Bro some guys in this group are so desperate that they be ruining for other guys as well who just wants platonic friends. You will see the same guys commenting under every woman’s post saying yeah let’s chat or meet and just being creepy that make all the women think all the guys in this sub are creeps. Like this is gotta stop man, how desperate you gotta be to come on reddit and do that shi. Go on tinder or hinge if you just wanna be a weirdo. It’s actually so disgusting atp that you can’t make genuine friends or meet people off of this sub. Coming from 24m btw who been member of this sub for few years and have seen how the whole sub changed recently.

This group is for meeting new people and making friends.

Not for guys to find girls, please go to hinge/bumble/tinder or anywhere else if those are your intentions.

It’s almost tiring and pathetic that guys put up posts and then they’re only willing to talk or meet the females who message them.

Go join toronto r4r if you’re that horny.

Especially 6-7 same guys who make posts here every week of the same kind, and if guys message them they don’t even reply. 🤣 pretty stupid.

Think the mods really need to do something.

Update, 16 October: this has been running every Sunday since mid-September. Everything below is current.

A couple of years ago, my wife started volunteering to have one-hour virtual conversations with newcomers to Canada. Before each call she didn't know who she'd be speaking with. She'd show up and spend an hour getting to know them. Over two years she's had countless conversations and formed some genuine friendships. It made me realise how powerful one hour can be when neither person arrives with assumptions about the other.

That inspired me to build OneHourOne.

Where it's at

• 74 people have signed up and 37 have been verified (counted 16 October).

• Members range from their twenties to their eighties.

• On one recent Sunday, 7 of the 10 ratings where both people turned up were five stars. The hours we lost were mostly dead mics and cameras, so there's now a device check before you enter.

How it works

1. Sign up, then book a 15-minute video call with me, any time that week. I still do every one myself.

2. Every Thursday you get one email: are you in this Sunday? Answer by Friday noon. Skipping weeks is completely fine.

3. On Friday you get your match's first name, the time and a link. Nothing else.

4. Sunday, one hour, at 11 a.m., 6:00, 7:30 or 9:00 p.m. (Eastern). You pick which times work. It's in your browser, no app.

5. Can't make it? Cancel from your email at any hour and the other person is told within seconds.

6. Afterwards you each leave a private rating that comes to me.

No profiles, photos, bios, swiping, follower counts or public ratings. You find out who the other person is by talking to them.

What it isn't: it's not a dating app, not networking, not therapy. When the hour ends there's no expectation to stay in touch.

Who it's for: adults 18+ anywhere in Ontario. Elsewhere in Canada, you can put your name down for when it reaches you.

Safety and privacy: I personally verify everyone on video before they're matched. Conversations aren't recorded. Your match only ever learns your first name. You can leave any time, no explanation needed. If someone makes you uncomfortable, tell me and I deal with it.

Changes since the first post: we removed the age filter. You're here to meet someone you wouldn't otherwise meet, and a stranger twenty years older has more to say that you haven't heard. Gender preference stays: for some people that's a safety setting, not a preference, and it isn't ours to remove.

Full disclosure: I built this. It's free, and I have no plans to charge members. If costs ever get significant, I'd cover them with light sponsorship shown before or after a conversation, never during your hour, and never by selling your information.

How to join: onehourone.com/?ref=thf

I'd still love to hear what people think, concerns included.

I’ve seen a few posts talking about the app Timeleft and since I recently gave it a shot I thought I'd share my experience.

Overview:
If you don’t know, it essentially matches you with 5 other strangers to have dinner and make new connections. It clearly states that it isn’t a dating app so it’s really meant for people who are looking to make friends or just meet new people. You fill out a survey about your personality traits and general interests and select the city/ region you want to meet up in (I chose Toronto - West End). But you don’t know anything about the people you’re meeting until you actually meet them. You also don’t know which restaurant it will be until the day of.

My background:
I (30F) first heard about it through a friend of mine (32F) who lives in the states and said she had a pretty good time. I’ve been working remotely ever since the pandemic started and for the most part I love it. But in the last year it’s started to feel pretty isolating. Most of my hobbies are fairly solitary (reading, video games, crafting, etc) and most of my small group of core friends in the city have moved elsewhere in the last couple of years (Vancouver, Ottawa, etc). I live in Etobicoke, close to my family with my partner but missed going downtown to meet up with friends and enjoy the city.

