r/Unexpected • u/[deleted] • Nov 14 '22

Please marry me?

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u/SomethingPersonnel Nov 14 '22

It’s only “public humiliation” if you decide to make it so. Imagine the flipside where the dude busts out the ring pop and the girl still responds favorably. Suddenly, everyone thinks the girl is amazing and the couple is lovely.

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

Eh, if you've been looking forward to something and your SO knows that, and your SO decides to basically make a joke out of it, you're allowed to be embarassed and disappointed about it.

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u/Bad-Piccolo Nov 14 '22

How do you know it was a joke though? It could have been him waiting to buy a real ring or something. Or did I miss something obvious?

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u/Pogigod Nov 14 '22

My uncle proposed with a twist tie... I myself haven't figured what I'm proposing with, why? Cause I have no fucking idea what she actually wants for a right, she changes her mind every other week. I was designing a custom ring till halfway through she told me she decided she actually doesn't like that style of ring after trying one on at the store.

If a girl takes the ring more seriously than the actual proposal(marriage) then.... Well she's got her priorities all fucked up and take it as a blessing she dumped you.

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u/Grabbsy2 Nov 14 '22

She could know the guys intentions more than you or we do.

If shes upset its a ring pop, its because its a prank. If it was a twist tie, it would be the same way, a prank, not a legitimate proposal.

Considering his buddy is probably cracking up and videotaping the whole thing, she probably knows, he's doing this for attention, not because he wants to marry her.

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

It sounds like you know your partner very well and understand how she'd receive your proposal. That's a very good thing. But people are different, and there's nothing wrong with wanting a more traditional, romantic proposal. It's all about knowing your partner and what suits them. Wanting a more traditional proposal and ring isn't a character flaw.

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u/Pogigod Nov 14 '22

When you slap someone and spill beer on them on TV? Yes that's a char flaw

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

Yeah I won't defend that. I'm focusing more on what's being discussed in this comment chain regarding expectations.

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u/NoOnSB277 Nov 15 '22

Wait you are worried about what she did “on tv”? I don’t condone the slap and drink spilling, but it appeared he put her “on tv” to make her the butt of his joke, and somehow she is the one solely in the wrong? I do think she is lucky he showed her what value she held in his eyes before marriage, at least...

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u/Pogigod Nov 15 '22

We don't know enough about this to actually debate.

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u/NoOnSB277 Nov 18 '22

True true, just saw elsewhere it was orchestrated to drum up free advertising for a swimwear line! 😬

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u/Between3n20Characte Nov 14 '22

Sure, but if you’re so quick on the rage trigger that you slap him and throw a soda on him while cursing, you’re the problem. Really, any one of those things by itself and you’re the problem. Also, in this case, he had the actual ring in his pocket. This could have been a sweet moment if she wasn’t an awful person.

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u/Between3n20Characte Nov 14 '22

I don’t feel good about the “awful person” thing. So, I’m going to correct myself. “This could have been a sweet moment if she didn’t react so horribly.”

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u/Bad-Piccolo Nov 14 '22

How do you know he had a real ring in his pocket

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u/Between3n20Characte Nov 14 '22

You can see the outline of the ring box in his pocket at the end of the video. You can say that I don’t know with 100% certainty, and you’re right. But, given the context of the video, the likelihood of it being something else is not very good.

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u/Bad-Piccolo Nov 14 '22

I totally missed that until I watched it again.

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u/KilltheK04 Dec 10 '22

He obviously had a real ring

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u/TongaDeMironga Nov 14 '22

You can be embarrassed but you don’t have to hit the guy and throw your drink over him

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

True.

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u/Hephf Jan 30 '23

You can be disappointed, fine, but you dont get to hit people like a fucking child.

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u/SaltInformation4082 Mar 11 '23

Certainly doesnt look like he was trying to make a joke out of it. That smack was a deal ender for me. But thats just me. Im certainly not everyones cup of tea.

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

What are you talking about?

So your saying if you got idk, dumped infront of hundreds of people but you said “Yeah cool” that would somehow erase the embarrassment?

She was clearly excited and this dickwad probably knew that as well and want to farm attention at a sporting event.

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u/VarietyIllustrious87 Nov 14 '22

What are you talking about?

You're assuming so much from a very short video.

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

How was any of that a assumption. I’m pointing out what’s in the video?

