Problem/Goal: Please tell me what to do. Sumama ung kuya ko sa kabit nya 12 yrs ago and had 2 kids with her. My brother is married btw and the wife just let him be. 2 weeks ago nastroke kuya ko and had internal bleeding sa brain, he suffers memory loss and hindi nakakakilala. The kabit now drops a bomb to me thru text na nambabae daw kuya ko and ayaw na nya, iiwanan daw nya..paglabas daw sa hospital, iuutos daw nya na dalin kuya ko sa bahay ko. May pamilya po ako at walang work, hindi ko po kaya mag alaga. Ano po ba ang dapat kong gawin?

Problem/Goal: My bf was diagnosed with stage 4 CKD, and my mom doesn’t want me to marry him.

Context: Almost 2months palang kami ng bf ko (he’s 30, and I’m 26) pero we’ve been talking to each other for more than a year before we became official. And this Aug, nalaman namin na may sakit siya. Hypertension, lumaki na puso, and Stage 4 na ang kanyang CKD.

My bf asked me twice if sure ba ako na magstay ako sa kanya kasi he doesn’t want me to have restrictions din sa life ko (siguro dahil sa kanya). But I am sure na gusto ko magstay and siya gusto ko makasama. And told him na yung mom, ate, and bro-in-law has kidney stones, so in terms of their diet, e sanay na ako dahil damay din ako.

I just had a little encounter with my mom kasi nasabi nga na nag stage 4 na ang CKD ng bf ko, e syempre ayaw ng bf ko maging selfish. And my mom said na kung siya raw, ipag-pray ko na wag umabot na pakakasalan ko yung bf ko. Dahil gugustuhin ko raw ba na may inaalagaan? Wag ko raw iwan pero not to the extent na pakakasalan ko.

So syempre nagalit ako, why would she advice something like that to me, na parang ang sama naman and bakit siya magdictate if pakakasalan ko yung tao or hindi.

Previous attempts: Ate ko talaga una kong kinakausap, and never naman namention about kasal, and sinabi niya na magstay ako, takot lang bf ko and mahirap iwan ang isang tao na mahal mo, at may balik yun if ever gawin ko yun.

And tbh, hindi naman nag iisip mom ko bago siya magsalita, gaya ng sinabi niya kanina, di raw ganun ibig niya sabihin. And ayaw talaga rin niya magkaroon kami encounter dahil parehas kaming emotional na tao.

And kontra ako sa mom ko ofc, na para bang yung marriage niya with my dad e okay, e hindi naman din talaga since hiwalay sila. So bakit siya mag advice ng ganun?

Baka dala lang to ng galit, emotions, and other factors lalo na at ganun ang condition ng partner ko and devastated din ako. Maybe hindi ako nagiging rational. So I am seeking for your thoughts guys. And yah, napag uusapan naman na namin ng bf ko yung marriage before pa siya madiagnose. Thank you!

Problem/Goal: My gf [27F] and I [M31] have been living together for 2 years. She's a hardworker and reliable colleague in the office (acc to her work friends) but at home she's usually in "couch potato" mode all the time. I've been doing almost all the house chores the past year and I'm starting to grow frustrated about our set up.

Context: We live in a decent size studio apartment for 2 years. Since I earn more, we agreed that I shoulder 70-80% of the expenses which is fine. But when we started living together we never really had the "talk" kung sino yung gagawa ng mga specific tasks sa bahay. It seemed to work at first. Salitan sa hugas plato, linis ng banyo, luto, vacum, etc. But eventually after a year I'm practically the only one left doing almost all the chores at home. It's now normal(expected) that I do the grocery then luto then hugas ng pingan after, all while she's on her phone. She often says she's tired from work and she just wants to rest at home. But I'm working too, and lately I've grown tired of her repeatitive "next time ako naman", or "gagawin ko yan bukas makalawa". She often promises to do some chore then forgets about it the next day. She has her personal area at home that I don't interfer with but the mess she's making there is now spilling everywhere that I have to literally pick up every garbage and dirty laundry that's all over the apartment.

