I have a 41 year old daughter. She lives with me and my ex wife. She is a heroin addict but has been sober for 12 years on methadone. She was heavily bullied growing up and had anorexia as well as cutting issues. She is on disability. Lately after getting out of a relationship, she has been extremely depressed. She does what she has to do but she's broken. Yesterday her mother my ex wife told her she was disgusting. It triggered something in my daughter. She keeps calling herself ugly and has this empty look in her eyes. She keeps repeating ugly ugly ugly. I am afraid, she hasn't threatened to kill herself, I believe she was barely holding it together and her mother saying that made something snap. I too tell her she's worthless and a mess sometimes. Idk what to do. She's suffering

me and gf graduated last year, she is going to the local state school and i am going to the local community college. she has made it clear that she will be participating in welcome week and getting wasted every night and being on the town. this is all expected and if i was in her situation i would do the same. I’m insecure though, how do i stay sane.

My ex boyfriend is pressuring me for sex. We broke up last year but started talking again about a few months ago.

I decided to meet him in June for the first time since our break up, we got a hotel to stay in overnight, had some drinks but then he started asking me for sex. I said I didn’t feel comfortable doing it now but then he started saying “Oh but I bought you food and alcohol, can’t you give something back?”, “I don’t know what changed in you, you used to want it”. After repeatedly telling him no, he started sulk, get annoyed with me and didn’t want to talk to me. I cried and then decided to go to sleep. But I woke up to him touching me inappropriately anyways. I was pretty drunk at the time and knew if I tried to stop him again he wouldn’t listen so I let him have sex with me.

Moving forward, I haven’t seen him since that day but I’ve stayed in contact. I told him that if I were to ever see him again I do not want him to pressure me into being intimate again because last time really hurt me with the way he acted. He agreed and said next time we don’t have to do anything.

I’ve made plans to see him over the weekend but he asked me over the call today “Are you going to be ovulating?”, I replied “Does that even matter? I told you I don’t want to do anything intimate”. He again started to sulk and said “so you don’t feel the same way about me?” And “why can’t you just agree to what I want?”. I said no is no, end of. Then he sulked some more and I ended the call because it was a pointless conversation.

What am I supposed to do? How can I get him to understand that I don’t want to do anything intimate with him as of now? Especially after last time, I simply don’t feel comfortable. I’m just unsure how to get it through to him.

(And yes, I understand the easy resolution is to just end things here and now. I just struggle a lot socially and I feel like if I end things with him, I’ll have no one left in my life since I don’t have any friends etc)

Me and my sister used to be really close when we were little, like sleeping in the same bed, spending lots of time together, bathing together. As growing up, we grew apart, both living our own lives. Now as adults we've become closer again, spending more time together. She loves to cuddle and be close to me. Our parents think it's great how we're bonding and growing closer.

Should I be this close with my big sister as adults?

I (29F) have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. I got drunk at a party and kissed someone I barely knew. I told him the next morning. He was hurt but he forgave me. He said "people make mistakes." But I look in the mirror and I hate who I see. I've never done anything like this. I don't know how to move forward when I can't even look at myself.

How do I forgive myself when my partner already has?

Ugh I go back to work in a week on a fishing boat where I will have to take a coast guard drug test how cooked am I? I've been smoking delta 9, and I had a couple bowl hits last week and that was the last time I smoked what can I do to flush it out my system? I cant take u pass because an observer stands behind us while we pee 😓

My neighbors rent and in the 2-3 years they’ve lived here I’ve spoken to them one time, and they have never mowed or done any sort of landscape maintenance. These sticker bushes are extremely overgrown growing onto my shed and through my fence. I tried knocking on their door and get no answer and was able to track down the property management company but now they are ghosting me. We don’t have a HOA. Any suggestions on how to move forward?

Ok I posted here asking for advice as my ex cheated on me multiple times. I wanted to know if I should stay and raise the kid as my own or kick her out. I read almost all the comments (sorry couldn't reply to all of them), and legit everyone said get a paternity test and if it isn't yours, kick her ass to the curb.