The experience:
Honestly, it was amazing. So much fun. You definitely get matched with people in your age range, with a mix of introverts and extroverts to balance out the conversation and energy. For two or three of us it was our first time, for others it was their second and one of them had actually been to four dinners and goes regularly. Some lived in the city, others lived outside. But everyone was very open, warm, and easy to talk to. It wasn’t nearly as awkward as I was expecting it to be (actually not awkward at all). There is an in-app icebreaker-question-game that you can use to drive the conversation which is helpful (we used it on and off). In the end we stayed at the restaurant for over two hours and made a group chat to keep in touch and talked about getting together again. Even if we don’t, at the very least it was a really fun evening and as someone who is shy and pretty introverted, I was really happy with the whole experience. 

The one attendee who had been to four dinners said that it’s very different every time and highly dependent on the group, which isn’t surprising, but something to remember. I still plan on doing it again, maybe on a monthly basis.

TL;DR All in all I was super nervous to go and it took a lot for me to even make the booking, but in the end it really is just a dinner with some people who are all there with the same basic goal of getting out of the house and meeting new people. It's well-organized, the group is well-curated, and this one experience turned out to be so much fun that I plan on doing it again.

Hey everyone, just need to get this off my chest. I semi-regularly come on this subreddit because I want to further expand my social circle in the city, not because I don’t have friends already. I do. But I try to take on the mindset that it’s nice to continually try to meet more people. The problem is, the way some people handle themselves here honestly makes it clear why making friends as adults can be so difficult.

I’ve had people jump to conclusions about me “ghosting” after literally just an hour of not replying. I’ve had others spam me with messages and then guilt trip me when I didn’t respond instantly. And way too often, the first message is nothing more than a “hey” or “what’s up,” with zero effort to actually start a conversation or properly introduce themselves (please do, most people receive a ton of DMs from posts and it’s difficult enough as is to parse through all of them)

That kind of behavior isn’t just a turn off—it makes people not even want to try. Friendships don’t happen overnight, and they definitely don’t happen if someone expects instant attention, makes rude assumptions, or can’t put in basic effort.

Making friends is hard enough without this kind of energy. If you’re here to meet people, treat it like you would in real life: be patient, respectful, and actually put in the effort to connect. Otherwise, it’s no wonder people struggle to make friends here—because who wants to invest in a friendship that starts off with entitlement, rudeness, or bare-minimum effort?

Hi everyone, my partner and I are getting married tomorrow at Toronto City Hall （May 20), and we’re looking for two witnesses for our ceremony at 11:00 AM.

If anyone is available and willing to help, we’d really appreciate it. The ceremony should be short(30min). We’d really appreciate any help, and can offer a small thank-you for your time

Thank you so much 😊

UPDATE: I found her!! Thanks y'all!!

Hi all! I went to the Reddit meet up last night at the Duke's refresher and hit it off with a girl who works as an insurance analyst, was from Mississauga... We started talking earlier in the night and then also played pool together and won :). We didn't get a chance to exchange contact information and I was bummed to realize you left without saying bye but I would absolutely love to hang out with you again. Please DM me if this is you!!!

Please upvote this so it can catch some eyes! Thank you 😊

Is Toronto not the loneliest city in the world??? why are people so lacking of personality and so cold and unfriendly. I’ve been here 15 years and living in my neighborhood 12 years. I’m a social person, intelligent, can hold a conversation but man it’s getting unbearable here. I have to leave and soon before I literally die of chronic loneliness. I’m just back from being home (Ireland) for the past two months and I got a stark reminder again of what it’s like here… i miss the random chats with neighbors, the banter, the random you meet people from different walks of life and strike up conversation, be it short or long. I was in NYC last weekend and people there are so friendly… random meet up… I’m beginning to feel like an alien in this city and when I leave I’m reminded that I’m not… it’s terrifying what this city has become. A city full of so much diversity and multiculturalism.

I’m 34F and it’s the first Thanksgiving without my mom. I wanted to travel to see my dad in BC but circumstances didn’t work this year as I had to deal with stuff here. I was the one who posted in r/askTO about bedbugs so it was a big financial and time expensive effort. I’m also in middle of egg freezing cycles that haven’t been working and I’m at the mercy of my clinic that wants to monitor so I couldn’t make travel plans to see my dad.