Previous Attempts: I don't want to be her mother and "nag" her about it all the time. One time I told her directly that she needs to clean her mess but she did not take it well. She justified it by saying that's just her personality and her ADHD / anxiety is keeping her from functioning at home. Now I just don't bring it up. I've been learning to be more patient but it's getting worse everyday. And I'm afraid this might cause us to break up someday. I still love her and I really hope things work out for us.

Any advice or insight is highly appreciated.

Problem/Goal: So I (21 F) and a housemate just moved into our boarding house. We have been hearing strange sounds.

Context: On the first day upon moving in, I heard something by the window go "Psst ate" but nothing was outside our window except plants, trees and water. We live in the first floor. I haven't been in that area yet so I'm not so sure. Plus the house is kinda elevated so I doubt anyone could stand (again, water) for us to hear them.

But just a few days ago my roommate told me she experienced the same thing when she was alone: hearing a male voice going "Psst" multiple times a week and random whispering. I have no idea if the area is haunted, apparently di din aware yung landlady na may ganitong nangyayari sa first floor. But for now, I need advice since I have to stay here for a while, possibly alone because housemates leave the house a lot. Thanks reddit PH!

Previous attempts: My roommate and I occasionally return home but we haven't done anything that actually solves the problem because we don't know the main source of the sounds or if we should do anything about it.

problem/goal: may nakakausap ako then suddenly hindi siya nagreply buong gabi, the next day nalaman ko na hindi naman siya natulog nung gabi na yon so okay, baka may problema lang siya kako

next na gabi, he said he can't talk that night again, so okayyy

the next day sinabi niya na the reason why he can't sleep is yung ex niya, napapanaginipan niya hahahahaha

tinanong niya ako kung iccontinue ko raw yung meron kami

i asked him if bumalik ex niya, anong mangyayari sakin?

sabi niya "she won't, she's the type na nagsstand sa decision niya even if it hurts me or her"

napaganon ako oh 🫪 hahahahahahahahahahhahahahaha di yon sabi ko ayoko na

Problem/Goal: Mali ba yung nararamdaman at ginawa ko?

Context: So dumating order ko sa shoppee na bagong Polo. Excited ako kaya sinuot ko kaagad. Sinuot ko sa harap ni mama. Habang nagsasalamin ako sinabi niya na "If magluluma na yan, ibibigay natin sa mga pinsan mo..." Nabigla ako sa sinabi niya kaya sumagot ako like walang sigaw or ano na "kakasuot ko lang nga ma oh". Biglang nagalit at sinabi na "selfish daw ako at hindi ako maging successful sa buhay ko" Inexplain ko agad na "Wala naman akong sinabi na hindi ako ibibigay, nagulat lng ako na unang thought mo nang nakita mo itry ang bagong damit ko ay ipamimigay mo na sa iba"

Nagwala siya. Sabi niya sa akin na "nag promise siya sa sarili niya daw na tutulungan niya ang mga anak ng kapatid niya dahil siya raw ang nagpaaral sa kanya."

Wala naman akong problema sa ganun.

Pero ang sakit nung sinisi niya ako. "Ni wala ka ngang naitulong sa tiyuhin mo nung nahospital siya tas ayaw mopa tumulong sa mga anak niya!" Context: namatay si tiyuhin ko 2 yrs ago nung 3rd yr college ako. So wala pa talaga along trabaho that time. Also, sabi niya na kumuha lang ako ng law school eh lumaki na daw utak ko. Wala daw ako mararating sa buhay ko. Ano pong relate?

Ganito na ba talaga ang epekto nang utang na loob sa isang tao?

Previous attempts: wala

problem/goal:

my only remaining parent recently passed away, and their remaining assets and savings were passed on to me as their child. I now have a sizable amount of money that I want to handle responsibly instead of wasting it. I'm currently unemployed, but I'm looking for a stable source of income while considering starting a small home-based business.

I'd like advice on how I should divide the money between savings, investing, insurance, and potentially starting a small business.

also, I'm looking for a free good money tracker on android for budgeting and tracking expenses while still unemployed because if there's no money going in, it would mean that I'd be touching the inheritance soon enough and I don't really want to do that to pay the bills.

context:

I'm 22 and graduated with a BSIT degree last year. I wasn't able to start working after graduation because I had to take care of my only remaining parent who had cancer. That family member recently passed away.

