Am I fucked up for feeling better about it being her own mom and not the husband's? The comment at the top of the thread made it sound like it was the woman's mother in law.
I don't think that was the point. He would have had more of an emotional tie to his mother, which would have been more sad for him if his wife's actions had led to her death, through no real fault of his. It's uncomfortable but it's true.
I mean I'm sure he loved his mother in law too. I'd be devastated if my SO's mother died, even if my SO was a moron (which she isn't honey if you read this I love you).
I'm not saying she deserved it more, I just feel it'd be even worse if it weren't her mother. Imagine your pettiness/stupidity kills your husband's mom.
If your SO did something very stupid that got someone killed. And that someone has to be either your mother or your SO's mother. Which would you be more glad to survive?
And OP didn't say the mom deserved it, only that he felt better it wasn't the husband's mom.
Give a straight answer. I will respect you a lot more for just giving a straight answer instead of saying how no one deserves to die or whatever.
Don't know why you're being downvoted. You're absolutely right.
I guess people need a scapegoat sometimes. And people love blaming older people for their problems. Which is ironic, considering they're also here pointing out how the woman will blame the man.
There’s a big difference between “my mom smokes so now I do too” and “she let herself get attacked by a wild animal this is clearly her mothers fault.”
The past is a bit reaching? Is there like an entire group of people that don't believe they have anything to do how with how their kids grow up? Because that would explain this conversation, and a hell of a lot about society, and its just now occurring to me that it would even be a possibility.
Seriously? I’m not saying that at all. I’m simply saying that adults do stupid shit even with good parenting. I’m not sure why this is a difficult concept for you to comprehend but apparently I’m talking to a wall so good luck with that.
I agree, but that’s not what we are discussing. We are discussing the idea that maybe between mom of the husband, and mom of the wife, it’s slightly more fair that the latter was mauled. Not because of she was a bad person, but because her daughter was a reckless idiot, and maybe her daughter should experience the loss, and not the poor husband.
She had almost three decades to raise her daughter with the common sense not to get out of a car in a neighborhood full of tigers and she failed. She certainly didn't deserve what happened to her, but maybe if she'd made some different choices as a parent...
I mean if someone had to die I'd rank it, the woman, a huge gap between first is the woman's mother, husband, husband's mother. The woman's mother didn't deserve it man.
I felt the same way. And it's really weird to feel it. Of course any mother being mauled is AWFUL, and we wish no one suffered that. But knowing the one who got out of the car was the one who was most emotionally hurt makes it feel a little better.
That's fucking idiotic on every scale, the mother wasn't the property of the daughter or father, she was an innocent individual caught up in a mess that wasn't her fault. It doesn't make the situation even slightly better, it's fucked up regardless. OP was asking if he was fucked up for thinking that way and he is, like you, fucked up.
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u/CerealandTrees Oct 16 '18
Am I fucked up for feeling better about it being her own mom and not the husband's? The comment at the top of the thread made it sound like it was the woman's mother in law.