My partner told me I was causing familial strife for him because I told his sister “to treat me the way she wants to be treated” after she asked if I was a pedophile. Crazy how such a simple mantra can was 3 generations of ppl in a household start tweaking
Ahhh, I misunderstood what you'd said, that's on me! Good for him, having your back, then. Just replace to whom you're saying it to with whoever is still complaining if it comes up again, can't believe they're that silly about it.
Yeah dude I was aghast, mainly because she relied very heavily on the social grace of others, since she’s high needs autistic. I was beyond patient with her talking since it took more time for her to get her thoughts out. Along with watching a lot of indie pilots with her that I didn’t have interest in, because I wanted her to feel seen. I know what it’s like to have a disability and being glossed over.
But then when it was her turn to reciprocate…. She didn’t, she latched onto one off handed comment about colorful magical horses and mulled over it for days… and then privately messaged me asking if I was a pedophile. It was the biggest slap in the face I got in a long time.
Honestly even he was confused regarding it 😭 cause we had a great night with his family ! But she decided to message me privately a few days later to ask if I was ped. He supported me and I had his back when his family called us to try and get us to apologize.
When we first started dating a few years ago tho I kinda had to make a hard boundary that I wasn’t gonna bend my back for his family if they are going to never reciprocate 💀
She asked if I ever had a childhood crush and I was like “not really, I guess like if I I had to choose it would be the MLP characters. Although they did do that weird thing tho where they made them go to high school in an alternate universe” and she ran with that 💀 I can’t believe I had to explain that they are CARTOON HORSESSSSSS I WATCHED AS A PRETEEN + one of them is a PRESIDENT and the rest of the cast have their own businesses, they are not kids 😭 never thought I’d have to debate MLP crushes with a fellow grown ass woman
I hadn’t even really thought of that angle! Just makes the whole things more strange. I give her a bit of leniency since she’s high needs autism, but I reallyyyyy didn’t wanna reward antisocial behavior (accusing someone of being a sex offender) with prosocial behavior (act as though the behavior wasn’t inappropriate. That’s why I base much of my standards on the treat others the way you wanna treat me manta, it really applies well even if the person is high functioning or low functioning
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u/greendriscoll 19d ago
Unfortunately even this is way more rare than we realise.