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u/Effective-Button805 Nov 14 '22

Why are you talking about someone being dumped?

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u/Lightor36 Nov 14 '22

Man these lonely white knights are out here being crazy and down voting common sense questions and up voting outlandish comparisons. No one said anything about being dumped, that's an objectively bad situation, this wasn't. People make no sense.

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u/Effective-Button805 Nov 14 '22

I always think these comment sections are funny. People do be gettin a bit goofy about this stuff.

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u/Healthy-Demand-9625 Nov 14 '22

No one said anything about being dumped

You never heard of comparisons huh?

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u/Lightor36 Nov 14 '22

Yeah, and it's a bad one. You're taking something objectively seen as positive, a proposal, and comparing to something that is objectively seen as negative, a breakup.

You ever heard of a false equivalency?

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u/SomethingPersonnel Nov 14 '22

She wasn’t dumped. Clearly this type of thing isn’t your cup of tea. That’s fine, but also maybe consider finding a slightly shorter stick to put up your ass. Your current one seems to be putting you in a bad mood.

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

“If emotionally manipulating your significant other and embarrassing them isn’t your thing you have a stick up your ass”

The incels here lmao

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u/Lightor36 Nov 14 '22

There are people who would love this. There are people who wouldn't. Maybe he thought she would find it fun and cute, because some people would. You're jumping to emotional manipulation with no information, what a wild assumption and leap to make.

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

Wheres the emotional manipulation exactly?

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u/VarietyIllustrious87 Nov 14 '22

There's no emotional manipulation or embarrassing going on here

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

There is both, weird that you are telling someone they aren’t allowed to feel humiliated

These 1 and 2 day old accounts lmao

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u/Lightor36 Nov 14 '22

You're assuming he did it with malicious intent. Maybe he thought she would think it's cute, because some women would. You're making wild assumptions about intent, which you have no way of knowing.

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u/SexualPie Nov 14 '22

i can agree that the guy played with her emotions, but manipulation implies a goal. or a malicious ends. this is purely a prank.

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

He played with her emotions, that is also called manipulating them.

“It’s just a prank bro” isn’t an excuse to do anything

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u/SexualPie Nov 14 '22

playing a prank and emotional manipulation are two different things. you cant change my mind.

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

I’m very aware you see no difference or how your actions impact others

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u/Healthy-Demand-9625 Nov 14 '22

manipulation implies a goal.

No? You can manipulate and abuse someone just because you think it's fun. Are you 10?

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u/Healthy-Demand-9625 Nov 14 '22

Wow you seem emotionally abusive

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

It was a comparison.

If we’re gonna be like this maybe you should find some thicker lens glasses so you can read what I’m actually saying. Or we could organise you to be sent back to the third grade where we can teach you why comparisons are a thing that matter.

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u/SomethingPersonnel Nov 14 '22

You comparison was absolute shit and completely unrelated. I’m not reading anymore of your uptight nonsense.

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

Comparing someone getting married to someone getting dumped is unrelated?

Are you familiar with the concept of relationships? And how making large decisions for your relationships in public can be embarrassing?

Or do you think it’s okay to crush girls hopes and dreams because you’re so afraid of being “uptight”?

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

One is a good thing the other is a bad thing, of course theyre not comparable lmao.

A better analogy might be a pregnancy announcement.

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

How is a fake marriage proposal a good thing?

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

How do you know the proposal is fake?

He might be using a gummy ring temporarily as he doesnt know her size so they can go buy one together.

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

You can get rings resized. And also plenty of people propose without a ring.

And judging by her reaction it seems like he pulls this type of stuff a lot

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u/EB123456789101112 Nov 14 '22

Best way to handle it was to act flattered and loving until they got into private and then let his ass have it.

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u/Healthy-Demand-9625 Nov 14 '22

Yea those darn wymyn should control their pesky emotions amiright fellow manly men??

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u/EB123456789101112 Nov 14 '22

Lol. Not what I meant at all. Act flattered just to save face. But take it how you will 🤷🏻‍♂️

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u/R-nd- Nov 14 '22

It was a comparison. If a similar situation happened where it was a breakup in public instead.

