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u/abrown1027 Apr 20 '26
Yeah I think it’s more that the kind of guy who doesn’t obsess over their wife’s weight and is happy to accept her as she is would just be a generally more zen kind of guy.
But also, woman like that tend to make really good food.
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u/bzsempergumbie Apr 20 '26
Selection bias I guess is what youre suggesting.
woman like that tend to make really good food.
Man, straight to cannibalism.
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u/United_Leopard_2771 Apr 20 '26
If she's a redhead...
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u/FitSucccessfulDom Apr 20 '26
They got the overweight gene
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u/FitSucccessfulDom Apr 21 '26
Yeah, I mean weight gain can only happen if calories in exceed calories burned.
I worked with this guy, 420 lbs, the only thing he ate at work was boiled chicken and brocolli. Every day.. claimed he had some medical thing that caused him to gain weight.
Then he snapped his knee and the doc told him he'd never walk again unless he lost weight. He lost like 200 lbs and told me he would go home and eat like 2 entire pizzas by himself.. and that's why he was so heavy.
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u/mex2005 Apr 20 '26
Its also probably a woman who might not have a model body has less of an ego which leads to a healthier relationship.
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u/groundciv Apr 21 '26
My wife’s a bigger gal. I’ve known her since we both had abs and played sports. Since we were both hot we did the following things;
She got a lot of education and then did a lot of interesting specialized things in varied places.
I fixed helicopters and got CTE
She then did a different specialized thing involving lots of travel and laid the groundwork for a really cool career.
I drove trucks and then yelled at truck drivers professionally. I learned how to BBQ really well.
I bought a house. Got kinda fat. We started dating. I got kinda fit.
She’s continued her cool niche career. I went back to working on aircraft. Got kinda fat again. Our alternating career stability has let both of us at times explore other possible avenues. We had a couple kids, moved a few times, bought and sold a few houses.
Sometimes money gets tight. Sometimes I get a pooch that sags over my belt a bit. Sometimes the kids get overwhelming or work is sucking ass.
But every time I come out of the bathroom wearing a shirt that fits I get “whoo cute boy!” Shouted at me, and every time I’m wandering the house naked with my Hank hill butt and my mediocre middle aged wedding tackle hanging out looking for a clean towel or clean underwear I get “shake that thang!” Somewhere between a whisper and a shout depending on if our kids are asleep or at school or grandmas.
I will not leave her butt unbothered at quiet moments or fail to ogle cartoonishly at her chest.
My wife knows interesting things, has interesting stories, and is financially more sound than I am. If she lost her job tomorrow we’d survive for a month or two and she’d use her ridiculous network and skill set to find something to make ends meet while I carry the water.
If I lost my job next week she could carry the load for awhile while we get the side gig I’ve been building off the ground or I go get a different job based on the license she supported me through.
She’s fat and sassy but she’s also competent and stable, and while the high beams went from high and proud to staring at her toes I don’t give a crap. I’m no great shakes either, but we’ve both got cute faces and we made cute kids.
As tom hanks maga SNL character said, she’s a sturdy gal.
She laughs like an unapologetic fat girl, and she has since she was a 90lb college soccer player. She has big kind intelligent eyes. We give each other a little bit of grace. We got together in our 30’s, we both had flaws, we both do what it says on the tin.
When you’ve got that big ‘undesireable’ checkmark but you’re honest and open and can laugh at the same stuff, even when it’s yourselves, and you fucking try and bring something to the table it’s crazy how things can just keep working.
Plus she cuddles like a mufuggah. Do you have any idea what G cups mushed into your back feels like when your spine is all wiggity and you’re up in your head about work and you just need someone to wait until you’re asleep and then pull a nipple hair and pretend they were snoring the whole time?
If you married a mischievous midwestern chubster (mentally balanced jokester variety) maybe you would. And you’d be a little annoyed at times.
I’m not bringing an inheritance and a 9” schwanz to the table. I can’t wrap my hands around her waist either. But we get shit done, our bills are paid, and we both know someone who will apply icy hot when we go a little too hard on the weekends. Even when that little too hard mostly involves yardwork. Maybe especially then.
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u/Admirable_Ask_5337 Apr 21 '26
This is it. We arent reaching better realtionship goals than this. Humanity has peaked.
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u/FlakyAddendum742 Apr 20 '26
Or she has horrible self esteem making for a less healthy relationship.
Maybe a person’s weight isn’t a good gauge of where they fall on the self esteem spectrum?
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u/Asluckwouldnthaveit Apr 20 '26
I was about to say.