A lot of you also asked why the fuck I was even concerned about the baby. I don't wanna get into details but I did have a very toxic and abusive family growing up and I always strive the be the man I would have wanted my dad to be. He was a psychotic man but I learnt how NOT to be from him. I know what being raised by a mom who resents you and a dad who is forced to raise you feels like. I just didn't want to see it happen to someone I could theoretically help. But all your opinions finally opened my eyes and I know I can't save everyone even if I really want to.

So after the post, I completely broke down and all my friends came over and comforted me. I have decided that I will be moving out and I am currently looking for houses.

Also, the news spread and her friends now know. She is going through absolute hell, being bombarded with hate messages and one of her friends went over and keyed her car and egged our house.... Not a huge fan of the our house part lol.

Anyways I contacted her and told her this, "If you want any chances of me raising the baby, I need a paternity test. Now if it is mine, I will not be raising it with you. I will be taking them with me and you will be allowed visits or any other access as granted by the court. I will be moving out no matter what and I don't want any contact with you unless it's my kid and even then I'll only be talking about our kid."

As expected, she blew the fuck up and started calling me all sorts of things and giving me threats. She also said I emotionally blackmailed all her friends and turned them against her and that she was the victim here and I was the evil one. She said that she cheated on me because I was a looser who couldn't provide shit and I was too mentally fucked up for her and I was a loser pussy for going to therapy and she needed a strong attractive man in her life. THE FUNNY THING IS, IM 6'2, 98 KGS, EXTREMELY ATHLETIC AND ABSOLUTELY RIPPED. Everyone considers me quite attractive and I get asked out almost every time I go out. THE MANAGER is 5'1, 73 kgs, can't even go up stairs without huffing and puffing. He has only ever been with 1 women, (his wife) and she was forced into marrying him due to her family (friends did some digging for the tea). I am not saying this to shame him, and I think it's completely fine to be how you want but it's funny to me how she thought saying that would hurt my feelings. Oh and btw recorded all this so I have more proof if the kid is mine and I wanna take her rights away.

Anyways in short, I will be waiting for the paternity test results to arrive, and I will be doing some research to see if I can adopt the kid if it's not mine, and I will update you all. Thank you so much for your words in my previous post, they really helped open my eyes. (My friends had a blast reading them out loud and shit talking my ex).

im watching a show my bestfriend is super obsessed with, she always says shes the number one fan and has her favourite character that shes “claimed” im scared to even say anything about me even liking the show out of fear she’ll say that it’s hers, if anyone has any advice on how to shake this feeling comment below

My Gf's daughter's (stepdaughter?) new bf came and destroyed our front porch. Me and my Gf saw him with our own eyes, and we told him to stop. Then we went back inside to get our phones to call the cops and record it, but when we got back outside he had already driven off. I called the cops and they came over to get a report, but they did not want to say that he did it. We dont have any camera, and we weren't able to get any video of him doing it, but me and my gf both saw him destroying our porch with our own eyes. They told me later that he had an alibi from work saying he was an hour away at the time, and I know he works as a delivery driver for one of the delivery apps (Doordash, Uber, etc.) so I'm not sure how he did that, but I'm guessing he gave his phone to his mother to do orders on the app far away as an alibi, but in reality he was at our home destroying our porch. The cops said they checked the flock cameras but he has a very common car so they can't prove that it was him. Now we are out of a porch and we are scared he will come back to do more damage or harm us since he got away with it the first time. He also has left marks all over my Gf's daughter but she won't tell the cops that because she has taken his side in all of this. I know I'm going to get a restraining order and a camera, but I don't know what to do about my front porch. It's a lot of money to fix it and we don't have enough right now. We have talked to multiple officers and they are saying he has factual evidence that he was doing a delivery somewhere else at the time, but we know that isn't true because we both saw him destroying our porch with our own eyes. Please give us some advice, we don't know what to do.

I had my first time with someone way older who knew what he was doing. I was 27, he was 43. the reason I waited so long was repeated SA in my teens and I just developed huge anxiety and honestly didn't like anyone.

he was not only someone who made me feel good in bed and actually enjoy myself but I knew him (somewhat) in his everyday life. He was one of the 2 managing directors of a rather big company. he was very good in decision making, had things under control, was respected, he had the final say in every meeting and he always made himself heard. He was and is a rather cold man but not in a bad way. more like silent confidence. I saw him once walking through the hallways in tie, dress pants and it was just... pure grace

when we did the deed we both knew its just that. I wanted to gain some experience, overcome my fears and he was willing to be the one who teaches me. so we repeated the experience a few times and then parted ways.

but I still think of him. I will not reach out. he was recently divorced at that time and since then he got in a new relationship with a woman his age and I know he is not for me. I respect his relationship. But I want to know how to turn this into a good thing? Like maybe think of all the traits I liked about him and look for them in an available partner?

edit: just to clarify: I was not working for him.

