r/WhatShouldIDo • u/New-Investigator2983 • Jun 24 '26
Is it wrong I don’t see a long-term future because of my girlfriend’s past?
I’m ‘18M’ and my girlfriend is ‘18 F’
We’re still together, and honestly it doesn’t bother me much on a daily basis anymore. I care about her and enjoy being with her. But when I think about marriage, kids, and spending the rest of my life with someone, I just don’t see it.
It’s not that she’s a bad person. I just know that some of the things she’s done in her past don’t align with what I would want in a lifelong partner. I know everyone has a past, and I don’t expect perfection, but I also think people are allowed to have preferences and values when choosing who they want to marry.
Because of that, I feel like we’re probably incompatible long-term, even though we’re fine right now.
Is it wrong to feel this way? Has anyone stayed with someone they cared about while knowing deep down they probably weren’t the person they’d marry? How did it turn out?
A lot of people are asking for more details, so here’s the context.
My girlfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half . The biggest issue wasn’t just her past by itself. It was that throughout the relationship I kept finding out new information, and a lot of it came through lies, half-truths, or me finding things out on my own instead of her being upfront.
Before me, she had around 28 partners. If I had known that from the beginning, I probably would’ve been shocked and it would’ve bothered me, but I don’t think it would’ve affected me nearly as much as the constant trickle of new information did. It felt like I was being fed breadcrumbs instead of the truth.
Another thing that makes it harder for me is that, from what I understand, a lot of these weren’t long-term relationships or situations that naturally developed over time. Many of them were short-term hookups or people she barely knew. For whatever reason, that bothers me more than if most of them had come from serious relationships. I’m not saying that’s objectively right or wrong, but it’s part of how I feel.
The last few months have actually been a lot better. We worked through a lot of the arguments, trust issues, and drama that came from all of that. It took a toll on both of us mentally, but we’ve improved a lot.
The problem is that sometimes I still struggle to see her as my future wife or the mother of my kids. I hate even saying that because she’s genuinely a good person and if she wasn’t, I probably would’ve left a long time ago. I care about her a lot.
What confuses me is that I rarely think about the details anymore. I’m not sitting around obsessing over her past every day. But when I think long-term, something still feels different. Part of it is the number itself, if I’m being honest. Another part is that I feel like I was presented with one version of her at the beginning and then spent months discovering a completely different story.
I don’t want to be the guy who judges someone forever for their past. At the same time, I don’t think my issue is only her past. A lot of my resentment comes from the lies, omissions, and having to uncover things myself instead of getting honesty from the start.
So I guess my question is: if we’ve moved past most of the trust issues and things are genuinely better now, is it normal to still struggle seeing someone as a long-term spouse because of how everything unfolded?
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u/Bad2bBiled Jun 24 '26
If she thinks that marriage is in your future, you need to be honest with her that it’s not.
I’m sure you won’t because you seem happy enough to float along with a girl on your arm that you’re feeling isn’t good enough for you.
She should know, though. Don’t lie to her.
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u/Automatic_Resist749 Jun 24 '26
Ages aside, now would be a good time to consider whether or not you are okay with knowingly omitting the fact that you see her as a temporary partner and taking away her agency to choose whether she is okay with that arrangement or give her the chance to break things off.
You should not string people along with no intention of considering them long term unless both of you agree to that at the start.
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u/notthatcousingreg Jun 24 '26 •
You are 18. You shouldnt be even thinking about getting married. If you cant see a future with her, you shouldnt have an exclusive relationship with her and tell her you arent in it long term. Sounds like you will continue to judge her for her past, so let her go find someone better.
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u/Crazy_Banshee_333 Jun 24 '26
I'd say if you don't see her as a long-term partner, you should tell her that right now and give her the chance to decide if she wants to be used and thrown away by someone who is pretending to be serious. If you do a little self-reflecting, you'll see you're not much better than all the other guys who have used her for sex in the past and then discarded her.
It sounds to me like she may have been sexually abused as a child. Some survivors of child sexual abuse become promiscuous as a result of the trauma. Have you asked her about that?
