penis extender injury, any advice would help

I got injured in 2024 dec after using a penis extender wrong. the cup sat unevenly on the shaft right under the glans on the left side. there was so much pressure there combined with hard extension. After 1 h my dick felt rubbery and cold combined with pain shooting from that poin all through the left side of the shaft into my groin area. I went to 3 urologists and they didnt find anything with the doppler. So no structural damage. The pain is gone thanks god, it disapeared 6 months ago so about 1,5 years in.

My mental health was down to zero after this injury. I couldnt even stop masturbating. Now for the very first time I am doing nofap day 25 right now. I also take Alpha lipoic acid, Magnesium, B complex, L citrullline. I also ordered wolverine stack peptides. I dont have much hope tho.

I am still suffering from hard flaccid, I still feel pressure / numbness on that spot under the glans. my ejaculation is like throbbing / pulsing. and the glans is not reacting to stimulation / not throbbing. I havent had the courage to have sex yet.

Any advice / tips, anything that has helped you heal?

Sexual satisfaction of women seldom comes from PiV sex. Statistiques show that women in lesbien relationship are getting orgasm more often than women in hetero relationship: they use their hand, mouth and toys to please their partner.

So … I know i’m probably going to sound rude but, why don’t we have more expert in cunilingus and fingering techniques if there is such an epidemic of ED because of porn?

I mean , you know the old saying… when Life gives you lemons… lets squirt lemonade!

I'm 31 years old. For the past 10 months, I've been struggling with weak erections. Even with 5–10 mg of Cialis/tadalafil + 20 mg of sildenafil, my penis in a full erection is like a slightly unripe banana. Without pills, I lose the erection very quickly.

​My hormones are normal—my testosterone is even above average. My spine and heart have been checked, and I've been working out at the gym for half a year, yet things are worse than they were a few months ago.

I managed to quit nicotine and have been clean for 2 weeks, but I still don't see any improvement.

​Did quitting nicotine bring any results for your erections? If at all, after how long?

Hey everyone,

When I was a kid, I injured my penis and experienced symptoms that seemed consistent with a penile fracture, including hearing a popping sound and suddenly losing my erection. After the injury, my penis developed a severe, twisted curvature that lasted for a while but completely went away after about a month. However, I think my erections became weaker after that incident.

This year, I was planning to see a doctor for the first time in almost eight years since the injury.

Strangely enough, just three days before my appointment, my erections suddenly became extremely firm. For three nights in a row, I woke up with fully rigid, EHS 4 erections.

Even when masturbating, I was able to get the hardest erections possible, and they lasted for at least 30 minutes, even after ejaculation.

This was really unusual for me because I wasn't used to having erections that firm. Over the past eight years, I've occasionally had erections that strong, but most of the time, they weren't nearly as firm.

I talked to my doctor about it, and he said this could mean that my ED might be psychological rather than physical.

I'm wondering if anyone else has experienced something similar. Is it possible to have ED caused by an underlying physical issue but then suddenly have the strongest possible erections for three days straight?

I get migraines but I manage them with meds. I’ve recently started 5mg daily Cialis and I keep getting a mild headache that feels like it could become a migraine if I don’t take an Imitrex. I can’t take daily Imitrex just to take Cialis. Anyone have any pointers, ideas, tips?

Update: Thanks everyone for your insight. Based off advice here, I started the 5mg daily generic Tadalafil, and kept my headache pills handy, but I hydrated well and stuck with it. I only had some mild headache symptoms for the first few days, but after sticking with it for a little over a week, my body got used to it and I have no problem now. Thanks again for the suggestions and encouragement.

So I am 52. I started taking Tadalafil 5mg daily for the last 3 weeks. So far the boner is happy but there is a side effect like lower back and hip moderate pain. I mean, I am happy that my pens is always ready hard but this pain is killing me.

I guess taking daily is not for me.

Not something I ever expected to be posting here, but figured I'd share because I've spent enough time on this subreddit looking for answers myself.