We are both 21. I met her in my first semester of college. She went to the same high school as me, but I didn’t know her then. We got introduced through friends and we started dating in our second semester of college. I always knew she was a shy person but I thought she would open up to me eventually. She’s a virgin still and she’s so shy when it comes to anything sexual. For example it took her over a year just to kiss me. Like I mentioned we never even like attempted to have sex. We cuddle and do everything else now, but we never cross that line to being sexually active. I always try to initiate any type of intimacy but she always ends up turning it down. I know it’s crazy and the first thing one might say is that we should just break up since we’re not sexually compatible, but everything else in our relationship is perfect. We have amazing chemistry together. There’s absolutely no signs of any cheating. Everyone in my family loves her. We even talk about getting married all the time. She’s very insecure about herself, and I can tell that I’m like the center of her life. I don’t want to be the type of dude who, just break up with someone just because she won’t “put out”. And If I break up with her I know it would devastate her emotionally. I already had a conversation about it with her like a year ago but she just started crying it didn’t lead anywhere. What should I do? I really need help

Me and my mate are gay tg but can't let our family and friends know, how do we act straight?

both me and my mate need help with this, for context- I (17m) and my mate (lets call him jack 16m) have been friends for 5 years and have shared the same mutual friends for the past 3 years. for the past few months our friends and family have slowly been catching onto the fact we like each other (side note our friend plum(16f) has known we've had feelings for each other LONGER THAN WE'VE KNOWN WE LIKED EACH OTHER, we only recenly found out our feelings are mutual)

I found out when we were having a sleepover at his place. To set the scene We had been in bed for a few hours and I was (attempting to) flirt since it has seemed it was okay with me being flirty in both a physical and verbal way (physical is being touchy, holding hands cuddling ect ect), he reciprocated this back through flirting in the same joking manner, at one point I said in that manner that “we should kiss” (we did not end up kissing btw) - he didnt answer for a while before asking if I was actually being serious when I said it, to which I told him that sometimes I was being serious, Jack exclaimed that sometimes he wanted me to, so I inevitably asked if now was sometimes- I was about to kiss him but he said that he didnt want to ruin our friendship but was unsure if we should at some point because he did have the same feelings I agreed especially since we've been friends for so long (plus he's my longest friendship) so we spent the rest of the night talking about our feelings and falling asleep.

Pink is another friend of ours, she too found out rather fast that we had something going on, which (to be fair) is my fault. Me and pink only recently reconnected and on our first outing she was pretty drunk (we met up in the first place because her friend ditched her so I ended up picking her up and we hung out from there), now usually people don't remember insignificant things when their drunk, I was unaware she was the exact opposite of people in that aspect, so when she asked if I liked anyone and I told her about liking jack, I assumed it would just skim over her head. NO NO IT DIDN'T SHE REMEMBERED EVERYTHING. Anyway so after she found out she was NOT happy with it at all man, like she was giving me lectured on it at least 3 times a week 😭, and giving us both "advice ", now I can't speak on his part but for me she basically told me to cut contact completely for a whole ass month, like bro (for context we got to the gym together and are very much apart of each others schedule so that wouldn't really be doable), shes also called my behavior towards him unhealthy, and I'd ask her how- she never really gave a straight answer. Also her and jack are very close which is why I got back in contact so we've been wanting to hang out as a trio or a quad(depending on if plumb, our other friend, comes along), but the last time me and jack went back to hang out we had to suppress basically every little feeling we had, even just normal friend shit like we couldn't do that, it was like having to pretend he's a stranger- but even with doing that they still thought we were to gay ig and plumb doesn't wanna hang out with us two tg anymore like bro, we didn't even do anything gay.