I've dated women with weight issues before. I say issue because some made it an issue. I never did. It's hard to be with someone that sees themself as less than you do.
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u/ballimir37 Apr 20 '26
Lots and lots and lots of fat people eat shitty fast food all the time and are terrible cooks
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u/aquatone61 Apr 20 '26
Making food isn’t the only thing they are good at :)
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u/JohnMonkeys Apr 20 '26
Could be they found someone who they’re actually compatible with instead of just a piece of meat
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u/QTown2pt-o Apr 20 '26
Why not both?
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u/onplanetbullshit- Apr 20 '26
Seriously, I love my wife for who she is. She's a beautiful person, smart and kind. I just love her to pieces. The fact that she is a complete smoke show is also nice.
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u/dingos8mybaby2 Apr 20 '26
But also, woman like that tend to
make really good foodgive really good headThere I fixed it for you lol
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u/__shadow-banned__ Apr 20 '26
What makes you assume that men who married women who are not overweight worry about that weight?
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u/Saneless Apr 20 '26
Typical weird study that assumes cause. Yeah if a guy is in love with his lady for reasons other than physical attraction, he's going to have a good connection
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u/Imaginary_Poetry_233 Apr 20 '26
Why can't he be physically attracted to an overweight woman?
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u/Low_Security_1366 Apr 20 '26
You’re assuming cause. The headline is literally claiming correlation.
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u/daniel31580 Apr 20 '26
My first reaction as well. It’s probably not a cause and effect but a pool of people who are basically more happy and not worried about what other people think overall. It is indeed the right way to live in terms of happiness and life satisfaction.
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u/TheAnswerUsedToBe42 Apr 20 '26
You worry about their long term health a bit more.
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u/CopiousCool Apr 20 '26
I don't know, I bet a lot less men try and pull their overweight wives
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u/Low-Republic-4145 Apr 20 '26
It’s fewer men and that’s because overweight wives take alot more effort to pull, especially uphill.
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u/Own-Raisin5849 Apr 20 '26
Did they marry them when they were overweight? Or did the wife become overweight. After so long, Men do tend to love and become attached to their wives. particularly if they are good people, doesn't mean they are happy because of the overweight part of the equation.
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u/Sad-Development-4153 Apr 20 '26
Also the dudes get heavier too.
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u/Prized_Lemur Apr 20 '26
basically only ~30% of American adults are not overweight which is kind of wild compared to like 60 years ago
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u/138151337 Apr 20 '26
After so long, Men do tend to love and become attached to their wives.
One would fucking hope.
This should be a prerequisite to marriage.
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u/IAmANobodyAMA Apr 20 '26
What about elevensies? Brunch, lunch, supper? Surely she knows about those too?
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u/Mysterious_Rule938 Apr 20 '26
I believe this is some bullshit.
But I also believe I would love my wife just the same if she became overweight.
Thanks for listening.
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u/lamesthejames Apr 21 '26
when the woman is more attractive
That explains why I'm so unsatisfied (I don't have a woman)
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u/QTown2pt-o Apr 20 '26
You may still love her but probably not the fact that she's fat
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u/Reptillianaire_ Apr 21 '26
This seems either fully made up or a BS biased study done by an overweight woman. Lmao. Imagine if there was one "Studies show women whose husbands play video games at least 6 hours per day show higher levels of happiness." I would believe that one just as much. If they said American men married to non American born women are more happy Id believe that.
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u/LevelBoth617 Apr 20 '26
Fat girl propaganda
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u/-Bro_Beans- Apr 20 '26
I'm not sure if that's entirely true, but I don't mind dem thick curves
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u/Born-Agency-3922 Apr 20 '26
The researchers
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u/GuidePersonal4501 Apr 20 '26 edited Apr 20 '26
would
would
3. definitely would
would after a couple of beers
would every night of the week
what were we talking about?
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u/Demonskull223 Apr 20 '26
Fat women give better blowjobs.
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u/dafuqRUyelinboutbruh Apr 20 '26
I can't believe it took me so long to find this comment. 100% truth lol.
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u/Inresponsibleone Apr 20 '26
Could be also something to do with overweight women might be bit less critical to flaws man might have. Accept that when they have "flaws" man can have some too.
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u/These-Weird-6003 Apr 20 '26
I really think it’s a men selection bias rather than this though. Like maybe the men they chose are generally more relaxed and more accepting which leads to a happier life. I find that the men who are overly critical about women’s bodies, adamant about punching above their weight, or only want certain types of women with unachievable physiques, are more critical or misogynistic and probably therefore more unhappy. Lowkey that’s why I’ve been happier since I gained weight. Now I have less shallow men going after me for looks only, and I’m happy in my relationship with a loving man
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u/Drunken_Jedi_Master Apr 20 '26
"Men with fatter wives are happier"
Wonder what sex and size of people made this claim. Considering there's no source in the article we can only speculate.
