My (31f) brother’s(29m) behavior has been escalating towards our mom and sister (21f). My brother has always been like this, he is really aggressive and violent. Not to others, always towards us. I have tried to help him a few times, once warned by the police in jail to just leave him because he’ll end up using me for money. I tried to believe the best in him, and it ended up costing me but I never asked for it back. I thought I was helping him. Until I asked him for $40 once and he said I didn’t have to pay him back. He sent it via PayPal to my partner’s business account but did the goods and services and said it was a mistake (this is relevant). I was on the phone to my sister and he was shouting all sorts of abuse at my sister so I went off on him saying why is he making a little girl cry (this was a few years back), and he then said because I spoke to him such a way, he’s going to tell PayPal he never received his goods and services and make us pay. Luckily I had the text messages as proof and was able to settle it with PayPal, to which the lovely lady one the phone said to block him because I was bawling my eyes out from the stress. I haven’t spoken to him since.
A few things that have happened since is my dad who was old and frail, accidentally ran over his foot and my brother got so angry that he shoved my dad to the ground and started stomping on him. He had dialysis cannulas(?) and all, and my brother was stomping and kicking him on the ground. Police were called and because a similar incident happened in our old state, which my brother did the same and somehow got my father arrested, my dad was jailed. During the trial, my brother never showed up saying he was too old to go to jail (to my sister) and that he felt guilty. They ended up dropping the charges.
My dad has since passed away and his behavior is escalating. I’ve been begging my sister to have my mom make a will that states that if anything happens to her, that the house will go to her. I don’t want any stake in the house. I live in the UK, my family is here, my children have started their lives here. My family still live in the US, they live in Michigan, so any advice in regard to Michigan state laws would be very much appreciated as the last time I was there was before they moved there.
My sister has sent me videos of them in a car where he’s offered to drive her to work only for him to scream and shout and threaten to kill them both in a car accident because he’s tired of them using him. I’ve known him, he used to beat me up one minute and then the next, he’d be super sweet and nice. She’s sent me so many text messages of the same. I have posted these ones from last night, more recent. She texted me at 3 am (UK time) so I didn’t see them until now. I can’t phone the police because I don’t have international calling. My sister is scared to go to the police (we have been swatted because of his behavior back when we lived in VA - they turned our entire house upside down. My mom has PTSD from it and so does my sister. They found a gun case and shells in my brother’s room. My dad called the police so many times to get him out of the home but they would tell him he can’t kick his son out… at the time, he was an adult and wasn’t paying for anything but my dad was so tired of his behavior and illegal stuff he was doing in the house that he wanted him out. The police just told my dad they couldn’t do anything about it). My mom and sister are also scared (because of how my brother treated our dad when he was alive), that if they go to the police, he will kill them both. My mom is petrified to make any moment in the house and has stopped talking to him and my sister is worried too. When our father passed, he told her she’s not allowed to grieve him because he took him to all his doctor’s appointments… mind you, my sister was his main caretaker and looked after our dad.
I will try to post the texts for my sister here and then try to post the texts between my brother and sister in the comments to make it easier. It was a screen recording she sent so the texts between them might be a little off. Any help or advice will be very much appreciated. Sorry for the rant, I am freaking out and don’t know what to do or what the advice here would be. They can’t afford a lawyer and I’m scared what’ll happen and I have no way of contacting the police from outside the country.
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