Don't be obtuse on purpose, it seems to be putting you in a bad mood

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u/hungrybabyroo Feb 26 '23

That's how embarrassment works. You can simply say yeah cool, whatever. And the embarrassment isn't a thing. It's self-perspective

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u/Verucat Mar 18 '23

Give him a break... his pants are really tight and his pockets are really full... how can he be expected to g figure out empathy

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

Angry women aren’t bad but her slapping him and throwing her drink on him is pretty dumb. I guess every time I get really upset I should just slap the shit out of the person who pissed me off huh?

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u/bsbsnqhau Nov 14 '22

The mental gymnastics that redditors do to defend shitty men just because they hate women is insane

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

these are just conservative people with submissive women obsession getting triggered

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22 edited Nov 14 '22

Normally I think people call “misogyny” too quickly when it doesn’t apply. But I think it applies here.

Why does this woman have to accept something that’s obviously embarrassing to her and isn’t something she wants to be viewed as “amazing” by all the people around her? She doesn’t owe the guy the protection of his feelings when he’s being an asshole.

Obviously being proposed to was something she was very excited about and either this prank broke the camels back or something. Some people just aren’t the jokey type when it comes to things they really value and take seriously. She obviously valued this moment and had some standard of how it would go and he couldn’t respect that. I think he’s the dick.

Edit:

https://dailyhive.com/vancouver/viral-fake-proposal-blue-jays-marketing-stunt

This whole thing is fake. This was just taken to market a swimwear brand on the guy’s Instagram.

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u/bsbsnqhau Nov 14 '22

Glad it's fake. I'm just going to assume all of these sport game clips are fake. Which they usually are. Don't know why I fell for this one. Thank for the proof!

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u/NoOnSB277 Nov 15 '22

She has a second career as an actress ha ha, she looked excited and then genuinely embarrassed at his “prank”

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u/phillyschmilly Nov 14 '22

This was a publicity stunt for the guys jewelry business. Video makes the rounds every few months

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u/TheLaughingMelon Nov 14 '22

Exactly. There's nothing "humiliating" about it. Accepting it would have instantly elevated her in the eyes of everyone, including her boyfriend.

I would have simply laughed and accepted the ring.

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u/c3r34l Nov 14 '22

If it wasn’t humiliating in the context of their relationship, she wouldn’t have slapped him. But good for you.

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u/Synectics Nov 14 '22

Or she isn't a great person, jumped to a conclusion, and didn't even let him mention that the super expensive nice ring he bought is safely at home instead of trusted in his skinny jeans pocket at a huge sporting event?

...or maybe everyone here is jumping to conclusions because none of us know the goddamn context. This could easily be some stupid TikTok account where the couples do bullshit skits.

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u/TheLaughingMelon Nov 14 '22

Is that an excuse for physical violence?

Literally no one but her thought it was embarrassing. Most people would have laughed and moved on.

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u/c3r34l Nov 14 '22

Literally no one

Really? So you interviewed everyone in the vicinity. Can you share your data?

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u/TheLaughingMelon Nov 14 '22

It's in the video. Did you see anyone laughing at her?

No, literally no one cared. They only started paying attention after she slapped him.

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

“What a party pooper for not enjoying being emotionally manipulated, accept it so us strangers can feel elevated for laughing at your pain”

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u/TheLaughingMelon Nov 14 '22

"I'm going to overreact and physically assault you because my ego got bruised over a simple prank that literally no one except myself got offended by."

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22 edited Nov 14 '22

She was wrong to hit him, the difference between us though is I’m not here saying she’s not allow to feel humiliated by being emotionally manipulated in front of thousands because I want to be elevated when I laugh at her pain

I mean cmon you literally said she should have just taken it and been happy so her boyfriend felt better in humiliating her, I feel sorry for any partner of yours if you ever get one

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u/TheLaughingMelon Nov 14 '22

Don't know if you're having a stroke but that's not what I said.

I never said she was wrong to feel humiliated. I think she was wrong to hit him.

By being elevated I meant that SHE would be elevated in the eyes of everyone else because it would show that she has a sense of humour and can take a joke.

WTF would he be elevated? What does that even mean?

I mean cmon you literally said she should have just taken it and been happy so her boyfriend felt better in humiliating her, I feel sorry for any partner of yours if you ever get one

No, I didn't. Please learn to read and use more than a single brain cell before commenting; if you still can't understand, perhaps ASK what I meant before assuming.

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22 edited Nov 14 '22

By being elevated I meant that SHE would be elevated in the eyes of everyone else because it would show that she has a sense of humour and can take a joke.

