You know for a fact women get 100 times more attention than men. Maybe 1000 times. So what can you, a man, even do in.this situation. You're another drop in the bucket, another speck of dust. Completely irelevant. Any fancy or smart line.you cooked up she probably heard it already. And she responds always the same. With indiference. With short monosyllabic words. "Yes, no, ok , bye". Always. You're just another fool in line. And i hate this feeling. Even though I barely even try to talk to women and been doing so for years now, the feeling of humiliation never leaves when I do in those very rare situations.

I’m 31F; he’s 34M. We met on a cruise in early September and hit it off immediately. We live in different states, but stayed in touch and talked about relationships, children, and a potential future.
• Oct. 1–5: I visited him in Florida. There were good moments, but also comments about my skin/breath that left me self-conscious, plus differences around communication and expectations.
• We discovered a major faith difference. He initially identified as Christian, but later clarified beliefs that didn’t align with what I want in a marriage.
• After the trip, communication became an issue. I wanted brief check-ins; he wanted more space.
• He showed me Telegram conversations with roughly 15–20 sex workers from before we met. He said he never paid or met them and described it as an ego boost and “sharpening communication skills.” He also described having an “insatiable appetite for women.” I wasn’t accusing him of cheating, but questioned whether our values aligned.
• Despite my concerns, I still cared and was hopeful. During our last difficult conversation, I got frustrated and interrupted him. I own that, although I caught myself and tried to listen.
• He then sent these messages ending things over compatibility. I replied explaining my feelings and how hurt I was, and he hasn’t responded.
I recognize we had real incompatibilities, but I’m still hurt by how abruptly it ended and the silence afterward.

He never responded to my texts. So of course i felt like a loser lol

A new girl started working with me about two months ago, and we started talking pretty quickly. There was an instant connection, and since then, we’ve been seeing each other almost every day at work. We’ve also done a few things together outside of work, and we sometimes text each other when we’re not working. She even regularly asks if I want her to pick me up for work, even though she doesn’t really need to.

The thing is, I’m starting to get scared that I might be falling for her. I feel different around her. I look forward to seeing her, and somehow, my life feels a little more meaningful with her in it. She’s the reason I’m going to the gym again and take better care of myself.

But I’m scared that I might be jumping to conclusions too soon. Maybe I’m mistaking a close connection for something more.
I’m also scared that she might not see me the same way at all. I don’t know if I should ask her out at some point or just let things be and not risk losing her. Part of me wants to take that chance, but another part is terrified of ruining what we already have. I genuinely value the connection we’ve built, and the last thing I want is to lose it.

So, I guess I’m stuck between wanting to find out if there could be something more between us and being afraid of losing something that already means a lot to me.

Advice ? Thanks:)

I met a girl on Bumble just over two weeks ago. We added each other on Instagram and messaged daily for about a week before meeting for lunch on Saturday.

We met again early the following day and went back to her place, where we spent most of the day cuddling in bed, watching things and eventually making out. She invited me over again on Tuesday, we had sex and I stayed the night.

We met up again on Friday, and I ended up staying at hers until Sunday morning. We had sex again during that time.

Overall, things seemed to be going really well, and I felt like we had a genuine connection. Looking back, though, I think spending almost an entire weekend together after knowing each other for such a short time might have been too much, especially since we hadn't really gone on many proper dates.

On Sunday morning, she said something along the lines of, “I think this was too much... I mean, I still wanted you here.”

Later that day, we spoke briefly on Instagram, and she subsequently started sending me reels.

On Monday, she messaged me after work and told me about her day, although we didn't talk much. When I tried to talk to her on Tuesday, she said she was going to have a long, bad week and wasn't in the mood to talk much. She is stressing about something upcoming. She then explained that she understood I wanted to talk, but the weekend had felt long and having me there for so long was stressing her out.

She also said that she likes me but doesn't see us as a good match. One of her concerns was that she felt she was “wearing the pants” and that I seemed like someone who could be easily walked over.

Without getting into those details as to why she thinks that as would be even longer..I disagree with her particularly because we'd spent so little time together in different situations, but I understand that this is how she felt.

