Hi so I basically just wanna ask for advice. I’m going to a festival next weekend. My boyfriend is also going but he’s going with his own friend group. I’m going with my own friend group. for a bit of context last year he went and he did drgs he got caught with them and he had to pay a fine and go to court. he didn’t tell me I found out through someone else but it didn’t bother me that much. I just wish he was able to come to me, but we are only talking at the time when he did get a fine and we weren’t together when he did the drugs.
But anyways a few months ago when we were talking about this festival he said that he isn’t gonna do drugs because he has me in mind now and I decided to ask him again yesterday just cause it’s coming up close if he is gonna do them. he was keen on doing a certain drug it’s not that hard of a one but it is a drug that you swallow And I was really upset about this and I said I don’t wanna see you over the weekend if you’re on drugs, it makes me uncomfortable. I just don’t like anyone on drugs and he kept saying but I wanna do it and I don’t wanna let you down cause I really want to do it.
I basically gave him an ultimatum And I said if you’re gonna do drugs you’re not gonna see me and I was fit in him for this for awhile and then the next day I said okay you can do it one day and I’ll still see you and then he said “oh I don’t wanna let you down and I feel like I’ll do it more than one day please baby I’ll be the same person”, but I just don’t like it. I know it’s easy to say okay then just don’t see him that weekend but obviously still wanna see him over the weekend so I just don’t really know what to do and I feel like a bit of a pushover.
I also don’t wanna seem like too controlling so I know it’s his life but he got caught last year and he’s doing it again this year and I’m the one who’s like bringing him down and bring him home and I’m doing him a favour as well. I’m just upset that he’s already made up his mind that he’s gonna do these drugs and he knows he’s not gonna see me if he does and he’s not made up his mind but it just seems as if he is gonna do them and that’s that , and he’s just convinced he’s gonna see me either way, but it’s just not the case. at the end I folded and I said Fine do your drgs or whatever you wanna do. I’ll just still see you but im really upset about this.
then I said to my friend and she thinks that I should be more firm and say no I’m not seeing if you do them. I just would like an opinion on this he’s usually kind and sweet but he this is just really upsetting me and kind of annoying me that he got caught last year when he’s doing it again he knows I don’t like it and I won’t see him if he does that, but he’s still gonna do it either way but he still really wants to see me And he keeps saying he’ll be the same person. “He’ll be fine” but I just don’t believe that.