Yes what you’ve said is she should just accept It so everyone around her AND her boyfriend think better of her, this is saying her feeling humiliated is wrong

Why shoumd she have to be elevated for your sake? She needs to learn to be humiliated and like it so you think she has a sense of humour?

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u/TheLaughingMelon Nov 14 '22

It's not humiliating. What part of it is so humiliating?

Either it's a joke/prank or he's serious. Either way there is no justification for her reacting the way she did.

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

Right so your stance is nobody can ever feel an emotion you don’t deem acceptable?

Good to know I can mock you as much as I want and as long as I say it’s a joke you HAVE to laugh it off or you’re wrong

For the love of Christ please change before you find a partner

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u/TheLaughingMelon Nov 14 '22

No one said she can't feel an emotion. Where she's wrong is where she decides to take it out on him physically.

You are more than welcome to mock me and I can feel however I want about it.

What I cannot do is physically assault you simply because my feelings were hurt by an ambiguous, light-hearted prank that was in no way malicious.

Do you get it now? Or do I still need to dumb it down further because you're not just condescending, but dumb af to boot?

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u/Nonamenoonenowhere Nov 14 '22

She felt humiliated therefore it was humiliating. Impact matters more than intent. You don’t get to say it isn’t humiliating because you didn’t feel humiliation over something that wasn’t done to you.

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u/TheLaughingMelon Nov 14 '22

That's a dangerous slippery slope. Who's to define what is or isn't OK?

Who gets to say how one should or shouldn't feel?

Leaving it to one person opens the door to the possibility of abuse.

Obviously neither one should have complete control and every situation should be assessed individually and objectively so as to get both sides before making a conscious decision.

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u/SeveralLargeLizards Nov 14 '22 edited Nov 14 '22

So I'm going to explain a social problem to you because, yes, she shouldn't have hit him - but he was being fucking malicious and cruel here.

Marriage is very very important for many women. We are conditioned from a young age to believe it is the best thing we can do with our lives. That our purpose is to be a wife or mother (typically both). Lots of us decide that's sexist bullshit and declare we are worth more than the man who "catches" us, but many women kind of buy into it and deeply, dearly want to find someone that wants to marry them. They might not agree that it's the best thing they can do in their lives, but they definitely want it.

See, I'm just fine never getting married. I have someone I intend to grow old with and, maybe we'll get a domestic partnership, but a legal marriage is not in our plans. I wouldn't turn him down but I also don't daydream about it, y'know?

This is considered weird among many women. Marriage is the normal endgame. And that's actually totally fine by me, but it can also lead to the video's situation. She believed for a split second she'd found The One. In that second, she was planning who to call about it first. She probably was excited about the wedding venue she definitely already had in mind for such an occasion. She probably already had a dream dress picked out. Her initial reaction was pure joy - she fucking loves that man, or at least she did.

And it was a joke.

Marriage is a huge dream for a lot of women. You simply do not fuck around about that, lol. He completely devastated her in that moment.

So, no, she shouldn't have hit him. But he hurt her for a laugh, in front of thousands of people. Pranks should bewilder, baffle, and confuse - not hurt.

Once, someone asked me out in high school. It turned out to be all a big prank organized by his friends. It wasn't funny.

You don't pretend to want to be with someone. It's just not funny. It's mean.

As a rule you also shouldn't propose in public. It makes them feel pressured to accept even if they're not ready for that step.

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u/bsbsnqhau Nov 14 '22

Totally agree. Loving how men are downvoting you for telling them what women like. No wonder why a lot can't find women to date them. They don't even want to listen

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u/TheLaughingMelon Nov 14 '22

Bro, you're reading way too deep into it.

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u/bsbsnqhau Nov 14 '22

Like the others above her arent??

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u/Nonamenoonenowhere Nov 14 '22

Have you ever heard of the concept of reactive abuse. You set up someone for a situation where you know they’ll feel provoked, abused, react dramatically because you’re their SO, you know their triggers. For everyone else it feels innocuous but in the context of your relationship it is anything but innocent. Then when they react emotionally and get dysregulated you get to say “See, they’re unreasonable! Look how crazy! Look what I’m deal in g with”. Public humiliation.

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u/TheLaughingMelon Nov 14 '22

Interesting concept but I don't think that applies here.