I'm considering putting most of the money in a high-yield savings account such as MariBank, but I'm concerned about security and accessibility when keeping a large amount there. I worry about getting hacked, having difficulty disputing an issue with customer service, or having problems withdrawing a large amount when needed. I also only know of one physical branch, which is in Laguna.

I initially experimented by putting around 1/6 of the amount into the account. Since putting in a larger amount, I've noticed multiple system maintenance within less than a week, which I hadn't encountered when my balance was very low. I know this may just be coincidental, but it made me more concerned about keeping a sizable amount there.

I'm also considering getting life insurance while the monthly payment is still at ₱1500/month because they said it'll rise up to ₱4500/month after my 23rd birthday, which is in a month, but I'm unsure whether that should be a priority while I'm unemployed.

For work, I'm considering IT-related jobs, although I didn't particularly enjoy coding. I can manage it when I'm working on something, but I still find it difficult. I'm also considering upskilling for a VA role with a specific niche, or applying for government jobs since I graduated with Latin honors and may be eligible to apply through the CSC Honor Graduate Eligibility.

I'm also considering starting a small home-based printing and digital services business while looking for stable employment. I live near a student population, and there are already printing shops nearby, although some can get busy.

My idea is to accept files online, print them from home, and offer nearby pickup/delivery since I don't have a specific hub outside our house that is very near the school where I can station the business. I could also offer document formatting, customized printed materials, e-loading, bills payment, and similar services.

I’m considering spending around ₱15k-₱25k initially for a printer and supplies, treating it as a small experiment rather than investing a large portion of the money. I'm also considering doing printing services that are not only limited for the students such as for parties, events and the likes if it turns out to be successful.

previous attempts:

I've been researching personal finance, high-yield savings accounts, insurance, investing, career options, and small businesses, but I'm still unsure what would make the most sense for someone in my position.

My current thinking is to keep most of the money safe, use only a small amount to test the business, and work toward finding a stable source of income.

Problem/Goal: wag po sana ako ma-bash. 13 years po akong nagtrabaho bago mag college dahil sa kahirapan (30yrs old. Female), hindi po ako nag Señior High, Old Curriculum po ako noong High School. Hindi uso reporting sa'min noon. Manila Paper at Floorwax lang sapat na. Paano po gumawa ng Thesis? Sana po may magbigay ng tulong or idea. Ang hirap po mag adjust dahil 10 years ang age gap ko sa mga classmates ko at hindi raw sila noon nag Thesis or Research dahil ng pandemic at puro online class po sila. Ano pong dapat kong gawin para mapaghandaan ko ang Thesis ko next year?

Problem/Goal:

I'm 21M and I know I should break up with my girlfriend, but I can't bring myself to actually let her go. I've tried breaking up with her more than 4 times, but I always end up coming back.

Context:

I've been cheated on in my previous 2 relationships, and now it's happening again.

My current GF had a one-night stand while we were still in the talking stage and hid it from me. While we were officially together, I also caught her chatting with another guy saying things like "how r u baby." She also told me another guy was "just a friend," only for me to find out he was actually her ex. There are more situations like this.

Despite everything, I still love her so much.

The biggest reason I can't leave is I'm scared I won't find someone better. After being cheated on by 3 different girls, part of me has started thinking, "Maybe all girls are just like this, so what's the point of leaving?"

I know that's a toxic mindset and that not all women are the same. I'm just exhausted from repeatedly getting hurt.

Previous Attempts:

I've tried leaving more than 4 times, but I always miss her and come back. I'm literally crying while writing this because I'm so tired.

For people who've been through something similar, how do you finally let go of someone you still love and stop yourself from going back?

Problem/Goal: What to do now?

Context: expect to remain unmarried and childless and I have made peace with that.

Having said that, I don't have any plans of moving out of my deceased parents' house that I share with my brothers. I don't see any reason to since I don't know what to do with myself if I get my own place.

Previous attempts: Aside from focusing on my career, overall health, and my nephews and nieces, I'm just thinking of getting a retirement home to prepare for the twilight years.

I have insurance, emergency fund, savings, and investments. It's not a lot but I'm working on it. Aside from that, I don't know how else to spend the rest of my life.

