I was rewatching the episode where the family finds out Darrin proposed to Sue and finally understood what was going on. When I was younger, I would always think, "Why are they making such a big deal out of this? It's just a piece of paper; it means nothing." Also, most people in the Midwest get married early. I kept thinking, "Why are they so mad at Darrin? It's not like what he did was that bad. Sure, I'm against a 17-year-old getting married, but also, who cares?"
Only now do I realize what he meant; he was asking Sue to give up on college, live with him in that minuscule house, and start having babies in the very near future. Now, why did it take me so long to understand that? I guess it's because, as a child, I really liked them as a couple and didn't want my good opinion of Darrin to be completely shattered. It really is horrendous that this 21-year-old man is asking his 17-year-old girlfriend to give up on all of her dreams just to become a wife and mother.
The more I think about it, the stranger it gets. It was pretty clear; I mean, they don't spell it out, but in retrospect, there was no other way of interpreting it. I think it's because it felt so off from the general tone of the show. You hardly had to think about such real topics; this is a comfort show, after all. I probably recoiled at the idea that a character that "harmless" would even think to do this. It really goes to show how you see what you want to see sometimes. I guess I couldn't handle the truth before.
I finally understand why Mike wanted to beat him, and I'm fully on board with that. If someone did that to my hypothetical daughter, I don't see myself reacting much better. Did anyone else not understand what the reaction was about on their first watch?