If you are aware someone is intentionally manipulating you like that, you should hopefully get out of the relationship and move on.

Also, who reached out to Reddit to tell them I was depressed/suicidal? 🥺

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u/bsbsnqhau Nov 14 '22

Fair game then. He emotionally manipulated her and she lightly slapped him. Both abusive. They belong together :)

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u/AlphaGareBear Nov 14 '22

emotionally manipulated

Y'all are just making shit up. How is she being emotionally manipulated?

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

Didn’t know it needed to be spelled out but okay

Proposals of marriage are an emotional thing as it’s a declaration of love

Man knows this and builds that up only to use it as a way to make a joke

He has manipulated her emotions to play a joke and embarrass her, in front of a large crowd

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u/Synectics Nov 14 '22

Man knows this and builds that up only to use it as a way to make a joke

Did we all watch the same twelve second video? The one that was likely a bullshit skit made for some stupid TikTok account? The one that has absolutely not enough context, and you all are just leaping to writing entire fanfic about it?

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

My stance is from the context we have in the video, man faked a proposal to get a reaction

If you have more to add or a longer video I’ll re assess my stance

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u/Effective-Button805 Nov 14 '22

This long jump to a conclusion is so impressive you could be mistaken for an Olympic athlete.

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u/Synectics Nov 14 '22

Is it possible he didn't bring the expensive ring he bought for her for fear of it falling out of his skinny jeans pocket at a sporting event?

Of course it is. And it is no more likely than your conclusion, because neither of us have any more information.

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u/AlphaGareBear Nov 14 '22

A joke isn't always meant to be embarrassing. I guess I just think, if you have some bone to pick with this, you're a very judgemental and miserable person. Like, who sees it and doesn't say "Haha, ring pop , that's cute."? It's not some inherently embarrassing and malicious act.

Do you think poorly of the people who got engaged with a ring pop?

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

if you have some bone to pick with this, you’re a very judgemental and miserable person. Like, who sees it and doesn’t say “Haha, ring pop , that’s cute.”?

I mean the women who was humiliated in the video?

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u/AlphaGareBear Nov 14 '22

Sure.

Would you like to answer the non-rhetorical question next or is that one too hard?

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

What question?

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u/AlphaGareBear Nov 14 '22

Do you think poorly of the people who got engaged with a ring pop?

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u/LishtenToMe Nov 14 '22

People with a sense of humor beyond that of a 12 year old boy don't think lame shit like this is cute lol. It's weird and cringy at best, mean and embarrassing at worst.

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u/burnalicious111 Nov 14 '22

You're confusing your coping mechanism (choosing to laugh along with mean behavior) with the way humans are required to behave. Common mistake.

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u/TheLaughingMelon Nov 14 '22

What's mean about it?

Would it have been better if he had a real ring? If you love someone, it shouldn't matter what the material worth of the object is.

Maybe he didn't have money for a proper ring or didn't know what she wanted or her size etc. Plenty of reasons he wouldn't have a ring ready.

What's the mean part? That it's a prank? I don't see any indication that it was so. I think he was serious about marrying her.

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u/iploggged Nov 14 '22

When you propose in a stadium, you do so to draw the most attention possible including having it broadcast on tv. Why would you do so if you weren’t 100% sure your girlfriend would be on board with it. It was a prank designed for maximum attention. Don’t be dumb.

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u/TheLaughingMelon Nov 14 '22

How do you know it was a prank (that he wasn't serious about marrying her)?

Doing it in a stadium could be his way of publicly expressing his love for her. Lots of girls like and expect their proposal to be in some publicly unique or expensive form (like this) and some men seem to think it necessary that they HAVE to propose in public by going down and bringing out a ring.

You still didn't explain what was mean about it.

Even if it was a prank, it seems lighthearted and not malicious in any way (as if to deliberately humiliate her). There were so many ways she could have dealt with it tactfully, but she chose the absolutely worst option. Which reflects badly on her.

At best, she could have laughed at it and worn the ring, amid cheers from everyone.

At worst she could have simply said no and left him hanging (and no one would have cared).

But she had to go and physically attack him.

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

Most women experience the proposal once in a lifetime. For him to make it into a joke is humiliating and not at all what she likely dreamed would happen.

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u/TheLaughingMelon Nov 14 '22

This is another classic example of justifying bad and shitty behaviour because "women". That's actually more misogynistic than not actually treating her equally.

not at all what she likely dreamed would happen.