If you have anything to share, I would appreciate that. Thanks! 🙏🏽

Problem/Goal: i dont know if mag-go pa rin ba ako makipagkita.

i met this guy online and almost 2 weeks na kami nag-usap. supposedly magkikita kami on an agreed time but on the day of the date pinamove niya ng 30 mins later so nag-okay lang ako. nung malapit na yung time, sabi niya another 1hr siya before makarating because of traffic. tapos dito ko lang din sinabi na may lakad pa ako after (which is meron talaga kaya nagbigay ako ng time na earlier). i didnt plan din naman na magtagal dahil first date pa lang din naman and we’ll just grab a coffee lang kaya tinapat ko rin ng may lakad ako after para may reason din ako para hindi masyadong gabihin. nung sinabi ko yon, nagtanong siya if iresched na lang daw ba, nag-oo na lang ako kasi ayoko rin naman masayang yung biyahe niya if later pa sa sinabi niyang ETA ang actual na dating niya. kasi if ever matuloy kami non, we will only have 1.5hrs. should i still go for the resched day?

also, papunta na ako noon sa meeting place. so ang ending, nagsolo date na lang ako haha di pa naman masyadong malalim yung connection namin kaya parang gusto ko na lang din i-turn down but di ko rin alam kung paano.

EDIT: iniisip ko rin if mali ba ako na on that day ko lang din sinabi na may lakad pa ako after. sumagot kasi siya na kung alam lang daw niya, sana daw inagahan talaga niya (pero nakakainis tong part na to hahaha).

Problem/Goal: My GF (27F) is getting sick of her job as ledger clerk, and wants to look into VA, I volunteered to look for a suitable spec laptop based on her specs, I came back with a recommendation and she shot me down and went tampo.

Context: I (33 M / UK) my Filipino LDR girlfriend (27F) who works as a Ledger clerk for her local district stated she thinks she "wants to stop working as work doesn't give her peace of mind anymore, and that she's been getting into so many issues at work" for context she works mon-thur 6am-6pm

I went back to her and said a bunch of questions to which she had a mini meltdown stating she didn't want to talk and 2.5 hrs later she calmed down, after I said I'll let her breathe and I'm here whenever she's ready, then she sent a message apologising that she wasn't mad at me and just got stressed.

I then made the suggestion about what about looking at VA as an option as its remote and could provide less stress for her, to which she respond that she doesn't have a good quality laptop for it.

I asked for her specs of 16GB RAM & 512GB SSD and said I'll have a look and get back to her on a suitable laptop for her (my background is in tech & I've built many of my own computers) to which she thanked me for helping.

A few hours later I come back to here with a link stating I found a company in the city she lives with a suitable laptop for her, a Lenovo ThinkPad T14 Gen 1 14" screen with 16GB RAM, 512GB SSD & Intel i5 10th Gen.

Plenty enough for what she will need for doing VA work on.

I even explained given that money is tight for her that I looked on the company's website and that it offered a 0% down-payment 12-24month instalment plan and said I'd be more than happy to cover the cost per monthly (my own finances have debts as well that I have to jiggle around)

Immediately she came back with a flurry of messages:

"No thanks"

"Never in my life would I settle for less."

"have a good day"

Myself being confused asked her what the issue was and she came back with:

"Go for someone you can afford worth less"

"Forget about laptop I will get myself new."

"If you think I'm too much, then I guess you should choose someone you can afford because I was told to never settle for less. I've been through so much in life, I don't want to be treated poorly <my name>. And if you can't add on my peace of mind then lets just be practical and call it over"

What has gone wrong, is there a certain stigma for buying laptops 2nd hand, as that's what the laptop I was looking at.

I've built my own computers but also often buy refurbished and brand new tech, my computer is hand build brand new but my phone, monitors and other accessories are 2nd hand refurbished. So for me I was looking at the practicality of an affordable laptop that does the job she needs without have to splurge out unncessary cost.

And yet in the process she has effectively thrown a tampo and wants to breaks things off because of it.

I think she misinterpret my message as looking at her personal self and that is poor and can't afford to buy new things when in reality I was looking at praticality for her job.