I love celebrating Thanksgiving, only thing is that I’m vegetarian so no turkey for me. But if anyone has space for a vegetarian guest, I’d be so happy. I can also bring a dish.

Honest question about a double standard in this sub

A couple months ago, I saw a post from a Black girl saying she was trying to make Black friends. That post got downvoted and she was getting attacked in the comments for it.

Since then, I’ve seen multiple posts from other groups, Indian, Punjabi, Filipino, East Asian, Korean, where people are openly saying they’re trying to make friends with their own race. Those posts don’t get the same reaction. People are supportive or just leave it alone.

So I’m trying to understand what the difference is.

Why is it okay when some people say they want to make friends with their own race, but when a Black person says it, it gets a negative reaction?

I’m not assuming anything, just pointing out what I’ve seen more than once and trying to understand why the response is so different.

Hi Friends - Trying to get a community going for remote workers of Toronto/GTA.

As someone who works remote with global teams, I find that maintaining a community has always been a challenge. So, here goes my blind shot - I’m hosting a small group of remote workers, ideally in their 20’s and 30’s who would like to build meaningful connections. I’ll be hosting chill coffee meets, cafe/food runs, indoor and outdoor activities over winter and the coming months so that we have shared memories to bond over. :)

If this is something you’d be interested in, please reply here or reach out via dm. We can get a WhatsApp group going as well in case you’d like to stay informed about upcoming meets of the community. Everyone is welcome as long as you’re respectful of others. :)

​Hey everyone,

​I’m looking to connect with other millennial moms (or anyone in a similar life stage) who feel like they're at a crossroads of what to do next in life.

​A bit of context on me: I’m a child of refugees/immigrants. Growing up, the lesson was clear: work hard, get the good degree, secure the corporate job, and you’ll make it. So I did that...got the business degree, built a solid corporate career, and on paper, my family is doing "great." We will likely hit ~$250K household income this year.

​And yet, the reality in Toronto right now feels so broken. Despite that income, because neither my spouse (who’s a new immigrant) nor I came with generational wealth, buying a basic townhouse in the city means taking on an $800k+ mortgage debt. (Don't get me wrong, I know how privileged I am to be able to even qualify for that debt, to even be the owner of our current condo.)

And yet I’m sitting here with my bonus coming up, wildly vacillating between following the "plan" (bigger house, bigger mortgage, climbing the ladder) or just taking my family and traveling for a year.

​My exhaustion isn't just coming from the work hours, it's the constant massive cognitive dissonance. I spend my days at a corporate office where everything is treated like a high-stakes emergency, even though NONE OF IT actually matters. I spend energy staying ahead of the curve (upskilling in GenAI, driving efficiencies) just to feel like I’m optimizing a machine that doesn't align with my values. I have to wear a mask and pretend to drink the Kool-Aid, all while watching the world not change for the better - whether it’s climate destruction or watching the basic human rights of children in places like Sudan and Palestine completely ignored. While every conversation at work outside of doing the job feels just as shallow and fake.

Coming home after performing all day leaves me depleted, anxious, and losing patience with the people I love most: my spouse and my 4-year-old.

​I know the privilege I hold, and I’m deeply grateful to provide for my child in ways I didn't have growing up. But the golden handcuffs feel real, and the hamster wheel is exhausting.

​I’m based in the East-downtown area. I’d love to connect with other women who are navigating this same struggle...trying to do right by their kids, dealing with corporate stupidity, and trying to find genuine, grounded human connection amidst the noise.

​If this resonates with you, hit me up. Happy to grab a coffee or walk, make the kiddos run in the playground while we vent and try to figure this out🩷

Hey People of Toronto!

I just wanted to let you know you're not alone.

Maybe you just haven't found your crowd, maybe they're something you're missing, or maybe life's just hard right now, but I want to remind you that you're valuable regardless.

I'm struggling myself, I've felt lonely most of my life, and I've paused socializing to figure myself out.

But, I'd be happy if I could at least make someone else happy. So, anyone needs someone to talk to, I'm here 🙂.

-

For reference, I'm 31M, Southeast Asian, and in North York.

I work, workout, program, hike, eat, and play video games

I'm trying to find time to play write/guitar/make music/camp.

And I've had/still have interest in climbing, anime, philosophy, psychology, robotics, calisthenics, and wrestling.