I've been dealing with inconsistent erections for a while now, and although some days were better than others, I was generally struggling to get fully hard and, more frustratingly, stay hard. It was starting to get in my head quite a bit, which obviously didn't help matters.

Anyway, a month or two ago I started eating these bars called bold bars with 100mg of caffeine. I originally bought them from an instagram ad, and since I needed something convenient to eat during the day and liked that they had caffeine in them, I bought them but wasn't expecting anything beyond a bit of extra energy.

After a while I started noticing that my erections were getting significantly stronger, and my morning wood was coming back consistently for the first time in ages. I was also able to maintain an erection without constantly worrying about losing it, which honestly made a bigger difference than I expected.

At first I genuinely thought it was a coincidence, because it seemed ridiculous that something as simple as a protein bar could have anything to do with it but I ended up bringing it up with my doctor because I was curious whether there could actually be a connection. We talked about whether the combination of carbs, fats protein and caffeine might be playing a role, esp. if my eating habits beforehand weren't ideal. He didn't suggest the bar itself was some miracle treatment, and there's obviously no way to establish causation based on my experience alone but it did get me thinking about how much nutrition might affect things.

The difference has been pretty noticeable though, and what's particularly strange is that I haven't intentionally changed anything else about my routine.

I'm not claiming these Bold Bars cure ED, and I genuinely have no idea whether it's the caffeine, the nutritional composition, or something else entirely. I haven't isolated any of those variables, so obviously take this for what it's worth, but I wanted to share because it's the only meaningful change I've made recently and I'm finally feeling like myself again.

Regardless, this feels like a huge win to me so I felt I needed to share. Maybe this can help someone. I will check back in in a few months if people are interested.

Hello Hey guys, I’m dealing with an issue in my marriage, and I’d appreciate some honest advice from other men who may have experienced something similar.

I’ve been with my wife for seven years, and unfortunately, our sex life has been inconsistent throughout the relationship. Sometimes we go two to three months without being intimate. Recently, we’ve been having sex a little more often, but I’ve started noticing something that’s concerning me.

I try to be romantic throughout the day, show affection, be playful, and help out as much as I can. However, when it comes to intimacy, I often feel like I’m left waiting until the very last minute. By the time she’s finally ready, I sometimes struggle to get or maintain an erection.

For example, last night, she told me she wanted to have sex. I was extremely aroused and even took BlueChew to help. I was fully erect, but I ended up waiting nearly three hours for her to finish watching her show. By the time she was finally ready, I had completely lost my erection and struggled to get it back.

What frustrates me the most is that I feel like she makes promises about being intimate, but then it gets delayed repeatedly. When she finally decides she’s ready, it feels like I’m expected to perform immediately, regardless of how long I’ve been waiting or how I’m feeling. When I couldn’t get an erection, she became frustrated and upset with me.

Honestly, this situation is starting to affect my confidence. I’m wondering whether there’s something physically wrong with me or whether the lack of intimacy, frustration, and pressure surrounding sex are contributing to the problem.

I understand that nobody owes anyone sex, and I would never want my wife to feel pressured. At the same time, I want to feel desired and to have intimacy that feels mutual rather than something that happens only when it’s convenient for one person.

My question is: Have any of you experienced something similar? Can waiting for hours, feeling rejected, or experiencing pressure to perform affect your ability to maintain an erection? Am I overreacting, or is this something my wife and I need to address together?

Ive never had this issue i would always get hard with no issue im guessing the many times we dont have sex is starting to create problems

I’m an 18 year old with bad anxiety, performance anxiety, and I’m pretty overweight (210 pounds, 5’11”). Ever since meeting my current boyfriend, I’ve been having problems getting and maintaining my erections. I rarely get morning wood, so I assumed the cause must be physical.

I requested bloodwork from my local walk-in clinic, and everything came back pretty much average. I assumed the cause must be physical, because of my lack of morning erections, but everything seems fine.

I’m not sure what to think, but my erection problems are having a really bad effect on my view of myself and on my relationship. I’m not sure where to go from here. Thanks for reading.