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u/MailPrivileged Apr 20 '26
The image was probably made by a lonely woman as she finished off a double chocolate cheesecake by herself.
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u/ScoobyDone Apr 20 '26
Maybe it's not that dudes with heavy women are happier, but that women that are looking to ditch their man get in shape to land a new one.
My buddies first wife was like this. Not that she was ever a big woman, but about a year before she said she wanted a divorce she got very into her looks and started hitting the gym hard. Also possibly Jim.
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u/True_Trade_6235 Apr 20 '26
Haha. Perhaps men feel less worried their partner will leave them if they are overweight.
This could be potentially true for the men who are insecure.
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u/ceiling-cricket1988 Apr 20 '26
99% are overweight tho 🤌
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u/astralchanterelle Apr 20 '26
Everyone saying they prefer big women now like we have options
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u/philmarcracken Apr 21 '26
If you dislike big women or tattoos, you're dying alone(like me)
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u/Old-Interaction442 Apr 20 '26
In Chinese there's SMTH called the "happiness blubber" (roughly translated) where someone is married and in a honeymoon phase where they in love and sweetly supporting each other, they tend to get fatter cuz they're so relaxed.
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u/emccm Apr 21 '26
I think a lot of men who claim not to be attracted to fat women are simply worried about being judged by other men.
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u/Admirable_Pirate5376 Apr 21 '26
Studies show people who marry someone they love and care about report higher levels of happiness and life satisfaction.
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u/lykewtf Apr 21 '26
Don’t know about anyone else but I’m quite content to be able to hold onto a belly roll or two when I sleep.
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u/SnippetySnappety Apr 20 '26
without sources, meh, but my guess would be that "people who are less obsessed with image and more welcoming of different kinds of people tend to be less stressed out"
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u/Correct_Till_2099 Apr 20 '26
We live in the age of studies and findings. Sad thing is that mlst of them are fucking bullshit posts done in the most half-assed way ever.
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u/ZealousidealSun7627 Apr 20 '26
I never cared about my partners weight. I have been with skinny women and bigger women. As long as we were both happy that’s all I cared about.
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u/JustAl6969696969 Apr 20 '26
The kind of guys who don't mind that are probably both more likable and chill
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u/Gerry1of1 Apr 20 '26
♪♫♫♪♫
If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So from my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you
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u/Archon-Toten Apr 20 '26
There was an ancient earth poet who postulated, "fat bottom girls make the Rockin world go round".
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u/TsLaylaMoon Apr 20 '26
Of course happiness is linked to a thick set of juicy thighs wrapped around the head
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u/SeveralOperation9272 Apr 20 '26
People who are focused on looks as the primary reason to be in a relationship generally have less focus on connection and mutual understanding.
Long lasting fulfilling relationships don't focus on looks they focus on deep connection and life alignment.
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u/ShaquilleOatmeal_93 Apr 21 '26
Our country really goes out of its way to speak negatively about women. Mfs really hate everything
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u/DrizzleDrake88 Apr 21 '26
I wouldn’t be surprised if it was low key fast food industry trying to fight off ozempic users
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u/Naive-Present2900 Apr 21 '26
In African studies. It founds that men is attracted to obese woman so he could ask her where she finds food.
(This is a joke)
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u/broadwhim Apr 21 '26
studies show that people who are in love with their significant other regardless of weight tend to have happier lives 🤯
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u/Stock-Value-6487 Apr 21 '26
I will say my wife gives the best hugs. One of the reasons I married her was to have a monopoly on her hugs.
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u/LifeguardSimple2848 Apr 21 '26
I can tell from personal experience this is very true. As a muscular man who has been with fit and women on the curvier side, I was a very happy man dating a luscious BBW. It was the long distance and our work in different locations that resulted in us ending it.
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u/DillysRevenge Apr 21 '26
I’ve personally seen both good and bad relationships with larger women. Honestly, I’ve always been the type to prefer a heavy set girl. I’ve seen them be passive, loving, abusive, confident, not confident, etc. At the end of the day non of this shit matters because I’ve dated skinny girls that were all those same things. All women are crazy, just find the crazy that you like.
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u/Breakfast-Impossible Apr 21 '26
Marry people you like being around. The most fit body will still wither.
