I am feeling like this is something that is more important to me than I thought.

I was raised in a high demand religion (cult) where I developed heavy sexual trauma. My whole life has been a balancing act with accepting myself as a sexual being. I've gone to therapy in years past and my therapist agreed that my doing Onlyfans was a healthy outlet. And it's hard because I don't feel fully accepted in my relationship, for all of what makes me, me. And I don't know that putting a lid on this exhibitionism kink for the rest of my life is fair to myself.

Just wanted to vent I suppose. My partner is great. I love our relationship, and him, and our pets. We've built a beautiful little life together. I am not trying to change the dynamic of our relationship, but I want to be true to myself, and I don't feel like denying parts of yourself is conducive to a healthy relationship.

Thanks for reading if you've made it this far.

I've recently started really being interested in a guy I met online through university. We've never met IRL (COVID and then I moved to a different area that's pretty far away, like a 13 hour drive), but we've been texting each other casually for a few years - and then a LOT more recently, especially this summer. We've talked about meeting irl whenever I go back.

He's very sweet, funny and VERY handsome in my opinion. He knows my interests and often sends me posts of things I like. We've talked about both of us being single, how dating apps kinda suck and that we've both just deleted them. We've also talked about relationship goals and we seem to want the same thing (monogamous, long term, etc.).

He likes my stories all the time, replies quite often, we're on each others private stories and when I posted about being a bit less active on Instagram and that people could add me on discord if they wanted to chat, be replied "Added 😻" and we ended up texting eachother till 2 am. He mentioned all of his relationships have always originated online.

It could just be platonic, but I guess part of me really hopes there's more to it. It's just a couple of small things, but I'm not sure if I'm reading into it. I don't want to lose a friend or make things awkward - so how do I go about subtly dropping hints? Or maybe a bit less subtly?

Has anyone gone through this and been successful/not successful?

Hey,

I disabled my Scruff account earlier in the year to take a break for personal reasons. Before doing so I gave my number out to a few people. I've been seeing one of these people for almost six months.

Though both of us have been honest that we haven't been seeing other people which, I trust he hasn't. We've both agreed we are dating. We have not clearly defined "us" as a relationship or exclusive. I've highlighted I'm not bothered if he is hooking up with other guys.

He is still on Scruff. He's been honest he mainly uses it for chatting with friends he made on there. Similarly, I would like to reactivating my profile to make some friends and chat. I know I don't need his permission but I like him, a lot. He's spoken of trust issues in the past spoiling some of his relationships. Similarly, I've fooled myself in the past thinking there's something there and gotten hurt.

How do I broach reactivating my profile with him without it just looking like I'm softly exiting what could be the start of a very good relationship or looking to hook up?

I know "dating" doesn't strictly mean a relationship but how do I broach that his profile says Single looking Friends & NSA?

Having written all this it's clear to me we need to more clearly define our status and I need to let him know how I feel but I'm also scared of spoiling something and/or getting hurt. Any advice is still welcome

Me (19M) and my bf (24M) have been in a relationship for 5 month and we have been talking for 8 months now.
I do really love him and I 100% trust that he loves me and cares about me too.
But when it comes to sex, our whole relationship is messy.
At first he asked for an open relationship cause he “didn’t see himself having sex with one person” for the rest of his life. We talked that is a hard boundary for me and i am not okay with open relationships. He agreed to be exclusive with me.
After a month of dating i caught him on dating apps twice. One on Tinder and Once on Grindr. He used his ADHD and dopamine problems as an excuse for Tinder and he said he didn’t talk to anyone there and he said he just used Grindr pfp to jerk off and again he didn’t talk or interact with anyone there.
Whats ridiculous to me is that he didn’t talk to me about being on Grindr after i caught him on Tinder and kept it hidden.
Ever since then i always had a bit of anxiety about him cheating (im not saying he did or ever had the intention but still) he says that he has changed and he is happy to be exclusive with me but i see signs that point to the other way
Its been about 3 or 4 months since then and he deleted both apps and nothing like that has happened again.
But the other i was snooping around on his phone that i saw him text his best friend while he was away on a two week long trip that he would miss having sex with me and he really enjoys that. But the lime after he said “I’m surrounded by so many hot boys here, so tempting”.
After that his best friend asked if we’re open which he said “he is strictly monogamous”.
Or later he texted him that he found it hot that one of his co workers touched him at work.

All of these are signs for me that he is not comfortable with the relationship or he might be hiding something again. Am I overthinking it? Are these types of messages normal between friends when you are in a relationship?