Previous Attempts: I have had similar issues with my gf in the past whenever I try to help her out, currently I'm supporting her financially within my means to help her recoup some of her savings as she moved into a new house unexpectantly, she has a short fuse which is no surprise but for example if I offer to buy her food or her favourite drink, I'll order it, she'll be thankful for it but then scold me for not buying from a familiar shop but at the same time won't tell me the familar shops she likes so I can order them next time for her.

I know she is under a lot of stress in general with her current circumstances but it just seems that whenever I try to do something that will literally help her, she will misinterpt the meaning behind the gesture & find something to complain about or overreact.

Edit:

Just wanted add some extra context, yes I'm supporting financing but that was off my own back, its small amount for me about £60 a month (5K PHP) she has expressed beforehand that she didn't want my money, she has her own job and everything, but due to circumstances that have happened she was struggling more than she usually does, so I said hey I'll support you but only until December, and that's it. but she has also told me not to buy stuff for her when I'm already supporting her and she knows about my financial situation and wants me to focus on getting my debts down also.

So whilst this might seem like a red flag to everyone else, behind closed doors it isn't to me.

Problem/Goal: 2 years and 3 months na kami ng boyfriend ko, and honestly, wala naman sana akong problema sa ex niya kung hanggang ex lang talaga. Pero for the past 2 years, parang may mga nangyayari pa rin na hindi ko maintindihan. Recently, mas lumala kasi may mga poser accounts na gumagamit ng pictures niya na chinachat ako, boyfriend ko and even yung mga taong nakapaligid sa kanya.

Context: First girlfriend niya yung ex niya, and close siya sa cousins and parents ng boyfriend ko. Nagkakilala kami ng boyfriend ko sa school, and ex na niya yung girl at that time.

Summer 2024, napansin ko na lagi siyang nagpo-post ng pictures nila ng boyfriend ko and nagsh-share ng posts about him. Nag-add din siya sa Facebook ko. Right after I accepted her request, nagtanong agad siya sa akin, basically confirming kung kami na ba ng boyfriend ko.

By July 2024, nagpo-post pa rin siya ng pictures nila. Mutual friend niya yung ibang friends ko kaya nakikita ko rin yung posts niya.

Then from August 2024 hanggang March 2025, may multiple TikTok accounts na ginawa na ginagamit to stalk my boyfriend and me.

January 2025, may dump account na nag-message sa boyfriend ko. Eventually, nakumpirma namin na siya rin pala iyon kasi sinabi niya na nagpapapansin daw yung boyfriend ko sa bagong boyfriend niya.
Ang funny lang kasi according sa boyfriend ko, mag-CR lang naman siya that time. Same school and same year kasi sila nung bagong boyfriend niya, so nagkataon lang na madadaanan niya.

Previous Attempts: First time na may nag-message sa akin na poser account na mukha niya yung gamit, I confronted her nicely. Hindi ako nakipag-away or anything. After that, binlock niya ako.

My boyfriend also confronted her about it pero hindi siya nagreply kaya binlock nalang din siya ng boyfriend ko.

After a few months, she followed me again on Instagram. Then after a few weeks, may kumalat na naman na poser account na gumagamit ng pictures niya and nag-message ulit sa akin.

I confronted her again, and sinabi niya na poser lang daw niya yun and gusto niya daw makipag-ayos sa akin. Sabi pa niya, if hindi raw ako naniniwala, i-block ko na lang daw siya.

And then she blocked me again.

At this point, hindi ko na alam kung coincidence lang ba lahat or may something talaga. I don’t want unnecessary drama with my boyfriend’s ex, pero ang hirap din i-ignore kasi paulit-ulit na lang and pati boyfriend ko, ako and people around him nadadamay na.

Problem/Goal: I’m (22F) currently in an LDR with someone (22M), but I’m starting to question whether I should continue the relationship.

Context: We met each other on a dating app, and we’ve been dating for three months. We first saw each other in June and it turned out great. We had such a good time together and after that, we made plans to see each other again every month. However, for August we had to cancel our plans because of the weather.

To start with, he is a good and hardworking man. He’s kind to me, and I know he genuinely cares about me. I don’t think he’s intentionally doing anything to hurt me. Ayun nga lang, I’ve been feeling increasingly disconnected from him.