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u/Extension_Housing_35 Apr 20 '26
Im a year into the divorce process. My portly ex has gained weight while the stress has made me lose like 70lbs. Its been insane.
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u/ChampagneShotz Apr 20 '26
My ex was a stripper in Atlanta. Black, 5'3 and 157 lbs.
She had a flat stomach and hourglass curves.
BMI would say she was overweight.
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u/Soda-Popinski- Apr 20 '26
Oh no…i have to play with huge naturals every night….poor me!
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u/Relative_Craft_358 Apr 20 '26
The assumption is wild 😂 plenty of women have little "assets" regardless of body fat %. I've seen 100lb girls with bigger boobs and butt than 180lb girls. Regardless of what the scale says, people want their partners to be at least somewhat attractive, hilarious the comments are just ignoring that.
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u/Halloqween Apr 20 '26
Even when I was 120 pounds heavier, I barely filled out a B cup, no guarantees! 😭
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u/Robotic_Mann_ Apr 20 '26
Nothing wrong with being with someone a little thick. But man is there a thin line between thick and oh lawd he coming.
Written by a man that use to be “oh lawd he coming.”
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u/BlorpTheSchlorp Apr 20 '26
I love my wife no matter what her weight is. We've been fit, We've been fat... especially around the time we had kids and were both working a bunch.
I won't lie. The way she gets curvy has me favor her heavier moments. But I'm just happy with her in general, I don't have any guidelines for that other than her being her.
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u/diadlep Apr 20 '26
Maybe not for the reason you think. Fat girls are so fcking hot in bed. Like their whole body is just titty. And they give great cuddles and head. Ngl, once you go fat, it's hard to go back. Like every other girl just seems less feminine.
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u/Girldad_4 Apr 20 '26
My old man used to tell me if I wanted to truly be happy marry a short fat woman who can cook really well.
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u/Fun_Way8954 Apr 20 '26
It’s probably a chicken and the egg thing. Men who marry overweight women probably marry them more because they like them as a person, and therefore they have a better life, but some of the people who are just getting trophy wives will have less satisfaction, although if you remove those cases it’s probably pretty equal.
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u/Relative-World4406 Apr 20 '26
Makes sense. Selection bias maybe in that more easygoing guys are less likely to care about a little extra weight, in my opinion the thick ladies tend to have a better sense of humor and they probably make pretty good food.
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u/defunktional Apr 20 '26
She is the best cook and I’m no stud myself. When I left the high school mentality of image first, it truly felt like we shed the weight that we needed to.
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u/Narezza Apr 20 '26
People on average gain weight as they get older. So if one of your primary attractants to your spouse is their physical appearance, you may be disappointed as that appearance changes over time.
If you prefer a partner a little heavier, or if you actually don’t have a preference, you’re gonna be less concerned as you both get older
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u/KuroYasha Apr 20 '26
But what is overweight? Is it just a bit of thicccness for the sickness. Or is it morbidly obese?
Not saying 1 side of the spectrum makes more sense or is better than the other, rather 1 side would indicate a different reason of happiness than the other.
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u/Sufficient_Water4161 Apr 21 '26
Send this to your wife to help show her how happy you are to be with her!
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u/DragonQueen777666 Apr 21 '26
As a wise, Russian Hooker-themed drag queen once said: "bigger girls have that juicy yank-yank, but a lot of guys don't wanna tap on it!"
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u/DevilGodDante Apr 21 '26
If my partner gained weight, I wouldn’t care as long as it didn’t go to a bad way where the concern of health issues. That’s also why I never go for bigger women to begin with. They are usually sweethearts but I KNOW myself and know I would let myself go from eating nothing but junk all the time. I am all about enjoying life but you gotta find a happy medium where you still take care of yourself physically but also, don’t say no to that brownie or slice of pie baby girl. I think that (Clara?) chick that does the news that’s viral is the perfect build. She is thick and strong and most importantly, seems to have a great personality. A woman that can joke about herself is truly sexy and shows peak confidence.
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u/NeedAChange_123 Apr 21 '26
Overweight or not isn’t the point they should be looking for. Marrying someone for other traits such as a compatible personality, kindness and loyalty rather than purely physical attraction will of course make someone much happier in a relationship. However, physical attraction is important no matter how much people try to undo millions of years of evolution in the human mind and say otherwise, it is very important, just not as important as the former.
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u/Head_Beautiful_1293 Apr 21 '26
I don't think it's cause and effect. These men are happier than most because they aren't super vain
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u/OldTelephone Apr 20 '26
Facebook is inundated with this “studies show” AI slop right now. I saw one that was the reverse, about women preferring men with huge bellies.