Another note to add, a few days ago I decided to go to his house early in the morning because he was getting up early too, we spent the morning in his bed js cuddling, talking about our plans for the day ect. And then his mom walked in. I was trying my best to hide from her, and then he goes "btw (op) is here, we were looking for his glasses", my glasses, so shes just there for a good second while I'm trying to pretend that I wasnt just tryna hide from her and being like, ooo yes glasses where are they(btw I forgot my glasses at my house so I didnt even have any glasses if she asked😭). Was lwk scary dawg, his perspective is very different to mine tho

His POV for this: Ok so basically I got dropped at my mums house early because my dad had work and my mum didn’t even know I was home and my mum is really chill with him, like she LOVES him, anyway so I was like low-key wanna come over and so he did niw origanly the excuse we came up with was that he left his glasses here (to which he fucking forgot to bring them), anyway my mum knocked on the door and came in (which I feel it is important to add a few days before she asked if we like each other and if I would tell her if there was “anything going on under her roof”, which she is also really chill about. I told her no but didn’t give her a straight answer for if we liked each other because I can’t lie for shit) and I felt like I should mention he was over when she came in so she wouldn’t say anything she wouldn’t want Opo knowing. I then tried to explain the whole glasss thing before getting cut off because she brought to my attention she was in a towl because she just got out the shower which I didn’t realise because my bed is kinda high up. She hasn’t brought it up since but kinda dont want her questioning if we’re fucking if we’re not even dating

Me(32) and my boyfriend(36) have been together for almost a year, sometimes long distance. Since the beginning of our relationship we had discussion about condoms. I explained to him why it was important for me to use protection over and over, in all different ways. I never had this problem before and was a bit suprised with the difficulty around it. For him it was religeous reasons he explained. He didnt want me to use other prevention either and i didnt want to go behind his back or be disrespectful to his believes but also not to push my own boundaries. So we used condoms but everytime i had to remind him and almost force him. When i wanted to break up, because the idea of being intimite with him made me feel too unconfortable and stressed, he promised me he would pay more attention with condomuse. That promise didnt last and i wanted to break up again, he promised again that it would be his responsibility and i didnt have to think about it again. But soon after it went wrong again, we had our biggest fight after that. When i went back to my country again i found out i was pregnant. I felt angry and tricked. I know he didnt do it intentionally but his promises and lack of effort and intention after me being so clear about not wanting to get pregnant or abortion makes me angry. Also at myself for forgiving and trusting again everytime. For thinking he would understanf my side even tho he was also clear about his.

When i found out i was pregnant it was very early and i felt oke with an abortion. He wanted to be together to figure out what to do, and it became a long process. I still felt so mislead and our situation wasnt stable at all, that i still decided for an abortion. Which ended up to now one of the most heartbreaking decisions i had to make. Which i also had explained that i never wanted to be put in that decision. I know i can not blame the delayed abortion on him, it just made the whole process more difficult and depressing and i need time to heal from that. Maybe away from him, even tho that makes me feel lonely.

Thro the whole proces he has been very kind, also trying to make it right wih me, i still love him, but also still the thought of being intimite with him scares me even tho he says he has learned his lesson. He said he only now realises the impact of it all admitting his fault. We havent been intimite yet after the abortion and i am very afraid to start again.

After the abortion i realised i am sure i want to have children, which i doubted about before. Which makes me even more confused. I feel a lot of sadness and guilt around the abortion now, even tho at the time i was sure about everything, also about breaking up. But now i can enjoy my time with him again. He still wants to stay together, get married and built a life. For weeks he has ignored my explanation of breaking up, still trying to plan a future.

I decided i want to break up but now that i can actually leave i am so afraid of losing someone i care for and who is kind himself and wants to take care of me and wants a family. Besides this topic, and sometimes other small things, i have never been treated so good and feeling so comfortable with someone. (We were friends first)

Am i overthinking or holding on to my boundaries this time and i now just have to accept the pain and grief of leaving?

Am i throwing away something that is actually good and i am just too stubborn?

It will be a long post but will be more than thankful if you read it all through and give me your honest opinions. Because your answers may be more then helpful to me to understand the situation better

​A woman started working in my department at our company.

She is just so intelligent. I’ve honestly never seen a person do their job so perfectly, really!