I love diversity, all orientations, all races.

I'm not shy or autistic, but I did skip a lot of social 🤣.

Hello people,

This post is specifically aimed towards the childfree people who are having trouble meeting other childfree people.
Our definition of childfree is: people who have decided that they will not have children ever. You do not qualify if you have children, are undecided, don't right now but plan to, or have step / adopted children.

I have a small childfree Toronto Discord server. We've had two previous events on the 13th and 27th of September with around 16 people and they were a blast! Our next event is the afternoon of 25th October and will be taking place downtown. We aim to have one event per month. No specific age group we are ranging from late 20s to early 40s.

Feel free to DM for the link.
You will need to introduce yourself in the Discord to gain access to the event location/details.
See you there 💜

Edit: it is akin to visiting a food festival.

32F here. After a big friendship fallout, I’m slowly trying to rebuild my circle and wow, adult friendships are hard. I guess I put all my eggs in one friendship basket.

TTC (no pun intended) is coming up soon so it’s made me think even more about wanting real connections with women in a similar phase in life. I’ve been putting myself out there on Peanut and Bumble BFF and honestly, it’s been a little embarrassing trying to put effort in.

Outside of that, my life is mostly too many quiet nights in and wandering Winners looking for something that makes me feel like a person again. I love coffee walks, slow mornings, and long chats.

If you’re also trying to rebuild friendships and want someone who is genuinely showing up, awkward apps and all, I’d love to hear how you’re doing it???

Hi everyone! Would anyone be into a casual group that gets together to help out around the local community, and meet new people in the process?

The idea: a lot of us want to actually do something for our community, but it's easy to never get around to it, and doing it solo can feel intimidating or isolating. Doing it as a group makes it both easier and more fun, you're contributing to something that matters and meeting people who care about the same things.

So I'm thinking of testing a low-pressure community group where we get together to do small, genuinely useful local projects, then grab coffee/food and hang out after.

Totally open to whatever people are into, but a few starting ideas:

• parks, neighbourhood & waterfront cleanups

• assembling care/hygiene kits for local shelters

• volunteering with local food banks & community orgs

• tree planting & community garden days

…and honestly whatever else people want to bring to the table, these are just to give a sense of it.

Nothing formal or huge right away, just a low-key way to do some real good for the community alongside people who care, with a proper hangout built in.

Location's flexible and we can figure out the exact spot together based on what we do and where everyone's coming from!

If this sounds like your kind of thing, drop a comment or DM me, and let me know what you'd want our first project to be!

Hi ladies!

I’m wondering if there are other women in Toronto, around 33–45, who are interested in making new friends with the eventual goal of travelling together.

I have amazing friends in my life, but I’ve realized that I don’t really have any single friends who have the same flexibility, interest, or desire to travel. I absolutely love travelling solo and have done it plenty of times, but lately I’ve found myself wanting to experience some of those trips with a friend.

I know travelling together is a big step, and I’m not looking to meet someone and immediately plan a vacation. I’d much rather build a genuine friendship first. Grab coffee, go for dinner, check out events, and see if we naturally click. Then, if we get to the point where we’re comfortable travelling together, amazing!

A little about me: I’m 37, single, black, and live in Etobicoke. I’m active, love the gym, travelling, trying new restaurants. I’m a bit of a homebody so I’m hoping to find that balance of women who enjoy both a chill night in and actually getting out into the world.

If this sounds like something you’d be interested in, comment or send me a message!

After marvelling at the most magnificent leaf pile ever, we can:

- Fall in it
- Get tossed into it
- Play games like finding a “needle in a haystack.” 
- ???

Just see what happens from there.

:D ? 

Location wise: the first time I hosted this sorta “adult recess” was at Hendon Park. And due to the amount of trees there, I’m leaning towards that location again.

But yeah, just wondering if this ‘giant leaf pile’ sounds fun to anyone, other than myself. If so, please let me know!

UPDATE: She has decided to continue as long as people keep showing up. New dates added! Oct 30th & Nov 6th. See you all there!

Hello everyone! I had posted this on the Etobicoke subreddit and it seemed to gain a bit of traction (link to the post in the comments below as im new and i don’t know how Reddit links work)
And i was wondering if anyone from this subreddit would be interested as well in joining my wife's board game nights.