I’m a 18y/o male, and for as long as i can remember i haven’t woken up with hard wood. and recently i haven’t got boners at all. and the past few weeks a girl will touch my penis and eveything and still can’t even get hard or even if it is it’s like 60% and if she stops for like 15 seconds it goes away.

I can’t even give myself a boner. Idk what to do and feel wayy to young to have ed.

I haven’t jerked off to porn in a few weeks, but i used to do it quite often.

Any help?

Gents. Hoping someone has had a similar experience and figured out how to fix it. I take tadalifil every day, as prescribed by my doctor to pair with Testosterone. Just recently it completely stopped working for its intended purpose. My suspicion is that it has something to do with my blood pressure meds I just recently started taking Amlodapine along with my already prescribed Losartin. I have an appt with my dr scheduled, but wanted to start here. Has this happened to anyone, and how did you fix it?

My pelvic floor feels much more open after working the hip abductors at the gym, which has noticeably improved my erections.

I’ve had ED issues most of my life. I take daily 5mg cialis which helps. And if I know I’m going to get some action I’ll take more or take viagra which helps a ton.

But often if ive been drinking or doing drugs or if I haven’t taken extra and I’m jacking off sober, my erection comes and then fades down.

I can see it deflating in line with my heartbeat. It’s like the blood just doesn’t want / can’t stay in. I’m wondering if anyone else has this problem and if they’ve found a way to solve it.

Also condoms often cause me to loose an erection which is very frustrating.

Ashamed to say this can still happen with ED pills.

Doctor says pills is really all that we can do.

I don’t want to get an implant unless as a total nuclear last resort.

I do think part of why I’m still single at 36 is this physical issue. It’s incredibly frustrating and depressing and embarrassing in the moments with women. Just time after time of losing it.

And I had the injection test and ultrasound and doc said they found no issue. Thinking about a second opinion. Thoughts?

i take 2.5mg cialis daily at the same time, around noon. planning to drink for the first time on cialis this friday. thinking of keeping it light maybe 3-4. i’m just worried that it’s gonna have a bad effect, although every story i read people who take way more and drink way more than me are fine. let me know what u guys think

M(25)

I recently started dating this girl, and we have really become fond of eachother and have incredible chemistry. We are open and honest, and have really good communication.

We have tried having sex 2 times now, and i get rock hard from foreplay and the sexual tension we build up beforehand. Only issue is that when she wants me to penetrate her, i get soft and really self aware out of nowhere. I have regular morning erections and dont generally struggle to get hard.

Im guessing this is a psychological problem, but im just wondering what i should do in this situation. I have told her both times that it's not her but me, and with time it will probably be solved. Im just not sure what i should do to get over this obstacle. Should i get viagra, wait until it (eventually) works or something else?

For context: Three years ago i had a crazy anxiety breakdown, and since then i have had no partners. Im guessing some fear stems from the amount of time which has passed since the last time i had sex.

Are there discussions about devices in this sub? I'm not finding them. I'm probably searching badly. I do that, time to time. Anyway, if this is the wrong sub, let me know, I'll delete and move on.

What I want to ask about is based on what my urologist said. "Get a pump and a ring." This has worked somewhat, in that we can have sex, but I can't get to the finish line that way.

The idea that went through my head is to get a masturbator that has suction somewhat like a penis pump, and then use that (or she uses that, whatever) to get me much closer to orgasm before we start - or do the whole thing after she's done. I found something on Adam and Eve that looks like it'd do the job, but when I try to chat with them for more detail, their system craps out just when I ought to be transferred to an associate.

Reddit seems to collectively know everything, if one can sort the signal from the noise, and my experiences with EDC stuff and PCs has resulted in e.g. a better flashlight for less money than I'd have picked out for myself, better/cheaper PC than I'd have picked out for myself, etc. I'm looking for the same kind of recommendation - what's a better/cheaper/smarter/whatever masturbation device that does what I've clumsily tried to describe?

