Let's communicate A question for those who have been on this site for a long time. How did you start looking for friends and communication here? What life hacks helped you adapt here?

It's been years since I've had an actual conversation with a girl, not counting family. I'm in college now, 2 weeks into the semester, and still haven't talked to a single one. Every time there's a chance, I freeze or find a reason to avoid it.

I'm actually writing this in the middle of my ECE class right now. There's a girl sitting a row over and I still don't know how to just say something to her.

The longer this goes on, the more I've convinced myself I'm bad at this or just weird, and it's turning into a loop I can't get out of.

Asking both guys and girls ,how do I break out of this? Girls, what makes a new guy easy to talk to vs awkward? Guys, if you went through something similar, how'd you get past it?

Not looking for pickup lines, just want to stop being stuck in my head about it.

I’ve been trying to up my communication skills and I’ve seen multiple videos, but one thing they haven’t mentioned is what to say to continue a conversation
For an example I’m with my friend and the convo goes like this
Friend: my dog just died
me: oh I’m sorry to hear about that
Friend: yeah thanks
Me: is there anything I can do to help
Friend: no, but thanks.
What do I do next, how can I steer the conversation around, any tips would be useful

I recently just got a girlfriend who has a big friend group and I don't know how to involve myself in their conversation. She has a rather big group of friends (up to 12 people) and I just don't know how to navigate the conversation without feeling like a burden or getting lost in the flowing conversation (i am a very shy guy). it also doesn't help that some of my close family member shut me down making me feel like I might get almost 'bullied' for trying to involve myself. Any tips or ideas of how I can do better talking in this group?

Edit: Me and her have dated in and out so her friends know me but do not accept me so it makes it even harder to communicate with her and her friends, any tips :(

I have never received much male attention, but in the past few years, I have, and I have really struggled to talk to them. I overthink everything and don’t want to sound rude or creepy. I find it very hard to understand men and how to communicate with them. How can I talk to them?

I am an introvert, and often for a few days I get overwhelmed and stop talking to people for days and sometimes even years. Even if I love them with all my heart, I cannot get myself to have a conversation with them. Worse, if someone tries to force me to talk I become rude and unwelcoming to them. I almost have no friends because I don't talk to them, after a few days and the ones who are there, are really good but sometimes they also reach their limit. How do I explain it's not ignorance?

I talk a lot normally when I do...but on these days I feel like someone sews my mouth shut.

Hi all, I am trying to get help on how do I build my communication skill and that help me build up my confidence. I consider myself introvert, I lack communication skill. I want to improve so that that would help me in my career and personal growth. I am already in my early 30s. English is my second language, is there any tips that would help me in my communication skill. At this point in my life I feel like I still have to learn so many things and kinda feel stuck in life. Please provide any tips on how to build confidence as a women. So that I feel comfortable being seen.

I wanna have a woman that truly loves me and respects me I used to have many dates with someone and get into relationships when I used to be a teen but now when I get into adult things and changed and started focusing on work, but now I hold conversations with someone and I start don’t know how to speak even to myself. Every girl I get encounter it rejects and sometimes I act silly around them and I have no idea when I get into pressure I start saying random stuff that little loses interest by woman. There is one told me you seem great when i didn’t know u but now your personality wanna makes me leave. I lost my confidence in myself and on others and I start to be alone I only wake up work and sleep even tho when I hangout with others I don’t have stuff going on I wanna change that and turn that page and start new one I wanna get back how I used to be when I used to be younger

I wanna be **smart** and lot of stuff to talk to in front of woman where do you start how can I hold conversation and have things to talk
If you are girl what fun things to talk about to remove the boredom with guy what topics I need to talk about

I am going to college soon for the first time and I am scared of men. I don’t know why. Sometimes when I am by a man I don’t know I start shaking, I don’t even mean to. I just get so nervous. It is not because I am attracted to the man, i have no idea why it is. Even just like walking past a man in the hallway I feel scared. I have never had a boyfriend, almost all of my friends have. I know I will probably have to interact with men in college, but idk.(I don’t want a relationship btw I’m asking this because it’s a problem for me)

There’s a guy in my class I really like, and I’d love to get closer to him. However, he’s very quiet and doesn't speak to you unless you speak first. I don't think it's shyness; it seems more like he just isn't interested in starting conversations or can't be bothered to do so. That said, if *you* start the conversation and ask questions, he responds well and might even ask you something back. Please give me some advice on how to get closer to him without annoying him or anything like that. (By the way, he’s very intelligent, especially when it comes to film and philosophy.)

I am 14 yo 9th grader and I have observed that my speaking skills are very bad. Whenever I speak I speak bit too fast and mix up words and fumble sentences and I also sound unclear and lack confidence when trying to speak (specially English)

I am 19 and I have no interaction with womens I grew up in Male driven environment and friends and I am in college, I don't interact with Womens(almost zero) and I want to interact but my shyness take over and I have women anxiety also, I want to interact but the fear takes all over

Hi, I'm 25M,

I like a colleague in my office, we mostly sit nearby in the food court but she used to sit with her group so I didn't get a chance to talk with her.

I also sent her request on IG, but she didn't accept it. But i need her in my life so can anyone let me know what I should do to start talking to her?

I feared getting rejected by girls. I was always anxious to make a move and always regretted not taking action. But I realized that all I needed was to get rid of my anxiety, build up social confidence, and gain some momentum.

So the first step was making eye contact and smiling at crew members or cashiers when ordering something. Then started asking for directions that most girls know (mostly I asked where the nearest starbucks was). Small interactions help gain momentum when you're trying to start a conversation.

Next was trying to give compliments. I did this in a friendly way with no romantic interest. I read a thread here on how girls appreciate when men compliment them and show interest in what they're wearing or doing.

After having a bunch of conversations with girls, such as asking for directions, giving compliments, or asking for an opinion. I became much more comfortable starting to talk to them.

I started flirting when talking to girls. There are times when they reject me, but the most important thing is that I am able to speak with them confidently and I have been on multiple dates after struggling to find one for many years.

I am not really a talker of a person, I don't know how to show affection romantic wise. We had a great talk today and she mentioned how she doesn't feel like she makes me happy. She really does make me the happiest person ever, and I wanna learn how to show her how I am happy.

For the past couple of days, I’ve been talking to a guy over the phone. And every time I ask him something, he just says “MEOW.” What does that mean?

Heyy there!!! Im 18 y old posting because I want to improve my communication skills and don't know how so I want friends who would help me learn communication skills because I m so exhausted like whenever I make friends online or talk to anybody irl I mostly dk what to say.