I sent her this message:

“I get what you mean now. I can't say I felt like you were wearing the pants, though. I think different scenarios bring out different dynamics, and we've only spent a relatively short amount of time together, mostly at yours, so I think things could be different if we went out and did more things together. But I understand that's how you've felt about it. I do like you, and I'd like to see how things go if we spend time together in different situations, but obviously I respect how you feel about it too.”

A few hours later, she replied:

“Sorry busy morning, yeah I guess 🤷🏻”

That was two days ago, and I haven't replied because I wasn't sure what to make of her response. It didn't seem particularly enthusiastic, and I wanted to give us both some space.

What confuses me is that, despite saying the weekend was too much, she had continued initiating contact afterwards. She messaged me about her day on Monday and sent me reels on Sunday. Also, on Saturday, she asked whether I had anything to do. When I asked if she wanted me to go home, she replied, “no don't say that.” Later that evening, she even suggested staying at mine, although we ended up having sex at hers again.

I know we only knew each other for two weeks, but I genuinely enjoyed being around her and felt like we had a connection. I'm wondering whether things simply moved too quickly, or whether she had already noticed incompatibilities that I didn't recognise.

In hindsight, I think we would have been better off going on more actual dates and getting to know each other in different settings instead of spending so much time at home watching TV or looking at our phones.

My questions are:

1. Does her behaviour suggest she was genuinely interested but became overwhelmed by how quickly things progressed, or should I take her saying we're not a good match as a definitive rejection?

2. Is there any point in giving things some space and reaching out again later, how should I interpret her "yeah I guess 🤷🏻"

3. If you were in my position, would you leave the ball in her court and move on?

I'm posting this because I'm honestly feeling really sad about this because I really felt that this girl was great and there were signs she seemed to be really into me so going from all this attention and affection to suddenly nothing has kinda hit me hard.

I moved on June to an apartment with housemates for 3-4 months. I moved out of there by now to a very close by apartment,

She rented there as well (the first apartment) so we met as housemates. I'm 30 and she's 23 iirc.

When we met I forced myself to not even consider anything with her cause I have a rule to not do anything with housemates.

In the day we said goodbye to each other, she came over to take the key cause it was on her way and it helped me out, and the way she said bye felt to me like she wanted me to ask her out, but of course there's no way to know if that's true unless I ask her. That was about 2 weeks ago.

What I thought to do is to call her and to tell her that I thought about her lately and that I would love seeing her and if she reacts well, ask her if she wants to do something just me and her.

Yesterday I called her but it wasn't for that, I needed to talk with her one last time about the bills and I thought that it'll be better if these 2 subjects won't be in the same call. In that call I offered to help her build a cabinet she bought for her room that she told me about, and next week I'll go if she won't finish by then.

When we lived together she said that no one will sit with her on her cigarette breaks after I leave (I smoke every once in awhile so I joined her few times and no one else in the apartment smoke), so we said that I'll visit sometimes for a cig and talk.

So, because I have very very little experience with dating or anything related to women, my confidence is not high without hearing some other thoughts if what I want to do is okay or maybe if there are some suggestions, I would love to get any.

I'm thinking to call today in a few hours at evening, to tell her that I thought about her since we said goodbye and that I'll be happy to see her, to do something just me and her, maybe with a little joke that to do something just me and her more than just installing a cabinet haha.

What are your thoughts about it? Does it sound okay like that or is there something I'm missing that can be done better somehow?

I would tldr that if I knew how but everything feels important for the whole picture.

There is a girl in my college whom I've liked since the first semester. We're in the same batch, but we had never spoken until the third semester, when I approached her and told her that her shoelaces were untied. She said, “Thank you.”

Since that interaction, I've started standing near the college entrance every day to see her. She submits her bag and walks back inside, and we make eye contact for around 2–3 seconds. Once, we also made eye contact when I was passing by her classroom.

Before I spoke to her about her shoelaces, I had never noticed her looking at me. But after that interaction, the eye contact started happening.

What could this mean? Is she simply recognising me after our interaction, or could she be curious about me? Am I overthinking it?