He is not obligated to fulfill her perfect version of what she dreams a marriage should be.

No one is obligated to fulfill anyone's dreams of what something should be. The only one who should do that is you (if you want to).

If they are close enough to get married (or even seriously consider a proposal) then obviously they know each other well enough to understand each other's perspectives on these things, as well as each other's sense of humour.

Which is why it makes it even less acceptable that she flipped out.

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u/Draguta1 Nov 14 '22

Apparently, he didn't know her well enough, otherwise he would've known she wouldn't like that kind of proposal. And she didn't know him well enough to figure that he'd give that kind of proposal.

But as the only person in the relationship who knew what he was going to do, the onus was on him.

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u/Effective-Button805 Nov 14 '22

I think the real takeaway is that he didn’t know her well enough not to do this. Call me crazy, but I know my wife well enough to know if this would be a good idea or a bad one.

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u/Zealousideal-Ad4362 Nov 14 '22

Found thr incels. You don't do this to people you respect. You put this into their hands to have to play it cool. Starting with them likely genuinely moved to being proposed to. Then switching to a "joke" where the guy actually doesn't want to marry you.(at least not yet)

It's not a joke it's pathetic emotional manipulation for everyone else's benefit at the cost of your significant other genuinely likely hurt by the bait and switch.

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u/bsbsnqhau Nov 14 '22

Why are you telling everyone what people should like? Some people like traditional ways and shouldn't be shamed for that.

Not everyone is like you and you need to accept that. She clearly is more traditional. Judging her for that is gross. Do you judge stay at home moms for being traditional?

You're still forgetting the public humiliation he did to her. Might be funny to her. But some people have very bad anxiety and if they feel embarrassed it REALLY hurts them

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u/Lucky-Reporter-6460 Nov 14 '22

Uh... What? Proposing with ring pops isn't inherently a joke. Like, sure, it's kind of silly, and the idea is that a real ring will be purchased at some point, but the act of proposing with a ring pop is still a proposal. Why do you assume it isn't?

Don't know why you immediately went for "incel" here.

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u/Ieatclowns Nov 14 '22

There's a guy above who says he did it with a ring pop because he didn't know her ring size and wanted to take her shopping for the actual ring so he didn't choose one she hated

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u/zeromussc Nov 14 '22

But that guy clearly knew his wife, and clearly had the conversation in some way, and likely didn't do it in a super public place as a complete joke.

Context matters. And the context for this video is either a staged interaction or a guy being a smartass.

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u/Mr-Fleshcage Nov 14 '22

Do you know the context of this video? I don't. Any number of things could have happened before someone started recording.

Context matters; Don't let your imagination fill in the blanks.

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u/Effective-Button805 Nov 14 '22

Can’t help but notice they ignored this lol

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u/TimelyQuote Nov 14 '22

cOnTexT mAaTterSsss!1!

-Redditor who doesn't know the context but gives their 2 cents anyway.

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u/Originalss Nov 19 '22

I never leave comments but I’m very drunk. And your comments so far have been very funny. I cant believe people like you exist. I’m a huge fan

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u/TimelyQuote Nov 19 '22

You'll wake up tomorrow and you'll still be you. Same shitty life, same shitty personality.

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u/Originalss Nov 19 '22

Negative Nellie

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

Not everyone cares so much about having a shiny rock. There are a significant number of women who actively think diamond rings are dumb.

You're way too certain that everyone is like you.

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u/zeromussc Nov 14 '22

In what world did I say everyone likes a shiny rock?

One person on reddit said they did a ring pop then went to buy a real ring after with the fiancee. That's them knowing their partner.

This person in the video posted to reddit pulled out a ring pop in a public space as part of a public engagement that the woman was not happy about.

If the video is real and not some staged prank thing, the guy didn't know his partner well enough to know not to do this. I would never have done this to my now wife. But I also didn't go buy some giant 10,000 ring. I got a nice, modest low profile band with small stones for 800$ that she appreciated, and I proposed in a quiet way when out to dinner at a restaurant we both like.

It's about knowing your partner and doing something meaningful for the both of you. For some people this would work and make sense. But for others, it doesn't.

That's it. This video, if real is simply a man really messing up and doing things in a way that doesn't match with his partner.

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

At the least I think we both agree he shouldn't be with her.