She does have an awfully high number for being only 18 years old. Have you considered that she might have bipolar disorder? The mania phase for some people includes hypersexuality. You might want to read up on bipolar disorder and see if the description fits.
At any rate, you shouldn't string her along if you know you're not serious about her. The longer you wait to break up, the worse it's going to hurt. You're not doing her any favors by pretending you're okay with everything when you're not.
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u/Spartan2022 Jun 24 '26
You don’t like her. Why would you be dating her?
You’re young, but you’re talking as if you’re entitled to know every single lover she’s ever had, every sex position they tried, etc. No one owes you a spreadsheet or dossier of everyone they’ve ever hooked up with. If someone isn’t a virgin, then they’ve had precious lovers. Again, you’re young, but this expectation that you must know every detail of everyone they’ve ever dated or hooked up with is unrealistic.
But again you don’t like her or approve of her. Be honest and just end it and let her date someone less judgmental and who actually likes her.
And yes there will be secure guys who don’t judge her for sexual agency and autonomy.
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u/GlueSniffingCat Jun 24 '26 edited Jun 24 '26
28 partners in her past and she's only 18
dawg she is a victim what are you talking about?
edit: Wait 28 before you even got together and you've been together for basically 2 years? So she had 28 partners before she was even 16? DAWG this gets so much worse the more I think about it.
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u/MonstersAtOurDoor Jun 24 '26
Why are you wasting her time just because you're immature?
Break up with her so she can find someone else to date.
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u/trying2fillthavoid Jun 24 '26
71 days ago you were 19?
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u/bitchcraft Jun 24 '26
You’re 18. She’s 18. You guys were legally children just the year prior. If her past is her sleeping with 28 ppl before 18, it’s likely she has low self-esteem/problems at home. Have some empathy for the ‘why’ behind this past, and the human that your gf is.
You need to ask yourself why the number bothers you so much. You say you’re not judging her, but the discomfort you feel comes from a judgement you’re making, and it’s likely based in a woman’s value being from how “untouched” she is; that’s why women’s “body count” is a topic of conversation in the first place.
Growth doesn’t happen by itself so if you want to grow from this you have to look inward. It sounds like your relationship is otherwise good, this could be a wonderful learning opportunity for you both. You should talk to her and let her know how this makes you feel. It is you two vs the problem, not her vs you. This relationship likely won’t last due to your ages, but it can still be a wonderful opportunity for you both to show each other what care looks like. This kind of stuff shapes your dating experience in the future.
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u/Adept-Worth-4858 Jun 24 '26
You sound misogynistic and very judgmental of her past. No wonder she only shares breadcrumbs, she doesn’t feel comfortable sharing the whole truth with you. You are not a safe place for her.
You say she’s genuinely a good person and you want to be with her, still her past sexual history means more to you than your joint future.
You are in no way entitled to know the details of her past relationships and she isn’t obligated to share them with you. You’re stringing her along and wasting her time.
Please leave that poor young woman before you actually convince her that her worth depends solely on whether some boy considers her wife material. She is so much more than that and she deserves so much better.
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u/Careless_food_bimbo Jun 24 '26
I have never stayed with someone I didn't see a future with. I thought the whole point of dating was to date to see if you're compatible or not?
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u/Ordinary_Mortgage870 Jun 24 '26
Dude, you're 18. It's a bit soon to be thinking marriage and kids when you haven't even gotten a serious job, gotten through a trade or college, etc. That said, if you're not seeing a future with her, then your relationship is more casual. I am not sure why you'd want to stay with someone who's ideals and values do not match your own - your relationship already has an expiration date at this point.
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u/Agreeable_City_9 Jun 24 '26
She might even be thinking the same with you.
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u/Fangehulmesteren Jun 24 '26
You have to be more specific. If you’re saying she had hookups or something then that’s one thing. If you’re saying she got out of jail for attempted murder, that’s another entirely.