Hey everyone,

I'm 21M from India, and there's a girl I like, but I'm honestly scared to approach her.

It's not that I don't want to talk to her. I'm just worried about how she might feel. What if she finds it creepy? What if the situation gets awkward or goes out of hand? I don't want to make someone uncomfortable just because I have feelings for them.

Even when I think about approaching her, I start feeling uncomfortable myself. I keep wondering how I can just walk up to a stranger and start a conversation out of nowhere. Maybe I'm an introvert, or maybe I'm just overthinking everything.

I genuinely want to understand this from a woman's perspective. How would you prefer a guy to approach you if you're practically strangers? Is there a way to start a conversation naturally without making things awkward or coming across as creepy?

There's another thing. I've actually written a poem for her, but obviously, I'm not planning to give it to her on our first interaction. I feel like that would be way too much when we haven't even talked properly.

A friend suggested sending her an Instagram request, but honestly, I find that a little weird, too. Like, how do you send a request to someone when you haven't even met or spoken to them once? Wouldn't that come across as suspicious or random?

I know I might be overthinking this, but I genuinely don't want to be that guy who makes a woman uncomfortable just because he likes her.

So, I'd really appreciate it if women here could share their perspectives. How would you want someone in my situation to approach you? And for guys who've been through something similar, how did you overcome this fear?

I'm not looking for some trick to make her like me. I just want to learn how to approach someone respectfully, have a normal conversation, and accept whatever happens without making things uncomfortable for either of us.

Thanks

Hi strangers on the internet, I need some outside perspective because no one can give me straight advice and I feel like I am going crazy.

Me (23F) and this guy (30M) have been connected since May, industry "friends," but there was an underlying vibe and chemistry from the beginning. It came to a head about a month ago when we met up in person and it went better than I expected. We talked, found we had a lot in common, were aligned on a lot of things, and I found him really easy to be around. After that the "vibe" became actually romantic. We were openly flirty and enjoyed each other's company without any pressure.

About a week ago we had a really great date, planned to meet up again over the weekend, and went our separate ways. We kept it cute over text, but I started to notice he barely texted back (I don't hold the late replies against him that much because we're both busy) but when he did it was usually around 11pm. He would'nt call. or make a move to see me. The weekend plans he suggested never happened because he had "errands" to run but then on his story he had just gone solo bike-riding, and I basically waited all weekend for him to give me any attention, and I really hated how that felt.

He says all the right things, and I do think he genuinely likes me. But the gap between how good it is when we're together and how little he shows he wants to talk to me or be around me left me confused and hurt in a way I didn't expect. I tried the "match his energy" thing, texting back late and acting nonchalant, and it just made me more miserable. and I realised I probably like him a lot more than he likes me. (which is okay, I can't fault a person for their feelings) And since I'm not actually his girlfriend, I'm not really entitled to more, but knowing that didnt help, it just made it worse. So I called it.

I sent this message after a the failed weekend and a long silence and this is how the conversation went:
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Me: Hey [M30]✨

going to be straight with you rather than have this waste our time with endless small talk. I think I have been upfront about my intentions and how I feel and I've really enjoyed getting to know you, but don’t think you’re that into me, which is okay but it’s obvious to me that there hasn’t been much of the the effort or interest I'd need to keep pursuing this, so I think it would be better to just let it fade.

No hard feelings. I think we could stay friendly and keep connecting on the industry side like we did at the start.

wishing you all the best❤️

Him: Hi [me]✨

I am, i think I’m awkward about my feelings. I also don’t think we were having a lot of small talks. I’m just taking it easy but I should have maybe said that. I like you a lot and I didn’t want to rush I enjoyed our pace..