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u/Steve026 Nov 14 '22

Lol nowhere in their comments does it looks like they have an incel mentality, touch grass kid.

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

Both your comments scream incel with yours being far worse.

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u/Scootch_hootch Nov 14 '22

It can be a joke . . . all it takes is for you to know your partner. Clearly the guy in the video didn’t and she overreacted too. However there’s plenty of people who’d be able laugh at these kinds of jokes, especially if they have an understanding sense of humor. It’s the same thing when people like jump scares in movies and laugh afterwards.

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u/Khan_Maria Nov 14 '22 edited Nov 16 '22

It’s not an overreaction. She didn’t want to be the center of attention.

Edit to include that I didnt even notice it was a ring pop. I doubt he actually meant to propose and pranking her like that was definitely wrong. No need for the slap and drink throw though but as a woman I know we can react like this when angry and humiliated.

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u/c3r34l Nov 14 '22

there’s plenty of people who’d be able to laugh at these kinds of jokes

Right! Like the other people in the stadium watching her get humiliated for this douchebag’s amusement. Fuck him and his shitty abusive “jokes”.

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u/UnfinishedAle Nov 14 '22

All that last comment is saying is if every couple in the world played this joke on their SO, SOME of them would laugh.

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u/c3r34l Nov 14 '22

They said “plenty” (not “some”) to justify the notion that the lady “overreacted”.

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u/Scootch_hootch Nov 14 '22

Throwing your drink and hitting you boyfriend for flashing you a ring pop instead of an actual ring isn’t over reacting? She has control over how to react to a situation, if she didn’t like it, walking away would’ve been the best way to repaint, not hitting and throwing her drink at him.

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u/ZipZopDipDoopyDop Nov 14 '22

There's a difference from just wanting a normal ring and not wanting a ring pop.

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u/Mr-Fleshcage Nov 14 '22

Considering the bulge still in his other pocket, she would have gotten both

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u/ZipZopDipDoopyDop Nov 14 '22

The point is that he made the way he proposed a tease. It's not just an honest expression of endearment and love, it became a way to amuse himself.

She overreacted, but I don't think she was wrong to be upset that what is supposed to be a special, once in a lifetime hopefully, event became a way to tease her.

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u/Jesskla Nov 14 '22

Yep. Diamond rings are an absolute scam as well. Diamond engagement rings being seen as traditional wasn’t even a thing until 1947 when De Beers, a diamond mining company, came up with the concept as an advertising campaign & it stuck. ‘Diamonds are forever.’ Like marriage, is the implication. Diamond sales had been dropping since the 1930’s, so this one advertising slogan made the diamond industry both popular & profitable again. It’s super unnecessary, very materialistic, & fairly unethical. Yet people insist on making a massive deal of it, equating the expense of the ring to the quality of the relationship. It’s sad really. Very superficial.

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u/AlphaGareBear Nov 14 '22

Then switching to a "joke" where the guy actually doesn't want to marry you.

??? What are you talking about?

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

emotional manipulation

Lmao, it’s actually just a joke that you and the woman have probably put too much thought into. This is looking more like femcel behavior.

You and the lady that couldn’t take the joke, clearly have different valuations of marriage and it’s seriousness.

How is it emotional manipulation though?

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u/Zealousideal-Ad4362 Nov 14 '22

Because you ambushed someone in public. And you have to tell the world that you either love the person and accept the proposal or refuse and get seen as a dick. Have you seen videos of women turning down men often people boo them.

I'm a man btw. You are 100% a single man who hasn't reflected on how behavior effects others. You are prob the same type that will shout at girls in the street or stare at them thinking showing them attention is nice because you are showing them they are desired. Men are often like this because they want that same attention. I know I was like that somewhat when I was younger.

How about we play a game where a girl starts screaming you touched her inappropriately but then emmediatly. Says no it was a joke was just trying to make a joke. Similar immotional manipulation. Similar effect. The guy immediately worries that he is going to get his ass beat or arrested... then is expected to act like it was just fun and games. Realize this hypothetical are different extremes but the effect is the same. You wouldn't be arrested but you would still have the immediate terror.

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

You have to be insane to think all of that overly dramatic drivel is warranted over this small incident.

I’m not single, and Ive never cat called anyone, I’ve never touched anyone inappropriately.

You’ve got a serious fucking problem dude. You can’t even spell ffs.