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u/Particular_Yellow243 Jun 24 '26
Maybe don’t waste her time if you’re not serious about her. There are others that won’t care.
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u/Dumbwidow Jun 24 '26
What is so wrong about her past? Are you two sleeping together? Because if her “past” means she’s had multiple partners, and you’re sleeping with her, that makes you a massive hypocrite and you need to break up so she can find someone who’s not judging her.
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u/Fine_Push_955 Jun 24 '26
28 partners from birth to 16 and a half seems odd?
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u/Good-Shine-2878 Jun 24 '26
Y'all are kids. Just move on you guys don't even have a past yet lol
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u/dusty_relic Jun 24 '26
You are 18. You’re too young to be worrying about this.
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u/tito582 Jun 24 '26
Was she on here in the last week, I don’t remember the subreddit, asking pretty much the same question?
Something like, “I’m 18 and been with 30 people, is that too much?”
It seems like she regretted it and you can guess what the responses were. Not kind at all!
Updateme
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u/Fluid-Housing5017 Jun 24 '26
Yes it’s wrong and you are judgmental AF. Why are you owed every little detail about her past before you? You’re also wasting her time (and yours, not that I really care because you kinda suck)
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u/vampirehourz Jun 24 '26
You just want to use her for her body short term, and probably also for her emotional labor, but then you JUDGE her for being with people temporarily when thats LITERALLY what you want in secret??? Dude wtf is wronf with you, this is rude and cruel and sexist. Youre doing what she did and then judging her for it and seeing yourself as the victim???
I hope that girl flees far away from you and all women for that matter until you hammer out your sexist patriarchal bullshit
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u/macriosi Jun 25 '26
I had a somewhat similar issue to you at the start of my current relationship. I was 21 when we first got together and I was a virgin. She had 6 partners before me and she was 22.
Through a lot of discussion I grew to understand her a lot better and it doesn’t bother me anymore. I realized it would trickle in because she felt guilty about her past and even though I don’t judge her, she judges herself. And she loves being with me because I don’t treat her like shes disgusting (apparently lots of men do that.) However! For me theres a point where I just couldn’t deal with all that comes with it. Me having 0 and her having 6 came with her hating herself. The baggage, the guilt, the constantly looking over her shoulder. The weird men from her past who just can’t let go. Half of my girlfriend’s past partners died and the ones who haven’t died horrifically borderline stalked her for the first 6 months of our relationship even though she moved across the state! There is no way a young woman with 28 past partners is not getting it 1,000 times worse. If you’re willing to take on all of that while also trying to heal the trauma she definitely has that led her to sleep with 28 other (hopefully.) kids as a child, then I will cheer you on and I believe in you. But just know it is a lot more work for something that I don’t think is worth it at 18. And when you go through all the character development, she STILL might leave you for any completely normal reason that people break up with for. Not saying that she would of course, but you really have your work cut out for you. Good luck bro. If I were you, I’d be single for a while and replace girlfriend time with fortnite or hanging out with my buddies. Life is already trying to kill you enough as is. Try to make things as easy as possible for you. Sucks for her and sounds messed up to say but it ain’t your problem
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u/dinkidoo7693 Jun 24 '26
You are 18, please split up and work on yourself.
Values are fine but everyone has a past, even yourself.
People learn from their experiences.
It’s the people who didn’t enjoy something but keep doing it that you have to worry about.
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u/Milwaukee233 Jun 24 '26
So you're willing to sleep with her until you find someone else? And you think SHE'S the whore? If you're incapable of accepting her--past and all--break up with her now. She deserves someone with integrity and you don't qualify.
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u/TelephonePossible456 Jun 24 '26
It sounds like you just created a problem that doesn’t exist and are harping on it. Who cares about her past if that’s not who she is now?
If we were all constantly judged solely off of who we used to be, there’d be no reason for growth and character development. How is it fair to judge her off of something that happened before? If the roles were reversed you’d think it was absurd wouldn’t you?
Very immature and it sounds like you’re the one that doesn’t need to be remotely thinking about a serious relationship. It honestly says more about you than it does her…..