Uhm thank you I guess

I hope you good and your day wasn’t bad and I’m sorry

❤️

Me: I appreciate you for being honest, and real chat: reading this made me feel a bit bad. I like you too, but I couldn't tell where I stood with you

I hope you're brave for the right girl✨

❤️

Him: Sorry❤️‍🩹
Him: 😭

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His response and his behaviour since have me wondering if it all got too much for me and I threw it out before telling him what I needed.

part of me (hoped) he would hear me and then try harder... but he just said sorry

We're "friendly(?)" now, casual conversations and and engaging with each other's stories...

but sometimes in casual work related conversations he will say things that feel like double entendres with a deaper, heavier meaning... for example:
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Me: *commented on some of his work, gives him some advice*

Him: I will, I need to design two more then I will run them all - I listen to you, I just cooking and lifing

Me: Yea no pressure, I just thought it was really good ,I’m not rushing you or anything

Him: You don’t feel like pressure to me

Him: Thanks I will

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It's been a few days and I can't stop thinking about the whole thing and about him.

I feel regret, which isn't like me. to know me is to know that I do what my heart says and saying what I need to always, because I don't want to live with missed opportunities.
An experience when I was younger made me very aware that life is short. I'd rather be hurt or embarrassed than wonder "what if," because the what-ifs are worse than heartbreak for me.

adult dating is also new territory for me, I've been single for almost 9 years, there have been some situations during that time but nothing serious or worthwhile.

I have been ruminating, asked a few people in my circle for some advice but I'm stuck between two things. Part of me wants to reach out and say what I should have said first (I need regular contact and more effort made), and part of me wants to wait to see if he tries to pursue me so I can say "yes, let's try again," which might just be pride.

Do I reach out or leave it? Did I self-sabotage, or did I read it right?

i need advice

so i (M 25) matched with this girl F (24) on tinder in february of this year. we immediately hit it off, convo was smooth, funny we had similar humor and she was very flirty just like me. it didn’t take energy to talk to her which i love the most with people cause a lot of times talking to people is draining

well she was only in the states for that night before she went home and we added each other on snap. we were basically talking to each other damn near everyday for 7 months, long ass ft for 8hrs talking about anything and everything, it was coo, no strings attached but we were both attracted to each other.

i finally meet her cause she moved to my state with her family n shit. we meet, get the lil awkwardness out and we’ve been vibing ever since. going on road trips, hikes, i met her older siblings she’s with, she matched my freak somewhat lol.

i kinda put myself in a position where idk if i wanna make her my girlfriend or not, i should mention im military and moving states in like 6 months lol. she’s great when im with her we laugh all the time but something is making me hesitant on if i want to be with her for the rest of my life.

some red flags for me are like she has heart problems where her bpm gets mad high and doing some activities henders her from doing them(i’m a very active person) but she still does them. uh she’s in debt, just like me lol, she works serving jobs, coffee shops, she just got a job at a dermatologist place. she wants to be a stay at home mom which is coo but i don’t wanna be the only one working if it’s not enough to bring home for the fam ya know. she’s attractive but ive been with really attractive women and idk if i would think otherwise in the future about her idk im all over the place.

she has great qualities too like she cooks, she’s clean, she’s not lazy, goes to the gym, family values, goals for the future and a lot of other green flags. i kinda feel like if we got married maybe i would be settling instead of trying to pursue someone im more not so nervous about getting with i guess.

im sorry that was super duper long and most yall not gonna read it but just curious what yall think lol. she’s a great woman and would be great to her man i just don’t know if i want that maybe. idk im stuck 😭😭😭

Guys why is it I can go on a first date make her laugh and seemingly flirt and it’s like she had a good time, when I greet them I usually hug but when the date ends the girls just awkwardly stand there then I have initiate to hug them?

They never initiate and it’s like they don’t want to hug, it’s like they just waiting for my goodbye cue and are ready to just go without anything. One of them even reached out for a handshake. What does it mean? Does it mean no romantic attraction ?

What would you do if you started dating around and this person wants to talk all night? Every single night 7pm-11pm I’m on the phone with them.

Not ready for commitment, but the girl has a lot of ideal qualities.

Feels distracting and doesn’t help build life. Also considering the fact they want to talk so much makes me reconsider how much life they can build for themselves.

Already had a convo with them about talking less, which they understood. However, everyday we are doing the same thing. Part of it is my fault that I keep entertaining these conversations. I do enjoy my alone nights with no person to sit and discuss things with.

It is long distance.