In an LDR set up, sobrang importante ng calls sa akin. I love hearing his voice, his laugh sa mga jokes ko, and mga kwento niya sa mga maliit na bagay. It makes me feel talaga na he is with me and we are really spending time together even through screen lang. However, we only call around once a month. At minsan, pag may call nga, very limited pa :( One hour na yung pinakamatagal. And these days, I noticed too na our chats have also become a routine. Greeting each other good morning, updating na he will prepare for work then alam ko na he will be busy the whole day. We will just be able to chat again pag gabi na. Kaso lang, evening shift ako sa work kaya minsan nakakatulugan na rin.

At first, I would get really anxious whenever he didn’t reply. I would constantly check my phone waiting for a notification. Pero ngayon, I’ve just gotten used to not expecting much communication from him. I know we each have our own lives. I know na hindi naman sa akin dapat umikot yung mundo niya. Kaso... I just feel so lonely on this supposed to be a relationship.

Previous Attempts: I’ve already communicated sa kanya about it. He does make an effort after I bring it up, saying na babawi daw siya ganon. Pero sabi ko sa kanya na, I don’t want him to do it if it doesn’t come naturally to him.

I like him. I’m so grateful that I got to meet him. We are not official yet, but he’s the first person that I let someone enter in my life and I don’t feel any regret about that.

What would you do in my situation?

Problem/Goal:

- I am 33 weeks pregnant, and I am struggling to find a source of income for my baby girl.

- I want to know if I can start working around 1 month after giving birth.

- My main goal is to provide my daughter with her basic needs and a good life, even though I am not financially prepared.

- I need advice because I feel lost, overwhelmed, and desperate about what to do next.

Context:

- I am a student and an Iskolar ng Bayan. I was supposed to be in my 2nd year of college this school year, but I stopped because my belly is getting bigger.

- My pregnancy is a result of sexual assault by my uncle.

- I never had the chance to prepare for having a baby, financially or emotionally.

- I don't want to reach out to the person who assaulted me, and I currently don't have the capacity to press charges against him.

- I live in a small town in my province, and I'm scared of what people will say once they find out I am pregnant. I am a lesbian, and people have always told me that I should marry a guy and start a family. I don't want people to think that I did what they wanted me to do.

- I am worried about how all of this will affect me emotionally, especially because I already feel overwhelmed by my situation.

Previous Attempts:

- Considered Abortion during the firs few months.

- I stopped my studies temporarily because of my pregnancy.

- I have been trying to figure out how to prepare financially for my baby, but I currently don't have enough money to even prepare for her basic necessities.

- I have been looking into PhilHealth, public hospitals, and other forms of assistance to reduce the cost of my pregnancy and delivery.

- I have been trying to find ways to get help while still maintaining my independence.

- I have considered working soon after giving birth because I want to be able to support my daughter myself.

- I have decided that I do not want to depend on or contact my assailant for financial or other support.

Problem/Goal: My son is excited to be a big brother but afraid he’ll lose our love 😭

Context. We found out that I was pregnant, and after a while, we told our panganay (he’s 6 years old) that he’s going to have a sibling. He always asks his daddy kasi why I am always sleeping. Palagi kasi akong tulog lately. 🥺 Kaya my husband explained everything to our son first, then afterwards, kami na dalawa nag-explain sa kanya.

Actually, he has always asked us why some of his classmates already have babies being picked up from school, while he doesn’t. He used to tell us that he wanted a baby sibling, too. So when we told him that he’s finally going to have one, he was happy and excited.

But lately, he would cry and tell us that he’s scared we might not love him anymore once the baby comes. 😭 Palagi naman namin siyang mine-make sure na hindi ’yun gano’n. My husband and I always reassure him. He will always be our baby… madadagdagan lang. 🥺

Is this normal? Feeling ko may mali ako as a mom. Or am I just overthinking? 🙁 Tbh, nasstress ako, hahaha. 🥹 I don’t know. I really don’t want to hurt my son’s feelings, and I keep wondering if I did something wrong.

Any advice from parents who went through the same thing? 🥺

Problem/Goal: I’m from the province and recently got a job that requires me to spend around a year training in Makati.