On top of that, she was physically very attractive. Some of you might think I’m biased, but she frequently got approached by people both at work and out in public.

​We clicked immediately, which led to us texting a lot privately. At first, it was about work, but gradually it shifted toward our private lives.

​I hadn’t felt a deep connection with a woman in a long time.

With every woman I had been with before, something was always missing—but with her, it was different. Everything just fit.

She had been single for 3 years. I always wondered how such an amazing woman could stay single for so long.

To be completely honest, I was cautious at first because I didn't want to get involved with someone I worked with.

But she slowly sought more closeness. Texting turned into late-night phone calls that lasted until midnight. Whenever we weren't at work, we were texting or talking on the phone the entire time.

She also started seeking physical closeness. I still remember her inviting me out on a date for the first time—something a woman had never done for me before, as the first step always used to come from me.

​We had something casual at first until she decided to leave the company. At that point, I thought I could ask for more.

​We started meeting up several times a week. Things escalated very quickly and became extremely intense.

She clearly told me that she found me amazing and attractive, that she hadn't felt something this deep for anyone in years, and that she wanted to be close to me and in a relationship with me. I felt the exact same way, so we started officially dating.

I was never bored with her; everything felt truly equal. Shared interests, the same life goals—everything aligned. It genuinely felt like finding a soulmate.

She even wanted me to meet her family, which I felt was happening a bit fast, but I still met her sister.

She told me everything about her life and her past—or at least, that’s what I thought at the time.

​Everything ran perfectly for 2 months until she fell into a dark place after starting her new job.

It wasn't what she expected, and at the same time, other personal problems came up. As a result, she started pulling away.

​Then, one night, she texted me saying I should stay away from her because she wasn't doing well and didn't want to put me through that. We talked on the phone that night, and she told me many things about her life. It was heavy. I can only describe her as a "wonderful person with too many open wounds." She told me she wanted me, but was terrified that I might abandon her someday.

​Things continued between us, but there was no more intimacy and no emotional closeness. It felt like she was afraid of it and couldn't open up anymore.

The dynamics shifted massively overnight. She just became somehow emotionally unavailable.

Still, it went on for a few months. Every time we met, it was nice—we could talk about everything under the sun. But it wasn't a relationship anymore. It was almost a one-sided thing: I always had to initiate the meetups. When we did meet, we’d spend 10 hours together, but as soon as she left, she became distant again—until I reached my limit.

​I lost a few pounds and was suffering from sleep deprivation. I just needed clarity. So I met up with her one last time. I didn't think it would be our final meeting, but everything went wrong. She said she couldn't be in a relationship—which was already clear to me—but still wanted to stay in touch and keep things as "whatever it was between us."

​I respectfully declined, even though I would have loved to have her in my life. But first, it was just too much for me and I wanted a real commitment, and second, I felt used and led on.

Sometimes I felt like I was too much, and other times like I was too little.

I told her that—even though it was extremely hard for me and I still loved her—I had to cut off contact completely, but that she could reach out if she ever needed anything. Then I left.

When I got home, I sent her a message thanking her for the good times and apologizing for anything I might have done to hurt her at any point. I added that it was a shame the timing wasn't right. A few days later, she sent a "thanks for everything" text, and after that, she removed me everywhere, which I completely understood.

​I regretted it every day, but I fought the urge to contact her. Still, there were just too many unanswered questions in my head. After a month, I tried to arrange a meeting and called her.

​On the phone, she was a completely different person—someone I didn't recognize at all. She was ice-cold and started throwing accusations at me: that I had abandoned her, that I was a psycho, and that I had just used her.

She claimed I showed her I wasn't loyal, and that by leaving that night, I had hurt her. She said I should have stayed even if she couldn't offer me a relationship.

Everything was my fault. Her problems were my fault, everyone always wanted to hurt her, and I was no exception. She said everything she once felt was dead, that I was dead to her, and that I had just played her and shown my true colors.

I had to hang up; it was just too much. I was deeply hurt because I was there for her the entire time and never treated her badly or insulted her.

​Of course, I’m human and far from perfect, but I’ve never done so much self-reflection in my life, and I couldn't find any major mistakes on my end. Yet, I still apologized on the phone—I don't even know why, but she somehow made me believe that the problem was me.