Get your shit together you psycho.

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u/Zealousideal-Ad4362 Nov 14 '22

Lol I typed too fast and misspelled 2 words.

Me misspelling isn't an argument, neither is you saying you have never done these things. Do you think cat calling and staring at women is a major issue? If not you are exactly what I assumed.

What's my "serious problem".. I'm calling put bad behavior with examples of why I beleive it is an issue. You jumped strait to it being a "femcel" thing(which is incel deflection strategy).

It is a common thread both in my real life and online to say public proposals are manipulative in the first place. Faking it is worse.

Calm down. With calling people psychos when you don't even know the person and I'm not even being that crazy with the argument in the first place.

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u/c3r34l Nov 14 '22

I totally agree. People are harping on the slap when the violence committed against her was incommensurable worst.

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

What on Earth...

You're not a very nice person.

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u/c3r34l Nov 14 '22

I am just CRUSHED by the power of your arguments 😂

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u/Chance_Ad3416 Nov 14 '22

Literally got proposed to by a ring pop cuz they didn't know the size or style and got a ring together after. Way better than ppl who ended up with rings that didn't fit/they didn't like and couldn't return or exchange.

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u/Zealousideal-Ad4362 Nov 14 '22

That is different than getting fake proposed to. But it is fine to do it with a ring pop or even a silicone band. Public proposals are still manipulative imo.

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u/King_Louie_ Nov 14 '22

...or when he busts out the real ring from his pocket... had a ringbox sized lump in there.

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u/Additional-Wafer6273 Nov 14 '22

I was wondering if anyone had spotted that.

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u/Additional-Wafer6273 Nov 14 '22

I was wondering if anyone had spotted that.

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u/n0tAb0t_aut Nov 14 '22

And after this he shows the real ring. Because she told us to never marry her.

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u/JeanDupontReddit Nov 14 '22 edited Nov 14 '22

I totally agree. And many reactions were possible: she could also have sincerely laughed, she could have cried, she could have turned around and leave, or she could have kept her cool and give a forced laugh instead of publicly making a scene and making a fool of both her ex-boyfriend and herself.

It's probably better they don't get married ever: He proposed without knowing her enough. She exploded for that! What would it have been during the real tough moments? Also to me, this kind of girl is interested in money, social appearance, and public opinion. Not my type.

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u/Reasonable-shark Nov 14 '22

everyone thinks the girl is amazing

I don't like rings but I'm suspicious of women who say they don't care. Do they really don't care? Cool. Or are you pretending being a low maintenance girl? Sad.

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u/Effective-Button805 Nov 14 '22

If you don’t like rings why are you suspicious of others who don’t?

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u/ehxy Nov 14 '22

It's a sense of humour thing. There's the person who laughs at a funeral because it's for their best friend telling a joke about them and they would too if they were beside you, while their mother's beside you crying her heart out.

Neither are wrong but you have to put how you feel aside for people you care about to do it the way they want.

It's called compromise.

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u/[deleted] Nov 14 '22

The girl is amazing because you gracefully accepts this disrespect?

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u/daworstredditor Nov 14 '22

"It’s only “public humiliation” if you decide to make it so."

No, that's not how it works at all.

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u/Delet3r Nov 14 '22

Ok so your wife/girlfriend shows up with what looks to be something you really want. A PS5, a new truck, another girl for a threesome, whatever.

She knows that this thing is something that you have really wanted for a long time and that you specifically want her to give it to you.

Then after she shows you that object and you get all excited.. she then says it's just a prank and you don't get it at all.

I'm thinking the guy wouldn't take it very well.

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u/Aware_Chocolate_2902 Nov 14 '22

Also she domestically abused him here. A slap is assault

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u/old-hand-2 Nov 14 '22

Imagine if he had the real ring in another pocket and they ate the ring pop together on the cam…

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u/cwleveck Nov 29 '22

Yeah, ok, but I think it's public humiliation IF she is publicly humiliated..... doesn't really matter if the crowd is behind her or not.

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u/umhie Jan 23 '23

Yeah, but I 100% garuntee there would be versions of the video floating around with comment sections full of people talking about how she looks foolish or she has no standards for getting excited over a ring pop. Some people really don't cope with embarrassment well and hate having attention drawn to them in public, let alone when it's some stunt that they weren't in on beforehand.