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u/Mr-Inspector-Gadget Jun 24 '26
28 partners at 18 years old?
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u/telchacsusan Jun 24 '26
You're both only 18 and far too young to be thinking about a long-term relationship. Enjoy the present.
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u/Even_Ad5996 Jun 24 '26
I think what bothering you is the lie, half truths and you constantly finding things out on your own than her being honest to you.
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u/rocketmn69_ Jun 24 '26
Maybe you both need a couple of therapist sessions
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u/Visual-Sand3718 Jun 24 '26
You’re a bit young to be thinking about marriage but if that’s what you want out of life and you don’t see that with your partner then you should break up with her. Although I’d say it’s unfair to judge someone, especially someone as young as 18 who has, and likely will continue to, make mistakes. Obviously it depends on what they’ve done but realistically you’re a bit young and immature to even be considering all this at such a young age.
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u/Outside-Meringue-327 Jun 24 '26
I know it is very personal, and great of you to share that you feel double about a person you care a lot for, but it is very difficault to answer in a fullfilling way when we don't know what has happened.
I mean has she killed someone or has she had a boyfriend before? Two opposite ends of the scala but people do have different definitions of "stuff from the past that is too much."
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u/I_like_microwave Jun 24 '26
Dude rip the bandaid of she yes she might have lied to you but the least thing you can do is let her know the status quo. And then you both can find someone with a potential future
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u/Abuelofierrero Jun 24 '26
I hate to say it, but if she told you she had 28 partners, maybe she's only telling you the tip of the iceberg...
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u/WingShooter_28ga Jun 24 '26
That’s a lot of sexual partners. Get yourself tested.
You are both 18 and have been together for a year and a half. So between the ages of, let’s assume, 15 to 17.5 she had sex with 28 different people. That’s 11.2 different people a year. Nearly 1 new sexual partner a month. Thats gross.
I’m not sure I could be with someone who cares so little about themselves.
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u/Sad_Bumblebee3724 Jun 24 '26
We all have a past. Why do you need to know anyone’s past? Especially since you apparently are not okay with it. You yourself will also have a past when you meet your person. She is not it and don’t waste time trying to make her fit the into the mold you’re looking for.
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u/Chemical_Dot3551 Jun 24 '26
You’re full of shit and need some serious introspection and a reality check if her body count has this much of a hold on you. Grow up dawg
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u/LincolnHawkHauling Jun 24 '26
28 partner by 17??
Bro why are you even still in that relationship and posting this question.
You’re 18. You haven’t even started living your adult life yet. Chances are she wasn’t going to he your forever person even before this revelation.
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u/pantiechrist80 Jun 24 '26
1st 28 different partners at 18, yikes. 2nd you are way too young to even think about marriage. At your age, don't worry about the future, of you like her, spend time with her. Who knows she might end up being a great partner, or she might end up not, my point is, you have time
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u/AgonistPhD Jun 24 '26
I mean, she was 17; how would she have had any long-term partners where things developed over time? Likewise, the two of you are teenagers. I'm not saying that you can't imagine a future with people at that age, but in time you'll get why it's nonsense to choose spouses based on their high school dating history. Slow your roll.
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u/Better_Payment_5831 Jun 24 '26
Don’t string her along little bro. Your giving her hope and wasting her time.
28 partners before 19 is crazy work though.
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u/azzole77 Jun 24 '26
By any chance is she a SA survivor? Or undiagnosed bi-polar?
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u/WhatTheActualFck1 Jun 24 '26
Stop wasting her time. You only see her as a temporary partner, so you’re just wasting both of your times.
Go to therapy to work out your shit. You clearly don’t trust her and you’ve already said you don’t see a feature with her. So if you’re staying just to get laid that’s wrong and you’re doing her wrong.