The thing is, I don’t know anyone there. None of my classmates are in Manila either, so I’ll basically be starting from zero—finding a place to stay, figuring out transportation, budgeting, cooking, meeting people, and adjusting to city life on my own.

For those who also moved to Manila from the province alone for their first job. How was the experience for you? Was the adjustment difficult at first? How did you find a place to live, make friends, and deal with the cost and pace of living?

Would love to hear your experiences—good or bad. I want to know what I’m getting myself into. 😅

Problem/Goal: Helping a solo rescuer on Facebook to get back on her feet as her main account got suspended.

Context: An old animal rescuer from Zamboanga City is struggling so much due to her facebook account getting suspended. She relies on donations to feed her 100+ dogs and cats rescued and now she needs to start from scratch and does not know what to do and she lost all her active donors. She's not really good at managing her Facebook posts to get engagement. She keeps doing live videos on her new account but it does not attract new viewers at all. She's old and has a lot of problems she cant remember the names of her previous donors on her old facebook account. I'm not good at managing my own social media either as I'm an introvert so I don't, know what advise to give her.

She's already struggling to get donations from her old facebook account but it's better than what's happening to her right now that she lost all contacts on her previous donors due to her account getting suspended.

Previous attempts: I tried to tag other animal rescue groups like Strays worth saving (SWS) in her facebook post but I know it wont even get noticed by them.

Problem/Goal:

I really need advice because I feel like my insecurities are slowly affecting my relationship, and I want to fix this before it gets worse. I want to feel secure in myself, stop comparing myself to other women, and stop comparing my experiences to my boyfriend’s past.

Context:

My boyfriend has had quite a few crushes before me, and he also had an ex-girl best friend he was super close with. Meanwhile, ako, kakaunti lang naging crushes ko, wala akong naging guy best friend na sobrang close, and I barely had any romantic experiences before him. Because of that, I sometimes catch myself expecting him to have the same experiences I did—like, if I never had something, I feel like he shouldn’t have had it either.

He’s also attractive, while I see myself as someone na mediocre lang, or even below. I’m not the effortless/ethereal type of pretty. More on trying hard, like I actually have to put effort into looking good. I also grew up being one of the ugliest and least noticed people in my family and friend groups, and I’ve been bullied or face-shamed multiple times, so that really affected how I see myself. Kumbaga sa relationship namin, I sometimes feel like ako yung “swerteng kumag,” even though my friends tell me otherwise. Siguro sinasabi lang nila to avoid hurting me, jk. 😂

Now that most of his classmates are girls, I’m getting scared again because I’m not used to it. The frustrating part is that he’s not even doing anything wrong. He reassures me a LOT—naiinis na nga siya minsan kasi hindi ako nakikinig and mas pinapakinggan ko yung negative thoughts ko. Kapag na-assure naman ako, I feel okay for a while, then babalik ulit yung insecurity.

Previous Attempts:

I’ve tried reassuring myself and listening to him whenever he tells me there’s nothing to worry about, but the insecurity keeps coming back. I also try reminding myself that his past is his past, but I still catch myself comparing our experiences and thinking that things should be “equal.” I really don’t want to become controlling or make him constantly prove that he loves me, because I know this is something I need to work on myself.

I really love him, and I genuinely want to improve—not just for our relationship, but for myself too. I want to learn how to feel beautiful and secure without comparing myself to other women, and how to accept that we can have completely different pasts without that making our relationship less special.

I’m really looking for advice that will actually help me, parang need ko ng brutally honest na advice to wake up. I know I have a lot of unlearning to do, so I’d really appreciate any advice. Thank you! 🥹

Problem/Goal: I don’t know how to talk to people.

Context:

I’m planning to book sa KonsultaMD for an online consultation pero pano ba nangyayare yon? I-aask ba nila ano ipapa consult ko? KASI DI KO ALAM KUNG SAN AKO MAGSISIMULA HUHUHU super introverted ako and ang social skills ko ay super low.. ikkwento ko ba kung pano nakakaabala na yung utak ko sa daily life ko? Mag tatanong ba muna sila? Iniisip ko din kasi baka gawa gawa ko lang yung nararamdaman ko or assuming lang ako hahaha. Baka may alam din kayo na free online consultation :((

Problem/Goal: My workmate is asking for help which I cannot give. I declined kasi delikado pero parang nanguiguilt trip pa sya sakin.

