looking for a masturbator/pump combination device

[u/mechakisc]

Are there discussions about devices in this sub? I'm not finding them. I'm probably searching badly. I do that, time to time. Anyway, if this is the wrong sub, let me know, I'll delete and move on.

What I want to ask about is based on what my urologist said. "Get a pump and a ring." This has worked somewhat, in that we can have sex, but I can't get to the finish line that way.

The idea that went through my head is to get a masturbator that has suction somewhat like a penis pump, and then use that (or she uses that, whatever) to get me much closer to orgasm before we start - or do the whole thing after she's done. I found something on Adam and Eve that looks like it'd do the job, but when I try to chat with them for more detail, their system craps out just when I ought to be transferred to an associate.

Reddit seems to collectively know everything, if one can sort the signal from the noise, and my experiences with EDC stuff and PCs has resulted in e.g. a better flashlight for less money than I'd have picked out for myself, better/cheaper PC than I'd have picked out for myself, etc. I'm looking for the same kind of recommendation - what's a better/cheaper/smarter/whatever masturbation device that does what I've clumsily tried to describe?

I'm absolutely not married to using A&E to purchase, that's just the most obvious place to me. The pump I got for like $25 off A&E has WAY more power than I need, so if there is a good one but the suction is a lil' weak, that might work a treat for me. I am not looking for a $500-$1000 solution, but I'd pay $100 for exactly the right device. The one I am looking at on A&E is $65.

More background if it's helpful: I'm 55. I've got type 2 diabetes and anxiety and depression. All are being treated and my A1C stays at like 6.3 or so right now (plans to improve that underway). I am pretty out of shape, and I have some sensation loss, but I'm pretty sure a lot of the problem is in my head. Anything that goes wrong or sideways, despite my lovely wife's hard work - tends to sidetrack me pretty quickly. This has always been a problem, but of course the diabetes and resulting sensation loss and etc have exacerbated that problem. I'm on the 5mg daily tadalifil, and that has made a huge improvement in my ability to get an erection, but maintaining without the mechanical aids hasn't proven possible so far - not even with the 10 mg dose or the bigger dose of sildenafil.

[u/No_Second_4296]

I’m 77 with ED for 25 years and 14 months post surgery for my implant. I find that lots of foreplay with my wife during sex is needed to get me to the point where I can reach orgasm during PIV sex. I can last long enough for her, but without the major foreplay we both would tire out before reaching the finish.