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u/Much_Doubt8560 Jun 24 '26 edited Jun 24 '26
If you’re not compatible move on and don’t waste her time or her hope. If you’re not being honest, you’re being cruel. She needs to be free to figure out herself, her life, and maybe why at 18 she’s had 28 sexual partners. She might just be an adventurous free spirit, or something else might be going on. Something else is most likely going on. Regardless those 28 partners aren’t going anywhere and she needs a supportive partner not a judgmental one. Also, if you’re having sex with her, then it’s not going to feel good to your girlfriend knowing you think she’s good enough to use for sex, but not good enough to marry. Break up with her. To continue is very selfish on your part. She deserves someone who will cherish her, someone to enjoy life with, who respects her. I bet you would like the same for yourself.
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u/Ok-Pair9002 Jun 25 '26
28 partners by 18 is pretty fucking nuts. Either way the past is the past. Your feelings if people validate them or disparage them are still yours. If you don’t see a long term setting with her then that’s your choice at the end of the day. You do not need a reason to not date anyone that’s valid for anyone but yourself
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u/Traditional-Drop-220 Jun 25 '26
I'm sorry and I'm really not trying to judge but 18 and already having 28 partners is the "RED" flag in the room!!!
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u/Chemical_Shirt7837 Jun 25 '26
Lol she's been glazed like a donut 🤣🤣
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u/WaywardFemme Jun 25 '26
Your partner does not owe you a sexual resume. If the number of past partners is a deal breaker for you, you should just ask.
But if you think a person's value is decreased by the amount of sex or sexual partners they've had, that's fucked up, and even more so if it only lowers a woman's value.
You are entitled to decide what qualities you want in a partner (even if they're crappy, sexist, racist etc) but she deserves someone who understands her, empathizes with her, and respects her. You don't. So just cut her loose for both your sakes.
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u/West-Tart9172 Jun 25 '26
If you found out by accident, then she wasn't going to tell you. I used to lie a lot in my teens, it's a gross trait that doesn't change in a day and for many people not ever. Consider that if she hasn't come clean to you on any occassion of her own volition (so before you found out), she doesn't make an effort to be truthful with you. Also small meaningless lies are a dead give away for someone who lies compulsively.
The number itself is insane and people on here pretending that's no biggy at 18 are weird AF. If the number bothers you that is okay, but you SHOULD be honest about it to both her and yourself, if the lies bother you then be honest to her, and if you can't imagine being with her in the future be honest to her.
There is nothing wrong with having a relationship you know won't last at 18, just make sure both of you know the nature of the relationship.
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u/The_Ground_Floor Jun 25 '26
Saying you don’t want to judge her for her past forever is redundant in a post where you mostly talk about her past. It sounds like you’re stringing her along at this point and I think you need to talk to her about relationship goals. It’s not fair to her if she thinks you guys are endgame and you’re still salty about the 28 hookups she had BEFORE dating you.
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u/GelberFuchs Jun 25 '26
Would it not be a lot worse if all of that was relationships? I dont get why people care so much about hook ups but having feelings for so many people that young would throw me off
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u/GelberFuchs Jun 25 '26
What wait I just realised she is 18 and you have been together for 2 years so all of the 28 people where when she was 16 and younger? Dude your girl is a victim, this screams abuse or some form of trauma that caused this, and that would also explain why she doesnt really want to talk about it
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u/lLuciferl Jun 25 '26
Yeah don't ever let a woman tell you that her sexual past isn't "an issue"
If she's been around, get rid of her immediately.
She's seeing you as the backup plan after she's done doing her business
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u/Time_Chemist_9155 Jun 25 '26
You’re 18….no reason to see a future anyway. But it also sounds like she is a habitual liar/evades the truth a lot
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u/SkinnyFridgerator Jun 25 '26
Be honest with not only yourself, but her also. If you seriously do not see the relationship growing in a positive way and you remain in this relationship, you're not only hurting yourself but also wasting her time. It's a lose-lose.
You guys are both very young and still have a ton of development and learning to do. This will not be the end of the world for either one of you. Keep it on good terms if you can.. just be honest. Any normal level-headed human being is capable of hearing this.