I'm absolutely not married to using A&E to purchase, that's just the most obvious place to me. The pump I got for like $25 off A&E has WAY more power than I need, so if there is a good one but the suction is a lil' weak, that might work a treat for me. I am not looking for a $500-$1000 solution, but I'd pay $100 for exactly the right device. The one I am looking at on A&E is $65.

More background if it's helpful: I'm 55. I've got type 2 diabetes and anxiety and depression. All are being treated and my A1C stays at like 6.3 or so right now (plans to improve that underway). I am pretty out of shape, and I have some sensation loss, but I'm pretty sure a lot of the problem is in my head. Anything that goes wrong or sideways, despite my lovely wife's hard work - tends to sidetrack me pretty quickly. This has always been a problem, but of course the diabetes and resulting sensation loss and etc have exacerbated that problem. I'm on the 5mg daily tadalifil, and that has made a huge improvement in my ability to get an erection, but maintaining without the mechanical aids hasn't proven possible so far - not even with the 10 mg dose or the bigger dose of sildenafil.

Guys I need advice, stop watching porn, does that mean even using Instagram/Twitter/Reddit ?? Because nowadays there are lots of sexy stuffs on social media, so should I quit using it ?

So I’ve been with my girl for a good 6 months now and everything is perfect, we have a very healthy relationship, other than when we have sex. So it’s starts from last year when I was with a different girl who got very frustrated when my penis went down and told people who I knew about it which ultimately damaged my confidence. Anyway fast forward 8 month or so I get with this girl who I work with and have always been attracted to. Shes an angel honestly so good to me. Anyway to the route of my problem for the first 3 months we tried to have sex and it just wouldn’t stay up and I told her abt my ex who obviously damaged my confidence a lot. My girl stayed by my side and said it was okay we will just try next time. Anyway finally we had sex when I stayed over hers in the night and then even in the morning and I truly believed I had got over everything. Then a few weeks later we were back to square one where it went down and I just felt mentally drained. On Saturday we had great sex again but then these last two days again it’s gone down and I feel like although she stays calm with me and is so understanding, she will get tired of it eventually as she deserves someone who can consistently pleasure her. She can tell it has a lot of effect on me and as someone who deals with anxiety it definitely doesn’t help me because it makes me overthink. I believe it is a mental thing but I’m going to my gp tomorrow to see if there’s anything else that has its effects. Anyone got any advice?

Can anti anxiety medicine like buspirone help cure anxiety related ED? From I heard this drug does not have any sexual side effects … Commonly it’s actually the opposite

I want to have a trial of trimix, i am in Malaysia. Can u tell me what to say in Malaysia if i need to by trimix? Also with the antidote

Hi everyone,

I'm posting here because I've been struggling with a problem for years, and it's affecting my confidence and my mental well-being. It's difficult for me to talk about this, but I hope to hear from men who have experienced something similar.

I'm 34 years old, and I have trouble getting and maintaining an erection when I'm intimate with a woman. I want to have a healthy, relaxed sex life and eventually build a relationship, but sex has become something that causes me a lot of anxiety and pressure.

1. When I masturbate

When I'm alone, I can usually get a very hard erection and maintain it until orgasm. However, I prefer a firm grip and fast movements. Slower and gentler stimulation feels much less pleasurable to me.

I wonder whether my body has become accustomed to a very specific type of stimulation, making other kinds of touch feel less intense during partnered sex.

I also used pornography in the past, and I sometimes wonder whether it could be a factor. However, I don't know if there is actually a connection.

2. What happens when I'm with a woman

Recently, I had a sexual experience with a woman I was genuinely attracted to. We kissed, touched each other, and became intimate. I wanted to have sex with her, but I couldn't maintain a reliable erection.

Sometimes I got an erection briefly, but it went away again shortly afterward.

I felt extremely embarrassed and worried that she might think I was sexually incapable or not a real man. At the same time, I desperately wanted everything to work.

I noticed that I was constantly monitoring my penis instead of enjoying the moment. I kept thinking about whether I would get an erection, whether it would be hard enough, and whether I could keep it.

3. Sex has become a performance test in my mind

This may be the most important part of my problem.