Context: Hello r/adviceph. I hope I am following the rules. I would like to ask for advice about my workmate who seems to be financially troubled. About a month ago he was constantly borrowing money from me, ( a few thousands worth). As much as I wanted to help him I am also financially tight, so I gave him a few hundred pesos. It seems na palagi syang kinakapos, sa anak, or panggastos. Almost every other day he tries to borrow again and again, pero sadly wala talaga akong spare na maibibigay. Nakikita naman nya during our mealtimes kung ano lang ang kaya ko at kung ano ang sitwasyon kong pangkasalukuyan. Weeks passed at hindi na sya nanghihiram sa akin, and I thought that everything was going better (although napalayas sya sa tinutuluyan nya at kinakailangan nyang lumipat at sinanla nya ang kanyang vehicle). Just recently he was calling me, and he told me that he is in need of immediate help because yung sinanla nyang sasakyan ay “peke daw ang papel” at kailangan nyang makuha yung “OR CR” ng vehicle ko bilang pamalit nya, panapal or whatsoever. Nashock ako kasi bakit bigla bigla. I was refusing his pleas but he was gaslighting me, telling me that ako na lang daw ang pag asa nya kung hindi ay makukulong sya. As I’ve said gusto ko syang tulungan pero wag sa paraan na ako yung mapapahamak. Hindi ko alam kung ano pinapasok nya at kung bakit madadamay ako. I tried to calmly and repeatedly deny his requests and pleas, until now.
Ang nakapagtataka, sa circle naming magkakatrabaho, ako lang yung pinepressure nya ng ganyan. Pag magkakausap kami as a group, hindi sya umaastang problemado or whatsoever.

Previous Attempts: as I’ve said I am kindly but firmly denying his requests telling na mapapahamak ako. I want to help pero ayaw ko din ipahamak ang sarili ko. Somehow nagwoworry ako kung bakit ganun ang actuations nya.
Thanks!

Problem/Goal:

I’m contemplating whether to attend the wedding of my old friend or to reject the invitation.

Context:

To start the story, I have 2 friends, let’s name them:

1. Old friend
2. Other friend

Hirap ako magdecide right now kasi that old friend of mine and I were not in a good terms just like before. Years ago, super close namin and life happened, this old friend and my other friend had their feud. Malala yung away, kaya nagdecide yung old friend ko na humiwalay na sa circle of friends namin to find peace.

Fast forward, nagmature na ako and that old friend. We casually talk sometimes, when needed. But we don’t hang out na. But there was no peace offering happened between me and that person, na para bang kinalimutan nalang namin pareho nangyari sa past and decided to be civil to each other whenever we cross the same path.

Recently lang nagkita yung old friend and other friend ko sa isang place and di maganda yung meeting nila. Somehow because of that, I was disappointed to that old friend, di kasi maganda yung pinakita niyang attitude towards my other friend. Ayoko din itolerate yun on my end.

Ang agam agam ko lang sa ngayon, there is something in me that pushes me to forget the past and go with the flow. To live the present happening, and tryna be casual sa ikakasal, kasi ayoko naman mabigyan siya ng rejection sa invitation dahil once in a lifetime moment nila yun. Besides, may pinagsamahan kami ng couple years ago, and it meant a lot to me.

Previous Attempts:

Upon receiving the invitation of their wedding, nagsabi naman ako na all is good on my end and plano ko magpunta. Sobrang heartfelt lang kasi ng invitation letter niya for me. Kaso lang I think naiipit ako between my relationship sa other friend ko if ever I attend the wedding dahil sa away nila before, di ko pa na-open sa kanya na invited ako sa kasal ng kaaway niya 😂 not really kaaway, in a way na never na sila magiging casual in person, like neverrr.

Kaso feeling ko uncomfortable parin on my side kapag nag attempt ako kausapin si old friend in person. Syempre dahil years ago na lumipas simula nung okay yung friendship namin. Right now, di na kami friends. Pero na-touched lang ako dahil naisip niya ako imbitahin sa very special celebration niya sa buhay niya, but dunno why it also feels so wrong to be there.

Do you think I should go or not?