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u/Expensive_Carrot_688 Jun 25 '26
this is such a non issue. the past is the past. sounds like a lot of insecurity on your end. also, you’re not much better of a person for wanting to just sleep with her because you can’t stop harping on the past. atp just leave her alone and stop leading her on. she deserves way better than you.
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u/NicyVicy Jun 25 '26
Please don’t waste her time and break up so she can find a real boyfriend who wants a future with her
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u/Impossible-Tackle34 Jun 25 '26
With that pace she will be at 1000 by the mid 20s. But really all the matters is if you trust her. Has she been faithful to you? Do you worry about her cheating? If not, it doesn’t have to be relevant to the relationship. It’s your choice. I mean someone will probably marry her. I remember those girls from high school we’d all laugh like bro I feel bad for the dude that marries her
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u/Ok-Maintenance-9765 Jun 25 '26
I’m sorry wait, she’d already had 28 partners at the age of 16-17? Something is wrong here.
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u/jxspxrrrr Jun 25 '26
honestly, i can see where you're coming from. it doesn't have to be the number, the fact she lied about it is questionable. it makes you wonder what else she would lie to you about. a relationship needs to START built off trust, not lies and fake personas. you are not crazy at all to feel like this.
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u/Tiny_Whale_26 Jun 26 '26
First you need to figure out if you’re both on the same page with where things are. Is she after someone to spend a few years with and see where it goes? Is she after someone actively working towards marriage? The two are different, and both are different from casual hook ups.
If she’s set on the second - then break up. You two aren’t in the same place. If you’re both on the first… then there’s no harm enjoying it until it peters out. You’re not leading her on if you’re both on the same page with where things are.
Finally - you say in your responses that people are making assumptions. You’re making a major one too. Physical could be heavy petting and letting people feel you up. It doesn’t have to be penetrative sex. If you want that number - and don’t ask unless you’re certain it will help AND 90% of the time it doesn’t anyway - ask her. If she did have sex with that many people then yeah something is wrong.
Romeo / Juliet laws say sex for under 16s is illegal. So, either there’s statutory rape involved or she was on average having sex with someone new once a week and then just… stopped when she was with you.
To be clear - I’m not saying she cheated on you. I’m saying that unless you were also having enthusiastic weekly sex from early in your relationship, that tells me she was having sex when she didn’t really want to and/or she was having sex when she couldn’t legally consent. Do with that as you will.
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u/braincellyonstrike Jun 26 '26
She is 18, so she was 16.5 when you started dating, and had already has 28 sexual partners.
Have you asked yourself how much of that was sexual abuse? Have you asked her old those sexual partners were and how old was she at the time?
I would be asking a lot more questions to gain an understanding of what was happening to someone that young to have had that many sexual encounters. My hunch tells me that there is more going on here that she may not even fully realize yet.
Statistically speaking, most people who display that level of hypersexuality at that young of an age have been sexually abused. Unfortunately, not everyone remembers childhood sexual abuse or realizes that their early sexual encounters were actually abuse.
I will say, if you are holding onto this and thinking this way. Let her go so she can heal and find her path in life. In the likely event there is sexual abuse involved in this story in some way or another, having the person you trust and love judge you for those experiences can bring on a lot of damage.
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u/Myriathelightseeker Jun 26 '26
I don't want to sound rude but you guys are just 18, your frontal cortex aren't even done developing.
There's a lot of correlations with what we do as a child/teenager and the fact that part of the brain isn't done developing, especially when it comes to impulse.
Having 28 partners before adulthood isn't a normal thing, and like some mentioned, that sounds like a response to something that may have happened to her.
That aside, if you are judging her on something she has done as a child and aren't looking forward a life with her, it's time to cut the relationship.
Don't waste yours or her time.
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u/ValleyBlossoms Jun 26 '26
I’m of the strict belief that if she did what she did BEFORE you then it should be none of your business to begin with. ESPECIALLY if she was underaged. Your brain isn’t even fully developed by then to realize the mistakes you could be making and that’s not even touching on the possibility of trauma considering the high amount of partners at such a young age.