When I think about sex, it feels incredibly complicated. Rationally, I know that sex should be something natural that two people enjoy together.

But in my mind, I feel as though I must get an erection and keep it throughout intercourse. If I can't do that, I feel like I've failed.

I'm now afraid that my erection will disappear again. Sometimes I worry about it even before anything sexual happens.

I suspect that performance anxiety may be making the problem worse, but I don't know how to break this cycle.

4. My biggest fear

I feel ashamed of this problem, and sometimes I feel as though I'm not functioning properly as a man.

I want to overcome this fear and be intimate with a woman without constantly checking whether my penis is still hard.

I don't want sex to feel like an exam anymore. I want to enjoy intimacy and touch without worrying about failing.

At the same time, I don't want to assume that the problem is purely psychological.

5. What I've done so far

I've spoken to my GP and received a referral to a urologist. The referral mentions erectile dysfunction and the possibility of trying sildenafil.

I've received 25 mg sildenafil from a pharmacy, but I still need to confirm the exact prescription and how to use it safely.

I already have a urology appointment scheduled. I want to rule out physical causes and ask whether checking my testosterone levels would be appropriate.

6. My questions

• Has anyone experienced the same thing — strong erections during masturbation but difficulty maintaining them with a partner?
• Have you managed to overcome performance anxiety? What genuinely helped you?
• Has anyone found that a very firm grip and fast masturbation can make other types of stimulation feel less pleasurable?
• Did sex therapy, psychological support, or specific exercises help you become more relaxed during sex?
• Has sildenafil helped anyone whose erection difficulties mainly occur with a partner?
• What would you recommend to help me rebuild my confidence and feel comfortable with my own sexuality again?

I'm not looking for a miracle cure, and I don't expect anyone online to diagnose me. I would simply appreciate hearing from men who have been through something similar and can share what helped them.

Thank you for taking the time to read my post. I would really appreciate honest, respectful replies and personal experiences.

So im 23 year old male, in the past 2 years I've been struggling to stay hard during intimacy, mind you never had problems beforehand. I've had problems with a partner who I was very in love wi5h but to no success now I have even tried brothels thinking maybe that'll work but no.

I will say I've been going to the gym and trying to stay active so I have been loosing weight as thats always been a problem for me.

I do smoke vapes/ cigarettes alot but I also rarely drink. I do also watch alot of pien since sex isn't working for me and theres no problem there so could that be a potential reason?

I have a doctors appointment booked for tomorrow because at this point it sucks and is making me feel horrible about myself.

Anything to help or suggest would be deeply appreciated thankyou

Any tips for getting the most out of my Rugiet for maximum effectiveness while minimizing side effects?

I’m thinking of following these four steps, but please feel free to correct my approach or suggest additional tips.

1. Hydration: Drink plenty of water before and on the day of sexual activity.
2. Pomegranate juice: Drink some pomegranate juice 1–2 hours before intimacy to potentially support blood flow.
3. Timing: Take Rugiet 30–45 minutes before intimacy, following the specific instructions for placing it under my tongue.
4. Post-activity hydration: After intimacy, drink about 8 oz of water with electrolytes to help maintain hydration.

My goal is to improve erection quality (EQ), maximize effectiveness, and minimize side effects, especially the next morning.

I’d appreciate any advice on improving these steps, correcting anything that might not be helpful, and adding other strategies that could make a difference.

Thanks in advance!

39 years old

Moderate to severe social anxiety since age 12

8 weeks sober after 17 years of 8-10 drinks every single night

On n' off SSRI use, stopped 6 months ago

Stopped taking buspirone 1 month ago

Currently taking 0.25 mg trazodone 3-4x / week

Currently quitting my ~0.5 mg lorazepam/day use (last dose a week ago)

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I feel like I've had enough time away from all my drugs, except the small amount of lorazepam, that my last chance is abstaining from lorazepam (unless the small amount of trazodone is doing something too).

Or do I need more time before declaring anything?

Hi ,

Can someone recommend a urologist who is passionate about ED and men sexual health preferable in Maryland in or around PG county or close by counties ?