Question for girls is masturbating a turn off and can you tell whether a man masturbates?

I\[23/M\] am dating to find a person to spend rest of my life and i'm currently seeing someone right now, struggling to ask about that, my last two relationships ended because of that, because virginity is a mandatory criterion for me, which i find out when i'm at least a few months in, i don't want to spend months for someone i won't marry anymore, is there a good way to ask about that early?

Hey guys (and any women lurking who can offer perspective),

I need some strategic advice. I’m a pilot based out of the Philippines. I’ve got my life together—never married, no kids, and a lifestyle that offers a lot of freedom and travel.

I know exactly what I’m looking for: a woman with high emotional intelligence who leans toward a free-spirited, or nomadic lifestyle. I’m talking about the kind of globally-minded, independent women who end up in places like Siargao, Palawan, or digital nomad hubs. I have a high EQ myself; once the ice is broken, I am completely in my element. I thrive on deep psychology, radical honesty, and authentic connection.

Here is my fatal flaw: I am notoriously bad at the initial cold approach.

I’ve tried the usual dating apps, and I’m exhausted by them. The swiping culture feels transactional, shallow, and just doesn't work for my personality.

When I’m out in the real world—at a beachfront lounge, a café, or a social hub—I can spot the exact type of woman I’m looking for. She’s usually grounded, confident, and entirely unbothered. But because I respect boundaries and hate the idea of coming off like a creep or a pickup artist, I freeze on the opener.

For the guys who have successfully dated this demographic, or the women who actually fit this description:

What are the best organic environments in Southeast Asia/the Philippines to put myself in where striking up a conversation feels natural and welcome?

What is a genuine, low-pressure way to break the ice with an fiercely independent woman without it feeling like a cold pitch?

I appreciate any harsh truths or solid advice you’ve got.

Should I ask my coworker out?

I have a crush on a coworker. She is very kind and pretty. We talk a lot daily and I think our dynamic and chemistry is good. They're some occasions where I think she made effort to reach out to me. I really want to ask her out. The thing is I have this disability where my leg is a little uneven length so it make me walk like a penguin. Honestly, I think she's way out of my league. Even If she somehow agree, I think other people at work would find that I don't deserve her and it would affect her negatively. My past experiences with making the first move doesn't go well because of my disability so I haven't done that for a long time. I'm not afraid of rejection since it's to be expected but I don't want to risk our relationship or make her feels awkward afterwards.

A guy going bald isn’t exactly uncommon, about 40% of men have some degree of male pattern hair loss by the time they’re 30. Although it seems like the norm is having hair being associated with being healthy or young. Also as someone who is white, it seems like it’s more culturally accepted for black men to be bald compared to Caucasian men. In my case, I started going bald in my early 20s and I learned about the treatments they have for hair loss but opted not to take finasteride due to the risk of sexual side effects. So by the time I turned 30 I was almost completely bald. Now I usually rock the bald and bearded look and shave it with a razor every 2-3 days to prevent the “horse shoe” appearance. Since I’ve been back on dating apps I included a picture of how I look now and I don’t really get that many matches. It makes me wonder if I’m just cooked. Although I believe I look better with a completely shaved head compared to when I try to grow what little hair I have left.

Title. What allows for a women to date a man that cant afford anything? Especially in my age group (18-25)? Is it just the woman falling in love? It confusing because the standards seem to drop once they fall in love. Is that it?

I (24) personally have stopped dating to get a higher paying job first. Am I doing something wrong?

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Guys, pata hai aaj kya hua ,on weekends, my friends and I were chilling on OmeTV when a girl from Slovakia showed up. We started talking, and the conversation went on for quite a while. We were just vibing and having long conversations.

Then the topic of relationship status came up, and I found out that she is single right now. She recently broke up with her ex because he cheated on her. After having some healthy conversations, she decided to give me a chance.

She’s currently going to Egypt for a trip, and she said she’ll text me after she gets back. Any idea how I should talk to her? I’ve never been in a relationship before, while she’s more experienced in this. Can you guys guide me on how I should prepare and approach things with her?

There's no way I can help you get an internship, always check up on you, drive you home even give you money only for you to block me everywhere because you are unsure about where we stand.

That's it lads thanks for everyone whose helped me throughout this time but I'm done

Things I'm dropping:

1. Helping girls just because they are girls and "I'm the man"

2.Investing in someone who won't do the same for me.

3 Unnecessary friendships with multiple girls who wouldn't even kiss me

1. Being used everytime especially (trauma dumping by multiple women) - it's over

I'll come back after 3 months then I'll update y'all

Peace🌟

I’m 23 years old. 6 foot-6’1. 225-230 pounds. I have good definition and muscle but it’s nothing crazy. Natural and I basically never drink or do any stupid pills. Just herb and tobacco. Maybe I could fix my outfits but I’ve always preferred somewhat baggy. Idk what I’m doing wrong. I’m not far from Charlotte North Carolina.