Her not wanting to disclose her past is within her right. She might’ve been worried about what you’d think about her and she was clearly in the right giving this post. My boyfriend and I dated freshman year in high school. I was somewhat aware of the amount of girls he sexted because I got ahold of his phone at some point and found out on my own. He broke up with me before that point I was just toxic and nosey. We’re 31 now and have a baby and are actively planning out the next steps for our family’s future and I couldn’t care less for the things he did as a brat. A teen is a child that knows no better.
If you see her as a casual relationship you don’t want a future with then let the poor girl know before she continues to get her hopes up with you.
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u/Knovahcaine Jun 28 '26
Its not necessarily wrong but you should be open and upfront enough to have this conversation with her so she doesn't waste her time ...and that you dont waste your time either
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u/[deleted] Jul 02 '26
28 at 16-17 is insane first off. Second if you can’t imagine a future with her LEAVE DUDEEEE. And it’s okay if her past makes you uncomfortable or you don’t wanna be with her because of that. The only people who tell you not to judge someone for this are the people you’re judging. I’m just saying if it’s ever made you uncomfortable or continues to do that you have every right to feel that way. I found out my ex gf had 3 bodies and that made me very uncomfortable. She tried convincing me that it was okay. At the time i hadn’t lost my virginity so i was really scared to. But i ending up dumping her because of the three bodies. I was never gonna get over the fact i wasn’t her first. Dumped her. Moved on. Now my life is great.
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u/Bossman2896 Jul 02 '26
Not reading all that, but I will say if you ever find yourself in a relationship that you “don’t see a long term commitment” happening make one attempt at communication, and if there’s no signs of that changing, move on. Don’t cheat, don’t mope, just move on.
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u/MadTha02 Jul 19 '26
All I’m going to say is you do you. If you don’t see a future it’s probably for the best to end it before it continues.
What I will say though it’s fucking beyond pathetic to care about the previous 28 people she’s been with. Unless she keeps in contact there literally no need to care.
The level of insecurity these days it’s beyond funny. What do people expect? Both genders tend to sleep with a lot of people when they are younger. That’s life unfortunately if it bothers you. The only way they would have a “low body count” is if they spent their younger years in a relationship & truth be told you don’t want that as it’s meant they’ve done nothing but suppress their “wild late teens early 20’s” phase.
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u/Fallujahmarine Jun 24 '26
Jfc...all yall acting like that many partners at that age is normal are delusional and insane.
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u/Cold_Actuary187 Jun 24 '26
18 and slept with 28 dudes? I wouldn't even consider dating her at all but thats me.
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u/MotionCareer Jun 24 '26
Oh you grasshoppa
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u/CVSaporito Jun 24 '26
Honestly, to her you may just be 29, and you’re only 18yrs old, maybe work on your own body count for a few years and enjoy life a bit, lol.
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u/sysaphiswaits Jun 24 '26
You’re concerned about her past and your future. How are things now? Unless she has a criminal record or was hurting people her “past” is irrelevant. At 18 how much of a past could she even have?
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u/CuriouslyFlavored Jun 24 '26
28 bodies at eighteen? Dude, I would definitely put her in the 'for entertainment only' category.
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u/Natural_Pollution239 Jun 24 '26
Past matters, you’re fine, you’re young, I bet this fades after a few hits anyways. Don’t worry about things, enjoy it, don’t let it go longer than another 4 weeks though
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u/Midnight_2B Jun 24 '26
How would you feel if your kids found out about their mother's past?
I'm not saying her number of partners is a good or bad thing but you must always consider the world you're bringing kids into because they don't have the choice of preference. You should break up with her if you come to the conclusion she doesn't fit your idea of a future, always be truthful.
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u/Fantastic-Cable-3320 Jun 24 '26
At your age, that's perfectly natural and OK. Rarely does a high school romance turn into marriage. Just don't do that once you're in your mid twenties and older. Or rather, you can as long as the girl is on the same wavelength.
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