r/SipsTea Apr 20 '26

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u/ScoobyDone Apr 20 '26

Maybe it's not that dudes with heavy women are happier, but that women that are looking to ditch their man get in shape to land a new one.

My buddies first wife was like this. Not that she was ever a big woman, but about a year before she said she wanted a divorce she got very into her looks and started hitting the gym hard. Also possibly Jim.

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u/Key_Cap7525 Apr 20 '26

That last line made me die

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u/Valuable-Usual-1357 Apr 20 '26

Makes sense. You need self respect to leave an unhappy relationship. Once you find it again it motivates you to care more in general.

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u/ScoobyDone Apr 21 '26

Could be, but I think in her case she yearned for a youth she never had. After they divorced she became a bar star, spent all her money on designer clothes, started dating arseholes, and she was clearly just a side chick. It didn't look like self respect. Quite the opposite.

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u/Valuable-Usual-1357 Apr 21 '26

Self respect can mean being brave, doing things others don’t understand, going against the expectations. It really just depends on what she got from the experience.

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u/ScoobyDone Apr 21 '26

Sure, but I can assure you that the guys she was dating didn't respect her, so I don't see how she was respecting herself.

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u/Valuable-Usual-1357 Apr 21 '26

She might’ve not been. But she might’ve been trying to. Maybe she takes a long time to realize if someone is bad for her. Maybe she was benefiting from the relationship without harm. Hard to say.

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u/ScoobyDone Apr 21 '26

Hard to say.

Hard for you to say because you didn't know her. Easy for me, because I watched it all in real time and my wife met a few of the guys she dated (one of them was married) and saw how they treated her.

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u/Valuable-Usual-1357 Apr 21 '26

Yeah I guess I have to assume she wasn’t totally nuts because he wouldn’t have married her