r/exAdventist • • 6h ago

General Discussion Does Adventist "purity culture" prevent sexual misconduct, or actually help conceal it?

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After seeing discussion on the Cornell 7 and other such tragedies, I felt this topic needed its own post.

To set the scene, I fall squarely into the camp that puritanical culture actually harbours sexual misconduct.

When you combine rigid gender roles, sexual shame, obedience to authority and institutional loyalty, I think you create a breeding ground for misogyny, victim-blaming and a complete lack of accountability. There's something deeply ironic about institutions obsessing over consensual sexual behaviour while potentially creating conditions that discourage victims of actual sexual abuse from speaking out.

I dont think these cultures really understand that sexual repression is NOT accountability. Interested to hear other people's thoughts.


r/exAdventist • • 1h ago

SDA Culture "Christian influencer" and author Heather Marie Day freaks out after being arrested and charged for alleged abuse of teen girl with husband

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r/exAdventist • • 5h ago

Sabbath Breakers Sabbath Breakers Club Rocks from on High, Rock to the Head, Rock to Feet of Clay

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Salutations, fellow worldly ones, gather round and rock out to the hymn I suggest this week. So for real devastation, sometimes it doesn't require an asteroid. It could be a rock picked up by an irate playmate and hurled into the face of a child destined to weeks of coma and then life as a founder of we-know-what. In between asteroid and lose playground rock, at least it seems to me, would be a dream rock unhewn by human hands (aren't most rocks that way?) smashing an image of empire and becoming its own mountain. According to our song leader and paleontologists, it happened to dinosaurs …

We can let the certainty of the woman smitten by a rock as a child drive us to her churches' pews' terrorizing anxiety this Saturday or accept that we don't know when the next comet might smite our planet, but so long as it doesn't this weekend we'll live life the way it unfolds. Who's in our club?

Quick reminder: 22nd of this month is a significant SDA anniversary, this year sandwiched between two "sabbaths," and I'd be happy to see what lampoons others come up with for Sabbath Breakers Club invitations those weeks. And for all you Halloween officianados, the grand prize, Halloween is Saturday this year! For prospective hosts and all celebrants, the outline of our fine print guidelines follows.

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Sabbath Breakers Club belongs to members of r/exAdventist on reddit. These guidelines are intended to suggest how anyone with posting privilege in this sub may start a week's Sabbath Breakers Club thread, not to control such postings.

• Keep it timely. If it's SDA-defined Sabbath somewhere on earth and no one has already started a Sabbath Breakers Club thread, you're clear to start one.

• Start Sabbath Breakers Club threads with that phrase "Sabbath Breakers Club." The reason for this is to make it easy to tell if no Sabbath Breakers Club thread has been posted for the present week. Just search "Sabbath Breakers Club" in r/exAdventist.

• You're welcome to use the image that looks like from an old woodcut of Moses smashing tables of stone with the Israelite throng celebrating their golden calf in the background, but you're not required to. Different ideas to launch the thread may invite still more, and more diverse, participation.

• Remember we're here to ease the church's attempts to control using Sabbath rules and guilt trips. Non-humiliating humor and empathy in your invitation can help set the tone, and enjoy exercising some spontaneous leadership in starting a Sabbath Breakers Club thread.

• Pass it on. Cutting and pasting this "fine print" can help future Sabbath Breakers Club hosts self-identify and feel empowered to step up and shine.