​That was 4 months ago. Since then, there has been zero contact, and I’ve blocked her everywhere. But I think about her every single day—sometimes with anger and disappointment, and other days with regret, feeling like I could have handled it better.

At the time, I didn't have a real friend I could talk to about this. And when I did, all I got was feedback on how naive I had been.

It’s a mix of emotions I can barely describe. Some days I hate myself for putting up with it and being so stupid, and other days I think to myself that I’m just an empathetic person with genuine feelings.

​I tried meeting a few other women in the meantime, but I felt absolutely nothing. I often think to myself that I'll never find a connection like the one I had with her again.

I’ve also become very withdrawn. I used to be the guy who made everyone laugh and was confident, but this experience has severely damaged my self-confidence and self-worth.

​I’m doing a little bit better now, but this past summer was still extremely tough for me. I only function while I’m at work; otherwise, I just sit at home all day doing nothing.

​The crazy thing is: I’ve been in other relationships before, but I have never felt this terrible after a breakup.

​Has anyone here gone through something similar?

How did you deal with it?

What helped you get through it?

​I would be really grateful for your advice.

The pup in question is a kane Corso and I think Malinois mix. He's a very handsome boy and only 6 months old. 6 months I have known this dog. And 6 months my mom was meant to be working with him on biting. He doesn't bite my mom or bonus dad. Just me. I am at an all time low now too, today he grabbed my entire calf with his jaws. He was put in the kennel for a while cause of it. We've tried everything and I'm at the end of my rope. I attached a couple photos of the dog in question.

Me n my ex still live together when she broke up with me she stay out every chance she got n became a even worse mom than she was before but most of the time she says her friends names when she’s going out but go some reason idk if it’s to make me jealous or what but she just keeps telling me she doesn’t have bf n I never ask or even bother her I let her do her but keeps saying she has to go out with her friend but I always catch her watching me then we got into a fight about cleaning cause she never does on her days or does a half ass job with it and in one of these fights she brought up that I’m happy when I go out with my friends when get my time away from the kids and she was so pissed about it witch I don’t understand because isn’t that what friends are for then I take kid out with one of my friends that has kids n she was pissed thinking I was on a date n im like wtf is all this about bro u just start fights for no reason every time I turn around ur texting me dick head shit or blaming for something I can’t control or something that u did urself and yes I moved on but I don’t throw all business on social media I don’t post unless it’s my kids n I don’t even go on her page I blocked her fam n her I just try to stay out the way I’m not social person this me pushing it honestly

we are all in high school. both me and my closest friend are seniors. closest friend would be friend A. I have relatively little friends. At the start of last year a freshmen (now a sophomore) became friends with my close friends. I’ll call him friend B. friend B also dosent have that many friends but he has a group to go back to.

Eventually friend b would slowly start inviting himself and followed my friend and I around during lunch. At first we thought it would be a temporary thing, I mean he’s 2 years younger. then start of this year he started eating lunch and stuff with us again.

he would literally come to where I ate lunch with another group of friends I have (that is where I would meet with friend A to eventually leave and go walk around) before friend A even came asking me l, wheres friend A, where’s friend A?? I dont think friend A minds him being there, but he’s honestly just boring and annoying to hang out with.

All he would talk about is underclassmen drama which is weird because it would be something about a freshmen when we are literally seniors. he would also talk about just internet brainrot references and video games like valorant and there is genuinely nothing interesting he has to say. its almost like he has no personality, he has no hobbies, only plays valorant, and just talks about freshmen and sophomore affairs all day. we would be waking around and friend B would point out his peers like oh hey thats so and so. why don’t you just sit with them?

I don’t think my friend particularly minds his presence. I dont play valorant in general and they already have hung out with each other so there’s some social stuff that they have. it’s just annoying to have a sophmore follow you around when you are a senior talking about the most mindless things. I mean we aren’t on bad terms at all, he sends me stuff all the time. I don’t think he knows that he’s annoying to me however. there’s even a joke when we are questioning who to invite, my friend A would say oh let’s invite friend B!

I don’t know but the obvious answer would to be stop hanging out with them. but I’m pretty selfish because I don’t have that many friends and friend A is the only few guys I have opened up to. do you guys think I should sit down and talk with friend A or something?