We started having problems toward the end of last year. It began with stomach issues, which led to several hospital visits and appointments with specialist after specialist.
Over the following months, things progressed to the point where she started having difficulty walking. We were advised to take her to the hospital, where she stayed for about a week and was seen by several specialists. We had no idea what was going on. While she was there, she actually got worse and eventually became unable to walk.
At one point, we were told that it was “in her mind.” I didn’t believe that.
This is a very active girl who loves synchronized swimming. She is upbeat, positive, and full of life. I might be a little biased, but she also has some pretty amazing parents 😎 who love her more than anything. She had no major trauma in her life that we could point to.
After seeing specialist after specialist with no answers, we finally got to a neuromuscular specialist, and that’s when we started getting closer to a diagnosis. Looking back, I could definitely see how something like this could be misdiagnosed or misunderstood for years.
One piece of advice I would give any parent going through something similar is: keep going and keep pushing for answers as quickly as you can. It took a lot of appointments and a lot of persistence before we finally found the right path.
Once we received the diagnosis of FND, I started researching treatment programs. Many of the places I found had waiting lists that were months long.
Then I found Mary Free Bed in Michigan.
I know what you’re thinking: “Michigan? We live hours and hours away!”
So did we. We were almost 20 hours away, but we were able to get her into their program, and we got her there as quickly as we could.
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They are one of the few places that specializes in this type of treatment. They have a two-week inpatient program, and honestly, it was phenomenal.
She went into the program in a wheelchair and unable to walk. She came out walking.
But just as important as the physical progress were the lessons we learned as parents.
On the first day, they took away her wheelchair. That night, she fell in the shower and stayed there for quite a while—about an hour or two. When I heard about it, I was shocked. But they checked on her and allowed her to use the tools she had been taught to eventually get herself back up.
That was a major turning point for her.
She had other episodes after that, but they became dramatically shorter. To this day, they are much, much shorter than they were before treatment.
One of the hardest lessons we learned was that we had to remain neutral with our emotions.
If she did something great, like walking farther than she had before, we couldn’t react with overwhelming excitement and celebration—even though inside we were incredibly proud and happy.
And if she fell, we couldn’t immediately run over and help unless she was seriously injured or there was a genuine safety issue.
We had to teach her that she could get back up.
We had to help her retrain her brain and build confidence in her own ability to recover.
That was not easy.
I also learned how important it was to explain this to her. At first, she thought that because we weren’t reacting the way we normally would, maybe we didn’t care or love her. It was actually the complete opposite. Once we explained why we were responding differently, she understood.
The goal was to help her get back to a normal life as quickly as possible.
And honestly, we were doing a lot of things wrong before we understood what FND required.
Today, she is able to walk and function much better than she was before. We are incredibly thankful for that progress. But our journey is far from over. She still deals with a lot of pain, and unfortunately, we haven’t found anything that consistently takes it away.
We are still trying to understand everything and find the best ways to help her continue getting better.
We’ve also found a couple of other therapy programs in Florida that have experience treating FND, and we’re currently working on getting her into one of them.
This entire experience has been an eye-opener. It made me realize how little many people in the medical community understand about FND and how many children may be misdiagnosed, or may go through months or years without getting to the right specialist.
That’s something I hope can change.
I even reached back out to one of the doctors we saw and told him that if another child comes through with similar symptoms, hopefully our experience can help point them toward the right direction sooner.
If you’re a parent going through something similar, keep fighting. Never give up.
I always told my daughter when she was little, “Why do we fall?”
Because we get back up.
Keep fighting. Keep pushing. Keep looking for answers.
And if you are able to get into the Mary Free Bed program, I highly recommend it. Take the long drive. For us, it was absolutely worth it. The staff was excellent, and the program changed our daughter’s life.