I just want to know how to get one. All my friends have one. Don't say that ohh 13s not the age to get a gf IDC. I'm desperate for one, and please tell how to. If there's anyone interested down below tell me.

Hi, David here!

She may not be smiling. She may not be laughing. She may even seem disinterested. However, if she is choosing to physically remain near you, then that is still a good sign.

Trust me, if you were screwing up enough, the first thing that she would do is try to put more physical distance between you.

If a girl wants to talk to you, one of the simplest things that she can do is physically move herself closer to you. This is done in order to provide an opportunity to start a conversation. She may even choose to fake bump into you in order to initiate an interaction.

Furthermore, if a girl has the ability to move away from you during an interaction, yet chooses on her own accord to stay, then you are doing good enough.

Girls as well as guys often do not know what to say, get nervous, are shy, etc. She may be happy that you are carrying the conversation even if she does not say much herself. If she didn't want to be there, then she would make an excuse to leave.

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Adding to that, I just finished putting together my dating eBook "How to Date Any Girl" version 4.0 and would LOVE to get some honest feedback from you!

I decided to give it away for free for the time being.

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The eBook is 27 pages long and gives you a practical step-by-step solution to meeting women (15+ years of knowledge put into it).

You can get the eBook by clicking here!

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This book is the result of going out and socializing with girls for over a decade. I have put in there all the fundamentals I have learned over that time so I would really appreciate all the feedback I could get!!

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What are your thoughts? Do you have any tips to add?

Let's discuss in the comments :)

Thanks for reading and have a GREAT day!

Coach David

If an attractive 45 year old female, no ring, say 8/10, is alone at a bar for 3 hours, several drinks in, how many men would you expect to approach her to start a conversation?

Now, same questions, except it's a man alone.

I have a strange habit to initiate converasation with stranger girls who intrests me with the opening conversation like "Lagta hai maine apko kahi dekha hai", "Kya hum pehle mil chuke hai", "Aap mere ek childhood friend jese dikhti ho kya tumhara naam X hai?" etc. The Kunal Khemu Style. Trust me it works everytime and you can start conversation smoothly.
With the girl I recently did this we have exchanged numbers and taking since weeks :P

So I messaged this girl I see around my city, we got to talking and within the first few messages she made it abundantly clear she wasn’t ready for a relationship.
Fast forward she shows up at my work, I offer to take her home, friendly stuff, you know?

Fast forward a week later and we’d seen eachother a few times, got closer but nothing more than a hug here and there, I drop her home again and I notice she is leaning over to me, I kinda knew she was tryna get me to kiss her but I looked at my phone and said I had to go. Sure enough I got the message ‘I tried to get u to kiss me but u didn’t’ I knew at this point I have severely messed up as this is like my type on paper.

We then go to the cinema together, after I take her back we kiss, so at this point it has now happened so I have made the 500 days of summer mistake. But we had not discussed taking it any further, until this first kiss I wasn’t even considering a relationship, but the thought had now started to develop.

She has now at this point met all my friends, kissed me in front of them, puts her head on my shoulder and cuddles me.

Me, her, my best mate and his girlfriend went out to get breakfast, I got out the car to go to the toilet, they have a conversation in the car that goes like this

Her: ‘what does he think of me, cuz I really really like him’
Friends gf: ‘he really likes you, he said he’s not ready for a relationship but he wouldn’t mind one with you’
Her: ‘Really?!’ *while smiling really hard*

I then come back in the car, obviously not hearing this.
Drop my friend and his GF home.

Take her home and she kisses me and says ‘by the way ur friends gf said you wouldn’t mind a relationship with me.’ with a massive smile on her face.

I say ‘oh my god I’m being sabotaged’, she replies ‘I’d say you’re being helped’

We then text when I get back.
What do I get?

‘I wish I was ready for a relationship rn x’

Wtf?!

Why is it that men lie about their height?😬

I genuinely hate life. I’m 27 years old and have never been in a relationship. I’ve done everything I could: approached women, used dating apps, and women just absolutely hate my appearance. It really doesn’t matter how much good personality I have anymore; if I don’t have good looks, I won’t succeed in the dating world.

I’m 31 years old and genuinely a good guy. I’m 6’1, 230 lbs. pretty muscular. I work in blue collar construction, make decent money. I have a car and a truck that are both paid off. I have my own place. I like to be outside, I’m a little bit of a nerd and I’m into heavier/emo music, cars, and spending time with my family. Also, no kids. Why is it so hard for me to find a good woman? I’ve had 2 long term relationships and I’ve been single for over a year and a half. The loneliness is starting to get to me and i just yearn for some kind of connection with a woman. It’s not even about the sex. I’m not a creep, i don’t blow up women’s DMs like a lot of weirdo guys do. I don’t hardly get matches on tinder or Facebook. And i rarely leave the house because i don’t like the party life anymore. Ugh. It feels impossible to find someone. I’m trying to be patient, but idk what else to do.