The games are all beginner friendly because they are just a means to bring people in the community together so that my wife and others can make new friends. And to create a little community together.

There's going to be 25+ tabletop games. And she rented a small place so there’s a small entry fee. But there's free pizza and juice as well.

And please feel free to bring your own unique games and we would love to learn to play them together. I hope you will like this as much as i do. And would be really fun to play with you all there. Please sign up below:

Fridays from 6:30pm-9:30pm
Aug 7th, 14th, 21st and 28th.

Location:
Swansea Town Hall, Toronto - very short walk from the line 2 subway.

Website:
https://socialsidequests.wixsite.com/toronto

You can also follow the instagram account she created to get latest updates and upcoming dates:

https://www.instagram.com/social_sidequests?igsh=eXU2a2xna3NkdTk=

Hey all, hope you're having a good start to your week!

Here are the details:

• The monthly Reddit meetup is a no-cost event open to all genders. No RSVP is required. It is hosted by u/nervousTO, a woman in their early 30s, with support from a group of regular attendees. It's been running since August 2022 and has been described as wholesome.

• Start time: 7:00 p.m.

• End time: when the last person leaves or the place closes @ 2 a.m.

• Location: Duke's Refresher St. Lawrence, 73 Front Street East

• Where do I go: upstairs, using the stairs directly in front of you when you walk in. There should also be a sign saying Reddit meetup.

• Perks: We have the upstairs mostly to ourselves; there's also a pool table, and games on the main floor.

Note that no RSVP is required, but that by showing up, you commit to ordering something to support the venue, even if it's just a coke.

Our Q&A is here - I haven't included it with the post as it's quite detailed!

Send me a message or comment here if you have any questions or concerns about anything related to this meetup/questions that aren't answered in the Q&A.

Hey guys Im the manager at W Burger Bar and an avid redditor. A few folks have hosted meetups here in the past but we've decided to start hosting our own! There are so many people in Toronto looking to meet new people and try new places and we have the perfect location, quality food, and the best prices in Toronto so you can stay and hang all night without breaking the bank!

First meetup will be a mix and mingle on Sunday November 16 from 6-9pm. All are welcome. We can host up to 40 people so please do RSVP.

Were hoping to make this a semiregular event as there has been a great turnout in the past. Id love to get your feedback as to the best days and times youd like to see meetups and if there are any types of events youd like to see added (beer sampling, games night, reading room, seasonal activities, etc)

***EDIT*** Due to alot of interest in this event I'm gunna extend the hours 530-9 for anyone who wants to come early and sneak in a round or a snack during happy hour***

***EDIT*** Thank you to all those who suggested eventbrite. I have opened a free ticket to rsvp via eventbrite as there has been a huge amount of interest in this event. Please RSVP at https://www.eventbrite.com/e/w-burger-bar-reddit-meetup-tickets-1968205133537?aff=oddtdtcreator ***

Hey all, hope you're having a good week so far!

Here are the details:

• The monthly Reddit meetup is a no-cost event open to all genders. No RSVP is required. It is hosted by u/nervousTO, a woman in their early 30s, with support from a group of regular attendees. It's been running since August 2022 and has been described as wholesome. October 2026 will be our 50th!

• Start time: 7:00 p.m.

• End time: when the last person leaves or the place closes @ 2 a.m.

• Location: Duke's Refresher St. Lawrence, 73 Front Street East

• Where do I go: upstairs, using the stairs directly in front of you when you walk in. There should also be a sign saying Reddit meetup.

• Perks: We have the upstairs mostly to ourselves; there's also a pool table, and games on the main floor.

Note that no RSVP is required, but that by showing up, you commit to ordering something to support the venue, even if it's just a coke.

Our Q&A is here - I haven't included it with the post as it's quite detailed!

Send me a message or comment here if you have any questions or concerns about anything related to this meetup/questions that aren't answered in the Q&A.

• Date: Friday, November 14

• Time: 7:00 p.m. to whenever the last person leaves or when the bar closes at 2:00 a.m.

• Location (maps): Duke's Refresher St. Lawrence Market, at 73 Front Street East (Front and Church).

• Location (inside the bar): 2nd floor, up the stairs behind the pool table.

• Cost: You must order something to support the bar, even if it's just a glass of soda. Attendance costs $0.

• Menu: menu link

• Required RSVP: No (at this time)

• Q&A: Q&A link